I'm sitting in my truck wishing I had a vacuum hose that I could run from the tail pipe to the cab of my truck, while my sister is up in the hotel room smoking crack. She told me I had to leave so because she sick of me getting high for free. Yes I am an addict with very bad habits and I actually let my sister sell herself to support our habits. I am a complete piece of shit and I can't live with myself anymore. I am 31 years old and my sister is 22 and I am not doing my job as being an older brother and protecting her from harms way. We are both very addicted to opiates,
and crack cocaine. We moved from Ohio to Florida the end of April this year so I could start work with a marine construction company. It didn't take me barely 2 months to screw that up and catch a grand theft charge for attempting to steal all the tools that were provided for me to
run a crew of my own. The drugs really took hold
of me at that point. Now I'm completely at the end of my rope, bottom of the barrel
Oh sweetheart, suicide is NOT the only option. There are so many ways you can get away, and escape from the hold of drugs and whatever happened before in your life.
Someone already mentioned about going into a rehabilitation center or some sort of support group to help you break away from those drug habits. I think that would be the best idea.
Seek professional help because the people are trained and it is their job to solely focus on you and helping you getting rid of your addiction.
They will be the best in guiding you.
The fact that you realize and admit you have a problem is a huge step in reversing your habit, so don't think it is the end of the line for you. You've made a big step in searching for help, and realizing that you have an addiction. It's a big milestone!
Do a quick google search for rehabilitation center or a support group in your area.
Also, I would also tell you to keep yourself busy on other things and watch the company you are going to surround yourself with. It's easier to fall back into drug-use habits when you may be around anyone, any friends that are using drugs.
I really hope you do choose to get help. It'll be the best for you. I wish for the best and I do believe you can get past this! :)
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Sorry that it would be long. But please have patience reading this. I am 25. I met this guy when I had my vacation in Europe last year. We fell in love with each other and spent 3 months almost together. When I went back to my homeland, I just found out that I am pregnant. When my stepfather learned about it, he was really mad and said really hurtful words towards me and my fiance. I accepted everything. Good thing my stepfather lives in different country, so we just talk thru email. He's mad that I got pregnant without having savings yet same with my fiance and because my fiance is a Moslim. He is really a good guy, responsible, loving and the sweetest guy Ive ever met. My stepfather hates Moslims, he's very judgemental and really strict. He paid for me since I was 11 until before I got pregnant. That's why he is really controlling towards me. I don't think that he really sees me as a daughter, I think more of an investment. There was a time too that he had bad intention towards me, he touched my breast few years back. It didn't happen again after I confronted him about it. But I just don't feel really comfortable everytime my stepfather is around.
I gave birth to a healthy cute baby girl and he's still mad. When my fiance and I decided to get married next year, my stepfather really disagrees. He is the most negative person on earth. Since I got pregnant, until now, he sends email to my mother about his negativity towards me and my fiance, it stresses my mum already. I understand that he wants me to marry a guy who has savings and an own house but my fiance is doing his best for me and our daughter. We are planning to bring me and our daughter in his country when everything is stable already. He talks like my fiance is a criminal or something, as if he knows him. But he just saw him one time. What really insulted me is when my stepfather asked me thru email "are you that cheap?" I never felt insulted my whole life. I told him I'm not gonna read his emails anymore. And that I don't feel like he sees me as a daughter. You wouldn't tell your daughter, are you that cheap? I respect the man but I have enough. He cant control me my whole life and I want to decide for myself. Im gonna choose on whom to marry, not him.
I just want how you guys think about this. At the end of the day, of course, I'll still stick on my decision. Thanks in advance.
There isn't much to say.
You've already made a decision, and a good one at that, so stick to it. :]
You're an adult, and your stepfather doesn't have the right to tell you how to live your life. Maybe to advise you, yes, but seeing as though he is a little discriminatory I probably would take it with a grain of salt.
If your fiance is a nice man which I'm assuming he is, and since you have a child together -- marrying would be a good option. You both can be together, and make sure your child gets the both of you in her life. And you don't want to let a good man slip you by.
:)
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To get it straight, envy is my biggest weakness, and I can never stand being with anyone that is better than I am (in whatever way: intelligence, appearance, accomplishments, etc.) Whenever I come across someone whom I perceive is a better individual than me, I'll run away from him/her as far as possible, otherwise the envious fire at my heart would burn me to death. Paradoxically, I fell in love with a guy whom I perceive is smarter and more accomplished than I am. He loves me too (or even more than I do him). But part of me doesn't seem to be able to carry on this relationship anymore, because I can’t stand the fact that I'm inferior than my boyfriend in some areas. I usually date someone that is equal to me or slightly dumber than me so that I can feel I'm in control. My boyfriend's intellectual superiority makes me insecure and vulnerable. I shiver whenever seeing his grandiose accomplishments. I remember someone said, "envy's true nature is the will to completely destroy the envied"—do I want to destroy my boyfriend then? Well, yes, I do RESENT him for having talents that I don't have. Yet at the same time I'm in love with him. Yes, I love AND hate him simultaneously! Such feeling is too much to handle. Ugh. I don't think I can leave him, because he loves me so deeply that I'm afraid he'd have a huge breakdown if I went away—that'd be too selfish of me. If I could get rid of my envy, everything would be fine. But how can I do it? This bad trait of mine is so ingrained in me. I always uncontrollably compare myself with others. I can't help it. So I am seeking advice from you guys. Please don't say, "everyone has his/her talents and defects. You are equal to your boyfriend because you have talents too." Yes, I do have several talents he doesn't have. But from what I perceive, my boyfriend has MORE talents than I do. He is superior to me MORE OFTEN than I am to him. I can't stand this. Meanwhile, I wish I could eradicate my envy and have a wonderful relationship with this guy.
You need to do something to stop that Envy problem, because it sounds like pure madness and I am being honest. I suggest you get a counciler. You have to understand that someone will always be better than you in things. You have to learn to accept that. I know bad traits are difficult to get rid of but your the only one who can get rid of your envy. You have to really want to and control yourself because no one can control your feelings except for you. This isnt about you just not wanting to break up with your boyfriend because of your problem but this serious problem is going to affect you very harshly when you get older. No one will like being around you. I can give you some tips that I think might work to help you control your envyness. I think you should relax and think about why your this way (envy-ing). You have to try to fight against this feeling by forcing things against it. Like, how you said you can't stand anyone thats better than you in intelligence, appearance etc etc. Then, you have top put into your mind that someone is going to be always better than you. Think about it. You have to try to understand the fact that you cannot over rule everyone, because everyone has strengths and weakness. Your strengths and weaknesses are different than other people. If you want to get deep into it. Knowing that your better than people at some things and people are better than you in other things. You cannot be superior than anyone because we are all human. If you were far more superior or better. You wouldnt be living the same life like everyone in the world. Which includes famous people. I'm trying to say that you have to understand that no one is better than anyone, meaning a human is better than another human. We are equal and if you can't except that your in for a rude awakening. Just because someone may have more talents, look better than you. That person as a whole isnt better than you and nor are you better. Um..I hope it helped? Cause I feel like I just babbled and this is a pretty long paragraph.. Well! If you don't think my advice was helpful I'll try to come up with something better. Until then, Think ^_^
~~ Zia
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My parents have had three cats since I was born. [[15 years ago]] Recently two of them died because of old age. My parents got them at the same time and a couple years later they got the third one.
The third one got real close to the other two over the past years and their death has been real hard for her. She's not the same cat she was before. She won't eat right, you have to hold her food in your hand for her to take it. The same with water, she'll go without it unless you hold the bowl. All she does is sleep on the back of the couch and she looks so pitiful. Sometimes she even acts like she's not all there, like she's been drugged or something.
We have a puppy that used to bother her but the puppy kinda grew out of it, so that's not an issue with her being upset.
Does anyone have ANY advice on what to do? How can I make her feel better? I wanna help her so bad but I don't know how.
And yes, she's been to the vet, she says there is nothing wrong with her, health wise.
Thanks
It seems like your cat is really lonely. If I were you, I'd get an animal phyciatrist and tell them about why you think your cat is so depressed. Also, do you just only feed your cat? You know, if you play with your cat and do something or get her something that will make her happy. I used to have a cat and I gave my cat my attention. And I noticed when i didn't my cat was depressed. Its important that your cat knows love her. If your cat is still depressed about eh death of your two other cats. Help her forget about it by moving on..I know its hard because I love animals and I cant stand knowing that die. But its for the best. You have to make your cat happy. And I don't care what the vet says but THAT WILL MAKE HER UNHEALTHY. So, overall my advice to you is to give your cat your attention by playing games with her. Show her you love her!
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I'm freaking out about this. One of my friends, who is a guy, is smoking (I don't know how long he's been smoking, though). I found that out about one minute ago. He's way too young to be smoking and I'm really worried about him. Should I tell someone or what?
If you really care about this friend, you should tell someone but first talk to him and ask him why he started smoking, then tell him to stop. We all know what happens when people smoke. They get addicted, Their lungs and hearts get unhealthy, their teeth get yellow, etc etc. And you and I both the the ingredients that Cigarettes have. Like rat poising, nicotine and etc. I think you should tell his parents or someone older that he would listen to. If your in fear that he won't like you anymore, just think about, wouldn't you rather have him not talk to you and be healthy OR would you prefer him killing his body, organs etc etc and talk to you. I know this a difficult decision but you have to do whats right! And trust me on this, When hes older and mature enough to understand he will thank you for stopping him and telling someone. By telling someone, your helping him fron poisioning his body and himself. You know that smoking adds permanent smell, loss of taste buds, Burning of organs such as our heart and lungs. Let me tell you something. At school we had this guy come over and he smoked, Do you know how hard it is for him to live now? His lungs are wrecked so he has this whole on his body to help him. A HOLE! and he also has to be careful not to let anything in itt, especially in the winter and such. Well, I forgot the story he told us but he said that when he was younger he started smoking not thinking of the consequences but when he got older he wished he never started and no one stopped him. So, I think you should help him by telling his parents and such or phoning a younger smokers helping group and such. Remember, if you really care about this friend, you would tell someone because you'll be saving him.
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Since school started ive become friends with a guy, and i think i like him more than that. The other day after realizing my feelings for him were real..i finally admitted it...before id joke aroudn with my friends about how he was cute and things..and one of my friends willa agreed..i asked her if she liked him, but she said, not if you do. i thought that was really nice of her. Yestedday she wrote me a letter sayign she really likes him too. i felt like my stomach dried up. I find it odd how after i say i like him, she does too... she went to one of our mutual friends about it and this girl said id acted like a bitch about the whole thing. Should i continue to like him? afterall..i am the one that did all along...and me and this girl arent like..BEST friends.., everyone says theyd see me and him together more than her and him, and we have more inc ommon...what should i do? how do i show him i like him without beign too pushy before she ..throws herself at him? im not that kind of girl..i barely flirt..what do i do?
Listen, Just because she likes him that doesn't mean you can't. When you like someone, its from your heart your feelings. You can't try to porpusely change that, and if anyone comes up to you and tells you to stop liking him because someone else does just say that they don't own him and you can't stop liking him just because someone says so. And, Don't flirt. Trust me, a guy will like you for whoever you are (I know cheesy but its true) Guys don't really like girls that try to impress them, just be yourself. Just go to him and tell him that you like him. You have nothing to lose!
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