My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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so.. basically.
im 13. turning 14. and i have been thinking alot about sex, but i dont want to yet.
and i tend to like guys alot older then me.
so.. [3] queations.
1) How old were you?
2) Do you regret it?
3) Did it hurt? (link)
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I am still a virgin and I am 17. No, I am not one of those people that are waiting for marriage (I definitely won't be doing that), but I believe that at my age I am not yet emotionally mature enough for sex. Sex has so many attachments, it can ruin so many good friendships and complicate so many things in your life. It's not the simple act that many young people think it is.
And so, at 13 I definitely think you should wait for a while. It's perfectly normal to be THINKING about sex, we all do. You're beginning puberty and hormones are raging. Even at my age sex is on the mind a lot, you know?
I just think that if you make that decision, no matter how much preparation you go through, there is a very good chance you will regret it. And yes, it will hurt. Your body isn't even close to being done developing, so it could quite possibly hurt more now than it would in a few years.
It's a big deal, and not an issue to be taken lightly. And being with older guys has pros and cons...someone with more experience will know how gentle you need to be with a virgin girl but with someone who's had sex before, there's always a chance of getting an STD.
That's a BIG deal. Condoms aren't enough. My sister has herpes. She's been with two guys sexually her whole life: one was her finance and one was a long-term boyfriend. She thought both were fine...they had no break out and didn't tell her anything. Now she has to live with this her whole life. Herpes alone has a 50% chance of being contracted WITH a condom. That's not a very good statistic. No matter how "clean" you think a person is, you just never know.
And if the guy were also a virgin, trust definitely has to be there...MAJOR TRUST. He has to move so slow and some guys just don't know how to go about doing that. You have to be very careful.
I hope you think more about this and make the right decision...and I hope I helped.
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can someone give me hairstyles that i could do to really bring out my highlights? please and thank you. (link)
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Layers always bring out color/texture. Layers, layers, layers...always a good thing. And always blow dry it to give it volume.
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why is this camera so cheap?
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=5156026 (link)
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I don't know much about cameras...but I have a digital camera that was about $400, so I wouldn't advise you to buy that particular camera. Quality merchandise definitely costs a pretty penny.
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how is water good for you? does it clean your body or increase metabolism? (link)
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Well, most importantly, it keeps your body hydrated, which is VERY important. For example, have you ever been thirsty? Sure, who hasn't? If your wait to drink until you get thirsty, you're already dehydrated. It's not always the dramatic instance that people think of with the skin pinching or medical problems. It's best to catch it before any of that happens.
Water is in everything, and it helps keep your body cleansed and hydrated. Foods rich in water are fruits and vegetables...but it's always good to get in at least 8-10 glasses of water by itself every day. It keeps you healthy and helps a lot with losing and/or maintaining weight.
I don't think it has anything to do with metabolism, though. But I could be wrong.
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Can anyone link me to a sight that will teach me to type in a professional way? As in: where should my fingers be placed because right now, I type with mainly my pointers and it can be humiliating if I want a job within an office at some point. Thank you! (link)
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Basically, your left fingers should be over the a, s, d, and f and your right fingers should be over the j, k, l, and ; keys. In other words, g and h should be in between your pointer fingers.
Your wrists should be poised but relaxed and you should sit up straight. It takes practice...typing classes help a lot. I used to not be able to type barely, but now I'm at about 90 words a minute due to sheer practice.
You'll get better as you go along. Good luck!
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ok well is it possible for someone just to not be able to get fit and have a suuuper flat stomach b.c my family is a heavier set family and idk i was jwww is it possible? (link)
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It is definitely possible. The stomach is the hardest part of the body to tone...and it's ironically the part of the body that almost EVERYONE wants to tone more. If your whole family is heavy set...it could possibly make it even harder for you to get a flat stomach.
Just do some ab exercises like crunches and...oh, I don't know, look up "abdomen exercises" on google. Basic cardio like running also helps a lot, not just for your abs but also for general fitness.
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All of the "cool girls" at my school do drugs. All of the guys like them b/c they are easy. This guy I like only likes easy drug girls and I don't kow what to do to make him like me! Help! (link)
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Well, whatever you do, DON'T do drugs. Don't give in to the peer pressure. Drugs cause so many problems with your body, and it's totally not worth it.
As for the guy, if he doesn't like you or seems more interested in girls who are on drugs, you deserve better. Move on. He's not worth it. You definitely don't want to get caught up in that scene. It ruins lives, trust me.
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Hi,what condom would be better for a 14-15 year old. lubercated or non lubercated?
what would be the advantages and disavantages of each?
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Well, in general, lubricated is always the best choice. Unless the girl produces a substantial amount of lubrication on her own, it's always good to have a little more of a smooth entrance.
But what condom is better for a 14-15 year old? My answer to that question is NO CONDOM. And no, I don't mean to not use protection, but at your age you aren't emotionally/mentally mature enough to be having sex. There are more important things to worry about. Sex can come later...you have your whole life ahead of you.
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im 13 and im about 98 to like 100 pounds, and im 5'2.. everyone is saying that im really skinny, almost too skinny, but i look great, and guys always compliment me on how great i look, and they all say im not too skinny or too fat. I need to know if im too skinny, because i like the way i look. its mostly muscle, becasue im on an intense track team, and i think its a problem. My whole family seems to be like it, but i hate being the girl who is just about average height, but compared to other girls, not so average weight? what should i do, is there anything i CAN do??? (link)
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According to your BMI (body mass index), you are technically underweight. At your height, you should be AT LEAST 105.
On the other hand, it's good that you run track and have a lot of muscle. That's healthy. What are your eating habits like?
Anorexia is a big problem and some girls don't even know they have it. It's like...unconscious restriction of food. If you see yourself just not eating for whatever reason, you should get professional help or talk to a parent about.
As long as you eat between 1200 to 2000 calories a day (probably more than 1200 if you're an athlete...you need the energy) and exercising on a regular basis (but not excessively), you should be fine.
Since you're only 13, puberty is just getting started. As you go through puberty, you'll fill out and once the awkward stage is over you'll get your shape and you can decide how you feel about it. In most cases, if you feel good about your body, you're good to go.
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Ok so, im going out with this guy right? Ive realized that i basically cant stand him anymore!I mean sure, he's sweet,nice,and there for me but i dont know, its getting old. I have another guy in mind who i really like, and i cant get off of my mind! but...this guy is mad at me right now for going out with this guy in the first place...anyway i can convince him to not be mad? and if so, how am i supposed to break up with this guy as well?HELP!! (link)
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Ok, first, never get into something with another guy before breaking up with your current boyfriend. You NEVER want to be THAT girl. If the relationship has gone stale, you just have to sit him down and explain it to him NICELY. Say one of those lines like "I just don't think it's working out anymore" or "I think we should go our separate ways" or "You're a wonderful person, but I don't think we're right for each other".
After you break up, try to be friends with this other guy first. Don't just right into another relationship. It'll make you seem easy and it's just too quick. (My question is this: why is he mad that you're dating your current boyfriend? That sounds pretty ridiculous.)
After you get to know this guy better, you can decide if you want to move on or continue to date him. Just go slow with it all and go with the flow. Your boyfriend will get over it, trust me. I'm guessing you're fairly young, so it's just one of those things we go through.
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15/f I want my arm hair removed, but I don't want to shave it off, because I heard it comes back thicker and darker and faster, and I also hear these stories about people who have shaved their arms really regret it. Since waxing your legs after a while, it doesn't really grow back would the same technique happen to your arms? I've tried bleaching and stuff and its not like I have a lot of arm hair its just long pieces of it, I even tried trimming my arm hair lol.
So my question is has anyone had their arm hair waxed and how did it work, cause I really want to wax it, but I don't want to regret waxing it. (ps. I'm talking about arm hair not arm pit hair)
thanks so much!! (link)
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It is a total myth that shaved hair grows back thicker and darker. Your hair follicles won't grow because of shaving. The reason it seems like way is because of the length. If you had soft, but long hair on your legs before shaving and then now you get rough stubble after shaving, that doesn't mean it grew back thicker. If you grew your leg hair long, it would go back to being soft.
As for your arms...waxing is painful IMO no matter which part of the body it's on. If you go for shaving, you'd have to do it every day to keep them smooth.
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hey..im in 10th grade regular global history i do really well in that class high 90's and im thinking of doing Ap u.s. history next year do you think I will be able to handle it I never took any advanced courses before. like do they expect you to know everything the first day. Because I dont have everything in my head. I am a fast learner and do well in school what do you think? thanks (link)
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Definitely take it. I'm in the 11th grade and I'm in APUSH right now. I love it. It is a bit challenging, but they don't expect you to know everything as soon as you get in there. They start at the beginning and test you on what they've taught, just like in regular classes.
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i told my friend jess something about my friend steph .. something about how bitchy she can be etc i cant probably remember and now jess has told steph and steph is being really bad about it and said she dosnt trust me and i am a 2 faced lil bitch etc im friends with jess even though she told steph i was bitching about her because steph was angry with me previously for something so i dont blame her im not sure what to do about steph now as shes being really nasty and self obbsessed about what iv said, shall i ignore it try and be friends or whatttttt?? (link)
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One thing you need to learn is not to talk about your friends to other friends. No matter how much you trust them, girls are bitches and they can turn on you in a second. Steph isn't the one I'd be angry with, it would be Jess. Like someone else on here already said, friends don't tell secrets.
And you're saying she's being self obsessed about it? Yeah, well if one of my friends told a mutual friend that I was a bitch, yeah I'd be pretty angry as well. Wouldn't you?
Just don't talk about your friends. If you don't like something about them, either keep if to yourself or talk to them about it.
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okay i know that im pretty. but it only really shows when i get back from school (like for some weird reason i look best after school then when i did in it) and in the summer. i have wavy blonde hair and blue eyes and im skinny. i have a rash thing tho on my arm that i so need to get rid of. (any ideas?) i work out so im not fat or anything but like i never had a boyfriend and im like 13. i know people havent had bfs who are older then me but still... and like i desperatly need a bf becausee people at school think im a lez. which.. im so not. im really shy at school so maybe thats why i cant get a bf? out side of school im really loud and stuff && guys lovee me from other towns and ask me out all the time (i turn them down) but in school. no. i am so quite. and im popular like with people in other schools but.. not mine. so. yeah. i wanna be popular at mine =[
adviceee!
&& you know what is they gayesttt? like girls at my school can be like ugly. but get a bf. im the what the freakkk. and like.i really picky tho. so thats probably a reason. ha (link)
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Maybe you need to worry less about your "prettiness" and getting a boyfriend and more about growing up a little bit. I know you're only 13, but you're quite immature judging by this question. Maybe if you weren't so desperate to be pretty and get a boyfriend, you'd actually get one. Guys don't like girls that are full of themselves...it's just annoying.
And if you're friends think you're a lesbian because you've never had a boyfriend, they need to grow up as well. That's just plain stupid.
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I am only 5'0 and I'm 13. I wear a 32 DD! Boys at my school tell me things about my boobs, and it kind of makes me happy. I would just like for them to start touching them. What can I do to draw even MORE attention or ask them if they want to touch them, but not be like " hey you wanna touch my boobs? " I know i sound like a slut, but i really like being the center of attention. Thanks! (link)
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That's ridiculous. You need to find something else about yourself that's appealing other than your breasts. You're 13 years old...you should have more important things to be worried about than people touching your boobs. Personally if I was 5' with a 32 DD I'd be more focused on my back problems and never finding a shirt that would fit than how I could get a guy to touch my tit.
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Ok the other day (I forgot how we came up on the subject)my friend and I were talking about how much we weighed. I told her first, but I am pretty skinny. Well, she told me she only weighed 2 more pounds than me (92). I think she is lying, however (maybe she feels embarassed?), because she wears a size five in jeans (I wear a 0). Can she really only weigh 2 more pounds than me, and yet still wear jeans way bigger than me? b/c me and this girl are REALLY good friends & i she NEVER lies to me (and i would hate for her to start!!) Thanks I will rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Kids today are way too hung up on weight. Unless you're under 5', you should NOT weigh 90 lbs. And you're making it sound like a size 5 is just a huge size and everyone should be a size 0 like you. A size 0 is just...gross if you ask me. You need to gain some weight...quick. The lying is the least of your worries. From how hung up on it you sound, she probably lied to avoid the disgusted look on your face when she told her her real weight...oh the dreaded size 5 jeans!!
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