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i think this guy is cute but im afraid to tell him bbecause im scared he wont talk to me im really afraid of rejection so what should i do should i tell the guy or keep to my self. (link)
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If I were you I would keep it to myself let the guy be the one to tell you he likes you.Some guys just make the girl think he likes her just so she could fall for him like other girls,and just want every girl to like them which is pretty sad.Others just may want only friendship or just flirt,and nothing else.I know this guy who is a player,has a heart of a rock,I see girls who are friends,like this same boy,and he really is disgusting,thinks he's all that but frankly he is just pathetic,and needs to get a life instead of playing around with girls,they know they like the same guy,play with him not like friends but more than that if you know what I mean,he, and those girls aren't even worth it.As I was saying tell a friend or someone you're cool with to ask him if he likes you.If he shows signs he likes you talk to him,and become friends with him first then you'll see how thing go from there.
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Ok their is this guy that goes to my school he is a grade ahead of me but he always sits by me one the bus and he said i was hot and he always flirts w/ me and stuff like that so i totally thought he liked me but when my friend asked him if he liked me he said he didnt wanta go out??? whats going on>?
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What is happening is that he is just scared to tell her of how he feels towards you nothing else so don't worry about it , and the possible reasons he said he didn't want to go out is either he is just not ready or is busy into his studies so maybe he just wants to be friends for now with you and then get to know you better.Some guy knows I like him,he likes me too but told me he that if I were to be his girlfriend then he woulod never want to break up with me ,that he'll be afraid to lose me like he lost an ex of his so I understood and we are very good friends.I tell you this so you see that guys may have their reasons that they don't want to go out but doesn't mean just because of that don't think it's that they don't like you.Trust me on this one.Talk to him more and get to know him and who knows he may ask you out one day.Good luck!
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this isn't really a big deal but im really nervous about it--
okay, so i go to a private school, and i have since 6th grade.(im in eighth now)And today we just got some serious news. Our school is also a church, and the church is moving to a different building next year. They pay for half of our school, and we're a poor school as it is, so we cant pay for it all on our own. So there's this school thats about 15 minutes away from my school, and its huge.Its really nice inside, and they have air conditioning (which we dont have) and its super nice there. But im so nervous because its a whole new school, new people, and im not so great at making friends. Im outgoing and hyper and stuff but my weakness is making friends, and im not really good friends with anyone in my class, so i really wanna make friends there. Im also scared that i'll get lost because its so big!please give me advice i rate all 5's! (link)
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If I were you I would go to this school like I was getting transfer to this big school,I was very nervous,also I was afraid of getting lost but once you get the hang of it you won't get lost for sure,and observe how the room numbers go but I made lots of friends so can you!What you got to do is since you are not good at it talk to someone who you see sitting alone then start a conversation like say hi,introduce yourself to him/her then ask how they feel about the school,and all.Also this school you say is nice,has air conditioning which is great especially for the summer stop thinking about it go,even though there will be a lot of new people there have confidence in yourself which is very important, for sure you will achieve things, and succeed in life don't lose it!Hope everything goes fine!
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A friend of mine is avoiding talking to me. She says that she isn't talking to anybody who needs help/advice or anyone whos going through things because she has her own stuff to deal with. So, yeah, we're having problems because I should be able to count on her but I just can't. We're both in theatre, and both doing Costumes for this next show. So basically, i'm stuck with her. Plus i've been sick and i've missed some of the crew calls. Should I just quit costumes?? I would do the show after this, but I don't feel like being on her crew. I enjoy sewing and making costumes but.....
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Don't quit it if you love doing costumes just try not to get too close to her,pretend like she's not there even though she really is,and also you should stop talking to her because a real friend would always be there to talk with his/her friend when they need help it's not just someone to hang with that's what friends out for she will one day regret for being such a mean,uncaring person as well as a lousy friend.Hang out with real friends it goes to show you that when troubling times happen,you are in need of help it could show you who are your real friends.
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Hello.ok,I am in the 7th grade and my boyfriends never does anything with me like go up town or go to the movies.I am haveing thoughts of dumping him because he hasnt even huged me and we have gone on a date yet but i love him 2 death. WHAT DO I DO?
~*BLONDE*LOVE~ (link)
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Why don't you try asking him if he would like to go somewhere entertaining like the movies or hang out in an amusement park or somewherelse.Another thing is you should talk to him about how he feels about you.If you want to try hugging him,see if he returns it back,or how he will react to see how much he really likes you.Another last thing I advice you to do is to tell him that you love him and observe his expression which will also tell you a lot of how he feels towards you.
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Last year I got in a lot of fights.(not fist fights but like curse fights online) So I kinda had a bad reputation. Well now this year I'm more girly and its my last year in my school then i go to high school so I'm trying not to have any fights this year. Well this girl in my grade who is mean to me but I'm not mean to her (i just get mad when she gives away my sn to strangers)she found out some how that I'm on advicenators. Well today she asked me a question a private one to me and she said my full name (first and last) and said that I pick on her and bully everyone. She also said that i take everything from her even the boy she liked that liked her. Now I have no clue what boy liked her that I liked/like. I just feel like I'm hated by everyone and no one likes me. And I don't know what to do to make myself cheer up. Wouldn't she be the bully now? What should I do? I feel so hated and unwanted. (link)
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What you could do is make it fair,equal like since she likes making stuff up why don't you say something like that will ruin her reputation there must be something she did wrong in her past because I mean no one is perfect,send bad rumors about her but make sure that they don't say that you were the one to start the rumors because then she will try to get you back.But don't do this right away give it a little time, and then take action I know what I'm telling you if you do it right away she will most probably suspect it was you.Good luck!
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heyy ok when i shave u no down there i get these little red bumps and i start to bleed from the bumps what should i do...i tried shaving the same way as the hair grows but that doesnt work and im NOT waxingg (link)
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I recommend you use a machime called bikini microtouch to shave,won't irritate your skin,it's painless,and you may feel like tickles.Buy it in the pharmacy it doesn't cost that much like it would cost $10 at any pharmacy they sell it.Also it good because hair grows slowly than when you shave.
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Hi, I have this friend, lets call her Taylor. Well, Taylor is really annoying. Taylor got really mad. I don't really know why though. Well, I try to cheer people up when the get mad at me telling jokes, buying them junk, ect. She even got mad at me for trying to make her happy!!!! Well we have had many fights. I don't really like Taylor that much anymore. I am trying to break away from he but whenever I try she pulls me in closer. I am getting tired of this. It is like she is living off me. Also she has zero respect for anybody, her mom, me, rules, friends, even little chilren. I don't know what to do anymore. I think my PMS is getting to me. I don't really know.
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She has serious issues how does she expect people to respect her if she can't respect anyone I mean where did she get this idea of having zero respect from others but for sure she knows.Don't hang out with her try to teach her a lesson,tell her that the only thing she is doing is pushing others away from her and that one day she will be left alone if she doesn't change.Also that she will regret it and even though she says no she won't she will.One last thing is to recommend her to get some professional help because she really needs it.It's unbelievable how some people don't value those who care about them such as your friend.
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okayy so me and this guy andrew have been dating for about 3 months and we've done a lot and have gotten really into eachother.. so i thought but it was all summer and once we got back to school he stopped calling and stopped comming over and to me that isn't hard to come over we only live 2 houses down! so in school my friend jack started likin me and i sort of starting like him a little bit to but i still had a lot of feelings for andy. Now tomorrow in school jack is asking me out so i've heard but i don't want to turn him down again cause it would be like the 20th time i have turned him down. But i still really like andy, however, i don't think andy really likes me anymore but it's really hard to get over him. So i need help.. should i go out wiht jack? or should i try and stay with andy?.. and im sorry i know its confusing (link)
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You should go out with Jack because andrew hasn't been showing up on you don't you think that's very wierd,on top of that you too live two houses away ,he can't bother to come,see if you're okay at least he doesn't seem he's worth it but jack is a nice guy,you like him,look how much he likes you ,and still hasn't gave up I mean wow!Andy is just your past let it go if he cared about you he would of called or at least wrote you a letter or ask how you are.
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soemone i kno died and im really bad at dealing with it its been awhile and i still get thoose days that i just miss them so much is there anyway i can cope better?has this happened to you?if so howd u deal?
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Yes people that I cared about did pass away as I told someone before about it if you're curious to know about it you could find it on my advice column,and you will have to go on,but one thing is for certain you will never forget that person,it always stays in a special place in your soul and heart.It took a long time for for the pain to heal and to be able to do things that I normally do it's very hard to deal with it.I understand it's understandable that you feel you miss them and you must have that wish that you want them back , do anything to just have that person back and it just hurts so bad.What matters is that whoever it is that passed away they are up there probably up ther in heaven with god where it would be a nice peaceful place for them where for sure they don't have to worry about anything I think that inside my head just so I won't get really upset,So whenever you feel sad just try to think of it that way or speak to someone if they ever gone through that or it ever happened that one they knew died and how they coped with it as well just to try to perhaps make you feel a little better.Try to enjoy life.
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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You should keep trying don't give him up he may be confused for the moment or is just busy,the way he cuddled you,made out with you tells me this guys is really into you so don't think he isn't interested in you anymore.The next time talk face to face with him,tell him how he felt when you made out with him,tell him what's going on,if he says nothing then try telling him that you want to know what is on his mind,and how he really feels towards you.Get things straigthen out and clear so there won't be any doubts.Follow your first love if you feel that he is definitely the one don't let go and do whatever you have to do to maintain this relationship with you,him,and I wish you luck!
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If you don't look at somebody in the eyes...do they get upset or something or feel like they did something wrong? Im really bad at eye contact. It makes me feel weird knowing somebodys eyes are staring right at me.. (link)
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Funny you ask because there was this guy who I had a crush before,I couldn't really look at him in the eye since I got really nervous when he would stare into my eyes a lot,then I saw that he got upset so I started to make eye contact,he got happy.Yes it could make a person who likes someone else or if not that person will say probably in their mind like why won't he/she not even at least stare at me what did I do wrong?If you like someone even if it's someone you like a lot just stare at them if they happen to look at you because then they will get to think that you don't like him/her.It's never too late to fix those mistakes.Remember that.
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ok well I am 14 and when I am around guys any guys i tend to go in look in the mirrior alot it is weird I don't have a boyfriend but I want one but know one I know is my type I like a few guys at school thats it
My question is why do I act so weird around the guys and why can't I get a boyfriend and I am not ugly but I guess I have a preppy personallitie]
well i hope i get helped (link)
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Guys porbably are either taken or afraid to ask you out or just not interested because they may think you're not interested in them you got to show the guy you are if you like him,look nice,talk to him,and just be yourself.If you act weird around the guys it's normal in a way because you probably like them so nothing is wrong with you it's something you got to get used to then one day you would be able to act yourself around them. Don't worry.
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k well theres this guy and he wrote me a note and put it in my locker but he didnt really write it his friend wrote it but he told him what to write and then today i was like "phillip you know i like you" and then he smiled and like held my hand for a minute then when his friend came he let go really quick but were not going out so u think theres a chance that we will go out? (link)
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It's very possible but it seems to me that he is afraid that his friend see's you with him holding hands because as you know his friend likes you too.But you need to tell the guy that you really like him,that he shouldn't hide his feelings from his friend towards you,he didn't take anything from his friend,and that what's wrong if two people like each other.Also that one shouldn't sacriface himself just to make the other person feel happy it's like love also which I told someone about it.Try convincing him that he's not doing anything wrong and show him you really like him.
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Okay so here is my problem..last yr I liked this kid in my clas and he had a gf and when they broke up obv he didn’t like me back or anything so this year im not in his class and I thought I would be over him but im not and I still like him. We used to flirt all the time last yr but I never see him expect in the hallways and in gym…and last yr we never took are friendship like outside of school like talking on the phone or even really online it just happened we were in the same class, so the question is what do I do to make it kinda similar like last yr
Remember : I see him in the hallways and in gym!
p.s Im a high rater!! 5! 5! 5! (link)
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When you happen to see him again,say hi then ask him how's he been lately,say that you miss hanging out with him,say like a compliment to him like he's looking better than before,flirt at him so he see's you're still interested in him,and ask about his interests,tell him more about you that you feel comfortable talking about.
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When I get made at my mom because of something she said to me or something she wont let me do I get really really upset and basically start talking back to her and saying things I shouldn't then storm upstairs. After a few minutes of being unbelievably mad, I realize that I over reacted and go back down stairs and ask her if she needs help or something. It happens all the time. And because I do it alot, my mom now thinks I have mood swings. But, I don't, I just always feel sorry about the way I talked to her. I know it's something I need to change and I'm working on it because I know I shouldn't treat her that way. But, while I’m working on it, how can I convince her that I do not have mood swings? (link)
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Tell her that it's just that there are times when people say things without knowing the consequences,hurting others but basically it happens to others not just you,and that it is very common,and then we notice our mistakes,and feel sorry about it and keep insisting that it isn't mood swings.Good luck!
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In a lifetime is only one love in your life or a couple "loves"? you know how people...claim to have been in love a couple times? (link)
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There could be another love for a person,as far as some people think love is once in a lifetime but I know a couple of people close to me who were once in love with someone,then fell in love with someone else but at first they thought they won't be able to love again.And they are much happier than before,as you know it takes two people to have love not one person for example a girl loves a guy,he doesn't love her so that is not love between them.
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imdoing okay now..
i havent been hurting myself no more which is good i guess. but i have lots of friend problems. i just want a friend that is sooo close to me that we hang out alot and trust eachother and do like everything with. i don't know who my real friends are. i always start fights and stuff. i feel bad after. i always at least start everythingg...i had found a note about one of "my frends" and it said some stuff about her that two of herrr friends wrote and i thought she should know about it so i gave it to her and now her 2 friedns are mad at me and one of them is a guy that i kind of idk like and idk if he liked me but hes mad at me now-not wicked mad but kind of mad- and her other friend is just madd-she like hates me now and i feel so badd--the friend thinks i just gave her the note just to make her mad at her so she would like me better b/c we're not as close anymoroe or w/e. she told me, that me and the friend who the note was about aren't like frriends anymore and even i didn't notice that. It really hurt me and i just dont know what to do/think...my and my friend were soo close and i have tried 2 make us stay friends but i would never eliminate her friends so she would like me better.
what should i do??
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You should probably apologize to the friends you told on perhaps then they will forgive you,won't be mad at you no more,as far as your other friend who thinks you gave her the note just so she would like you better I think she is just trying to act like her friends never wrote her the note but deep inside she knows the truth but she is just too afraid to accept the truth that is in front of her eyes.Look how she repays you after you were just doing something thoughtful so forget her she isn't worth your time worrying about talk to people who appreciate what other friends do for them.Hope you solve your issues with the other friends hopefully.
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(16/f) One of my good guy friends and I are starting to like hang out more and he's told like the whole world he likes me.. but that's not the point. One day at tennis practice I was telling one of my really good friends that he liked me and since then she's been like all over him and it's really annoying! This isn't even the first time that she's done this! Ok and by "all over him" she's really just flirting with him. But she didn't used to. A year ago she had a SMALL crush on him but since then she's had like a zillion crushes *let's be honest she's a little boy crazy*. What should I dooo?!
I'm really liking this guy but I don't want her to be mad at me or something
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Just be honest with her,tell her that you really like him,that you found out he likes you back,that you are not trying to take him from you but that she should understand you,if you were her you would understand,put your eyes on another guy because you have respect for your friend.Don't lead her the path to him I mean because then you will regret it for not going for what you really like and also worst it will stay in your conscious and I know for experience.
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Hi all. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm in love with an extraordinary person. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, to share joys, concerns, and everything that might come up. College is coming up, and we've been discussing the seriousness of our relationship to make sure that we have no doubts about eachother, and we're trying to take everything into consideration. We've discussed our veiws on marriage, kids, future goals, values and beliefs that both of us have, and we know each other's families very well. We really want to make sure we can make this work. So my question is, is there anything else we should be taking into consideration? And also, do you think we should plan on going to the same college or colleges near eachother?
Thanks!
P.S. Experienced opinions of people who have been through this before would be especially helpful, but of course any advice is appreciated. :) (link)
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Other things like religion,compromising that you may also want to take in consideration,you should go to the same college so you too can spend more time with each other which is good by the way.But remember that someone shouldn't distract you from your studies because they are very important for your future.
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