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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
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well i made a really big mistake this past weekend. i got a little drunk and me and one of my friends kissed...the problem is that the boy i like doesnt like girls that drink and i am afraid he wont talk to me when he finds out...and the whole school like knows somehow and i think it is being blown out of proportion...so i am afraid of his reaction...should i lie to him?
No. Lying is the absolute worst thing you can do in this situation. Next time you talk to him, tell him casually that you did something really stupid this weekend and you drank a little. Emphasize on how you realize it was a mistake you won't do it anymore because the alcohol made you do those things.
Sure, he doesn't like girls that drink (as no man should), but once he realizes that you know it was wrong and aren't usually like that, I don't see why he wouldn't like you. After all, I'm sure he makes mistakes too.
i have lipstick i like, but it never stays on. is there something i can put over it (like a lcear gloss, etc) that well make it stay on longer???
Run an ice cube over your lips and apply the lipstick when your lips are still SLIGHTLY damp. This will help the lipstick stay in place a lot longer. Plus, it's free!
hi, i was wondering, how big/wide does the guy have o be to pleasure the girl (like for it to feel good for her/moaning etc.)
The penis alone cannot make a girl physically feel good. In order to make a girl feel good enough to moan, you'd have to stimulate her clitoris (the top area of her vagina).
I saw a question about how to get guys to notice a girl at lets say a mall(asked by a girl), and i was wondering how to get girls to notice me in a public place. say like a mall for instance. and if i feel that i should approach a girl, what is a good way to get into a conversation and not make a fool of myself ?
im 16/m by the way(17 in june)
Just try to be funny and make her laugh. My brother met his girlfriend at the mall. He grabbed a thong, walked up to her and asked her if she thought the thong would look good on him. She cracked up and they dated for awhile afterward.
OR you could go up to a girl you think is cute and insist that she's someone you know. Be like "Hey Charlotte! Wow how are you! It's been SOO long!" and after she insists she's not Charlotte, blush, apologize, and introduce yourself. It's a good conversation starter and it's something you'll laugh about later.
Or, you could just ask a girl what her opinion is on a CD or shirt you're thinking about buying. Music is always a good conversation starter, and so is movies. Insist that you two have the same tastes and should go out sometime.
Good luck!
hey could you explain a little more on how that works i was kind of confused lol. it sounds like a good idea from what i got out of it lol.
Ok I'll just give you an example of what some cards would look like:
"You have the first card! When the presentation beings, stand up and say 'This is a presentation about dogs!''
The next card would say:
"When someone says 'This is a presentation about dogs!' you stand up and say 'woof woof!'"
The net card would say:
"When someone says 'woof! woof!' you stand up and say 'Dogs have always been man's best friend!'"
and so on and so forth. Hope that clears it up a little better!
heyyy, well, i need a just a plain white hoodie, but i have no idea where to find one! i've looked at pacsun,ae,hot topic, delias, almost everywhere! does anyone know where they are? =[. also , a plain black hoodie? thanks people :D
Have you tried DEB? They have a large selection of hoodies, both plain and with prints.
What are some songs that aren't really that hard to play and sing? I want to play/sing something like 'Ordinary Day' by Vanessa Carlton. A happy song would be awesome! Thanks so much in advance!!
Try "Ordinary Miracle" or "I Will Remember You" by Sarah McLachlan
or
"Listen to Your Heart" (the non-techno version) by DHT
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ok so for my college psych class i have to do a five minute presentation on epilepsy. I was just wondering if anyone had any good ideas to get the class involved on the presentation. I do have epilepsy so its not the information im worried about i just want to make it interesting instead of the usual powerpoint deal. any advice is appreciated!
Anytime I have a huge presentation, I do this and it's really fun and it gets people to pay attention. Here's what you do:
Let's say there are 20 people in your class. Take twenty notecards and write an action on it that has to do with presenting your information and give one to each person in the class. Also, you need to write on the card the phrase that the previous card has on it, so the actions are all connected.
To start the presentation, you'll have the first notecard and, just as an example, you'll say "This is a presentation on epilepsy."
Next, whoever has the card that says "After someone says 'This is a presentation on epilepsy" you stand up and say "This presentation was done by so and so'"
And so on and so forth. It's a continuous chain of people doing or saying whatever their notecard says. They have to pay attention so they'll know when it's their turn to read. Whenever I make my presentations like this, I always throw in something funny and make a person stand up and do a jumping jack or something.
If you have any questions or if I confused you just let me know!
14/f I know that somebady just asked this, but I have a question too. I got my period when I was ten and have had fairly big boobs since then. I am currently wearing a size 40C bra. I'm about 5'2 in height and I could still possibly grow a little bit. Lately, my aureoles have gotten bigger and bigger. I know this is a sign my boobs could grow more. My question is, how much bigger do you think they can grow?
It's not really something that can be predicted. Do larger breasts run in your family? If so, then chances are yours will too. You won't be fully developed until you're about 19-20.
When I was your age, my breasts were that size too. Now, I'm nearly 18 and I'm a 40DD. But that's just me. You may or may not be a little different.
hey. ok. sorry if this is long. i am 14/f. so today, i started going to a new church. two of my best friends go there, so i started going there. well, when i got there, we did activities and stuff in youth group, then we went to the regular church service. well, in the youth group there is this guy i'm changing the name so.. we'll call him.. Jacob. well, at first i thought he was really really stupid and imature. but then when we went to the room where they hold the regular church services, the kids were suposed to sit in the front row, and the adults in the back rows. well, i sat down by my friend, we'll call her.. Jacy. so we sat down, but she couldn't sit for long cause she had to light the candles. well, Jacob came over and sat by me. and Jacy and i were talking and then i looked at him. like i said, i thought he was really stupid. but then he goes "you have really pretty eyes" and i am such a sucker for that kinda stuff! i love it when guys are all sweet and stuff. and i was like "thanks..." cause i didn't know if he was serious or joking. then he goes " most guys don't notice stuff like that, but i do". so thats when i kinda started liking him. then at the end, it was the time when you "Greet your naighbors" kinda thing where you shake hands, give hugs and say "good morning". well, i went and shook some ppls hands, and i was talking to Jacy. then Jacob comes up behind us and he pats my shoulders and then he gives Jacy and another girl a hug. then we go back over to our bench where we were sitting and Jacy and we were talking again. then she turns to talk to someone and Jacob walks over by us. at first i just look at him, but then i look away and then he goes "do you want a hug?" and i was like "sure" so we hug and he was like "welcome to church!" and i was like "yeah.." cause i still wasn't quite sure bout him. then tonight i went to sunday night church and Jacob was there. we had to make a poster for the pastor because she had surgury and we were making a welcome back poster. well, he was flirting with me, and i didn't think i was but all of my friends were like "you guys stop flirting!" in a joking kinda way. and i was like "what the heck?!" and infront of him Jacy goes "you guys should go out!" and i was like "no" and he was like "ewwww" and that kinda dissaponited me cause i like him, but he was sayin eww. but then the rest of the night he kept flirting with me. so do you think he likes me? or is he just messing with my head? he said that he has a girlfriend, but we all think hes lying. and i said to jacy "do you think he likes me?" and she goes "idk, he does that a lot sometimes". and that kinda made me sad too. and all of my friends think he is weird. they don't really see him like i do. i just don't know what to do. any advice on what to talk to him about, if you think he likes me or not, or ANYTHING!!!! any advice will be great! but i need advice by this wendsay cause i'm goin to wendsay night church. thanks!!!!!
I think you should trust your first instincts. If you thought he was stupid and immature, that's what he is. He might think you're cute, but if he's telling you he has a girlfriend, he's just messing with your head. I think you two should just be friends and when he flirts with you, just try to shrug it off. If your friend says he does that with a lot of girls, then that doesn't make you any more special.
it really sucks because two of my best friends are totally against eachother. the worst part is that my friend gina had this problem with jake and now they dont talk. they talk about eachother behind their backs though. so gina is just fed up with jake and is trying to get other people to hate him. also jake has done some other stupid things and a lot of people are against him. but jake is my best friend too, and i really like him, as more than a friend. he doesnt know that but like he flirts with me all the time. he said not to worry about it because everyone is being stupid. but gina, britany, and kat dont really get why im still friends with jake. brittany and kat are annoyed with me because they think i only hang with him cuz i like him. but thats not even true and i feel like im jakes only real friend. i explained to gina the whole situation and i think she can understand me a little better. what can i do about this i dont like having to be mean to people but im in such a tough situation. thanx
You are entitled to be friends with whoever you want. Just because your friends don't like him, doesn't mean you're not allowed to. No one can control what you think or do. This is no exception. If anything, you are being the better person by being nice to Jake since everyone "hates" him right now. Tell your friends "I don't have to hate someone just because you do. Being friends with whoever I want is my prerogative and your immaturity isn't going to change that." The big word will most likely confuse them and they shouldn't bother you for being friends with Jake. I hope everything works out!
i turned in an application on tuesday of this week at an icecream place, and i havent heard anything back yet. how long does it normally take to hear back if they are interested. im sure they will ask for an interview and if so what types of questions will they ask and what types of answers should i have. if i dont hear back from them in a certain amount of time am i supposed to call them? and if i am what do i say to them if i do? thanks so much!
Everytime you apply for a job, call them back one week after turning in your application. Call and say, "Hello, I turned in a job application on _____ and I was wondering if anyone might have looked it over yet?" They will either check the status of your application or tell you they're not hiring. Make sure to be super polite when you talk to them.
For your interview, make sure you dress some-what nicely. No jeans or tennis shoes. No ridiculously short skirts. You get it. Again, it's important to be really polite. Whoever interviews you will most likely introduce themselves. When they do this, smile and shake their hand. If they offer you a chair to sit on, which I'm sure they will, say thank you.
They will ask you questions about your previous job experiences. When they ask these questions, it's important to be completely honest with them. They can call your old boss and check on everything you say, so don't lie or you'll for sure lose the job.
They will ask you questions about what work environments you prefer to work in, what hours you would be able to work, what kinds of people you work best with, etc. They WILL ask you how long you plan on working there. They ask this because they want to hire a reliable employee that they know won't quit in two weeks. Choose your answer wisely. Keep your answers short, sweet, and to the point. You don't want to babble on and on.
They will ask you what you would do in certain situations. For example, they might ask, "What would you do if your friends ask if they could get a free scoop of ice cream?" When answering questions like this, think of what would be best for the ice cream store. You obvious answer would be "To say 'No.'" It is possible that they will ask you why exactly you want to work there. When asked this, don't say something like "Because I need money and this looks like an easy job." DO say something like "I'm looking for a job that can teach me responsibility and I want to learn new things." Again, try to be honest, but not too honest. Understand?
In interviews, it's important to appear professional and friendly. Smile. Be polite. Dress nicely. You'll be fine. :)
ok well this is kinda a dumb question but i need to know. so if you have a tampon in (when you have your period, obviously) when you have to go to the bathroom do you take it out? and what if you don't have any extras with you, do you put it back in?
thanks in advanced
No you don't take the tampon out. Where the tampon is inserted is a different area than where your urine comes out. Just keep it in.
My boyfriend used to be a huge drugaddict. When we first started dating, I told him that if he started that stuff again I was done. It's been 7 months, and now he wants to get back into them. Things such as coke and heroine. I honestly love him to death, but it seems like hes choosing these things over me now. I have no clue what to do.
help please?
I think you should dump him and move on. He's not someone you want to associate yourself with, esp. since he's doing illegal things. If he wants to do drugs and ruin his life, there's not much you can do about it.
If he really cared for you, he wouldn't do the drugs if you said you would break up with him. He will only cause you trouble. If you stay with him, there's a chance he could get caught with the drugs and if you're with him, guess what? You go to jail. Do you really want that?
Remind your boyfriend that he stopped using drugs once and you love him for it. If he starts back up, there's no reason for you to stay with him.
Okay so theres ths guy that i really like: (im gunna put it in like..bullets so its easier to read):
-and it all started last month around the beginning of March.
-and we've met before but never really talked much because we dont go to the same school but he lives in the same town as me.
-we work at the same place, and thats basically how we started talking.
-so over the weeks in March, we started to text all the time everyday; from the time we'd wake up to the time we'd go to sleep.
- everything was going good and i got the chance to get to know him a bit more and he seemed like a really sweet guy. just had bad luck with past relationships because of the way he was treated.
- only problem: we never got the chance to hang out because i had drivers ed 3 times a week, basketball 2 times a week and work on the weekends.
-->this was a problem because he was always bugging me about hanging out but i nevr had the time to.
So everything was going pretty good.
APRIL:
-So he then invites me like..last minute to some semiformal thing on a tuesday and the semi is on that saturday.
--im not able to go because my parents dont know him and i wasnt getting great grades at the time.
--> so saturday comes and hes like..really reallyyy sad i cant go.
--> a couple weeks go by, and everythings still going good.
--> then all of a sudden one day, he just starts acting wierd. and this carries on for 3 days.
- so i had to work one of the days and he was like "oh maybe ill stop by"
--> so he stops by and we didnt talk but just smiled at each other. he stayed for maybe an hour.
- so after work, i check my messages and there are three from him explaining how he was sorry he acted the way he did.
--> so days go by and then its vacation.
since i go to a catholic school in a different state but i live in the same state as him and he goes to public school in the state we both live in, our vacation is different.
- i ended up giong to florida for vacation for a week.
we texted the whole time i was down there and things seemed to be fine.
-until the last 2 days i was down there, he didnt respond to my txt messages.
so i was worried something was wrong.
-i get back from vacation, all happy to be home (sadly haha) and then i just look on his myspace, since i dont have one (not allowed) and it says "in a relationship"
--> so im like...ohh great what the hell happened now? then he signs on that night and tells me that his phone has been dead and it wont hold the charge.
so i asked him why it said "in a relationship" on his myspace and hes all like "What? i thought u werent allowed on myspace? i thought it was blocked? and im like...noo....its not blocked. i jsut cant have a myspace"
so then hes like...about that...i thought u were jsut leading me on the whole time and we havent even hung out yet so i was getting tired of it.
so iim like...okay, i told you before vacation that after i got back, we could hang out because drivers ed would be done with. and hes like..well i dont remmeber that and you didnt seem like you were interested in me that much because you never made plans to hang out.
--> i definetly remember making plans to TRY to hang out but they didnt work because of drivers ed.
and now he just wont talk to me or anything, and i dont know what to do.
what would you do if you were me?
Thanks,
steph
Guys are impatient beings. He obviously didn't think you were worth the trouble, so he moved on. Most guys can't handle a girl with responsibilities. That's not your fault, it's his.
If you want to get to know this guy, STOP TEXTING! Talk to him IN PERSON. It's a wonderful thing. There's this thing called body language, and it can help you get to know a person WAY better than a text message.
Try confronting him in person. Talk to him about the whole thing. Say, "I'm sorry we haven't hung out, I've just been really busy. You really need to grow up."
Don't waste your time on this guy. Impatience is a nasty habit. So is ignorance, which he seems to have plenty of.
ok i have 2 good friends and one is named julie and one is named chelsea well julie and chelsea hate each other and they recently wanted to fight each other so there parents and the school had to get involved, but thats not the problem, so julie told me if me and julie want to be friends then i have to choose either julie or chelsea and i know thats not right and im not gonna be picking friends. i dont have a lot of friends to begin with so now i want to make new friends, but im kinda shy and i dont know what to talk to anyone about, so how can i make new friends. i am also known as the weird kid in school so i dont really talk to a lot of people
I don't think you should be friends with Julie OR Chelsea. They both sound WAY too immature and will only get you into trouble if they're starting fights with each other. Avoid them. Don't hang out with them. Just stay away.
You want to make new friends? Then put yourself out there!
Join a club or sport! It's the perfect way to meet new people that have the same interests as you.
Get a part time job where kids your age work! It's a good way to meet new people, learn responsibility, and not to mentino make a little cash.
If you start being more friendly and social, people won't think you're weird. It really IS that easy. Don't be afraid to join in group conversations. Share your opinions. Ask people questions. DO ANYTHING.
i am 15 and can you use that jelly stuff, or what else can you use and do you put it over the condom
Go to your pharmacy, or really any store that sells condom, and right by the condoms should be a selection of lubricants you can choose from. I've never used any personally, so I wouldn't know what brand to suggest. Perhaps ask the pharmacist.
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and we have had our first fight. I had asked him to come to a friend's party with me, which he refused to do, because he didn't want to. It's been 5 days and I have not heard from him. Should I contact him or wait for him to contact me? What should I do?
I say you should be the bigger person and contact him as soon as possible. You've been dating for 8 months. It would be silly to throw all that away over a silly fight like that. Apologize to him for trying to make him come to the party and I'm sure he'll apologize for being so stubborn. The key to getting over fights is being able to talk it over and allow the other person to express their opinions.
i do tell him to go slow but the slower it goes the worse it hurts it feels like hes tearing me apart
Bascially, if it hurts, tell him. Yes, going slow usually makes it hurt worse, but it will give your vagina time to stretch and get used to having a penis there. Have him put his penis inside you and just let it sit for a few seconds. If the pain doesn't subside at all, you are most likely going to have to buy some kind of lubricant or else sex will never be enjoyable for you.
I don't know how old you are, but there's a chance you haven't fully grown. Once you are developed, having sex shouldn't hurt as much.
i have this problem, like i can't ever wear lip gloss. it always dries up into a gunky line of white on the inside rim of my lips. does anybody else have this problem?
i think it might have to do with the humidity because it only really happens when its warm out.
so my question is how do i fix this? because i have a lot of lipglosses i want to wear but i can't. thanks!!
Before you apply your lip gloss, run an ice cube over your lips and apply the lipgloss while your lips are still a little damp. This should help keep the lip gloss in place a little longer.
Keep your lipgloss with you throughout the day and reapply at least once every hour. To prevent the "gunk" from forming, rub your lips together every now and then and make sure to keep a kleenex tissure with you to wipe it off.