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Okay. So Christmas is in 2 months.. and my boyfriends birthday is in 3.. and i have NO clue what to get him!! I would realy like some ideas.. We're both 15 and hes turning 16 in3 months.. thx a lot ..
chow.

Heres what I'm doing for mine:
He's real athletic so I'm getting his favorite sports teams hat (GA Bulldogs) and filling it with his favorite DVD, favorite candy, a gift card to his favorite story, and a framed picture of me and him.

You could also subsitute the things for cologn or other such things if you want.

Good Luck!

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so i tryed out for cheerleading at my school and they have like two days before actual tryouts where they teach you the dance the school song the cheer and stunting. i'm not gonna lie i did really good on all of it. and when tryouts came i made sure i looked cute while dancing and everything and when she posted the results afterwards my name wasn't on the list but my best friends was. some of the worst people trying out made it...i don't get it. one of the girls i know tryed out with her friend and they made it because her older sister is captain and her other older sister is coach. girls who were on the team for football season didn't even make it because of attitude". actually the coaches just had their younger sister (the captain) choose almost RANDOMLY without looking at abilities...they also choose favorites.this is so unfair they kicked some of the best girls off just because they don't like them...now i missed cheerleading basketball season and i'm scared to tryout for football season next year. one of my friends moms is going to the athletic director and talking about how the coaches just choose favorites...idk what tooo doo!!! i'm so depressed about not making it!!

I must agree with the girl below me; Politics.
Cheerleaders can be snots, cheer moms are WORSE.
I've been a cheerleader for almost 6 years.
I tried out for my school, and girls who showed up to try outs late, not even dressed out, and eating still made the squad simply cause they are known at the local gyms. Also, many girls who can't hit a high-v to save their lives made it, simply because they cheer competative too.

However, I did make it. I've cheered at local gyms for years and I used to be really good. Latley I've had a mental block, and I'll be honest. At tryouts I didn't throw any tumbling, yet I still managed to make the football squad when girls who did tumble didn't make it.

This is just because I'm known as a cheerleader.
Its all unfair, I know, I feel guilty myself.
As for you, I suggest trying a local competative cheerleading gym if you have the money, time, and will to compete.

If not, just keep practicing, maybe sign up for tumbling classes then next year don't give up, go for it!

Good Luck

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ok well halloween is practically here. and i have no idea what to be!!!!!!

im a 14/f and a freshamnnn

i mean i have some ideas.. but like it would cost alot of money.
i was gonan be a preppy boy and probably still am. but being a prep? that could be expensive.. and since i would only wear those clothes like once its a waste of money.

or a princess. but i need a dress, which could be expensive.

i need help. i wanna be something like really cute. like if you know what i mean. but where my mom wouldnt say no right to the spot.


kk thnks in advance!!


mwahhz


-Riss

Heres what some of my friends are:
Pirate (ME) :)
Dorthy
Pocahontis
WonderWoman, Superman, Batwoman etc.
Cute firefighter, police man.
Gangsters (including aluminum foil grillz)
Princess
Fanta Girls
The Village People
Legally Blonde
Mean Girls
Movie theater floor (red sweatsuit, then glue candy, cups, straws etc to it)

For the preppy guy/princess idea, try a thrift store! You can get SUPER cute clothes for really really cheap.

Good Luck, Happy Halloween

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ok. so i want a flatter stomcach. and everyones liek ohh do crunches and stuff.

but then some people are like well wouldnt that just build muscle under your stomach? so you'll get fatter?

Gah, some people just say stupid stuff.
Crunches are great, ONLY IF you do them correctly.

(this is what my fitness coach taugh me:)
Make sure your feet are flat on the floor and only about 6 inches away from your butt/hips. Any further and you'll be using your leg muscles more then abs. Place your fingers, slightly interlocked on the back of your neck. Contract your stomach muscles and pull up, make sure your elbows brush the tops of your knees. Release slowly, remember to breath. Most of us don't realize it, but we hold our breath when we exercise, bad idea. Breath in on the way up, breath out on the way down.

Do about 15 a night, work up in intervals of 10 until you reach either 75-100. Its not the amount you do, its the way you do them.

Remember: this will TONE ab muscles, not instantly make you stick thin. Just keep with the crunches EVERYnight. Stop drinking soda and replace them with water, this TOTALLY helps.

Also, try some cardio when you can, it'll melt that extra stubborn tummy fat right off.

Good Luck

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how much should a fourteen year old who is 5'7 wiegh? whats a healthy weight for her?

Thank you muchly!

My health & fitness teacher told me that a girl should weigh 100 pounds at 5ft, then 5lbs for every inch after that.

Ex: If you're 5 foot 3, you should weigh around 115 lbs depending on your body structure.

Your weight would be about 135, also depending on your structure, atheletic level, and genes.

Good Luck

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i know its not possible to loose alot of weight in a week, but i want to loose as much weight as i can by halloween. i mean like 5 pounds i guess. what should i eat and about how many sit ups and all should i do a day? i mostly want to loose it in my arms and stomach.

If you drink soda, stop.
Its proven that if you replace up to 3 cans of soda a day, with water, you can lose about 2-6 pounds a week. Yes, thats how bad soda is for you.

If you don't drink soda, kudos.
Make sure you get your 6-8 glasses of water daily, as this flushes out toxins and fatty substances. Also, it will GREATLY help you lose weight.

Don't go all drastic and just hit the only green food diet, eat what you normally eat, just in small, porpotional sizes.
Instead of the whole bag of chips, take only five. Put your fork down in between bites at dinner, as this will help you to not over eat.
EAT WHEN YOU'RE HUNGRY, STOP WHEN YOU'RE FULL.
Big tip, it really works.

Try taking up running if you would like.
Start with a slow jog, then a steady run.
Only do about 1/2 a mile, then move it up 1/2 miles every four days.

Good Luck

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how far do you think an average 14/f should go w/ her bf?

To me, making out is good enough, I'm not ready to go that far just yet.
It basicly depends on your morals, beliefs, and what you feel comfortable with.
I do have friends who are nonvirgins and they're only 13.

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Hey, I'm 14 years old, a freshman in highschool. So there's this boy i really really like, we just met this year and are firends. I can't tell if he likes me back though. Sometimes he talks to me, sometimes i tlak to him, and now we've been walking to classes with one another ( he's in four of my classes, three of them are right after eachother)

I've caught him looking at me a few times, and he's caught me looking at him a few times. We joke around modestly, as he's pretty quiet. But he seems to like talking with me...he usually will make a comment to me if we're near eachother and spark up conversation. I try to stay back and walk with him, and sometimes he appears to walk with me by his own choice. And lately he's been looking at me more than usual and sparking up more conversation with me. But the thing is, if i try to talk to him online , he just doesnt seem interested. I'll get so far as to ask "whats up" and he wont reply. But he will reply to questions relating to school work etc. Does he like me? thanks for your help

Never judge a relationship by an online conversation.

Love, lust, and crushes are mistaken for the wrong thing online time and time again.

Most guys aren't really big into the whole "IMing" scene these days. They try to get away with the most basic font and the code that takes up the least amount of typing time. Wats ^ and U? for example.

By the looks of what you told me, he's into the early stages of it. Keep flirting and keep playing the game. After a while, try hanging out (if you don't already) hug him goodbye, go for a "Hey Cutie" instead of a simple "hi" (if you're the brave sort)

Also, try grabbing his hand when you walk with him when you feel comfortable too, it usually get the point across.

To see if he likes you, try this:
Smile at him from across the room (don't do it when he's sitting next to you)

If the ..
A: Smiles back eagerly, its a yes!
B: A struggled, small smile, he's shy but interested.
C: A weird look and he walks away, its a no.

Good Luck!

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There's this guy that I talk to in a few of my classes and I like him, quite a bit actually. But we are sorta friends and I want to go out with him but I don't know how I should tell him. Because I don't wanna ruin the friendship we already have. What should I do?

Lets start from the begining;

Step (1) Talllkkkkk to him.
Ask him to be partners in class, walk with him in the hallway, ask him about his day, make a comment about his favorite sports team, simply smile and say 'hi' you get the picture. Find an excuse to talk to him more.

Step (2) Start the flirtingggg moves :)
Tell him cute jokes, this is my favorite, guys love it when I say it to them.
Q: Why did the tomatoe blush?
A: Because it saw the salad dressing.
Cute, simple, it'll geta laugh or too.
Then, if he says something funny, lightly touch his arm and giggle.
Smile when you talk to him, and simply show you're having a good time with him.

To see if he likes you back, smile at him.
If he smiles back eagerly its a yes!
If its a small, struggled smile, he's just shy.
If its a weird look and a turnaround, its a no.

Step (3) When things get closer, ask him to hang out. Movies are always classic, grab his hand duering the middle just to make sure he get the point. Or, try going to a local theme park, swimming pool (not in October though, ha) local mall, just a classic hangout.

After a while, you'll be irristable to him.
Don't overcrowd him, clingy girls are annoying.
Give him space, be patient, and take it slow.
Leave a little mystery, guys love a challenge.

Good Luck

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I'm freaking out about this. One of my friends, who is a guy, is smoking (I don't know how long he's been smoking, though). I found that out about one minute ago. He's way too young to be smoking and I'm really worried about him. Should I tell someone or what?

Personal Story Time:
In sixth grade, I had a group of best friends, about 11 of us, 4 girls and the rest guys. We did EVERYTHING together, totally unseperable. Then, one girl moved away, everyone fell apart. In seventh grade, I found out at a school talent show, 3 of my best guy friends were smoking. I went into hysterics, so I do not blame you for overreacting like others might.

However, later in the year, I realized all of them smoked, drank, and did weed. I tried and tried, and four of them have stopped. There is no stopping the rest of them, I just advise you to stay away.

Talking to him, letting him know you're there for him may help. However, most guys at our age simply don't care what we think and the last thing they want is another mom watching them.

As I did, you may be able to stop him, but I simply got lucky. Other then harrassing him about it, give him his space, let him make mistakes and learn from them, I know its hard. Just make sure he's clear on the fact that if you two hang out, it'll be completley smoke free.

Good Luck

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hm, i know you prob. hate these kinds of questions so sorry!!

i need a new sn. =) i want it to have something to do with vintage, or the city. i want it short and sweet, any suggestions?

thanks if you take the time to help me.

citylights x
city glmr xx
big citiiee
citiee lights
city couture
jador couture
la citay
la pari

vintage glamxx
vintage couture
jador vintage
la vintage


Good Luck

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ok well i put on blue nailpolish and then i took it off except for 3 nails and they all turned yellow so how do i get rid of the yellow stuff on my nails?

Sorry to say, but your nails are stained.
On occasion, the stain can be taken out by repetative cleaning with polish remover.

However, in most cases, you must wait until the nail grows out. I have the same problem on my toes, I just cover them with a deep pink to hide the stain.

Good Luck

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I'm not the coolest guy in my class but i'm no geek either. I probably would have more girls that like me if I didn't get all worked up when I'm talking to them. Every time i'm talking with a girl/girls I get horny. Next thing you know I get an erection. Its really embarrassing to me. I think the girl im talkin to sees in and thinks i'm some kinda pervert.

Am I over reacting ? Do girls notice things like this? If so, what do they think about it?

Thanks

Usually, I don't look "there" when I talk to guys. However, all girls aren't like me.

When you want to talk to one of them, look at them as a sister or a good friend. Relax and take a few deep breaths. Think about what to say BEFORE you talk to her. But just remember, girls are just like guys (plus or minus a few parts) we aren't like robots who speak a different language.

Personally, I think its cute when guys get flusterd and nervous. If you start getting nervous, sorta laugh it off, and tell her you're new at this. She should get the point.

Some topics to talk about:
School/Class.
Movies, sports.
Something you know she's into (sports, music)
Or a casual, "Hey, whats up?"

Anything will work, she can help bring up something to talk about too. So don't stress on this too much.

If a girl does sorta give you a weirded out look, its probably just cause its awkward for her. Obviously, if she's a bitch about it, she's not worth it.

Just, stay chill, have fun.
Good Luck :)

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alright, so first off i'll say i'm 13/f and I'm turning 14 in about 2 weeks. My best friend's birthday is in January, last year she didn't have a birthday party because her mom said she was too old and mature for birthday partys... well, lets say that I still want to be a kid and still throw birthday partys. I just thought about some ideas that I could have for the party. Here they are-

Hollywood theme-
everyone dresses up as a celebrity, then we have a red carpet at home where each person walks down and then they have to do what the celebrity does (example- christina aguilera- that person would have to sing) and then later do a craft project, we take cement and shape it into a star, then have each person put their hand and foot prints in, and also their signature, then let it dry and then they can keep it. Pretty fun huh?

well my question is... does this idea sound too childish? and are 14 year olds still allowed to have birthday partys? I really dont want my friends to go home after this party, saying "Oh my gosh, she threw a party that 7 year olds would!" I want a party that makes my friends say "WOW! That was amazing!" but still think I'm not childish.

oh yeah, and another idea was to split everybody into teams, then tye-dye T-shirts with team names, then play night games that have teams included... then when everybody is cold, we make a bon-fire and make 'smores. Does that seem too childish to you people for a 14 year old??????

THANK YOU FOR TAKING YOUR TIME TO READ THIS... REMEMBER, MY BIRTHDAY PARTY WILL BE IN 2 WEEKS, SO I SHOULD HAVE SOME IDEAS SOON!

For me, I would go for the second one.
Its more mature and chill. Perfect for a teenager.

As for the first one, it seems a bit out their. I know I wouldn't be comfortable singing, and if guys come I don't think they'd wanna make a star. However, it was a super cute idea!
Good Luck

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I heard a song but i dont know what its called!
please help me out?!
some of the lyrics are "and the sun was shining" and "shes the prettiest girl georgias ever seen" and "who wouldnt want to be me!"
anyone recognize it???? im pretty sure its a country song.
thanks for any help!

Who Wouldn't Wanna Be Me; Keith Urban.
Love it love it :)

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Sometimes when i go on myspace and just get lost in peoples friends i see these girls with these awsome nails..
they usualy have designs on them and they flare out on the tips! they are so cute i want to get them so bad but i have no idea wat theyre called or where i can find them in my area..

does anyone even no wat kind of nails im talking about?

They're just airbrushed acyrlics.
Most nail salons should have a small sign with the different airbrush designs they provide (sunset, beach, heart, flowers, etc)

You just pick one on the display or ask them if they could possibly create one you thought of yourself. Most nail salons are very linent when it comes to designs.

Just check your local salon!
If they don't have a display of the designs, simply ask if they do airbrushed acrylics!
Good Luck

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Guys do you think a girl that wears a A cup bra size can still be pretty? Or do you think a girl that wears a A cup bra size is ugly?

Honestly, any guy worth liking shouldn't care about your boob size. No joke, if you're that worried about the size of fat on your chest, there are some deeper issues you might wanna fix.
Not to be mean, just awaring you.

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So me and this guy are planning on going to a haunted house next weeked, the thing is I get scared really really easily and i don't want to look stupid. Me and him aren't going out but I kind of dout he likes me but I like him. Also It'll be kind of cold, what should I wear to still look cute? And how can I look mature and not freak out?

F/15

Hi there, this sounds like fun :)
Boys and clothes, my specialties.

Outfit choices:
-Ripped jeans, a cute sweater with a cami underneath, birkenstocks for shoes (or potatoe shoes, which ever you call them)

-Jeans, a plain tshirt (with maybe justa logo on it) and a corresponding zip up jacket to go ontop.

-Jeans, a nice shirt, and a flattering hoodie.

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Now, when you get scared, if he seems to be flirting that night, sorta jump towards him and lightly cling onto his arm. Maybe wrap your hand around his bicep? Then, if hes really flirting it up, go for his hand if you wish. Be sure to mention you're cold if you do get cold, he should take that as a hint. Try to stay relaxed and be prepared for something to pop out at you, you don't want to scream to much.

Guys like it when girls need them to protect them, so being scared is cute to them. Just don't over do it.

Good Luck

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i was a cutter for about a year then i stoped for 8 monthes i got back into and now i cant seem to stop my mom dose not know nor dose my boy friend what do i do so i can stop for good and not get it back in my lilfe

My friend was a cutter for quite sometime, after many many tries, we found something that worked for her.

Everytime you want to cut, find something else to do instead. If you like soda, allow yourself one can of soda everytime you feel like cutting. [Keep the replacement activity constant] If you feel like cutting, pop a balloon instead, or scream into your pillow every cuss word you can think of, or even write in a journal as dumb as that sounds.

Then, reward yourself.
If you don't cut for a week, allow yourself an extra dessert or treat yourself to a new cute shirt you've wanted. Little things at first, then after a few weeks, treat yourself to bigger rewards to keep you motivated.

Also, when you think about cutting, listen to your favorite song really loud, that really helped her.

Good Luck

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