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I am a virgin and I have not done anything with my boyfriend, but my mom is accusing me of having sex? Why would she think that and what can I do? Is she possibly jealous because I have a boyfriend and she doesnt so she is saying things?
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That is a definite possibility. or she could not be keeping in touch with you because she's too busy or something. either way it isn't your fault. she's probably like "she's a teenager, she's having sex". talk to her more. she probably has trust issues or doubts. get to know eachother and maybe she'll get it. that's my advice anyway.
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I dont think that shes jealous that you have a boyfriend, although that is quite possible. I think that maybe shes concerned and afraid that you are going to be doing something that she feels you are too young to be doing, so shes accusing you because shes in denial. I think maybe shes letting her insecurities and accusations get the best of her and its turning into something big that it doesnt need to be. Explain to your mom that you are still a virgin and you dont want to have sex just yet, and when you are ready you will let her know so that you two can talk about protection and precautions and everything. Just try to avoid an arguement. She probably cares alot about you and doesnt want to see you make a mistake and get hurt.
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my mom is the exact same way. she's single & i used to blame it on that, but believe it or not, she was just paranoid.
most of the time girls in serious relationships are pressured into sex, and your mom may think this true, towards you.
if your cherry has never been popped, then you can go to a gyno & they can help prove that you are still a virgin :]
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...She Can Take You To The Local Health Department, Health Clinic, Or Doctors Office And Get You Tested To Prove That You Are A Virgin..If You Are Then Youve Proved Her Wrong And Theres Nuttin More She Can Say Or Do About It!
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I wouldn't assume your mother is jealous of the fact that you have a boyfriend, but I think this has very much to do with her not having a boyfriend. Think about it. She was probably at one point wedded. She isn't anymore. Did a divorce take place? Where is your father? To me, he could be anywhere, because I don't know the situation. I think she is just afraid of the severe life altering changes that come along with the acts of sex, and she every right to worry. She's been there, done that. For one reason or another, your Dad probably isn't in your everyday life. Maybe he's a good guy, or maybe he's not. Your age would have been helpful, but I think it's normal for a single mother to worry about her daughter. Perhaps she is afraid you'll become pregnant, and the father will split. Maybe she is sitting in that same place right now. Either way, that is the very last thing she would ever wish upon her daughter and grandchild.
Sex isn't something to battle over. Make it a way to pull you closer. If you were really having sex, your mother could stomp, scream, sulk, and insult you, but there really isn't anything she can do about it. She can tell you you're forbidden, but not many kids would respect that decision. If a teenager wants to do something, they will find a way to do it, no matter what anyone says. If her true intentions were to protect you, she would speak with you about her thoughts on sex. Why not ask her to? Let her speak her mind without fighting with her. She will feel better if she feels she was heard in full. Tell her you haven't had sex with anyone, and you plan on be extremely cautious and responsibile with your current relationship. Ask your mother to kindly take your word, and promise her that when you get the slightest thought that sex may be in your near future, that you will come to her for assistance in protection.
Mother's aren't stupid. Somehow, they know everything. =P I'm sure she knows very well that she can't stop you, but if you must have sex, she can make sure you're having safe sex. She can only provide you with as much guidance as you will take in. This may annoy, anger, and hurt you, but she means well. Parents may lead a busy life with far too much on their plate, but when it comes down to it, apparently, their children are everything to them. This is obviously a hard time for both of you, but try to understand where is she coming from. Try not to become frustrated with her for loving her baby... =)
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Seems kind of odd that your mom (someone who's supposed to be "older, more mature, and understanding") would accuse you of something like that just because she's jealous, but it is a possibility. More likely, she's being bombarded by media images of young girls having sex, being told by her friends that young girls are having sex and the combination of the two (and probably a dozen other factors) are making her paranoid. You should try talking to her, face to face, one on one, in a serious conversation and try to gently confirm that you are not sexually active. I'm sure, deep down, she wants to believe that and you approaching her in a conversation will probably make her respect you more.
By the way, mad props on being a virgin. I don't know how old you are, but that's really something to be proud of.
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