Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Okay, when I'm friends with guys, I can ramble on and on and be myself and not selfconcious or anything. It's just so normal. But when I end up going out with a guy, it's completely different! I don't know what to talk about and I feel so self concious and it's like I've become this awkward shy person. Knowing the fact that htis guy is my boyfriend changes things for me in a way that I don't kow. Anyone know how to help me get over this?!??! (link)
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um yeah. k let the guy talk a bit. just stay calm as a cucumber and let him make the conversation. you are probably just shy and he'll figure that out and help you deal with it. guys arent that stupid lol. the guys are use to this. they know that a lot of girls are like that and they learn to deal with it. try getting to know the guy well first and if you get shy again, tell him that and becasue he knows ytou already then he can help you get into a stage where you are confident and feel safe. good luck. its not as much getting over tyou problem as it is reaking the ice. everyone goes through it. I'm sure your guys are too.
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My best friend told me a secret, and he told me not to tell anybody. It was about his ex. I didn't think it would be a big deal, so I told her, because we are so so so close.
and he got really mad at me.
and I really miss him. We havent spoken since.
what can I do or say to make it up to him?
I know it is my fault and I feel terrible about it. (link)
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apologize untill he says its okay. everytime you see him apologize. He wont say its okay but you did a bad thing he's punishing you. apologize somemore. just keep at it. eventually he'll forgive you. you sound like you are really upset. and im sure one day he'll realize that. just keep it up. good luck let me know what happens
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i would really like to lose some weight off my stomach. But my problem is i really like to eat late at night. Icecream has been the food of choice lately. I get uncontrolable cravings for food when im depressed or late at night. What are some foods that are healthy that i can eat later at night instead of icecream? also, what exercises should i do to lose the weight off my stomach? I run alot and i do crunches every now and then but the crunches dont seem to work. (link)
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i have the same problem. K the first thing is dont eat 2 hours before you go to bed. its as simple as that. say you are going to bed at 10 eat dinner at 6 have a snack at 7:30 or so. see when you sleep you are digesting food and that makes you lose weight. i realize that you are hungry so eat more. eat more at dinner and eat a large healthy snack. drink lots of water and dont eat ice cream. and dont eat at night. ever. by building up that tolerence to food, you will feel a sence of confidence, and achievement. just learn how to refuse our body food. if you have already eaten a lot during the day your body is being an idiot. you arent going to die if you dont eat ice cream at 11 p.m. jk lots of luck to you!! i also wanted to let you know, frozen yougurt is an alternative to ice cream. Just buy some of those little packages and stick a bunch in the freezer. They are just as good as icecream and they are way less fat!! sorry I cant help more with the excerize part. Just keep doing what youre doing and eventually your wieght will start to change
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How do I meet more boys at school? As friends some as potentially more? (link)
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um yeah im on the same boat. i dont hav a lot of male friends but if you join clubs and be open with guys then you should be able to make friend nad once you make male frined not only can they introduce you to toher guys but they are potential bfs too!!
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Ok well i like this guy and i dont no if he likes me back soo what do i do? im 13 female (link)
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ask him. :) thats the only way to know for sure. or you can tell him that you like him. say it in a good way. Like use a compliment like: you have awsome hair, thats why i like ya so much. you're only thirteen adn if this one doesnt work out one day it will. no worries k? good luck hope this helps
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does anyone anyone!! KNOW what casues JEALOUSY??? and how does it develop?? ALSo what casues a person to be a perfectionist?? is ther any websites that i can read about this stuff or talk to someone about it??
i have many emotional problems that lead me to feel neglected and get jealous and shut people out!!
help me!1 (link)
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I'm a perfectionist too. but i just except it.as far as jealousy i have no clue but i think that all people (teens especially) got through it. I think that you are perfectly normal, heres how feel more sane. grab a journal. and start writing. get a penpal do this. whatever works. just find away to blow off steam. I'm sure that there are a billion people who feel exactly like you do. you just need to relax and let your feelings out. you need to tell your friends that you are like this and I'm sure that they will try and help you out. You maybe could talk to the school counsler. it sucks to feel neglected. i feel taht way all of the time but i have a pen pal who i let all of my feelings out to. hope this helps
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I really want to help my fiend. The thing is that she gets jealous very easily. Not just about guys but if a friend seems to be ignoring her she gets sad and mad at them. She is also the middle child and feels neglected by her parents, ESPECAIllY now because her parents's friend is visitng from another country and they never have time for her. Her family is not close at all and it's making her like that, ex. she doesn't like to give random hugs. Another thing is that she is a perfectionist and wants herself and the guys she dats to be perfect.
Also one more thing when she does sports or something for example she puts herself down because she doesn't want to have to measure up to people's standards afterwards and doesn't think too highly of herself.
How can i help her with any of these issues? (link)
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um im not sure. you need to be supportive of your friend but you cant fix her. thats the way she is. if she becomes jealous or upset woith you talk to her about it. if not then you should ignore it. Who ever has a problem with it can deal with it themselves. you are a super good friend, and your friends are really lucky to have you. but you have to stop thinking that somethings wrong with her because it doesnt really sound like there is. As far as the hug thing some people are like that. As far as the rest of that she probably wants attention, i think you sorta gues that. you cant be her parents but you cna be her best frined ask her to hang out when ever you have free time nad find more nad more things in comman with her. the more you talk the more open she will become with you and then you talk kore and more about her "problems" just promise to not judge her and i can tell her that soon you will start to realize that really shes just a little needy and wants a great freind good luck!!
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well I dont actually know if i have ocd or not
i have wierd little obsessions and if i dont fulfill them i feel sick and really paranoid.
I have to clean tables perfectly and arrange everything on them do its up against a wall or the back edge
I have to unplug absolutely everything before i got out or got to bed or even leave the room
I when i give someone a ' high five!' ii have to do it twice so its equals exactly ten
When i write things in my diary i have to write things in exactly ten repetative steps..
I have to write exactly 10 kisses in my diary .
And if i see a plug socket where there is nothing plugged in although the switch is on , i cant stand it and HAVE to turn it off..
Once i put the phone down i have to push it ten times to make sure ive put it down correctly..
Please help, my friends have pointed out on it and i dontknow whether i do actullay have ocd..
all advice much appreciated xxxxxxxxxx (link)
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hey wow. ive never heard of ocd. talk to your parents about it. that sounds like a serious obsession if its not ocd then you probably need some therapy (no offense I'm just trying to help) or to talk to someone to find out why this is. get some help, talking to people on lin might not be that exactly. good luck.
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sorry this might be long. i dont really know if im lookin for advice or if i need a place to help me get my heat out so someone can listen..
well my friends party is tomorrow and shes totally copyin me because shes doin the same things as i did at my party and its right next door to where i had my party. for her party she needs to know the exact people that are going because thats how the place is and it was the same for my party. well anyways i guess i have to go and first she said its gonna be at 6pm but now she says come at like after 6:30pm so i was like should i come at like 7pm and she was like yea sure. then i asked her when its gonna end and she tells me i can leave whenever and that people are gonna stay after 1:00am. oh yeah and shes only turnin 15 and i had a big party because it was my SWEET SIXTEEN..someone told me that shes only havin a party because i had such cool party.
today me n my best friend went to the mall to go get her a present and we couldn't find anything nice. so we went into aeropostal and i saw this really hott lookin sweatshirt and i had to try it one and i ended buyin it. i brought the gray one and my best friend brought the brown one which was a little different from mine for our friend as her present. im just so freakin pissed because i saw it first and that other girl cant rock it like me. now we are gonna have similar clothes. i tried tell my best friend that i didnt really want her to buy it. come on i thought my best friend is suppose to understand how i feel about stuff and really listen and care. the girl thats havin the party is always freakin copyin me and i just cant take it and im not tryin to be a selfish or jealous bi-tch. now i really dont feel like going and i really dont want to talk to any of them...
thank you so much for those who really read this and sorta understands me.. please just leave anything like your advice or comments.. (link)
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well there isnt anything that you can do. Go to the party if you want, be nice, who care if shes copying you? shes younger than you and she thinks of you as a role modle maybe. Your friend only bought the sweater because she dosnt know what to buy for this girl. who cares if you have the same sweater. it looks way better on you. right? my friend had this girl copying her so she just ignored it the girl was a year younger then her too. she just made her own style nad if she saw people copying it she took it as a complement. she says that she feels like a rockstar. lol good luck. hope you feel better.
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everyday after school i come home & pretty much pig out.. & normally its after not having any lunch at school.. somedays i do.. ether way its still the same when i come home. i dont want to do this anymore because its affecting everything else i do when i get home. sometimes i feel so full i just get lazy i guess.. i dont know. how can i stop this? i know not watching any tv, not walking into the kitchen & stuff like that can help.. but i need like a full proof plan! im having to be paraniod about it when i come home.. if not then i pig out. even when i do.. i still pig out most of the time. (link)
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Find something to do after school. pick up a sport. that will do double you'll be out excersizing and it will keep your mind off food. eat lunch but eat healthy!!! eat apples drink water do whatever it take not to be hungry later. but you do have to eat.
the reason that ytou are eating after school is becasue you are bored and food is not only good, but its something you do. make it something you dont!!
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Before anyone gets upset, I only want to boost my metabolism and thats all I expect out of diet pills. I excersize regularly and eat all day long (healthy, whole foods) and keep it down! My only problem is I have a slow metabolism and I'm looking for the healthiest and most effective way to speed it up. I'm curious about things like Stackers and Farenheit, I know they can be addictive, but, if used properly, could they honestly help? If even just a little? If not, what can? (link)
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You need to speak to a doctor. I'm sure that there is something better than diet pills for your metabolism. you probably have no idea whats going on with your hormones etc when you take those things. Dont take advice from people online about what pills are better go to a doctor. seriously. right away. before you get addicted.
good luck
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I'm almost 19 and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. The thing is, I'm someone who always thinks of the worst that can happen in every situation I am. In this case, my hugest fear is getting pregnant. I've been on birth control for a year and plan to use that AND a condom for protection. But for some reason, I'm still worried. It's not that I'm not ready. Unlike most people, I'm educated, cautious, and responsible. But how can I quit worrying about the things that don't need to be? (This goes along with other situations besides this one.) Thank you. (link)
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k i totally understand what you need to do is tell your bf. tell him that youre worried and ask him what he's going to do if you get pregnant. if he isnt ready for a kid and if you arent reay for a kid then you ARENT ready for sex. its as simple as that. talk about all of the possibilities; abortion, adoption, keeping it. see if you can figure it out. good luck
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Ok so my dad started dating this chick and after a couple months she moved in well to make a long story short she moved out and her son was still living with us and is still but they were broke up so..after a while and other stuff i had end up having sex with her son multipule times and me and him are like i dont know what you'd consiter us. But i really love him like alot and i cant stand not being around him but the problem is that he says he has feelings for me but then its like he goes out on the weekends and hooks up with all these chicks and i thinking like is he just using me bcuz im conveniant because i live with him or does he really care about me. Like i asked him i was like are you just using me hes like no and then hes like why are you using me or something...i was like ehh no. But the thing is like when i mention bout the other girls hes like naw your different. I have no clue because i love him but i just dont know what to do because he gets with alot of girls but its not like i cant just not talk to him i mean he lives with me and i love this boy like none other. And its like when im around him and things are going to happen i cant stop myself to say anything i just go for it because i fell so strongly bout him if that makes any sence.Then when i hear hes been talking to some chicks it breaks my heart thinking hes probably trying to fuck them. (link)
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Oh wow!
Break it off. Stop doing it with him. if he wants you he'll have to committ to you. its as simple as that. no im just kidding i realize that its so much more than that you're in love. we'll you'll just have to go off and break the rule two wrongs dont make a right. go off and flirt with guys. find one that wont cheat on you. if that doesnt work, at least it will show the son guy that you are good enough for other guys and that if he doesn thold on tight he's going to loose an awsome girl.
hope this helps good luck
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so i lost the game of female compition about 2 weeks sgo.... my friend got the guy i liked. unfortunetly she blabs alot about other guys still! shes so lucky, and i am sitting here envious in green. how could i get over her b/f, he is also a friend of mine, why couldn't he choose me!? other guys wouldnt even cross my mind if he was with me. (link)
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you know what that sucks. but i know how you feel. just remember there will be other guys and if this girl keeps blabbing around then eventualy guy will figure it out and who knows maybe you'll still be available. but yo never knwo whats going to happen. keep tlakig to the guy and make sure he thinks of you as a freind and maybe someday in the future... who knows. For right now maybe you hould try and focus on another guy. sometimes picking a random single guy to hang out with or talk to once in a while or even just think about can often help you in getting over the guy. good luck. and always remember there ar other gus out there. just give them a minute to recognize how amazing you truely are!!
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I like this guy named James. i have heard from everybody that he likes me. and then everyone knows that i like him and also ppl keep saying that he is going to ask me to be his gf. and then today he finaly asked me. and i said yes. and then now this other cute guy that is new came to my school today/ he is a major hottie! but im still thinking of wether i should stay with james or go with the new kid Jake. everone and all of my friends think that i should stay with with James. im not sure who to choose. should i stay with james sinse he already asked me to be his gf and use jake as a back up?
Thanks!! :) (link)
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hey!
dating isnt all about looks. I think that you should stay with James and get to know Jake too. Since he's new offer to show him around or offer help with homework etc. then you can get to know him without leaving james. cause what happens when you leave james and jake doesnt accept you or turns out to be a jerk? give james a chance you never know what can happen. he may be a great guy that you are just going to let go of. and also you commited to james and if you jsut ditch him now then you may be losing a great friend and a great bf. i think you should give it some time. if jake gets a girlfriend right away thats okay. As long as you arent embarrased by james then you should keep dating him. good luck!!
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ok so there is this guy who i have known for a year now, right and we flirted last year but then i found out he had a gf then over the summmer she broke up with him for another guy and because he didnt call her enough then he went out with someone else but then that girl broke up with him too cuz they never talked and for aother guy.
we talk now, but it seeems like to me that im the only one talking and hes just listening, so im kind of running out of things to say, what would be some good things to start a conversation? idk im kind of better at talking about people ( not in a bad way) then objects or events or whatever.
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you know what some boys are bad at talking to girls. if you think that you arent going to be able to communicate enough with him then you shouldnt make a relationship with him. on the other hand he may be shy. tell him how you feel. or you could ask him personal questions and if he only gives you lik a few words as his answer you know it wont work right? its hard to figure out what to say, but if you try hard to make a conversation and he isnt trying at all and thats his history then maybe thats just how it is gonna be with him. if it doesnt work out its his loss.you sound like a great girl whos willing to try at a realtionship and thats what counts but not all relationships work out. good luck anyway!!
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theres this guy lets call him brian ok well his friend luke keeps asking stuff like if brian wanted to go out w/ u then would u go out w/ him and i never know what to say so i just say i dont know so does this mean brian likes me?? but theres also this guy zack he wont tell me who he likes but he said she has one class w/ him nd that she has blondish/brownish hair nd that could possibly be me i dont know but we definitely talk a lot more and he always looks at me in class so do these 2 guys like me?? if they do how do i know which one to pick?? (link)
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hey!!Okay well first suggestion: talk to Brian if he doesnt admit to liking you then give it up. he lost his chance with amazing you! then try Zack again. if you like him, tell him that and that means you just made the first move. i know it sounds weird but crazy stuff works. K situation #1: brain says he likes you and zack says he likes you what do you do? pick the one who said yes first its only fair. so which one do you ask first? i dont know flip a coin? Or if you clearly like one more than the other then you can ask him first. situation #2: they both say no and you're heart broken. I know it sucks but what you have to do to prepare for this is to pretend that they dont like you pretend that they dont like you at all. heres how: forget about them. if they want you they can ask you. its that simple. you have two clear choices interfere and do everything yourself. or let the boys be smart and ask wonderful you out. or you can always pull a luke and ask a frend to ask them for you but i wouldnt recomend that because it would probably make the zack one worse. the brian one might be a dose of his own medicine. I think the friend asking thing is stupid and immature, but if it works for you power to you. hope you find a bf and if it doesnt work out with either one, its not the end of the world. good luck!!
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okay so at school there is this girl who is extremely mean to me. we used to be friends but she sed i "changed" over the summer. she started rumors that i make fun of specail needs kids and asked people to beat me up. she told me she is going to make my life hell and hire a murdurer to kill me =o she also blamed me for prank calls at her house and why her and one of my friends arent friends anymore. we have gotten into fights before but were forced to become friends.
she gives me dirty looks and bought THE SAME exact clothes as me at abercrombie so everyone thinks im copying her even though IM NOT! i cant buy new clothes because my mom sed that she spent enough money already and i have to weait till crhistmas.
so my question is.. how do i deal with her? like what should i do when she gives me dirty looks and makes fun of me? (link)
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hey!
yeah that sucks. I was just recently involved in something of those sorts. Heres what happend to me: There was this girl J and she was more of a freind of freinds we were in the same class for the first time and getting along well then we started to fight, she calle dmy frineds names and made fun of physical problems they have.everytime i turned aroun she was there calling me horrible untrue names infront of everyone. then i broke down. My teachers didnt get involved but somehow it ended. and one day yours will too. i no it sucks right now but for the next little bit you have to suffer through it. talk you your other friends, parents teachers anyone you can trust to support you but as far as the clothes. who cares? just as many people probably think shes copying you. Besides if someone cares what you wear, then theyre an idiot. just ignore the girl. i know how mean girls can be but i guess you just have to deal with it. one day she will get bored. and who ever sticks beside you really are your true friends. you can also try to talk to her about it. Hey! I have an idea. it sounds stupid. but you can just apologize. HAHA it will completely scare her. she totally wont be expecting it!! even if you dont think that she deserves an apology it makes you look like the good guy and everyone will be on your side. i know it sounds weird but in situations like this is takes weird gestures to make an effect. if it works then talk to her and see if she wants to either be friends again or just stop hating you. it might work might not. good luck!
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Okay, so I'm not doing tottaly horrible in school but I'm on the verge of doing horrible. Its just I focus more on my friends then school... and latly I've beent hinking about this boy well I stopped worrying about that about 3 days ago and last night i met this guy and now i'm thinking about him and i don't want drama or anything with him.but basically what I'm asking is what how can i help to make myself focus more on school and not my friends or boys (link)
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Hey!
K this is a great question for me. Im pretty good at school and my freinds are exactly like you. Heres the thing school is important and without it you will be very lost. So i have some ideas. Talk to your teachers. Ask them ideas on how to improve your grade, how to focus and how to get help. Next set a study shedual. Say from 4-6 every night you have to study. No matter what. Whether you have homework or not. Study a chapter of your text book, even if a test isnt for a while its just less cramming three weeks from now. Or you can just read. No matter what you are focusing on something other than guys and friends. Now this part sounds crazy, but set aside some time for just focus on guys and friends. Say you go to bed at 11. At ten or tenthirty get ready for bed and just think about possible situations. or if you dont have drama in your life, then just relax and destress. Limit your T.v., computer, and friends time to less time on week days and more on weekends that way you dont have to worry about school while you are out with your friends. By separating what you are thinking about into different catagories, you will have more time to think about the important things, or the things that are important to you. One more thing. Start a diary. That ones my favourite. I write in mine every day. It helps me to figure out what im doing wrong in my life and it also helps me to figure out better strategies for the next time i run into that situation. Also when you get older you can look back on all of the embarassing tortures you went through in school. I hope things work out for you. Good luck!!
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Okay in august i had 4 boyfriends, the fourth one i'm still with, but as you can see i have a problem and that is ,my relationships never last long, and my bf doesn't know that, i mean i've known him since third grade but i never expected to be w/ him. and then i started liking him and then two weeks after school started he asked me out. and i said yes. Well he talks to my friend Lauren and he told her that he wants to be with me forever. and i thought oh he says that all the time but my friend Nat his x gf, said that he never told her that. and his friend Ashton said that he never heard him say that. Im so confused, i mean he told me he loved me and i didn't say anything, im so confused. i mean i think hes the best bf ever, and ive never said that, but i just dont wanna hurt him. what can i do to prevent an end to this wonderful relationship?
P.s. In my recent relationships im the one who says its over. Another problem. I think i do love him, or maybe its something else...please help.
Thanks in Advance! (link)
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Hey "the problem",
That does sound like a bit of a problem. Look if i guy told me he loved me I'd be thrilled. You seem to be upset. But i cant tell you how you feel.
It sounds like your bf really likes you!! Thats super great right? Dont let it scare you that he says he wants to be w/ u 4ever. if you feel that way too thats great if not thats fine. You dont have to feel the same way as him. But I recommend that you speak to bf. tell him how you feel. You may not kow but tell him that you are so glad that he loves you (if you are) and be super honest. Tell him everything. It will deffinatlky make the relationship better. Just because you've had problems in previous relationships its not that big of a deal. This one may be different. I cant tell you how to make the realtionship stick, All i can say is be true to yourself and be true to him. even if you dont make the relationship last forever you can always try if you are both up to alittle work then I'm sure that you can make the realtionship work.I think that the last few relationships ended for you because you gave up. Dont give up. Kepp trying!! You can do it! I know you can!! Good luck! I hope you have a great relationship!
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