Iam a girl with black hair and gray eyes. I like to go to the gym to workout because it relieves stress. I like to help people no problem whatever they ask I won't judge people I'm just a person willing to give you some advice that's all. I think its important to have a good education and a good carrer in life. I want this world to be peaceful which is one of my biggest dreams!I'm back!I apologize to you all for not being able to help you guys in need for help whatever help you ask for just write me in my inbox,I'll answer as soon as possible.
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My nephew KC is marrying Kendra and they have 1 child together who is 2 years old. This will be the 3rd date set for marriage. KC is not himself when she is around. He is extremely quiet and uninvolved with the family when she is around. But, when she leaves he smiles and laughs and has alot of fun. Kendra uses their daughter to get what she wants. She has told KC that he will not get to see their daughter when things are not going well between them. She has threatened to leave and he will never see her again. She has said the same thing to KC's mother and even went to their house and took all of their granddaughters photos from their home. She has called his cousins and told them that she hates our entire family. Their wedding is in a few weeks and we are not sure if it will happen but now she has contacted the flower girl's mother and told her that she is not needed in the wedding because of budget issues. She also sent an email to the best man's (KC's only brother) girlfriend and told her she is not invited to the wedding and that if anyone does not support their marriage then they should not be there. Please help with any advice. (link)
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The wedding shouldn't happen you have to convince Kc not to marry Kendra he can't be with someone who threatens him of not seeing his child anymore.I understand perfectly of how you're feeling because something similar is happening in my family with some woman who is just like Kendra.I would also say that the law should take the custody of Kendra's child what kind of an example is she showing I mean I'm not trying to worry you or anything because I know you wouldn't want that one day Kendra takes the child,never comes back,especially it would be extremely painful for your nephew.Think about it,if Kc decides not to marry this woman,goes to court he would need prove that he deserves the child like witnesses,that he has a job to provide everything the child needs,the nice person he is to win the custody of his child.
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14/f
Well, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and 2 months last night around 11:50. I dont even know what I was thinking! I was confused and I kept thinking about what would happen if he broke up with me. then I guess I started conviceing myself that he WAS cheating on me and I broke up with him. He didnt seem too upset. After I got off the phone with him I balled my head off for hours. I even started gasping for air and then started choking. I dont know what that was all about but thats how much I was crying. anyways then I talked to my friend Zach till i dont know what time but we talked for at least 3 hours. He cheered me up some but I still cant help but think about him. I love him more than life itself! I miss him so much and I dont think he misses me. I want to call him and say sorry and everything but Im afraid he wont care! I miss him so much you have no idea! Please help! should I call him?!?!? Should I just move on??! please Ill rate 5's i swear! (link)
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Follow your heart you feel you love him go after him don't be afraid to say you're sorry call him, apologize,tell him you love him, that you made a huge mistake,that you deserve a second chance,and let him know how much you love him to convince him for sure of your feelings for him.
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my friends are soo mean to people. like, there mean to like people in our group too! who they call their best friends. Like, ok.. we are the popular group in school, i go to a catholic school, so its small. so yeah, were the popular ones, & so like nobody likes the 2 of them. They like think there all great bc they belong to a country club, & have a big house. But, i have just as big of a house & belong to a country club, & i dont act like them at all. they get mad, if like me & my best friend, dont invite them to the mall. like they always cause drama, & basically me & my friends are sick of them.. how do we get rid of them? .. it will be our last year at our school, so we dont want them to ruin it. (link)
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Having to get rid of friends who are mean must be really tuff but it's good you decide to do something about it.You just tell them that you want to meet other people,that there better off meeting others as well because you just feel that you don't have a lot of things in common that the friendship wouldn't last,that you have no hard feelings so that they don't think you hate them or something.
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I need help, my husband of thirty eight years is
alcoholic. He has lost a wonderful job, our
retirement funds, and is now in court appointed
counseling. He said the other day he did think he
was alcoholic because he had not hit rock bottom.
I said I had hit rock bottom and I don't drink.
I must now find a job after working for thirty and retiring. I have looked and looked for work but no one wants a sixty year old women.
I really don't know what to do.
What can I do? (link)
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I'm so sorry for not answering this for a long while because I couldn't get logged in but I hope you are reading this you can search for jobs viewing articles on ads like for babysitting,house work,in a factory,a teacher perhaps there are other jobs out there even for women you're age have that confidence in you,courage and you can achieve many things.
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Me and my girlfriend have been seriously dating for almost 3 years. 8 years before I met her, she became friends with an exchange student from Belgium. She had a big crush on him, however nothing romantically happened. Last week he was in town and needed some 1 to go to Orlando Florida with him, my girlfriend and her brother agreed to go with him. At the end, her brother wasent able to go, so she ended going with this guy by herself. I trust my girlfriend 100 percent, however, the thought of her willingly going, while fully aware of my negative feelings towards this so called "friends" trip has been driving me crazy. Ive asked around and the answer I always get is " get rid of her". My question is, do I have the right to feel mad, disrespected and betrayed by my girlfriends actions, what should I do? (link)
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Well it's a good reason to feel that you can't really trust her I mean how would she agree to go with someone who she liked once and to Orlando,Florida.I mean what you're girlfriend could just simply say she is sorry but she can't because she has a boyfriend and by doing that to you she wouldn't be respecting the relationship she haves with you.He should understand that of course.He could ask someone else to do him the favor why precisely her don't you think that's weird?Try convincing her to cancel this trip she's going but if you can't then there are other options get someone to go with her to keep an eye on both of them or just to try trusting her.Good luck!
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hey im 13 and a female. i was wondering are looks an important part in a relationship? all my friends say it is but i think its a lil shallow.
**sleepiesheep** (link)
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Some people go out with other people for personality but others for looks.But if you have a boyfriend,he loves you hw won't really care about how you look if you know what I mean like if he see's someone who is better he will still be with you,won't pay attention to that girl,and that's when you know for sure that you don't have to worry about him cheating on you.But you should look nice anyways for your guy and especially for yuorself.
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okay i am 14/f in case it matters
okay well you see, my cousins from arizona came up for christmas and new years to visit us. one is 16 and the other is 22. well they came up and they were staying at my grandmas hosue. well i wanted to hang out with them so i figured id spend the night (by the way both of my cousins are guys). anyways so i got there and my grandparents werent there. my cousins said that they went to dinner 2 hours away at some really fancy returaunt. well, they took me upstairs and they told me to sit ont the bed. they started kissing me and slowy putting their hands down my pants and up my shirt. since i had never had a real boyfriend befor they told me that they were only showing me what to expect when i had one. so thye kept doing all this stuff to me and made me do some weird stuff to them and practically forced me to have sex with them.
i know its wrong and that i should tell someone one but what wiill people say when i tell them i had sex with my cousins? please help me idont know what to do =(
♥ ~*me*~ ♥ (link)
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If you tell your family of course you will be in a lot of trouble seek to speak to someone who always keeps your secret like a best friend,that you know they will never tell on you because if you keep this inside without telling at least someone because it will bother your conscious.You could even talk to a priest confessioning this secret which is better and for sure you'll feel better after telling him about this issue and tell him to help you lead to a good path and not go to the wrong one.I know you really want to have happiness and that you are in need of help like many others and there is nothing wrong with that.
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when answering a question why does age play such a big factor. like for instance that 16/f that wanted a baby. i saw that everyone was like your too young,but who says that she wont make a great mother. and know one knows her living situation or money or anything.. it really doesnt say people just assume they know. it tells her to wait till shes 18. i bet there are 18 year olds out there that are much worse off than she is or wont be as good as of mother as she is. so maybe she is 16.. do you think we should just make assumptions about people like that? or would it better to know more about the person before answering? (link)
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Well some teeenagers that have babies at a young age that I know were able to go to school,take care of the baby at the same time I would say that you would have to know the person more before making comments or assumptions.
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Its going to be long but i`ll rate.
It seems as if everythings good in most of my friends lives. I mean I have 3 best friends and two of them have had boyfriends for over 8 months. They are Kelly 13& Chrissi 15 And I'm kinda jealous. I dont want to be single. I absolutly hate it. My other friend Nichole doesn't have a boyfriend.[well she got dumped.] and when she did have a boyfriend she rubbed it in my face. And kept telling me she that she was going out with Kelly. [She doesn't really talk to Chrissi] Well she got on my nerves about that so I laughed when she was crying about being dumped. (I'll admit I'm not the bestest friend. But she did rub it in my face) Well okay lets get to the point I'm kind of jealous of Kelly and Chrissi. But I wouldn't EVER ruin their relationships.
I just don't understand why guys don't like me I mean I think I'm pretty... [urm... sometimes]. I'm okay looking I guess. But it seems that guys think I'm invisable. Kellys mom said I'm pretty to Nichole[when she was in a relationship] and I had to try harder. But I really don't feel like looking because I always get in trouble. [with girls]I'm just confused. I used to have a good self-esteem but it seems to be going away because of this. I just really hate being single. And I don't want to be single. I wish I had a boyfriend. I mean this is literally tearing me apart. I'm depressed and stuff all over this.
=( Please help. (link)
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It's understandable that you're feeling this way I mean everyone wants to be with someone.Like I told someone else before it doesn't mean you're ugly perhaps maybe a lot are taken or they are just not looking in the right direction,and don't realize it.If you know you're an attractive girl then there is nothing to worry about just have patience even though it may suck to wait have confidence in yourself.
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i dont know whats wrong with me. lately i have been thinking of killing myself. i dont know why. i have a bf and a wonderful family and friends but it doest seem worth it. i just keep thinking why not? i cant help it. i also draw the pictures of death. im a very good artist so the pictures are really good. i will sit with a pen in my hand and its like they just jump on the papper one mminute i will bethinking of what to draw and then im done and looking at this picture of death.i just think somethings wrong with me. i just want to die you know nothing can help i try leaving my house adn going fro a wlak. i just quit using and am trying to quit cuting but i only have one good friend i can depend on. do you think i have a serious problem? shoudl i tell me mom? shouold i try to get help? do u have any ideas that could help me? im just afraid that one day i m,ight end up trying to kill my self. please help i will rate really high. love the invisable girl xoxo (link)
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What you need is help like talking to a therapist or a psychiatrist they will ask you questions like how do you feel,how do you see yourself,why do you think of that yourself,jut the things you tell them on paper, and this will help you a lot.But before you need to tell this to your mom first and you need all the support right now from the people that love you such as your family.Don't think of killing yourself if you were born it's for a reason, to be alive,have a good health is great, and think of those who will suffer if you suicide yourself.
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alrite, well .. me & this kids ( we`ll call him *john ) so, me & *john went out for 5 months & it was the best relationship i`ve had ! he was nice & we always hung out.. then things got bad & he dumped me ( over one of my friends ) then asked me back out & i said yes cuz i really like him .. & then he did the same thing again .. & see he has friends in other towns so he started to like this girl in another town .. & they are now going out =\.. & i just broke up with *john`s new girlfriend`s friend .. but now * john has been calling me & like flirting with me a ton, and people say he likes me again ..& i still like him but i don`t know if i should take him back if he askes me back out or should i just stay away from him ??
please help me. i really need to know ! (link)
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You should definitely stay away from this guy because he'll wind up doing the same thing to you once again,and you will get very hurt.He is a guy who get's bored of a girl then comes running back to one who will receive him with wide open hands.So don't fall into his evil trap you're smarter than that there other guys out there so don't waste your time on someone who is not worth it really.
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What are some mental effects stress can cause?
i am having trouble finding some =/
any help would be nice, thanks. (link)
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Some mental problems caused by stress are trouble memorizing things,anxiety,nervousness,and phobias.
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A close male friend of mine broke his foot and now he can't work, he has to wait for it to heal and stays at his house all day. I've been really supportive and have offered to drive him to the hospital but he delcined. Well he has been a total jerk to me since he broke it. At first I could understand him being in a bad mood but then it started to upset me. For ex, I phoned him and was going to ask him if he wanted a visit. I started the converstation by telling him that I was bored, and he YELLED at me and said "how could you be bored"! And never invited me over.
Another time I phoned him and politly asked why he hadnt answered any of my emails, and then he replied "I don't sit around all day on my computer"!!
He normally isnt like this, I know it must be a drag to have a broken foot and be out of work, but he doesnt have to take it out on me I'm just trying to be nice.
What should I do? (link)
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Insist on helping him even though he deny's it,if he askes you why do you still want to help even though he doesn't want it tell him because you care about him, and that's what friends are for.Have a relative or his mom talking to him to help you out to get closer to him,that you really care about him,he shouldn't be taking his anger on you or others who care about him that is just messed up.When you talk to him you should really talk to him in person about this situation telling him why does he act different with you,how it made you feel,and that you really want you too to get along well,have a close friendship again.I'm pretty sure he will be sorry for how he treated you so mean.
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can you become gay from being sexually abused as a child?
im not gay, im just asking because my sister's gay and she was sexually abused as a child. (link)
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Some people as they grow up turn gay but if someone is sexually abused as a child it's possible because someone has taken someone from them then they usually think they shouldn't go along with their sex.About you're sister I'm trully sorry about what happened to her as a child even though I don't know her so if she turned gay because of that in a way it's reasonable.
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Hey Guys, My mom is cracking up. I swear she is. Yesterday she was wanting to call someone that she hadn't talked to in a while and I was like "Mom don't call. It will just end up like it did before." and she seemed ok and I never said it mean or anything. So I came and got on the internet after cleaning my room. And I herd her slamming stuff. So I went into the living room and she came toward me with my jeans and threw them at me and started cussing me out and how I was always mad at her and everything. Which that was probably the first time I was. So she said she wasn't washing any of my clothes and she hasn't said one word to me since 4:00 yesterday. I don't understand why she is so mad. So what can I do? (link)
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Try talking to her eventually she is going to have to talk to you say whatever you did you're sorry and ask her what you can do to make it up to her.Try making sense out of her she shouldn't be treating you like this it's not the way an adult should act.Don't worry.
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when i am with my friends i am really outgoing because im like comfortable with them you know? and also im a huge flirt. ok so people tell me that i think im the sh*t and i think im so cool and pretty and all of the boys love me. but thats not the case. what should i do because this is causing me a lot of trouble. it really sucks that people think that of me. please help. thank you ♥ (link)
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I understand how you feel because some guys think that of me in which I don't care because I know I'm not that type of person.Anyways since it's causing you problems what you should do is tell then that there wrong,shouldn't be judging you, what could you do also is to talk to some of your friends to convince them that you're a nice person,don't think you're all that but tell then not to tell those people that you sent them it's better not to trust me on this so they don't start to think stuff they shouldn't thinking.another thing there's nothing wrong with flirting I mean that's natural it's good that you ask for help and any advice you could ask me for help whenever you like.
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Okay so my dads a major alcoholic and Im trying to get him in trouble and arrested or somehow away from my mother and i cause he is a danger and a jerk. I mean its horrible. He wont physically abuse us to the point of marks cause he dont want to go to jail. However we suspect he may be back on drugs (hes been on them in the past) cause he seems all down dissapears and come back really perky. How can I see if he is? How can I prove it? What should I do? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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There are ways you can like when he comes home observe his every move what I mean is to spy on him,you could take photos or have a hidden camera somewhere where he can't see it,where he usually goes and don't act all weird if he sees you around or like strange because then he'll start to suspect something is going on with you.You got to act like normal,do what you can to not get in his way becuase he can get very abusive be careful good luck!
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Is it bad that im 16 and I am having protected sex with my boyfriend of five months like once every other week? (link)
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You need to tell your boyfriend to that if he is wearing a condom that he should wear more than two because my brother's friend was wearing two,it broke,he made his girlfriend pregnant so you too need to also okay or you could take pills that would help a lot.Well I could tell you that as long as you protect yourself you could still have intimacy with your partner.
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Okay well, I really like this guy. He's everything I want. Funny, intellegent, cute, long hair, sweet, kind and he skates. There's nothing more that I want then for him to like me back. The bad thing is that my friend likes him to. No one knows that I like this kid and I've been hiding it for a really long time. I don't think he has a clue and we are good friends and I don't want to ruen it by telling him that I like him.
I need help and FAST.
I'll rate for the advice you give. Just help. :{ (link)
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What you could do is to help your friend find another guy who is attractive as well for her,try convincing her to talk to him,that he is the one for her so she won't be paying attention to the guy you like.Also it's fine that you don't want to ruin your friendship which is reasonable you should just be patient intill he decides to make a move on you or if you don't want to wait very long sent signs showing or that say you like him so he would start noticing that you are interested in him.Good luck!
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months but it seems like every week or so we have some misunderstanding anf get in a little fight. It's never anything big and we make up pretty quickly, but I'm starting to wonder if there's something I can do about it or if maybe I should just break up with him.
I really love spending time with him - he makes me laugh, treats me well, talks things out - but maybe we are just on two different levels and I should keep my options open.
What would be best?
P.S. He's a little older than me so he has more freedoms than I do (something that gets in the way) (link)
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If you really like this guy have a long talk if necessary about you too putting your best effort in maintaining the relationship and that you too shouldn't be fighting you too should try to come into an agreement without arguing and also let him know that you want things to change and improve for the both of you.I know a couple that has been together four years,they are still dating,they had gotten through arguements,been able to let that get in the way, got over it,apologize to each other then were happy again.The two of you should follow their example.But if he doesn't want to change or at least try you should break up with him because it will show he doesn't care about the relationship.
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