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What am I supposed to do?
I'm freaking out about this. One of my friends, who is a guy, is smoking (I don't know how long he's been smoking, though). I found that out about one minute ago. He's way too young to be smoking and I'm really worried about him. Should I tell someone or what?
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I say talk to him first because you dont want him to hate you before you talk to him. tell him how you feel. your worried about him and that your scaring him. tell him what it can do to his body and his breath and teeth. tell him you can get cancer. this may encourage him to stop because he may not know what it does. then explain to him why you want him to stop. if you can try to take away his cigaretts. if you cant then dont try to. after you tell im give him a day. have friends keep an eye on him to see if he is still smoking. if he is then tell his parents or talk to your parents first and see what they say. you may feel like your doing the wrong thing but your really not. he may "hate" you for telling but your helping him and he knows it. dont feel down on yourself. and if you dont want to tell him face to face then call him on the phone or email him or IM him. he may be mad first but then he will feel really thankful for having a friend as special and caring as you. it shows that you love him (in the brotherly way and knows he can count on you) well i really really hope i helped. if you have anymore questions please feel to email me anytime at scdgirl288@yahoo.com
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most of the time you can't really stop what others do & telling on them isn't going to be much of a help either.
i know this isn't the best idea, but you are just going to have to let him be, it's his life, & his decision to die of lung cancer & have yellow teeth.
but its also a good idea for you to tell him your opinion on this & see what he thinks about it all :]
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i think that if it's really bothering you that much that you should just talk to him about it..
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well, you should talk to him about it first, let him know you care and see what happens from there if you think its more serious than that you can tell a guidance councelor.
good luck. <3
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Personal Story Time:
In sixth grade, I had a group of best friends, about 11 of us, 4 girls and the rest guys. We did EVERYTHING together, totally unseperable. Then, one girl moved away, everyone fell apart. In seventh grade, I found out at a school talent show, 3 of my best guy friends were smoking. I went into hysterics, so I do not blame you for overreacting like others might.
However, later in the year, I realized all of them smoked, drank, and did weed. I tried and tried, and four of them have stopped. There is no stopping the rest of them, I just advise you to stay away.
Talking to him, letting him know you're there for him may help. However, most guys at our age simply don't care what we think and the last thing they want is another mom watching them.
As I did, you may be able to stop him, but I simply got lucky. Other then harrassing him about it, give him his space, let him make mistakes and learn from them, I know its hard. Just make sure he's clear on the fact that if you two hang out, it'll be completley smoke free.
Good Luck <3
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Ok first I think you need to breath. Sit do that for a few minutes and then think about his feelings. If he really is your friend you should think about his feelings and consider why he may have started. After doing so call him and talk to him about it. Ask HIM why he started, don't be so quick to judge or say "Your gonna die" He doesn't need to be pushed into your views, he might not think it's that bad or he just might want to try it. Almost every kid goes through a stage like this, its called experimentation...kids will try and see if they like something. If you sit and pressure him into the whole "smoking kills and your gonna die and it yellows your teeth" because those things are not all true. Teachers say those things to scare....just consider how you would feel before you say anything and then say something.
Hope I helped!
Nik
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Don't go behind his back and tell someone - not yet anyway.Tell how you feel and ask him if he could give it up -at least try or cut down.But if he starts getting all funny and "arsey" then I think thats when you should be telling his parents, your his friend and if he isnt listening to you he probarbly have to listen to his parents because as most of us know, parents will be pushy.
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If you really care about this friend, you should tell someone but first talk to him and ask him why he started smoking, then tell him to stop. We all know what happens when people smoke. They get addicted, Their lungs and hearts get unhealthy, their teeth get yellow, etc etc. And you and I both the the ingredients that Cigarettes have. Like rat poising, nicotine and etc. I think you should tell his parents or someone older that he would listen to. If your in fear that he won't like you anymore, just think about, wouldn't you rather have him not talk to you and be healthy OR would you prefer him killing his body, organs etc etc and talk to you. I know this a difficult decision but you have to do whats right! And trust me on this, When hes older and mature enough to understand he will thank you for stopping him and telling someone. By telling someone, your helping him fron poisioning his body and himself. You know that smoking adds permanent smell, loss of taste buds, Burning of organs such as our heart and lungs. Let me tell you something. At school we had this guy come over and he smoked, Do you know how hard it is for him to live now? His lungs are wrecked so he has this whole on his body to help him. A HOLE! and he also has to be careful not to let anything in itt, especially in the winter and such. Well, I forgot the story he told us but he said that when he was younger he started smoking not thinking of the consequences but when he got older he wished he never started and no one stopped him. So, I think you should help him by telling his parents and such or phoning a younger smokers helping group and such. Remember, if you really care about this friend, you would tell someone because you'll be saving him.
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