about

My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

(Rating: 5) Thanks sounds absolutely adorable
(Rating: 4) Yeah that is pretty funny but i have heard it before .. thanx though =]
(Rating: 5) thankssss.
(Rating: 5) sounds like i need to actually read the books! thankyou!
(Rating: 5) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) thank you. =))
(Rating: 5) wow thank you for the killer advice and the outrageously fantastic quote. the hypothetical girl sends her thanks as well =]
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) i have more than 70 volunteer hours. and i'm in two clubs. I was in sports frshman year. so thanks.
(Rating: 5) yeah youer right thanks for helping me out and reading my question!
(Rating: 5) ok, thank you! we do have medical insurance, so that sounds like a good plan. and thanks for the other advice, ill see if that helps. haha, beatles rock!
(Rating: 5) thanks for your advice
(Rating: 3) im currently trying to learn to listen to my body when its full/hungry. and i dont want to skip fatty foods for 2 months =[ haha that's just unrealistic for me (but i do understand that 3 fatty foods in one day is over doing it) and..ive tried the "chew each bite for really long" thing, and it just makes me hungrier. ty anyway
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you, you really put things in a different perspective for me. It's a more detailed version of my mom's advice. I did talk to him earlier about the sex issue and re-defining that line. And since he said he'd be jealous if I saw someone else I'm gonna at least try dates, because I don't want a relationship. But thank you again and I'll definitely keep it all in mind.
(Rating: 5) yepyepyep. thanks!
(Rating: 5) couldnt have said it better myself. :)
(Rating: 5) This advice was actually helpful. I thought about an open relationship with this guy and it is being considered amongst us. It's still difficult because there is no one else to even hold up to him and that makes it harder. Also, he's told me before this, "it's not going to easy to find a girl with your personlity." Whether that wasn't what he really felt or what, I feel the same about him. In any case, I appreciate the advice. Thanx.
(Rating: 5) Thanks this really helped!
(Rating: 3) great advice! though i'm a bit worried about how i should react if he refuses to go for a cup of coffee... i mean after all he is a professor :/ ahh
(Rating: 5) haha thnx so much! ill tell him that now
(Rating: 5) lol true that, ha thanks.
(Rating: 5) I hope that's the case.. I'll try that though.
(Rating: 5) thanks there! i guess the guy told lies just to take revenge of some kind. now my gf cries a lot coz i am not believing her when she is telling the truth. i guess i shud give her a chance.anyways great advice there. thanks agaian.
(Rating: 5) thanks i was thinking of that but it looks like hard work.
(Rating: 5) thanks! but the only thing is is that we learned about joan of arc in my french class, (Jean d'Arc hehe) and of course i know that it was a really basic and simple-minded way of looking at the situation, but we basicly talked about how she had so much love for her country she battled and killed and all that. so i dont think she'll fit me too well. thanks a ton though. of course ill give you a five! :)
(Rating: 5) ur right.. ppl shud start thinkin more like me. thanks a bunch♥
(Rating: 5) thnx!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much
(Rating: 5) omg im so doing that
(Rating: 4) ok thanks
(Rating: 5) thank you!!
(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) Yeah i get people asking why im always smiling, but they do smile at me as they do it. and i heard that smiling at someone does make their day better. thanks
(Rating: 3) maybe... i dont think so..
(Rating: 5) Thanks.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I have tried talking to her, me and my other friend, all she said was "I sometimes eat over 1000 calories" and she seems like madish..
(Rating: 5) oo thank you!
(Rating: 5) great advice, the speech gave me the confidence that i think will allow me to talk to my gf about it...i would not have been able to find the words.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! Silly me, I had forgotten about websites!...
(Rating: 5) Thank you, I know it's never easy to part with a loved pet :( Thank you for the reply, I'll keep in touch if I have any other questions or concerns.
(Rating: 5) thank you.
(Rating: 5) thanks :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you I will do that!
(Rating: 5) thannnnks.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! Eeek. CLAMP! See, that scares me.
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) thank you! :D
(Rating: 5) i'm not really stressed.. sad to say it but i wasn't even really freaking out when i found out it broke but i'm just wondering about it all hahah thanks for your advice!
(Rating: 5) thanks!! haha i will update you in the NEAR future.. and i know i eat because im bored, im not sure doing sit-ups will fill the void but it's worth a shot!=D lol I'll try and catch myself with thats! Thanks for everything else sooooo much<33
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(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) I unfortunately followed the first person's advice. =( But your's would have been a better idea. Do you think there was a symbolic meaning to the song he chose?
(Rating: 5) Thanks. What you said was logical and sensible. Just what I need right now. *No sarcasm or anything like that.*
(Rating: 5) THANKS A MILLION!! If you know more songs like these.. please can you name them! I want songs as much as possible
(Rating: 5) yes thanks!
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much.
(Rating: 5) thanks:)
(Rating: 5) Thanks that's a good idea!
(Rating: 5) thankss.
(Rating: 5) thanks i took advil yesterday and it felt better within 15 minutes.
(Rating: 5) thanks, this helped me alot :)
(Rating: 4) Thx for the advice I took it and we r now kl but still I cant speak to or trust Amy . lxx
(Rating: 5) thank you
(Rating: 5) ok thanks
(Rating: 5) GREAT ADVICE! thank you!!! =D
(Rating: 4) It was good. But I think that i might try to convince her a little bit. I dont want to her to get killed
(Rating: 5) thank you so much for your advice you really helped me feel better. I took the morning after pill 30 min after it happened i ran to the store as quick as possible. Its hard because this is the only guy i've had sex with and it took a year and ahalf after dating til we did. we were being really safe we pulled out everytime even with a condem but this really opened my eyes and let me see that accidents do happen n to be careful. Thanks
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I appreciate you taking time to answer.
(Rating: 5) thnks alot u really helped!!!
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) thanks alot i might just wait until i actually can tell thank you
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot, I feel alot more reassured now
(Rating: 5) yea your right haha im sure that was it I think next time I see him :] thanks alot!!
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(Rating: 5) thank you very much for taking time out of your day to answer this :]
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice.
(Rating: 5) GREAT ADVICE!! Im going to ask you another question in a second...BYE!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You were very detailed and you gave very good options. Thanks again!
(Rating: 5) thank youuuuu.
(Rating: 5) thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) thanks
(Rating: 5) Thank you.Waiting for them to make a move is probably why I haven't been getting anywhere.
(Rating: 5) thanks!
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much =]
(Rating: 5) thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) thanks i got it sorted
(Rating: 5) thanks. i put a divider in the tank
(Rating: 5) Thanks for your help! I probably will be hesitant about kneeing him in the chest, lol, but it really sounds helpful!!!
(Rating: 5) thanks! i will try that!
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot, well I'm already studying psychology at school, so I guess that'll help. : )
(Rating: 5) thanks, i'll try your advice :)
(Rating: 5) that was wonderful!!!!
(Rating: 5) thanks.
(Rating: 5) well excuse ME, but i actually am quite different. At least musical theater is a REAL thing that requires talent and initiative and hard work. Shopping does not. I appreciate your advice, but i'm offended by it. you're probably really shallow and bitchy just like everyone else.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, good idea :]
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