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my jealous friend were both f/14 PLEASE READ NOT THAT LONG!
I really want to help my fiend. The thing is that she gets jealous very easily. Not just about guys but if a friend seems to be ignoring her she gets sad and mad at them. She is also the middle child and feels neglected by her parents, ESPECAIllY now because her parents's friend is visitng from another country and they never have time for her. Her family is not close at all and it's making her like that, ex. she doesn't like to give random hugs. Another thing is that she is a perfectionist and wants herself and the guys she dats to be perfect.
Also one more thing when she does sports or something for example she puts herself down because she doesn't want to have to measure up to people's standards afterwards and doesn't think too highly of herself.
How can i help her with any of these issues?
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Well, you won't be able to change what's going on in her life or how she feels about herself, but you can be there for her.
If she wants to be a perfectionist, let her be. She will eventually learn that she's being a bit picky and she'll start to give guys chances. If you butt in and tell her she's making a mistake, she'll just feel worse about her friend not helping her through a break-up. Besides, I think you are pretty lucky that you've got a friend who doesn't let herself become a doormat by a guy like a lot of girls do.
She's going through what every girl goes through. Family problems. There isn't one problem in this world that another person doesn't have. I'm not telling you that she should stop being sad, but she needs to know thaqt she's not alone and that even some girls go through foster homes and all of that and still got through life and turned out ok. I'm just trying to have you tell her that she's not alone in any of this because that's probably what she needs to hear every once in a while.
Self-esteem will always be a problem in people's lives. Either you begin to show yourself that you are worthy and that you can achieve anything, or you close the doors and decide already that you can't do it. Who knows what your friend will do, but all you can do is keep telling her that she's capable of anything she wants and that you believe in her.
-TheTeenGirl
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um im not sure. you need to be supportive of your friend but you cant fix her. thats the way she is. if she becomes jealous or upset woith you talk to her about it. if not then you should ignore it. Who ever has a problem with it can deal with it themselves. you are a super good friend, and your friends are really lucky to have you. but you have to stop thinking that somethings wrong with her because it doesnt really sound like there is. As far as the hug thing some people are like that. As far as the rest of that she probably wants attention, i think you sorta gues that. you cant be her parents but you cna be her best frined ask her to hang out when ever you have free time nad find more nad more things in comman with her. the more you talk the more open she will become with you and then you talk kore and more about her "problems" just promise to not judge her and i can tell her that soon you will start to realize that really shes just a little needy and wants a great freind good luck!!
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