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Gossip--receiving end
I am a grad student at an ivy where people are quite snobby. Some women started the (false) rumor that I was masturbating in the library. I didn't do anything to these women, I didn't even speak to them ever, and I don't understand why they started this rumor. How I've dealt with it: Rather than defending myself, I just ignored it and focused on my studies, hoping that most people would recognize that it's so preposterous that it must be untrue. Now, my reputation is totally ruined and everyone (except a few of my friends) believes it, and everyone believes that this is true because I've been a workaholic and I've kept to myself for an entire year in order to keep up my grades. Now, whenever people pass by me, they call me "the girl who masturbates in the library" and smirk to themselves. The thing is, i know that they are talking about me, but it's getting on my nerves, and I don't know what to do. It's so embarassing a rumor that I don't even know how to respond. I thought it was so preposterous an allegation that i didn't think it was worth it to dignify a response, and that the best way to handle it was just to ignore it, pretend like i didn't hear it, and focus on my studies. Now, as a result, no one has let it live down, and for some reason, all the women in my class are repeating it over and over everyday. It's a very gossipy, cliquish school. What should i do, and how do you think i should respond?
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Start a rumor about them,yes its very immature but ruin their reputation like they did to YOURS,you cant let them get away with it.Say something like one of them gave a guy a bj somewhere.Revenge is sweet.I also think you should tell one of your freinds to go around telling everyone she knows that its a rumor.Thatd help a lot.
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Report it to someone. That is considered harassment and they can be thrown out of school and even be put in jail for that. You can't let yourself live through that when you can get rid of it. If you don't want to do that your only other real option is confront the woman head on that are causing you problems. For all you know it could be something as minor as they thought you said something about them first and you can all laugh it off in the end. The chances of that are slim but you will never know until you do something
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