Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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ok so i like this guy. but like im sort of obsessed. ha ha. like i have an alert when he signs onto aol. and like i bought the same shoes as him. and i made this book one day because i was bored about him but it just had his name on every page. haha. and hten like i know like almost everything baout him.
and my bestfriend is friends with the boy i like!
so my friend told the guy i like EVERYTHING but like only a few things a day. and its like its annoying but like i cant hate her because like i love her. lol. but like the guy i like feels special and he thinks its cute. but i mean of course he will. anyone will if someone likes them. but liek she i seriously going to far. liek she says she wont tell him anything but then she does. but like my friend isnt telling me that she is. my other friend is. because she is there. and she says she is mad at my friend for telling him everything and she thinks that i should be mad. BUT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!!! because i fell liek i cant be mad at my friend. but yet i can. but its like cuz shes sorta of my only way to the guy i like because there like best friends. i dont know what to do. sorry this is so long. its just really confusing. i mean the guy i like is nice so he doesnt really like well he wont make fun of me. but im afraid that if she wont stop then...he might. and my friend sorta kindof has a tiny crush. liek nto enough where they would go out because she likes these other guys so MUCH more. and the guy i like doesnt like her. so theres like a jealosy thing with me. im like totally jelous of her because she can be by him and she knows it. and i feel like im in competition. and this guy isnt even worth it but hey.. i like him so i cant really stop liking him so dont suggest it. sorry if this is confusing. im 14/f and the guy i like is 15/m.. not that that matters. but my friend loves to make me jealous like this saturday the marching band (they both play the sax) and im in the color guard. well our game is saturday. and she is getting a ride from him. and she rubs it in. i dont know. and i know shes not being a real good friend. but i cant make her not be my friend because other than this its like shes always there for me. its just this competition between us but shes not trying to win the prize which is the guy i like.
sorry this is so long (link)
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why dont you try to focus all of this energy that you have about this boy on something else like a club afterschool or something you enjoy like for instance writting a book. as far as the whole friend telling the guy thing just stop telling her your secrets shes not trust worthy. tell the friend who doesnt tell the guy. find another guy to like. there are tons of guys out there and once you find someone else to like your friend will stop rubbing it in that she gets to spend time with the guy. one day she will forgt that you like him and move on. but I'd start hiding my crushs etc from your friend because she obviously blabs alot!! good luck
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my gf recently broke up with me and i really need someone to tell me some good ways to get my mind off of it. it really hert me cuz i really did love her and i just cant stop thinking about it plz help!!!! (link)
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Well some ways to get your mind off of anything be it a girl or a fight with a friend or whatever, are take up an extra curricular club or something, take part in something you're good at and soon your girl wont mean as much to you. dont be afraid of moving on because you have to do it eventually.
also try and focus on a female friend not in a bf/gf type way but as friends by focusing on another girl your mind will start to forget about girl #1! good luck!
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Ok i was wondering if anybody knows some good ways that i can say surprize this girl i have known for 4 years and some how draw her closer to me. The only things i can think of right off the bat is one just kiss her outta the blues and 2 go buy her flowers or something but i know at the same time thats the same ole thing to so if you have any suggestions let me know. (link)
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well I'm a girl and we just like to be told . Its really sweet that you want to surprise her, but if you come out and say it then we know that you like us and its not some weird joke or dare or friendship thing. if you want to stick to sentiment, which is really nice, write her a love letter. or give her clues as to who her secret admirer is. or you can buy her a special gift that lets her know that you were listening when she revelaed something important to you. you can call her and tell her or you can tell her she looks nice an give her a bunch of compliments eventually she will start to wonder if you like ehr and then you can come out and say it. you can also leave hints in your compliments like: your hair is really pretty thats why I like ya so much. flowers is cute too but its not something that people who arent even dating yet do very often. I remember a male friend of mine bought his girlfriend of two weeks flowers for v-day and she felt really bad becasue all she did was get him a card and that made her really uncomfortable. girls often opt for something simple and quiet. but you can always make her something to show that you care. I hope you get the girl of your dreams!! good luck!!
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OK well there is this girl i have known for four years now and me and her have been to hell and back as far as problems, people and everything else. Well right now she is going out with someone she met off the internet and well they been arguing alot lately. I been staying over at her house since like last thursday. Well in the weeks time i was over there me and her have had sex 4 times. I with another girl in the pic and 3 of them it was just us. I have wanted to go out with her for so long now and she told me if things dont work out between her and her b/f she pinky swears she will give me my chance. we both love each other and would do anything for each other. I was wondering if since me and her kinda like had sex 4 times if thats a good sign of us maybe hooking up. (link)
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I dont know if it is a good sign. I dont think its a good idea to let her cheat on her bf with you because then she if she doesnt end up breaking up with him then you will feel hurt. Stop having sex with ehr until she decides whether or not she wants to break up with him. shes taking advantage of you. be her friend be her supporter but dont sleep with her when she doesnt make a commitment to you. and also be careful not to be the rebound guy. good luck
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There is this boy named Nick, and I'll admit...I have a HUGE crush on him! I love everything from the way he talks, to the way he dresses. Him & I used to talk a lot during 8th grade but we kind of stopped last year. Why? Well, we didn't have any classes together. That, and the fact that I would get so shy around him. We probobly only talked once or twice because I would choke on my words. This year I decided to make a change. I have two classes with him and a lunch period. I've been trying my best not to be so timid. I use every opportunity I can get to throw in a little comment to let him know I'm not scared to talk to him like I was last year. Now, I'm noticing a change in him and I'm not quite sure what it means. Lately, he has been saying little comments to me too. Every time the teacher calls on me or everytime I speak, he says some little remark. For example, I forgot to do an assignment one day and he said "ooo, Allyson! I'm so disapointed in you". And then, today, I turned in that assignment and he was like "You Go Girl". Lmao, I love his sense of humor. Sorry. Annnnyyywaayyyss, something else happened today that I am confused about too. He was walking out the door to leave and I was still packing up my stuff and I swear to God he winked at me! There was nobody in the room but me. So if he did, it would have had to of been to me lol. What does all of this mean? I'm so confused! Also--what are some cute little things I can say to flirt and make casual conversation? I really want him to be my date to homecoming! Thanks in advance (link)
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Hey! well I dont know if he likes you or not only he knows that and how can you figure that out? ask him. thats the most obvious one. ask him sometime when you're alone like at lunch. you can also do somethings to hint that you like him.You could wink at him back and again keep practising the talking to him. I cant promise you that he'll ask you to the dance, but you can always ask him. if he says no just ask a female friend to hang out with at the dance. remember boys can be super insensitive so dont let him break your heart or anything. Hope you get the guy. if not, thats fine right? good luck!
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Okay im 14/f and i live with my dad and 3 brothers... so i am clearly outnumber in my house.... okay i just started my period and i went to my friends house and she got me all set up for about 2 days... but like how can i talk to my dad... just me and himabout this...and i mean not just like "i need to go to the store" i mean like talk to him about it... cause im pretty sure i will be going through alot of changes..and i need my privacy.. i dont even have my own room... i share it with a 16 yr old guy....So like how can i talk to my dad about everything? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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thats a tuffy! I live with my dad part time too, but I have my mom for that so I guess I'm lucky. I think you just need to sit down with your dad and tell him that you started. my dad is very understanding. I always feel uncomfortable doing it but I try to do it once in a while so that when I have a super big problem or even something like what youre dealing with its easier. Tell him about the privacy thing and maybe he can do something baout it. Dont think of your dad as a boy think of him as yo would think of your mother someone who could help and understands what you're going through. He knows what a period is and has probably been wondering when you'd start. Tell him that you are uncomfortable talking to hima dn see if he can fin a way of making it easier on you. Youre right you will be going through a lot of changes and I'm sure he will be able to find away to help you out. good luck!!
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I have been having pain on my left side of my jaw on the bottom like underneath my skin. it hurts to touch it, or to turn my head. i know i didnt break it, because i dont remeber ever hitting it. is it because i use my vocal chords to much?
anyone wana help!? (link)
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um thast weird have you been lying on your stomache when you sleep? sometimes you are putting pressure on your chin without even knowing it. if it doesnt go away in a few days go to a doctor. I doubt it would be vocal cords because I'm a singer and I'm never experienced that but it wouldnt hurt to talk to your vocal teacher or parents or something. hope you feel better!! good luck
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my friends and family say im fat and they always tease me about it when im only 103 lbs and am 5'3. I dont think Im fat but everyone else does. What do I do? (link)
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tell them that you are sensitive about your weight. 103 is perfectly fine thats actually lighter than you are supposed to be. Shorter people always look fatter than taller people do. its not your fault. but the next time someone says something tell them that you are embarrassed and to please not do it anymore. Im sure they just dont realize that they are hurting your feelings. you arent fat! dont let them get to you! I'm sure you look great! good luck hope this helps
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There's this guy I like and anytime he talks to another girl I get absolutely jealous. We're not going out, and I know I can't really do anything about it..but does anyone have any suggestions on how to limit my jealousy? (link)
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hmm this ones hard. Jealousy is something that everyone gets. why dont you get a boyfriend. or you could talk to the guy. maybe you two could go out. or you just have to deal with the jealousy. you could always research jealousy on the internet and see if there are any psycological ways of dealing with it:S im not sure what else to say. good luck tho
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what aree some foods or vitamins that i can take to enlarge my breasts? (link)
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I dont think that there are foods that can inlarge your breasts. I think thats like saying what kind of foos can you eat to grow. If you are a teenager, then you are probably going to grow eventually. Your shouldnt be embarrassed by your size. Everyones are different. If you really want bigger wear a padded bra.
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how can i become more outgoing? like i was at my cousins bonfire with all her friends and they wanted people to do like the lawn mower and the sprinkler and be stupid! but nobody wanted to and in my head i was like just do it just do it and then i was like noo i will look stupid! because there were a couple guys there that i thought were hott =) and i wish i wouldnt care what people thought of me! its always like..if i say something i think someone will think im stupid or something! even if someone asks me to go to a party with them and i dont really know anyone i will be all freaked out and be like oh my god this is going to be weird im scared! because im not going to know anyone and then who am i gonna talk to...everyones gonna look at me and wonder who i am! thats just how i am..or if im like at a football game with everyone and im trying to find a seat with my friend i feel like everyone is staring at me and i like the attention from guys..but then its like i dont really like the attention?! its weird. i just think i would make more friends and i would like for myself to be more outgoing and not care what people think. its so hard for me to change though. and in school in class i never talk..answer questions, participate because im scared to like say an answer or read something off! and i HATE speaking in front of anyone..ahh anyone know how to get over this!?
by the way im 16/f.
THANKS (link)
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hey!! its really tough for some people to become out going. The best way to get over it is to practise on people you know. when you are just with a bunch of friends do stuff thats goofy and then when you get to a situation with a bunch of people you can remember how much fun you had that time with your friends and realize what you are missing out on. once i was at a party that a girl from school was having at her house after a dance and only one or two of my close friends were there and a bunch of people wanted to go to the park and play grounders, but i cant do the monkey bars very well and I didnt want to embarrass myself in front of a bunch of guys I like so i stayed behind. but I ended up missing out on so much fun.
another way to build up confidence is to tak a class. Go to theatre classes. they can be super fun and one of the main points is to get over confidence issues. and join one that no one from school will be in so you can make friends and act however you want because you only see these people once a week. plus maybe one day you'll be a famous actor who knows!! good luck with your self onfidence!!
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16 female
soo me and this guy kinda hooked up. well all we did was kiss and makeout and he like rubbed my boobs? haha..through my clothes! but anyways...he is WHIPPED over this girl. he is absolutely in love with her. and i cant accept that. they've been on and off for like a year and a half!! =( and like when they break up he wants to talk to me and hangout and like do stuff..because he is attracted to me! he even said so himself. his girlfriend treats him like crap..she has cheated on him like 5 times, gets mad over the stupidest things..like when she does something really bad its like nothing for her but then when he does something its like the worst thing in the world to her??? and she hangs out with other guys and all this crap! and when we madeout they werent going out and he was telling me that he was trying to get over her and was asking me who i liked and asked me why i thought he asked me that? (hinting he was starting to like me) but then i dont know? i dont know if i just didnt seem interested or if he is still totally in love with his girl. hes always like i love my girl..let me check with my girl..i love you! blah blah...and its like now they were suppose to be going out "secretly" probably so she can go cheat on him again..but he treats her like a QUEEN and she treats him like crap..and he still loves her and wants to be with her so badly. in her profile its like im single and im staying that way and in his its like i love you! i wish i was his GIRL. =( but i dont think he will ever get over her and it hurts me really bad. its like i dont want to get involed because i dont want to get hurt in the end and i dont think he will ever be over this girl if they ever break up again for good. i try not to think of him but whenever i hear someone say his name i get like frustrated and like mad at him for putting me through this! leading me on and then going back out with her? but then at the same time its like i cant hate him because i cant get over him..
What do i do?! i try hangout with other guys but i dont have many guy friends and im very shy!! i think he just wants to do stuff with me..which hurts but i wish we could be more..and talking to him doesnt work! he will just be like i cant help it i love her..sorry. i try and say why do you love her? she treats you like crap and hes like i just love her so much i cant help it. im like ugh. and i havent talked to him since like we did this stuff like 3 weeks ago. (link)
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Hey yeah if he's putting you through all of this crap then you should stop hanging around him for a bit. I realize that you care about him and its not as simple as that but I think thats in your best intrests. He's obviously still in love with that other girl and untill he works things out for good; I'd stay away. If he wants someone to talk to in a friend way you can be there if you want but if all he wants is a rebound girl I'd get the heck out of there. its not good to put yourself through it. I know you envy this girl that he's in love with and you think shes taking him for granted but he still likes her so chances are that he is going to keep going after her no matter who shes with.
If hge asks you out or something talk to him about his feelings for his girl. if he is completly done go for it but tell him to be honest with you because starting a relationship with someone a0 on the rebound and b) still in love nad thinks he still has a chance with the other girl, isnt good. good luck with whatever happens!! hope some of this helpped!!
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alright! there are many hot guys at my cousins school. and im always with my cousin we are like best friends and i know like all of her friends! i pratically know her whole grade through her haha. but i go to a different school. but you see these guys..its like my cousin isnt really popular and doesnt talk to the guys i think are hot and i wish i was pretty enough to get their attention? and like at their school football game i went and i saw this kid i thought was hot (ive seen him before) and he was talking to these people my cousin was talking to and i was just standing there looking at him laughing! i dont even think he looked at me though..but i dont want to approach them because everytime i try that it never works and they're always like hi??...its weird that i dont know you but okay. its awkward! and my cousin cant introduce me to any of these guys because she isnt friends with them. and i dont have AIM but i have MYSPACE and i like messaged this one kid a long time ago but he never messaged back =( so then i felt stupid. everyone thinks im soo pretty but i just dont see it! and im extremely shy and not outgoing and i have a very low self esteem. ive never had a boyfriend and everyone is in shock when they hear that. its either i get involved with the wrong guy or im always just the good friend. im sick of it!! and everytime i try to like slip in a comment or a hey can i see that? just to try and like start a convo it never works and theyre like surprised that im talking to them because i dont know them haha. ahh help!?
by the way im 16, female (link)
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hey!
I get what you're talking about, but you shouldnt need your cousin to introduce you. I have an idea though. There are some classes that you can take that bring up your self esteem. Like Musical theatre, or theatre (if you cant sing). You cna take dance classes or karate etc. they not only build confidence, but they're some guys in some of those classes.
I think that you should keep going up to people at your cousins school and talk to them. dont introduce your self as your cousins cousin or let your cousin introduce you, introduce yourself. That way people who arent her friend wont prejudge you. also its not a big deal if you dont have a bf. lots of teenagers dont have bfs and thats fine. You just have to learn how to deal with it. And dont get yourself down if people from your cousins school dont call you back they may have forgotten or may be busy calling their other friends. just keep trying eventually they will accept you. good luck!!
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ok well my parents have split and my dad wont takl to me.He said that it would be best if we didn't talk Bu thow am i supost to life without talking to the one other person who gave me life? (link)
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wow yeah thats stupid. my dad is sorta the same he doesnt know how to keep up communication with me. but i call him every day and force him to talk to me. my mom has some disabilities and my dad has to spend time with me when shes in the hospital, but as far as everyday life, sometimes dads are idiots and you just have to be the one to make the relationship work. tell him that you need him. It's his responsibility as your father to spend time with you wether he likes you or not. and you can always try talking to your mom or your grandparents or other family to see what they say. I'm sure that if you tell your dad that you cant live without him that he'll understand. goodluck i hope this helps.
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I found out that quite a few classmates of mine have tried marijuana or weed. This really shocked me because I didn't think highschoolers did that sort of thing, or that drugs were even available. They told me that the drugs really aren't that bad, that they're actually safer than cigarettes, and that they aren't addictive. Are they right? How many highschoolers do drugs usually? Am I naive to have believed that? (link)
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Wow thats interesting. You didnt know that highschoolers do drugs? what have your health teachers been teaching you? its okay that you dont know all of the facts about them. But these are the important ones. what you just experienced was peer presure dont believe a word they said. Drugs are really bad and more addictive than cigarettes. they screw with your brain and cause serious damage to your whole future. I think that you should try your hardest not to experiment with drugs because i've seen it before and it ruins your life. and just so you know it is very easy to get drugs so you will get asked again. just say something like no thanks i dont want brain damage or if i do my parents will kill me. and they probably will or if we get caught we'll go to jail. dont try and make them stop. just keep yourself out of danger. and dont compare drugs to cigarettes they are both horrible and addictive but the effects are so different. good luck hope this helps
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So...I spent the summer getting to know the guy I liked. We became friends. Everything was going good, I even think he kinda liked me, but he was too shy to do anything. He had this one girl friend who liked another guy. One day, she finds out the guy she likes has a girlfriend, so she asks my guy friend out.
Now he is all confused about it, but he says he's going to try with her. I know she's using him as a rebound and I'm trying not to be selfish in this. I'm the friend yet again, but I don't know what to do. Should I just be his friend or tell him how I feel? (link)
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Well, right now i think that he needs his space. he's already confused enough as it is with the other girl, and if he's your friend you have to be supportive of him. but you also have to be true to your heart and tell him how you feel, but I think that should wait until hes done with the other girl. if you tell him how you feel right now he might not know what to say and then he'll probably end up hurting your feelings. I realize that you want to be more than a friend to him, and I think thats awsome but he may just want to think of you as a friend so as you are preparing to tell him how you feel, think of all of the answers he could potentially give. Make sure that you can tell him that you accept his dicision if he says that he just wants to be friends and try not to look to hurt. Its always tough to get to that stage above friendship with a guy, but always remember if it doesnt work out there are more fish in the sea. good luck!! hope this helps
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okay well i just started school 3 days ago on wednesday. the 6th. and ive been talking to this kid whos a softmore & im a freshman . and we like talk all the time. were always flirting && hes like asking to go out sometime. do u tihnk he likes me or should i wait & see how things go (link)
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if hes asking you out as long as you feel safe and comfortable with him you should go. whether its going to be a friendship thing or a relationship thing it doesnt matter, at least you will meet someone new. good luck in highschool!
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There's a girl in 2 of my classes that looks at me and stares at me a lot. It doesn't bother me, it's not like she just stares at me constantly. Girls do this a lot, and girls tell me that I'm cute. This one girl that I notice, who I think is attractive, looks at me during class. I will be looking around during class and I will see her looking at me and then look away. We've talked before, but we're not friends. I have known her since 6th grade (11 or 12). People don't think I'm weird or anything, so they're not looking at me beacuse of that. Sorry if I worded it wrong, but it was hard to explain it, and sorry that it's long. But, do you think that she likes me? (link)
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I'm a girl haha. so yeah i think she does. thats exactly what i do when i like a girl. but she may be shy and not know how to tell you she likes you. (thats why i do it lol!!) so i think that you should act on it. if you like her. if not then just ignore it its probably just a crush and it'll go away if nothing happens. but yeah if you like her go for it. if she doesnt like her whats the worst that can happen she says no i dont want to go out with you. then you can go after one of the other girls who likes you so much :D!!
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Okay. I have to choose between two boys. Now, me and sal went out. Then he dumped me. He realized he made a mistake and wants to go back out again.
Matt, on the other hand. I have never gone out with. It's totally obvious he likes me. Everyone says he's going to ask me out. But I've been waiting for like, 3 days.
I would prefer to go out with Matt, but if he isn't going to ask my out than I might as well go out with Sal. Because I like both of them.
So what's going to happen? What should I do? (link)
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hey!
sounds tough. I think that you should tell sal that he made a huge mistake and that he needs to prove that he isnt going to do it again. trust: it takes a long time to build up and it takes a second to break it. i think you should do that to sal whether matt asks you or not. you can be single for a while, its okay! hehe. And who knows maybe sal will be super romantic and do something full circle. or maybe Matt will ask you out and is just trying to build up the confidence. who knows. good luck!!
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me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much (link)
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I dont quite understand who broke up with who. but all i can say is that you have to follow your heart. if you love him and want to be with him go back to him if not maybe you should move on. I can decide for you, but if you think its over then it probably is. you had six months and thats a lot. and if you keep wanting him/not wanting him, changing your mind then you just seem like you want your cake and want to eat it too. it doesnt work that way sorry. good luck. you sound like a great person and I dont know this guy but i hope all this stuff i said helps!!
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