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Hi. I'm in middle school, and I'm being bullied. Me, and my friends. Theres a girl in my class who is rude to everyone (except her friends and teachers... She's popular and i don't know why), and she calls me and my friends weird. That was it until we got into middle school. She started becoming a bit more... Much. She'd randomly spank people on the ass and laugh hysterically, or push around people. So... Today, she came over to the table where i was standing, and she tried to shove the bathroom pass UP MY ASS. I jumped out of the way and mouthed "What the heck", and she mouthed back "Go fuck yourself". I'm really confused at what to do. The last time i told on her for being a jerk, and I was the one who got in trouble. What should I do? I don't know who to tell. (link)
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Ok, well you can either try telling on her AGAIN or you can stand up for yourself.
This is a simple case of what sounds like a bully that can slide under the radar of the school and because she SEEMS nice to all the important people, she can fool the adults into thinking shes totally innocent when thats not the case.
Youll need to get others to make complaints about her so that the teachers and head of the school will hear the same stories from different kids that shes being a royal pain in the butt. chances are if your the only one saying anything then its most likely that they wont even care and will assume that you just dont like each other.
tell your parents and have one of them call the school to complain. Have other kids parents do the same and that will attract enough attention to warrant some kind of investigation and a call to this girls parents.
good luck
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I have a crush on a girl and I want to get close to her but i don't know how.I reckon that She indirectly show that she has feelings for me but i want to verify them.We hang out and play together.
In addition, I want to get close to her and indirectly verify if she has also some feelings for me too but I don't know how.Another problem is that I think a friend of mine has also some feelings for her too and i want to make out with her before he does.
Taking everything into consideration, i would like to give me some advice about my thorny issue.I appreciate any advice you give me.
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I agree with avatar on this one. Be her best friend, treat her like a good friend and make it so that she knows you and her can talk to each other about anything. Even if she says "ok can i ask you something??" and ALWAYS ANSWER, "you know you can ask me anythinggg come onNNnn" and smile.
Really try to bring it home that you two are close at every chance you get, do kind things but dont cross the line and do stuff i boyfriend would do.
Joke about things with her alot, be sarcastic with your jokes so they cant be taken the wrong way and if they are just say "ohhh im sorry i was honestly just joking really i wasnt serious."
If things get to the point where the straight up asks you if you could see each other as a REAL couple, then you can simply reply, "you know i DID think about that but i didnt want to cross a line if that wasnt something you were down for"
It neutral, its sweet and kind, and shows that you want to respect her boundaries always. ; )
If you manage to become a couple THEN you can lay it on thicker with flowers and a box of live butterflies as a gift to release as a present at the park one day. you know, things like that. Just be the one guy she can trust and she'll figure it out soon after that. If she hasnt then it actually means she not that into you, and youll have to slowly ease yourself away from her. This will spare YOUR heart and let HER know that you'll always care but that you have to move on and find someone that IS interested in you.
make sense??
good luck ; )
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Hi i am 16 and i realized that i like older guys when i was 14.i have dated guys more than 5yrs older than me . I feel really bad about it but mostly only guys are attracted to me also. I am virgin still but i really want to havr sex with my now ex who is more than 7yrs older than me. We only broke up because his aunt told him to wait... i stay away from him since i dont want anything bad to happen because his aunt will take this matter to the police. I still feel sexually attracted to him and i cant move on. My 19yrs old friend i think likes me and i dont think i like him like that because i still like my ex. I am confused because my friend and i cant be together becausr of religious issues and i know fot a fact i like me ex more. But another problem is i met this guy who is also 19 he admitted to liking me but he is nice and everything but i think about me ex more than i do of him or my friend....it is clear i like my ex still but should i give anyone of the other guys a chance although i really only want to have sex with my ex and he is the only one i really trust and really love? (link)
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Its perfectly natural (at least in my eyes) to like older guys. My husband is 7 years older than me and we've been together for 14 years! lol
I can see the appeal, trust me i can. alot of times it LOOKS like they are more "figured out" in life and are ok in their own skin, easier to talk to because they've gained experience over the years, and know how to please. BUT its also illegal, in an attempt to protect girls from the predator type guys that DONT have themselves figured out and just want to take advantage of young girls who are naive and dont know how to judge a persons character. i get that i do and i support it even if that makes me look like a hypocrite.
It sounds liek your really confused about what you want here between these guys and if thats the case then you shouldnt date or try to go for any of them until you REALLY know what you want and even if you should meet another guy and your still thinking about that other older guy that you cant be with, then you wont want someone else, youll want ONLY him and he'll want ONLY you, and you will both wait until you CAN be together if it is true love.
Thats what happened with me and mine and it worked out for the better. We both understood the rules, i didnt want him to get in trouble and even though i was a model and had a LIST of guys my own age to date i simply didnt want anyone else. (((guys my own age were stupid and either just looking to have sex, or wanted to hang with the guys, brag about their "scores" or play video games))) and i didnt want any part of that.
I knew from a young age that i wanted better for myself and the older guys just seemed to HAVE it going on for themselves. A car, a job, college maybe just getting a place of their own, i could talk to them and have an intelligent conversation, and were laid back and chill. So i know the feeling, the attraction and the need for what seems like someone to has themselves together. Girls mature faster than guys mentally as well so thinking guys around you (your age) are dumb is totally normal too.
I wouldnt want to get my guy in trouble because of his aunt, so if you both feel the same way truly then stay in contact, talk, be there for each other and once she cools down and you can be together and your set. Your well within your right to see other guys just to see if they can change your view on your older guy but if not youll know hes the guy for you by the time you can really be together.
good luck.
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i want to bruise myself. how can i do it the best way? (link)
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I dont think anyone here is going to help you harm yourself.
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I am an American citizen married to a Mexican citizen, and I live in Mexico City. I work as an English teacher and am very happy with my job and have great friends here. The problem is my marriage of 4 years. My husband is a serial cheater and liar. He has taken money from me, and has racked up so much debt that we have lost our house. He has physically threatened me, and has a Jeckyll and Hyde personality that I am always very careful of. We are currently in the process of divorce. I basically have 2 options right now. The first option would be to take off and bolt for the USA, leaving him to complete the divorce process on his own here in Mexico, and I could start a new life with my mom in Tucson, or go to San Diego with my daughters who study there. The problem with that is..the divorce would draw out to about a year, and of course Hubby would be sure and 'love me again" so that he could come to the USA with my help of course. The second option I have would be to stay another 3 months in Mexico, finish the divorce completely, and then get back to the USA without having any more ties to my husband in any way. This plan has risks to my physical and mental health since he could find me at any time. He especially looks for me when he needs sex, and threatens me if I don't submit claiming we are still spouses. When I go against his wishes, he threatens to call the police with a made-up story and send me to jail. I feel very vulnerable, not knowing what to do in this situation. (link)
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Ok what you need to do is get away from him ASAP. I live in san diego too and i know people women who have suffered extreme domestic violence, one almost having her life taken because of it.
You need to contact a place called Beckys house.
Its in downtown and its a place for women suffering from domestic violence can go to in order to get away from people like your husband. they will put a roof over your head, feed and cloth you, everything. Just tell them your situation and they will let you know if they have room for you.
They will help speed up the divorce and help you cut all ties with him asap.
just call and ask for some information about your situation.
This sounds dangerous enough as it is, you dont need to hang around him still WHILE the divorce is happening. If beckys house cant help you then im sure they will point you in the right direction.
good luck
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Alright, So there is this boy, he's super cute, athletic and funny. We have had a thing going on for a while now but he has a girlfriend and they just recently started dating. Her and I are 2 way different people and honestly I think he's doing to make me jealous. We still talk and he's always saying that he remebers the little dates we had and how great it was when we kissed. I am completely in love with this boy and I know he's not good for me so how do I tell him how I feel? (link)
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Sounds like he is doing it to make you jealous because if his new gf isnt his type and your both very different then he doesnt REALLY like her and is leading her on for the sake of making you mad.
The best thing you can do is NOT show that your upset or effected by him or by his choices. When he brings up things like that a totally neutral answer would be "ohh ok" and "uhuh" and "well you have a girlfriend now so maybe we shouldnt talk like this anymore"
get HIM to show the bad guy because he may be trying to turn YOU into one by playing with your feelings like this.
He cant have you and this other girl, its one or the other. To be friends is ok but if he crosses a line then thats it, its over and threaten to tell the girlfriend what hes done if he does try anything. But my recommendation is to not hang out with him alone. he could try something knowing there are no witnesses to confirm anything.
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I'm 16, homeschooled girl from USA.
My best friends birthday is next month and I want to do something special for her. I've known her my whole life but we really got really close in 7th grade and we've been inseparable since.(I mean see each other almost everyday and do everything together.She even says I'm the only person she can tolerate being around for long periods of time)
I love her as much as someone can in a friend way.
She is basically family and has done so much for me throughout my life I doubt she even realizes how much I look up to and respect her, and I feel like I don't help her nearly as much... But anyway, a few months ago for my birthday she posted this really sweet and nice post on facebook that really meant a lot to me, and I wanted to do something equally as nice(if not more so) for hers.
But the thing is I'm terrible with words and explaining feelings....Really terrible. I'd probably embarrass myself or just plain not explain what I meant very well and it just wouldn't be how I wanted it... so I was thinking I could put a cover of me singing(and playing guitar)"Count on Me" by Bruno Mars on there and dedicate it to her, since she knows(at least, I hope she does) how shy I am and how it would take me a lot of courage to do it.
But I feel like that could come across as me taking the spotlight or something plus now I'm strti wondering if that song is to cliche...or just if that's not special enough, i don't know...I'm basically just asking you guys if you think that's a good idea and if not, what's something else I could do instead. Anything you guys could suggest would be a great help!! (link)
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you could MAKE something for her like a manicure in a jar? maybe pick out what YOU think her favorite color of nail polish would be? then put a nail file, a a nail clipper, some cotton balls, and a travel size bottle of nail polish remover inside a wide mouthed mason jar from walmart!
then tye it with a pretty bow and your set!
alot of times things that are hand made seem to really have more meaning gift wise. your idea of playing a song was a good idea too, and it wouldnt be cliche because you dedicated it to her before you sang it so you wouldnt be stealing any spotlight but if you want do to something a little more toned down, you could make her something too ; )
good luck
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I'm from Malaysia, Junior university student and I wanted to go to Italy to study medicine. However, I don't know what to start and how. I have some plans as well. First, i need to take IMAT but I don't really know what to do when I get there i Italy and how to start a life there. Please help me. I don't really know what to start to plan. I'm graduating next year. My family lives so far from me and my friends don't know as well about on helping me on how to start planning. I've asked some of my teachers and they just keep on saying that I must contact the school. And what about after it? so sorry for my unclear statement but I'm just really confused and I felt like panicking already. Please let me know about the steps in planning on how to study med in Italy (Pavia University) and how to live there. Thank you so much in advance. (link)
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Ok, swo it just sounds like you need to speak with your college counselor or carrier counselor about where to go next from here. just tell them what youve told us and im sure they'll point you in the right direction. Even with the personal stuff about how you would live there and start a life there, they'll know about that.
just go in a ask. you dont have to ask the people at the OTHER school, you go to yours and ask.
good luck
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It appears just as cool and just as embarrassing for a 59 year old and a 21 year old to do it, in my opinion. After a certain age, why are women expected to have less fun? For example, I had few friends growing up, and haven't had a proper birthday party ever since I turned 10 or 11. I haven't even had a birthday cake ever since my 17th birthday, and even that was just at home with my parents and siblings. When I have a proper career and more friends it would be seen as weird for me to want to celebrate growing older? I don't get why older women are so ashamed of their ages and growing older, it annoys me and I hope I never turn out to be that way. I've never had a birthday at Chuck E Cheese, I'd like to have one in my 20s as a light hearted joke, and other little places like that. I mean when I have kids someday I'll be big on birthdays, too, and I don't want them to feel like I once felt, wishing to be young again, when my parents paid the most attention to me in that way. But yeah, I watched that KUWTK episode and it was sad to me to see how Kris Jenner's kids were so opposed to her having appearances when they all do the same thing. Why don't they think their mother, who orchestrates their career, deserves the fun and attention, too? Seriously, why? (link)
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Well heres the thing, thats a tv about ONE family and some of the people around them.
I personally know lots of older people who still go out and celebrate their b-days in a big way if they want. In mine and alot of people i know, its YOUR b-day and its the one day you can do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy and everyone willingly goes along with it. So im not sure what your talking about.
Your view on getting older and not being allowed to have as much fun is what you make of it, if you want to celebrate your bday in a certain way then thats your business. Some people choose to not do anything and thats ok, thats also their business as well. Some people just are not capable of really "getting into the spirit of things" as much as others and that could be why your hearing people hate on others about it. It doesnt mean though that their opinion is valid, it most likely just means that their head is maybe not in the right place.
and Adults DO have fun cheese E. cheese like b-days. There places like dave and busters, and bars that have video games and rides and beer and food (which would be the adult version) of a chuck e cheese see?
Im 28 and we usually buy a huge costco pizza, a cheese cake, and a few bottles of liquor to make mixed drinks with back at my house for my birthday and im OK with that. Firstly because i have a 3 year old and i cant afford a baby sitter so after he goes to bed ill have a couple friends stay over and we'll have a few drinks, eat, and play video games on my old school nentendo until we either fall asleep, or are too drunk to play and socialize. Now thats the perfect low key birthday for an older person who has kids and doesnt want to disturb their young childrens routine. (my hubby stays sober maybe having ONE drink just to make sure nothing happens to our son or anything) and me and a couple of our friends can drink as much as we want without getting "sloppy" drunk.
After a certain age you just dont want to get totally smashed faced anymore because you wont bounce back from it as well as you do in your younger years. A few drinks, some friends, some food, and some games at your house in a CONTROLLED setting sounds perfect though. No one has to drive home! ; )
others that i know go out and have to plan everything ever step of the way to make sure they get home ok after a night of going out. While other friends i know simply like to go clothes shopping and have dinner and a movie!
so its really what your personal pref. is. dont let anyone tell you that your "too old" to have a cake or some something YOU wanna do on your special day because thats ridiculous and their just haters.
i never said that Alcohol HAD to be at an adult party for people to have fun. I was saying that thats what I DO and that in this world IN GENERAL its OK to be excited about having any kind of a party you want. Honestly, who cares about what some family on a tv show do with their birthday plans. Their a different family, not yours and it would be helpful not to compare yourself to them because thats not healthy.
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I am looking for reputable auction websites other than ebay. I may have a problem but it gives me something to do in my free time & I am a wicked bargain shopper :p (link)
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have you looked up places such as sothebys? they auction stuff all the time.
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I just learned that Markiplier and Jacksepticeye ( my idols) are going to Indy PopCon. I really want to meet them and Indy is about and hour away from me, but is it really a place for kids? I am female and 13 years old. I really want to go but can I? Will I look weird, do I have to wear a costume? So many questions! Please help! (link)
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well what you could do is go to the website that has ticket sales and see if it says anything about having to be 18 and up first. that should tell you all the need to know.
No, you dont need to wear a costume, im pretty sure going to something for the first time i wouldnt just so that you can get a feel for how things are then and NEXT year wear one if you want. if you even allowed in of course.
youd also have to find a way to get there....
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I need whoever is reading this to keep an opened mind about how im feeling and why im feeling this way. Ive had daddy issues growing up, my dad is emotionally shut and doesnt really talk to me, infact he doesnt really talk to anyone in the house. He doesnt even know how to give us a proper hug without it being awkward, he doesnt ever tell me he loves me or that he wants the best for me. Never taught me how to drive, never helped me much in life. Never pays for anything, I work and am completely dependent on myself. I realized this starting to become an issue when I started getting into relationships, at first I didnt want it to affect my life in such a terrible way. I thought to myself that its okay that I dont have a good relationship with my father- However, I realize how it makes me feel absolutely devasted whenever something doesnt work out with someone in my life. I have been through a few terrible expierences in my life that taught me how strong I was as a person, and how people are not always permanent. Went through the typical heartbreak and came out like a rock. What I started to notice was how much pain Ive been through the past few weeks. I met this parent that works in the school i teach, his son is very dear to my heart and I feel like hes my own. I am 20 years old and he is 34 ( just incase that matters) I was walking to work while he was dropping him off and I saw him and said hello. He knows how much I love his son because his wife is always posting our pictures together and I am always tagged in some kind of picture with him. So i found him writing me a message on facebook saying how much he appreciates my treatment to his son- I ofcourse replied politely and then we started talking and he told me that he has a job offer for me he thinks Id be great in. Its his own company and he wanted me to work with him. So ofcourse, just like any normal person - I went to the interview and got accepted. He then told me how much he likes me and how he wants to marry me. In the midst of all of this, we got really close, hed call all the time, text, ask where i was, who i was with, how i was going home.. I pretty much kept my limits by not telling him how i felt about him. I told him that he was married and he told me the whole story about how they were supposed to get divorced as soon as they got married but they stayed together because of the kids and etc. I wont say all the details here because theres no point. But after a while, I noticed that he started to back down a little bit, doesnt call, text or see where I am anymore or sees how my day is going. Its only been happening for about 2 days but i feel like I am in a lot of pain. He was showing me how much he was going to take care of me and unforuntately, I liked that. Which is terrible because I am actually a really strong and independent girl. I dont fall for stupid words and all of that but for some reason him not talking to me is driving me insane. I shouldnt care because hes married and he has 3 kids, but i do. I do because I feel lke my dad put a hole in my heart that I can never fill, and I hate myself for feeling this way for someone I probably can never be with. And im pissed off that he kinda just threw me aside at this point. I feel so upset about more than just one thing but the one person Im really mad at is myself, for caring this much and for being naive. Any advice? (link)
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I have to wonder if he did this after having realized that things could be really getting serious so he wanted to get out before things went too far. He could be feeling really guilty as well about himself for doing this to you and just doesnt want to admit it.
If you dont want to seek therapy i would totally go try taking a psychology class at a local community college. This could really help you learn alot about other people, how they operate AND about yourself as well. This could also help you learn how to deal with your father, maybe even how to talk to him and get HIM to open up and be able to get him to think about how hes acted all these years.
I know that therapy is good but i feel like we should also learn about others because what could hurt one person, wouldnt bother another because we ARE all different after all and learning how to deal with people you have to interact with in this world would be a GREAT tool for you. Youll learn the difference between people who are ruled by their emotions and will fly off the handle at a whim, and people who are stable, logical, and better for us in the long run. I did it and i will NEVER regret it, it helped me so much to learn how to also ATTRACT the right kind of people as well.
good luck!
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I don't have a suspended license. I just need to go in and do the tests but i wanted to buy a car before. Can I get a car registered in my name without a license? I live in Texas. (link)
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as far as i know a person cant register anything in their name if they dont have a lic. you CAN insure it though. ; )
im in california though so maybe its not the same there.
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Hi my name is Ciara I'm 21 and for about the past 6-8 months every one day out of the months I experience excruciating pain in my stomach on the right side right by my ribs and hurts so bad my back aches at the same time it makes it impossible to lay down sleep at all I'm not sure what I should do. I do however have back problems already and probably eat a lot of spicy food what can be causing this and should I seek a doctor soon (link)
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i think you should see a doctor. it sounds serious enough to warrant a visit yes.
you COULD try taking some acetaminophen and seeing if thats helps since its an anti-inflammatory and if things are inflamed in there then MAYBE that might ease it a little but it sounds serious and you should def see a doctor yes.
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We've been friends for two months before we got together
When we got together, we were separated after two weeks
We are now 5000 miles apart
We always talk and text
We get to see each other only once a year
We love each other so much
Do you think it'll last? (link)
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mmmm Honestly i cant see this lasting. Its kind of an "out of sight out of mind" sort of thing here.
If your not there to "meet each others needs" in all the ways a face to face relationship would then its not going to work for that much longer.
theres too much temptation to see other people should the chances be presented to you both and not enough of a reason NOT to do it. Your not there, your far away i mean think about it. How realistic does this sound when you say it out loud? ONCE A YEAR, you get to see each other???
i think you know the answer to this question already but its nice that you came here to ask anyway......its time to move on. No one says you cant still keep in touch though and be good friends and maybe sometime in the future you could reunite but theres too much stacked against you here for this to work.
good luck.
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Is it normal, when you are making a new same sex friend, particularly someone you look up to, to always have them on your mind and feel sad when you have to leave them? I don't mean in a romantic or sexual way; no physical attraction, just emotional. I'm not writing this because I'm worried that I'm gay or anything. I just worry that I'm overly vulnerable and get too emotionally attached to people I'm in the beginning stages of a close friendship with. The thing is, I'm pretty reserved and hold back in showing someone how much I like them because I'm worried about becoming clingy or whatever. This happened to me once or twice before and every time, it's a girl friend who's older or more experienced in life and I find myself wanting to be her, and becoming extremely envious of her life experience, beauty, social skills, etc. Anyone experience this before? (link)
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This is normal for the most part because you want to gain the life experience and all that you speak of here. the only way to do that though is to go out and gain it like she did. You have to live YOUR life, at YOUR pace and not at hers. She just a little more EVOLVED then you thats all, and it may not have been through just WANTING to but she may have been thrusted into the world of having to do these things herself under "not the best" of circumstances. So the fact that you get to CHOOSE how and when you want to gain your experiences like the ones shes had is BETTER.
Say you make a new friend and she has a job, a car, and a place of her own. You walk into her life and think "WOW shes really got her life together! i wish i could have this" WELL did you ever stop to think that she only has those things because maybe she had no money growing up so she was forced to get a job? and maybe she has an apartment because her whole family was getting kicked out and it was "every man for himself" so she worked herself day and night to be able to afford that place shes got?
Theres always going to be people who's life you walk into AFTER theyve worked really hard and FINALLY caught a break and got the things they needed so when you walk in all you see is a nice life. You didnt see the hardship that came BEFORE all that and how this maybe just maybe this person deserves everything she has but it was only after struggling for along time to get it see?
so in reality theres nothing to be jealous of because you dont have what she has weatehr it be experience or material stuff. The best thign you can do is learn, ask questions, and get her to help you gain those in a positive way.
We're all a work in progress. no one is "better" or any less of a person then anyone else. we all have to start somewhere when it comes to learning things in life. Your just starting out a little later then she is thats all.
; ) good luck
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I'm 21/F, my boyfriend is 22 and his friend is 21.
Ok, Story time.
So last night I hung out with my boyfriend of 6 years and his best friend. We played some video games and then started drinking...a lot. At some point during the night, my boyfriend passed out in his bed so his friend and I went back to playing video games for a while. I felt like passing out too but he kept talking to me and shaking me so that I would stay awake. So yeah, at this point we were both really drunk and I was laying on the couch so he sat next to me and told me I could put my legs in his lap and I did (huge mistake, I realize that now). So we kept playing and drinking and I noticed that every time I put my legs on the ground or moved them away, he put them back in his lap. So I was feeling really weird about the whole situation but 'sober me' isn't good with confrontation, so 'drunk me' is even worse. I was just laughing and he was talking about how whoever lost the next game had to take off their shirt. I don't really remember agreeing to this, but after I lost he kept insisting that I did. At this point I was freaking out because we were drunk and I didn't know what to do but I knew this was really bad. So, I pretended to pass out and he passed out pretty soon after. I then left the room and went to find my boyfriend and slept with him. I woke up earlier than both of them and went back to my house.
I am really conflicted. This morning, I got a message from him apologizing and saying that if I wanted to tell my boyfriend then I could but that he wasn't going to tell him. I have always had open communication with my boyfriend about everything but I don't know if I should tell him because A) I don't want their friendship to be ruined and B) I'm positive that this was a one-time thing that will not happen again because I won't ever get that drunk around him again. Also this best friend is a pretty cool guy and it was really uncharacteristic of him to do this. I don't know, I'm feeling really guilty because I probably brought this upon myself by drinking so much and not being confrontational when I first suspected that he was getting too touchy.
Should I tell my boyfriend about this incident or not? (link)
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well, it seems like you ALL brought it upon yourselves by getting drunk with each other. When you do this, theres really no telling what can happen. Your boyfriend passing out and leaving you alone with another guy (even if hes a good guy friend) could still pose a risk.
He shouldnt have drunken himself to the point where he could no longer handle the situation, he left you vulnerable with another guy ALONE. So in doing that i'd say this is partially your boyfriends fault. sorry but thats just how i see it. He will probably feel guilty for passing out once he knows.
TRUE, his friend did hit on you and get a little too touchy feely, but he should have remembered that your his friends girl and no one elses and should have respected his boundaries, BUT again he allow himself to drink around you and you around him so this is really everyones fault on a certain level if you think about it.
Lesson learned, you all need to be careful about drinking with each other, your man shouldnt have drankin himself silly, and your friend shouldnt have touched you and you should have been maybe more on guard. but now you know and BECAUSE of the current feelings your having, youll be more careful next time right??
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good luck.
everyone gets a little stupid and or weird when their drunk thats why its called drinking yourself stupid. at least thats how i would look at it. If you can get your boyfriend to see things this way then i think everything could turn out ok and not ruin anyones friendships at all.
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why dont i have nippels
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not really sure what you mean by this??
you mean your nipples are very close to your regular skin tone? everyones body is slightly different and once you get pregnant they will most likely get darker so i wouldnt be too concerned.
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I have never had a problem with my husband watching porn. We have watched it together multiple times. Recently though, we were having sex and he was haveing trouble staying hard. He blamed it on being to hot, but that has never been a problem before. Afterwards he went to take a shower, with his phone, "for music" , but when he came out and I hit the home button twice, there was porn up. I feel helpless, betrayed, and jealous. Oh and to beat it all it was porn about step sisters and brothers, and he has a step sister, who I believe is more attractive than me, and we were seperated for about two months a while back and he lived with his step siblings. They were "rumors" of the two sleeping together, which they both denied. Some body please tell me I'm not crazy for feeling hurt?! (link)
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Ok, lets try to brake this down one issue at a time here.
Thats great that your willing to even let him watch porn period. alot of women wont do that and if thats what he likes and it serves a purpose for the two of YOU then theres nothing wrong with it.
You didnt state how old you are here or how long youve been together either so its hard to gauge the whole situation with him being too hot. Theres nothing THAT off about someone saying they need air to function. lol.
Sometimes when people have been together for along time, their sex lives change in certain ways. Sometimes they go from having sex more to less often, or vice versa. Or they role play because its helps them or they increase foreplay. These are all normal things.
The fact that he had porn on his phone doesnt sound OFF because you said yourself that your OK with him watching porn right. But i DO see the concern with you thinking that he might have had sex with his step sibling.
Maybe you could CALMLY sit down with him and have a REAL one on one conversation about this, pretend like your just concerned because this could really effect things later down the line in his life and his life is what you care about the most so you just want to make sure that he feels he can tell you anything. see how sweet and concerned that sounds?? ; )
Now if he tells you he did, your immediate reaction needs to NOT be overly emotional, that can come later. What needs to happen is you need to stay calm and ask him "how this happened" and get the full story first before you go off on him. Stay totally poker faced dont freak out just LET him talk.
You can calmly make your feelings known, that your not ok with this but that your willing to handle this like adults. THEN decide what you want to do. He may not have felt it was that wrong because their not related by blood but it doesnt make it any less improper, and will mess with the family dynamic. you can tell him that, and that in the future there could be alot of awkwardness and everyone will wonder why, and it will complicate things.
maybe if he hears that your concerned for him and his family then he will open up to you and realize what he did. Sometimes people need to hear things out loud in order to realize how wrong it is instead of just hearing it in their own head.
It doesnt matter if shes prettier than you, he might have potentially just screwed up his whole family by making things really complicated because she will always be a step sibling and they'll have to see each other at family gatherings weather your there or not. Its considered borderline incest to most people because your not supposed to look at each other like that so if thats what their doing then their the sick ones not you and i would get away from it because it will always bother you if it is true.
good luck. stay calm. yelling and getting upset wont help the situation.
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It seems everyday I wake up to more pimples on my face. I change my pillowcase nightly and keep my hair out of my face while sleeping but they continue to show up. Im no where close to my period either. So anyways the medicine I'm taking isnt cutting it... My doctor prescribed me doxycycline and clindamycin gel for the SECOND time. I'm in so much pain unless Im not talking or moving my face. I have deep LARGE cystic acne under my chin, some on my cheeks, and some smaller ones on my chin, forehead, next to my nose, and next to my mouth. I can feel multiple bumps throbbing.
When I wake up my face is greasy and I have a red lump under my skin. Washing my face every hour doesn't help, the oil comes back. I drink plenty of water and I don't have a bad diet. I have tried epiduo, benzaclin, benzoyl peroxide and other prescribed medicine for years. I've also tried clinique, proactiv, neutrogena, every face soap/ lotion etc. Nothing is working for my severe acne and I currently can't afford the dermatologist.
Does anyone have any suggestions for pain control and how to get rid of the oil? Im seriously about to break down and cry (link)
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Ok, idk if this will help but its a shot in the dark im willing to throw it out there just incase it will help.
So theres an old recipe for zits you should look it up, its includes honey (like from the store that you add to hot tea) and i THINK baking soda.
its a home made recipe.
what i would do is if all these meds arent working then stop taking them and try some good home remedies. What can happen sometimes is if your washing your face TOO MUCH your body will react and produce MORE oil instead of cutting it down.
Your on the right path to washing your bedding and all that but i'd say youve already used all the prescription meds on the planet so i would try going natural and making some home made stuff.
Honey is anti-microbial, and baking soda cleans gently. (again i THINK its baking soda im not totally sure)
Also finding a good sunscreen for your face would be a good idea, sometimes the sun can upset the skin and make matters worse. so find a light moisturizing sunscreen because after you wash your face your body might think your face is TOO dry and then try to make up for it by AGAIN producing more oil then whats needed.
hope this helps
good luck
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