HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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should i like have my friend do it or something? bcuz im really scared of him hating me and idk what to do. and i know its only been a short whil but when im single i have no worries or anything. i can like whoever i want and w/e. (link)
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No,you have to do this.You got yourself into it now get yourself out of it.Hes going to think youre a coward if you have your freind do it.So what if he hates you after?What is he going to kill you for breaking up with him?Its YOUR life.Its good that you didnt get to be with him for a long time because if you were,it woulda been HARDER for him to get over you.You can do it by the phone if youre too scared or talk to him face to face but with a freind as backup.You have to be strong and do this on your own.Hes not gonna bite.
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are you sure only eating half of what i normally eat will still help me lose wiehgt? (link)
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Pretty sure because youre getting your stomache used to eating half of what its used to.But you might not lose a lot the first week because your body will bring out the stored fat so you must excersise alot.
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umm yeah. you remember that boy i picked? i think i liked being single better bcuz i feel more free. but i dont know how to break up wtih him? and i dont want him to hate me? i wanna still be best friends? (link)
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Wow already?Youve only been with him for a really short while.Anyway look,i was going to tell you that youre too young to date or have a boyfreind because at your age you still dont know what you really want and youre too young to make a decision about this.I think you should tell him that youre not ready for a relationship at all and that you want to remain freinds only.And wait till your old enough to make a decision about this because at your age,your personality is still being built and if he ever breaks up with you,youll get depressed and this will affect your personality building therefore you should wait till youre older.You want to grow up having a strong personality.Look at me,im 15 and a half and havent had a guy,not because i cant get whatever guy i wanted but im saving it till im older and just living my teen ages with my freinds and family.I dont want anything affecting my education or personality.So tell him that you want to remain only freinds and arent ready for a relationship.
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we have none of it. that i know of. (link)
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Ok what do you have?Can you tell me so i can make you another diet plan you can follow?Or just eat half of everything you normally eat.
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half of the things on that list we dont really have in our house... (link)
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Ok,can you tell me what you have at your house?Cant you get these things?If you cant then tell me what it is you dont have.
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actually i think a dieting plan for a week would help me out ALOT but the only thing is im a REALLY picky eater so thats why is sort of hard for me to eat some things - like i dont eat yogurt or eggs [[ UNLESS THERE FRIED ]] so if you could try and give me a plan for a week that'd be REALLY helpful. Thanks. =] (link)
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You might be a picky eater but think about it,itll be worth having a perfect body in the end.Ok this is what you can eat just try hard to stick to it,but you have to set a time when you eat these meals like say you eat breakfast EVERYDAY at 8 am and lunch at 6 pm and dinner at 8,you should set a time so your body will get used to this weight loss routine
day1
breakfast:a bowl of cheerios(dont put so much that it looks like a pot not a bowl)
lunch: a peice of chicken and a big bowl of salad
dinner:fruits(any kind but if mango,dont eat a lot)
yes,its a lil strict but think of the results.
day2
breakfast:chocolate milk and two bananas(for the protiene)
lunch:a bowl of a certain kind of vegetables(a bowl of peas for example) and a piece of meat
dinner:a bowl of cereal
day3
breakfast: if you eat yogurt that has fruit flavors then you can have that if you dont then you can eat a big piece of watermelon(no it doesnt make you gain weight)
lunch:a smoked turkey sandwich with slices of tomatos and lettuce
dinner:grapes and strawberrys
day4
breakfast:a bowl of any cereal you want
lunch:a piece of chicken with 6 tablespoons of rice
dinner:chicken soup
day5
breakfast:chocolate milk and a small smoked turkey sandwich(you cann add the tomatoes and lettuce but make it SMALL)
lunch:a bowl of salads and a piece of meat
dinner:a big piece of watermelon
day6
breakfast:a bowl of cheerios
lunch:you can order a chicken salad from mcdonalds and drink orange juice but not while eating
dinner:chocolate milk and a fruit
LAST DAY:))
breakfast: 2 bannanas and chocolate milk
lunch:fish and 6 tablespoons of rice(im guessing you dont eat fish but its FULL of phosphorus which is really good for you and fish is the most thing used in a diet)If you dont want to just eat the same lunch as one of the previous days
dinner"a big piece of watermelon
Try to do this,think of how great youll look after,it might be hard because you wont be eating a lot but if you give your stomache small amounts of food,it will get used to it and become smaller by time,just dont screw up the days after that.You can take one day off but then you have to start eating well again.Make sure you exercise with this diet and take vitamin tablets if you have too.Drink 2 cups of water before each meal so you can feel bloated.Good luck:D
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ok. i got the guy i wanted and im going to try and take your advice and play it cool but i kinda wanna lose some wieght. everyone keeps telling me im skinny but i dont think i am. and i cant go a day without eating. i only weigh about 122-124. and im 13. but i dont know how to lose weight without not eating. can you help?
p.s i kinda wanna lose weight around the top part of my legs too. (link)
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Ok,youre not THAT overweight.If you were 115 that would be great.Theres no such thing as dieting for a week than expecting to lose a lot of weight.The body is really tricky,you can be on a strict diet for a week then GAIN weight.Why?Because when you dont eat,the body is used to you giving it a certain amount of fat and when your body DOESNT get this fat,it brings out all the stored fats which makes you gain weight.Thats why you should diet and exercise to lose weight.If you want to lose weight on your legs,you should climb the stairs everyday if you live in an apartment.Climb like 8 floors a day,i used to do this and lost weight.If you dont live in an apartment,try jogging everyday for about an hour and have an mp3 with you so you dont get bored,you can even have a freind with you and both encourage eachother to lose weight.Make sure you dont drink while eating because that gets your stomache fat.But try not to go on a killer diet because your too young and it can make you feel faint and weak and you might even faint.Try to take vitamin tablets while dieting.Ok for your diet you can eat yougurt for breakfast or cheerios or eggs(not fried) and keep away from sodas and junk food.Try eating mostly fruits and vegetables.You can even try eating fruits for lunch.Dont eat infront of the tv either because youll find yourself eating and eating and you wont even realize how much you ate.Try not to eat after 8 pm either.Because after you eat one meal,it tales about 3 hours for it to completly spread out the calories and nutritions so after 3 hours itll be 12 and a new day will start and you dont want having extra calories for the new day.Start the diet now because the older you get,the harder it is to diet because the fat cells would have already developed by the time your older.If you need more help contact me,id be glad to help.I can give you a diet plan for a week if you want and if you dont want it,just stick to what i said.:)
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17/m alright this is about a friend of mine...who is a bit wierd i guess. you see, she moved into my town a while ago and automatically people wouldnt accept her (and now i am beginning to see why) buti accepted her. NOW all she talks about is what she would do if she had a penis. she was over my house one time and out of no where she said "if i had a penis i would stick a needle and uncooked pasta into the hole of it" SHE WAS NOT JOKING. she even asked me if she could see mine to stick sometihing in mine and I FREAKED. is she like a transvestite wanna-be???? i am so wierded out..i want to end our friendship...ugh...what do i do? Please Help!! (link)
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!!!!!!!!!!!!!!um ok!!I think you should tell her to stop talking like this because shes starting to freak you out.You really should tell her.Her sayinng this can actually affect her horomones and turn her into a guy,ive seen so many stories.Or if you just dont want to talk to her,dont.Dont answer her calls,dont open the door when its her and shell get the point.
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i need some help here.my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months now and our realationship is doing fine but i think there's a problem.everytime i ask him to go somewhere with me like a week before we go he says yeah.but at the last minute he'll call and say he can't go.i that always makes me made but i didn't tell him.i'm a rookie runner for my schools marching band and my 3 friends are runners but there's another rookie who is a year younger then all of us and he's really cute and i like him like him.hes funny and nice and cute.but then he starts dating my friend.but my other runner friend said that they probably won't last.he's the only boy runner and he even said he don't think the realationship will last.and i can't take my bf canceling on me the last minute.it makes me think that he doesnt wanna do anything with me.so my question is should i dump my bf and go with the runner when they break up or should i stay with me bf???
sry my questions too long. (link)
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DUH.Ofcourse you should dump him.He dates youre freind and your asking what to do?He doesnt even like you ,i think hes with you so he can get with your freinds only.What makes that true is that he always cancels with you before you guys go out.I think he just likes attention and is with you so he can brag to his freinds.Dump him before your relationship gets too serious and you start liking him too much.Your freind isnt that honest too,id say you keep away from her.
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Hey i am 13/f and i am pregnant my baby is due in a week. No im not a slut or anything i would have kept my virginity until i was married but i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend. And I dont believe in abortion... my family is 100% supportive of this pregnancy and any decision i make. I just dont know if i wanna give him or her up for adoption. I really love the baby and i want whats best and i know that would to be with me because we have a good family and we have enough money to support the baby but i dont know if i will see the baby's dad in him or her and if it will scar me... I know its not the baby's fault. But anyway I could use support oh and baby names could help too! idk if its a boy or girl but i like names like nevaeh (nuh vey uh its heaven spelled backwards) and savannah and jayden, cayden, and skyler... anything else???
please help!!! (link)
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omg you poor thing.That basterd doesnt desserve to see the kid at ALL.I think you should take care of it.Yes it is a big responsibility but imagine giving it to someone eles,they wont take care of it like its mother will and it will grow up being depressed not knowing how it got there and who its mother really was.Your parents can help you take care of it when youre at school or out.Your parents need to help you make the decision though because youre too young to make one,especially in your circumstances.If its a girl you can call it(these are new names) fareeda,marwa,jaida,layla,laialy,pick something new.If you need help in anything please contact me,i have myspace,yahoo and msn.Good luck .
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okay, well im 14 years old, turning 15 in a month. i've been with my boyfriend now for a little more than 11 months. and me and my friends were in my town the other night, and we saw these 3 really hot kids and we gave them our numbers. and they called us and we hung out that night. then the next day all my girl friends, and all the guys we met went to the movies. im going into 9th grade, and the guys we met are going into 11th. one of the guys likes me, and i think about him alot, and im scared im starting to like him too. he told me he likes me and he asked if he should like stick around. i mean idk what to do. its not fair to my boyfriend. so please please please help me! (link)
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He doesnt like you,he doesnt even know you that much BUT he likes your body.I think you should not answer his calls anymore and hell forget about you.You wouldnt like it if YOUR boyfreind did this to you.Change your phone number if you have to.Dont get close to this guy because if you reject him later on mabey hell threaten to tell your boyfreind that you and him like eachother so keep away from him.
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is there any song about somone asking another person out and they reject them? because i really need it. thanks (link)
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Mabey avril lavignes song unwanted is kinda close.
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I am a grad student at an ivy where people are quite snobby. Some women started the (false) rumor that I was masturbating in the library. I didn't do anything to these women, I didn't even speak to them ever, and I don't understand why they started this rumor. How I've dealt with it: Rather than defending myself, I just ignored it and focused on my studies, hoping that most people would recognize that it's so preposterous that it must be untrue. Now, my reputation is totally ruined and everyone (except a few of my friends) believes it, and everyone believes that this is true because I've been a workaholic and I've kept to myself for an entire year in order to keep up my grades. Now, whenever people pass by me, they call me "the girl who masturbates in the library" and smirk to themselves. The thing is, i know that they are talking about me, but it's getting on my nerves, and I don't know what to do. It's so embarassing a rumor that I don't even know how to respond. I thought it was so preposterous an allegation that i didn't think it was worth it to dignify a response, and that the best way to handle it was just to ignore it, pretend like i didn't hear it, and focus on my studies. Now, as a result, no one has let it live down, and for some reason, all the women in my class are repeating it over and over everyday. It's a very gossipy, cliquish school. What should i do, and how do you think i should respond? (link)
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Start a rumor about them,yes its very immature but ruin their reputation like they did to YOURS,you cant let them get away with it.Say something like one of them gave a guy a bj somewhere.Revenge is sweet.I also think you should tell one of your freinds to go around telling everyone she knows that its a rumor.Thatd help a lot.
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I really like this girl but am to afrain to ask her out or talk to her from fear of rejection. I really like her and want a relationship but i dunno what to do. Any advice? (link)
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Look,so you dont get depressed if she says no,just go in and ask her and bare in mind 90 percent shes going to say no and if she says no then you can just go find another girl.Dont be all like shes going to say yes because if she DOESNT then youll get depressed.So take it as a dare and go ask her.You have nothing to lose anyway.
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well the two guys i picked from i picked the one ive known longer and know better but i dont know how long i wil be happy with him? i dont know what to say or how to act around him?? (link)
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Dont you like him?If you like him you should be happy to be with him for a long time.Just act like you usually did around him before you told him you liked him,but a little more flirty and always have a cute smile on.Just play it cool.Make sure you told your other guy freind that liked you that you and him are just freinds.
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Okay, well, I'm usually an optimist. I love and appreciate all that I have. I just have one little problem.
Since school started, it seems like all of my friends have had guys who have liked them, or have gotten boyfriends. It all seems so perfect for them, but look at me. I've liked this one guy for a while and he likes me as a friend. I guess I'm still hoping he'll come around and realize that he could like me.
It hurts when all of your friends talk about getting kissed and going on dates and you can't.
What should I do? (link)
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You need to know that everyone gets their share in life at a time.Theyre getting the good things now and Gods saving it for you later.Who knows?Mabey later on YOU will be the one talking about your guy while your freinds are the ones listining.Dont rush or feel bad.Every one gets his turn.
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since i'm going to highschool in september i'm very curious how ppl. are judgemental.
1)i'm a girl and i waz wondering in school dances if i am grinding with a girl... would that be considered as being bi..because i'm NOT.. so is it o.k to grind with a person the same sex as you?
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2) say i'm grinding with a guy would i be considered as a slut or a hoe or skank or trick? (link)
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If i saw 2 girls grinding,id personally get REALLY digusted and probably talk bad about her with my freinds because shed be considered LEZBO not bi.A girl grinding a guy is also really slutty and makes people talk bad too.The guy will go braging about it and it will give you a bad reputation.
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I really have given up.
There's no point in even trying anymore.
All my dad does is yell and scream at me and then tell me to get over it. I'm too scared of him to stand up for myself.
I don't smile anymore. There's not a reason to. So, my mom gets mad at me for not smiling, which is really stupid.
I have hardly any real friends.
I don't have a boyfriend.
I never get anything I want.
No one listens to me. They just ignore me.
I don't know what to do anymore. Nothing good has happened in a long time.
Please...does anyone know something out there that can possibly make me happy? (link)
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First of all you shouldnt be mad for not hanig a boyfriend because God can be saving you something good in the end.How old are you anyway?You have to be brave and go up to your dad one day and say dad can i talk to you for a sec,it really makes me sad when you yell at me and just let it all out,if youre too scared tell your mom to tell him.You think that noone understands you but do YOU open up to them?NO!If you did they would understand.Im guesing you probably sit in your room all day pissed off.If you need more help,contact me,id be glad to help.
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ever since i was very young my mother has been abusive to me. i am the oldest of two children and the only girl, and my mother has always been jealous of my goals in life. she used to hit me severely when i was younger but the rest of my family ignored it and i have police reports but child services couldn't do anything because all i had to show were bruises and no witnesses. as i got older my mother started drinking a lot, she is probably drunk at least 4 nights in a week and she hasn't had a job for about 12 years. she just sits around all day and smokes and drinks and has her scummy friends over.
within two years though, i've been finding drugs and substances throughout the house that were clearly hers, marijuana and cocaine only. but she has the worst relationship with me because i don't go thorugh one day without being called a slut, cunt, little bitch, twat, you name it. i don't even fight back anymore because it's pointless.
this past december my mother in a rage pulled a knife out on me and put it to my throat. my entire family witnessed it and my dad ripped her off of me before she could have done anything. i called the police and because my father denied it happening they escorted me out and i began to live with my aunt up until now.
i just came back because my mother asked me to and appologised, and because she is my mom i agreed. but my younger brother is moving out with my grandparents because he cant take it herer anymore, and her name calling towards me is starting again. bowls and bags of marijuana lay around my house and it's disgusting. she smokes around all of us and my brother and i both have asthma but she dosn't care.
i've never lied about the situation or cried wolf to get pitty, the only firends who know about it are ones who have witnessed our fights.
my father won't divirce her because he says she'll take all of his money and we'll be broke. and he is scared of being alone since my brother and i are on the verge of graduating highschool.
is there anywhere i can go where they will put a stop to her durg abuse/ alcohol abuse/ child neglect, or is there any way i can have a restraint against her because i don't think it's fair my brother and i have to be thrown around to family members to live with because of her choices. it would be nice to live ina normal home for once in my life.
where can i go for help? (link)
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omg.What im about to tell you is a bit hard but it might work.Put a tape recorder and hide it somewhere and let it record you and her fighting.Take a camera and take pics of the drugs and make sure shes not behind you.It would be GREAT if you can get it on camera,her beating you up.Then show it all to the police.Why dont you also try to move outta there?PLEASE DONT DROP OUTTA SCHOOL.Its your only chance of having a future now.If you have a college diploma,youll have a real job and be successful and wont have to stay at your house anymore.I say you try to get a job NOW,any job and have your own money.You never know WHAT will happen tommorow and you need to have your own money.You can also move in with a freind mabey.OR,why dont you make sure your moms not home one day and let there be drugs on the floor and QUICKLY call the police and let them see what she takes?If you need more help,contact me.I have myspace,yahoo,messenger and its listed on my column.Good luck.
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Well to start off this rather long question, I met a guy named Alex going into highschool. He was in two of my classes, but I didn't really get to know him until we were in a group project together. After that we both started liking eachother but we just left that for two months. (I was grounded for one of the months anyways so it wasn't a big deal.)
Well after the two months he finnally ended up asking me out and we went to a movie. We still saw eachother at school and I guess we were considered to be dating. Eventually I trusted him enough to tell him about my problems with self injury. So then I actually stopped for him and I also stopped doing drugs and drinking.
After that I decided I wanted to test him so I convinced him I was going to commit suicide. I did actually end up taking 15 extra strength acetemitophen, which wasn't enough to get me into a hospital or coffin, but I still felt sick the next day. So that night he got My bestfriend and boyfriend to call me and see if I was okay. So I called him and started crying on the phone, but I told him I would be fine.
After that event their were only two more days before Spring Break, so we sort of just avoided eachother. On SpringBreak he went skiing for 2 weeks. Then he came back and broke up with me. Personally I think he broke up with me because of the suicide attempt. He is a very happy person and he pushs anything that isn't happy away from him.
At first I was just angry, but it wasn't a big deal because our relationship was never that serious and we didn't really do anything sexual. But then I became really depressed about it and I started self injury again. About a month after we broke up he started doing drugs. That was really horrible because I had stopped doing them for him and now he started doing them. So obviously I was mad and hurt. Their were numerous fights after that.
So I was just started to get over him when he tells me he still loves me. Of course I told him the same, when I should have just allowed him to get over me also.
After that school ended so I didn't see him for about two months, when he asked me to hang out. So my bestfriend and me went to his house to get high and it was very awkward.
We didn't talk for a week after that. So then I was talking to his friend and his friend told me that he only dated me because I am hot and that Alex told a whole bunch of people I was a freak anyways. So then I decided to just push my feelings away for him because I thought he wasn't worth it.
Well we just talked recently, although not about anything imporatant, and I realized that I still care about him. School starts in a week and I will probably see him and I might has classes with him. (We are both in the same program for intelligent students)
Having said all that, I want to know what I should do about this situation? Should I just try and forget my feelings for him. (I have liked him for 7 months now) Should I just try and be his friend or should I just still like him? And how am I supposed to act at school when I see him now? It is going to be very awkward.
Thanks for any advice you can give. :) I know it was way too long. (link)
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I know exactly what happened here and why he broke up with you.He saw that you cut yourself and do everything possible to get yourself killed and he had to cope with that because he liked you but then when you wanted to commit suicide,he broke up with you because he realised if he didnt,he would be REALLY heartbroken if he was still with you and you killed yourself.People dont fall in love with others so their mates can go off complaining how theyre going to commit suicide,they just want to be happy.Yes,he dated you at first because he thought you were hot and he wanted to see if he was going to like your personality as much as your looks and it turns out he didnt because of all what you told him and what youre doing to yourself.You didnt really mention any reasons why you want to commit suicide.If you need help on anything eles id be more than glad to help you though.He told everyone youre a freak because you only got to know the guy for like 2 months and you told him EVERYTHING about you,what do you expect.Well at least it teaches you not to make the same mistake again.I think its best you and him stay FREINDS only.
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