Okay, so my past relationships involved a lot of sex. It became regular (especially my last two). We had trouble being together without contemplating how and where we can bang...
Now here's my issue: my current boyfriend apparently isn't big on sex with me (actually he probably just isn't ready or something like that which means I need to be patient and wait, instead of letting it bruise my ego..)
But you see, I'm so used to sex it became sort of an addiction. Especially if he and I are making out and he'd do something that turns me on; I basically react automatically (kiss him deeper, kiss his neck, etc) and it's like he avoids it. Tries to make a joke, or something to break the mood some how (i.e. I kissed him deeper, and he replied by pushing his lips against mine and laughed saying "I can push too").
I'll be honest, it makes me feel rejected... Like he doesn't want me like that. Logically, there is probably some other factors. (i.e. I'm his second, i think, we attempted before and he got "whiskey dick" minus the whiskey, etc.) But I'm so used to things being like if I kiss them deeper, or I kiss their neck, or try to be sexy or something they respond by kissing back/kissing my neck/etc.
He kisses me, holds me, etc. And I know he likes me, I'm not questioning that. Nor do I want to pressure him or anything.
What I need advice on is dealing with myself not my boyfriend. Like today we were giving back massages, he touched my neck/back just right where I got turned on. Then when I gave him one in return, I was doing my best not to be sexual (because I know he was as sore as I was).
I need help controlling myself, and containing my urges (also to not let my anxieties/paranoia over whelm me and make me feel rejected and self conscious when he does stuff like that). I love that he's able to hold me, kiss me intimately, etc without sex to be involved... BUT sometimes I want more than sex. And when I feel like that I just end up embarrassing myself. What should I do when I want sex, since he apparently doesn't... ?? How the hell do I contain my hormones??
I disagree with the user below. There is nothing 'up' here.
Although it may seem strange at first that a guy doesn't want sex as most steretypically do.
So you need help controlling your hormones? Clearly you have a high sex drive, maybe to do with your past or it could be to do with what you eat. Do you eat garlic, ginger, bananas, avocado or dark chocolate often? If so, this is bound to be affecting you.
Eating lots of carbohydrates, fats (healthy ones!) and drinking alcohol in moderation can reduce your sex drive.
The reason why I'm telling you about food, is because in my view its the healthiest way to lower your libido from time to time, as it does sound like yours is overactive and your partners is underactive.
By eating some of these foods, it will help 'calm your hormones' down, but then again if you feel your just not being sexually satisfied at all anymore by this guy-move on!
You'll know whats best for you-good luck
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i wanted to ask that i wanted to have sex with my girlfreind she said that if i wore a condom she would not have sex and i fear that she may become pregnant
It takes two to tango, and you hold just as much responsibilty as the girl does when consenting to sex, its HAS to be 50/50.
My advice? If you're not ready to become a father, be straight with her. Tell her if you dont wear protection then you wont have sex with her.
Its good that you have values you want to stick to-so make sure you do. TEll her that you're not ready to father a child yet-and that you dont consent unless its with protection.
If she's much of a girlfriend she'd understand. If she takes it bad? She's perhaps not the girl for you as clearly she wants different things from the relationship.
Be straight with her because guys have the same rights as girls when it comes down to it.
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so I am a girl and I am Idiot( do not understand quickly) god create me that way. and I knew a woman wich is my teacher that's older than me by 20 years maybe
I did avoid her because she was mysterious and told us that she is a strong observation and girl shouldn't trivializes of her observation,because of that she makes me feel afraid.Also she is so religious
I mean she hates gays lesbian ect .Also she thanks god alot,remember him alot and advice us in religious way .I am new in the school and I was facing alot of lesbian wants me to be thier girlfriend
She always warning the grade 10 girls because the school have grade 10 11 and 12 only.
so every year grade ten girl comes from another school .She warning us (grade 10)from walking with older girl (geade 11 and 12)
she told us that some of grade 11 and 12 are bad and lesbian,so I kept avoid her because I don't know maybe I will have a gf :S but I know that is wrong and bad so I keep my self away from flirty girl
I love her personality but she avoid me like I did
before ,so wt should I do I don't want her to love or likes me ,but she is already avoid me
and also I am nerd and stupid I mean I don't understand like usual people
we took 2 exams the first I got an F
and the second I got C
but wt I nerd I am the second on my class my percintage in certificate is 98%
I study all the day and stay up night studying I never got F in Math before. Also she knew I am stupid don't understand things easily, and wt she does to me when I field she just ignore that like I didn't got F and the second one I got C .She also ignore and was saying in the exam time how could a girl come to the exam and she didn't know the rules in Math how they could solve the equation .I close to cry my eyes full of tears. I gave up even I put my pen in my pencil case .After one day she just stand close to my deck said: the class became careless also she said:get sad if you want I don't care.
but what I studied all the day I didn't finish so I woke up at 1 and half am to complete but I didn't finish so wt should I do???????????
sorry about bad English.
Without being too harsh-if this is what you write like in your exams then that may partly be why your not getting the grades.
Also, I was really confused-your question is not very clear AT ALL.
To me, you sound like a confused, young girl. All I can say is that you seem to have feelings for this female teacher. That's ok-but what wouldn't be ok is acting upon these feelings whilst your still in her duty of care (under 18, still in school etc). It's against the law for her to get with you as well.
As for the grades? Teachers are there to teach you-it's their job. So they have no right to tell you your stupid or anything-if this happens tell your parents. If you dont understand something-tell the teacher, in class or after the lesson. They dont get paid that much for nothing you know!
If you're dissapointed with the grades you're getting and want to do better-why not do extra reading around a subject at the weekend etc. That way you can earn a teachers respect.
I think you're over thinking this whole 'avoiding' thing about your teacher. Teachers are so so busy, with marking, lesson planning as well as living their own lives-to even think about petty little thinks like who to avoid and who not to.
Thats all really-I didn't know what to say because the question was very confusing, but if you need more help then there are ppl on here to hep you myself included, but I suggest you make your question more clear and easier to understand.
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What are the dirct effects of stress to the human body.
Its unclear whether this is for homework or to help you, but I'll guess its to help you.
Stress can cause spot breakouts, ulcurs and fatigue. Because the immune system is lower, you also get much more colds and headaches.
It can also cause bowel problems and insomnia.
Stress builds up and and up if ignored by the sufferer, and can manifest itself into anxiety.
Long term stress can cause heart attacks and Conrony Heart Disease-because your body is under too much pressure.
Hope I helped
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I am 13 years old, and I have not taken a babysitting class yet. So, the parents of a 7 year old boy, is still going to be home working while I watch the little boy next Saturday. But this will be the first time ever babysitting someone. What should I do with him?
Hi,I'm 17
I babysit for an 8 year old girl.
You need to first get him to like you-this is important if you want more babysitting assignments.
Whilst board games are good-they're abit old fashioned. Kids like to play games, but on the I-pad or a laptop.
Do you have a laptop? Do they? Or on your phone can you get the internet? If so, try games like on the CBBC website (sorry dont know if you're british or not).
Also, do fun things like let them watch what they want to on TV. The girl I babysit still likes sweet things like playing lego. You could bring a comic or magazine for his age and read it together.
To get him to like you, give him your full attention, make eye contact, ask questions about himself etc.Dont be patronizing-its tempting to think 7 yr olds dont know as much as you think about life, but some can be more intelligent than you first think.
The main thing is to have a bit of a laugh with them-the kind of person they'll be excited to see in the future.
Remember, your not an entertainer and you're not a childminder. Simply put, you're just someone to look after the house and the children for a short period of time for a bit of money. Dont stress over it, and try to enjoy it, because its an easy way to gain money without doing too much at all.
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Long story short, my girlfriends brother doesn't like me. I don't like football, I like other things, like reading books, taking a walk, drawing...
He has taken it onto himself to dish out my girlfriends number to his drunken friends, who has for the last week or two called her pretty late at night.
He has been asked to stop his crap, but he goes on. I'm not going to beat him up, he is twice my size, he does plays football and I draw pictures. I did think of accidentally shooting him at a rifle range... but that's too drastic and I've watched CSI.
I'm beyond playing nice with this #$%^, I want revenge.
I have already considered posting his girlfriend in the classified adds, or posting him in the gay classifieds (I have no problem with gay people, my best friend is... Mr. Brother is a stereotypical jock, with bells and whistles attached).
I need some more ideas please!
FEED ME!
Well firstly dont get anyone else involved like his girlfriend-not only is this not fair on her but also it doesn't make you look great in front of him.
So it seems hes more on the extraverted side of things and your more on the introverted side-no wonder theres a clash!
You can do two things here. 1)Copy his childish behaviour by getting revenge like kids, and it'll just go on and on.
or 2) Be a man. I suggest talking to him on his own one day and explaining your concerns.Or his parents (sorry dont know your age) Or even his best friend. If thats to hard then send an email or something.
I dont know, but coming from a girls perspective I'd hate if a guy got revenge on my brother. Sure it shows hes protective, but it also shows jelousy which is not cool.
If you must do something, then only do something small, that will have an impact but not in the long run. Posting in the gay classifieds could also hurt someone else who may phone him. In my opinion the best revenge, if talking doesn't work again, would be to play to your strengths and his weaknesses. Show him up as being unintelligent or unread or something.Or even just avoid him altogether. If you dont see each other maybe itll just be forgotten.
But yeh if I were you I try talking again. What goes aroung always comes around in the end. I'm sorry if the advice I gave wasn't tips on how to get revenge...but revenge isn't always the best and most attractive way forward.
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I am constantly stressed out. I have tried exercise,therapy, even drinking, everything under the sun... it has been no help. I do not know how this started; all I can think of that causes my stress is that I fixate on negative energy whenever it is present. I am not good at letting go of things and I generally punish myself for what I know is not my fault. Things that should be blown off in a instant can cause me major mental blocks, panic attacks, and headaches. I am becoming very depressed and isolated. Once a straight A student I am now failing all my classes. This is painful because I am use to being such a happy social girl, but I can not seem to get anywhere close to that anymore. I am young, female, and in pretty good physical shape. Do you of anything that might help me?
Hi,
I'm 17-dont know if thats older or younger than me but this sounds similar to me.
I used to experience panic attacks-these should never be underestimated because as you well know they are like the most terrifying thing you can go through.
What happened to me-you dont what to go through. My stress manifested itself and I had severe, uncontrollable anxiety, for a month I was detatched from the world.
So to get to stop this in its tracks, you need to get to the bottom of it asap.
Firstly, think why you feel stressed, what causes so much stress. Write how you feel, then write a rational thought next to it. You need to understand that you can become good at 'trapping' the anxious thought and just letting it go. So your aware of it, but you're not acknowledging it.
also, try meditation, that worked for me. Theres a thing called 'mindfulness'-look it up online. Its basically where you take time out everyday without fail to just relax, put things into perspective and things. This really helps to reduce stress.
Finally, try thinking about what you're eating. Caffine and other stimulants such as chocolate may cauase more anxiety. Make sure you have a good nights sleep as this reduces anxiety.
The main thing is motivation. You have to find it within yourself to want to do the mindfullness exercises, and to want to put the effort into writing your thoughts down. For this kind of thing, theres no drug that can cure you, its something you have to learn to do using your brain.
Hope this makes sense, good luck-nothing lasts forever so you can overcome this stressful time and with that you can become the happy girl you once were.
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well my life is not going my way write now am a huge disappointment to evryone and just have a feeling to end it all and be in a place where i feel much appreciated well am a looser on earth maybe with God the creator i can live a good life....
Hey,
I feel for you in your time of need, but over the computer theres not much more I can tell you other than to talk to your parents/a friend about this who can refer you to a doctor.
Despite whatever you're going through, there is always a positive way forward and remember, nothing lasts forever.
Also, If you did believe in God, then you'd know as a Christian that the Bible forbids suicide because you're rejecting the chance of recieving salvation from Christ. According to the Bible, you can't get to heaven and be with God if you kill yourself-so theres no religous rational that provides support for you killing yourself.
Go and talk to a doctor or just anyone face to face who can contact a doctor-like I said from behind a computer screen besides telling you to see a doctor I cant help you.
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Is it rude for my girl to call and text other guys in front of me? I tell her that its disrespectful an ask her not to do it an she gets all mad an defensive ahe says all they are is friends. I mean they get morr attention than I do.
It honetly depends what she's texting them, but yeh it does seem abit ignorant.
However, whislt its best to be protective like this don't nag her about is as you may come across as jealous. Why not sit her down and talk about this sometime?
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I am 13 and I have acne. I wash my face in the morning and before I go to bed at night with soap and water. I take care during the day not to touch my face so I wont get oils from my hands on it. But no matter what I do, it wont go away! What do I do?
What you need to do is see your doctor. There are a range of tablets/creams/both that they can give you, to help ease your problem. Its such a common complaint at the doctors too-they no what they're doing!
Usually when acne is taken for medication the results are clear to see after a minimum of six months usage, so the key is persistance. And in any case, it dies down towards the end of your teenage years anyway
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***IF YOU SAY, "IM SURE YOUR FINE." GO AWAY.***
So, I'm 13 & get taunted a lot about my small butt and boobs. Although everyone knows me, like someone says my name and their like yeah I know her and I'm friends with pretty much everyone. My friends in my class (boys) say why do you wear a bra and stuff like that, we all laugh then go onto another subject and and it's just a joke. I know it, they know it, we all do. But it's true. I want to get a bigger butt & pair of boobs and my guess for the boobs is massage it for two weeks then see if theirs any progress and I think it'll work. Then for the butt I am going to lay on my tummy, and push my legs up so my butt will be recieving the work out rather than my thighs or anything.
And might I add I weigh 105 where as my average weight for my height and age is 117. So that's some of the problem, but I enjoy being carried due to my lack of weight and being envyed by so many girls for my body. My ex [who is like a brother to me and he is my world. He looks out for me and we're best friends. Only friends but he's nice] said to my friend allure while I was doing something, that if I had a better < notice meaning all I have to do is improve> body then I'd be hot! I know , I know. "I'm sure your fine." I am fine. Really, but in highschool next year I at least want to be up to level with the other girls and have a big butt and at least B sized boobs! That's all I want!
Lastly is Makeup. I want really dark lashes that is like clumpy but so clumpy that they look real thick and spider-leg-y. Haha. I just want really nice thick eyelashes. This girl is my role model and she has really dark eyelashes and of course it's makeup, but I don't care. And I want them dark and people say just buy volumizer and it doesn't work. I was told use the L.A. Kind mascara and I looked for it but couldn't find it.
Thanks in advanced and sorry it was so terribly long.
I used to be like you a year ago-I'm 17 now.
And I get how it feels too!
Lets start with the butt. I'm a really slim girl-and I was wondering whether you like me have a high metabolism? If so, you need to be eating lots of high calorie healthy food like dairy products , nuts and things to help gain weight.
The bum I find is the easiest place to start because you can see results quicker. I do squats and really push myself. I also do lunges and step ups, a full plies with a straight back. This really works the butt muscles and if you're persistant results will be seen in no time.
No on to the breats. These are trickier-and are only really likely to get bigger during pregnancy. but there are things you can do to encourage them, such as chest exercises, that bild the muscle below where the breasts are, thus making them appear larger.
Finally onto the mascara. Now then, most girls wear fake eyelashes to get that spider effect look. You can get quality ones that are easy to apply and will be easy to apply.
Hope this helps. Ultimatly to get larger breasts or butt you need to gain weight. Remember to warm up before you do any kind of exercise,and to wear appropriate clothing and things.
In my experience, I found what I told you worked for me, and its a great way if you want to increase your butt slightly and breasts slightly. So be patient :)
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im 16f and he is 19 year old male. we have known each other since i was 12. started dating him at 15. do yoou think hes too old?
No I don't think so, I think it's really romantic :)
It's only three years apart-but I think age doesn't matter when you like someone and have a special relationship, that you two clearly do :)
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Ok so like me I was taught and raised up to be respectful when some one is talking to you no matter who they are liking or not liking that person its respectful I dont demand it but I just wish that my girl friend would give me what I give her because we all know 2 wrongs dont make a right but when she wants to talk about any thing I throw what ever im doing at that moment in time is not important id rather do what ever she is doing I give her my full undivided attention ay leasy I try but when its the other way around omg im all types of bad news an o how.i ruined her life ? Im confused
I'm confused too.
This made sense up untill the omg bit.
I think what you're asking is that you wish your girlfriend would be more understanding/she doesn't seem to care about your issues?
And if you have a desire to stay with her, then you need to talk to her about this. Perhaps she simply doesn't realise that you think shes not putting as much into the relationship as you are. I think it's only fair to give her a chance and tell her?
Just sit her down and say that you sometimes feel she's not as interested in you as you are in her, or something like in order for the relationship to work (which you want it to) you want to be more open and honest with how one another feels.
Is she silent as in a quiet person? Or emotionally silent? I don't know, but my advice would be to simply tell her how you feel. If you would rather break up with her then thats fine, but i say give her another chance, as I said before, she doesn't know how you feel if you don't tell her.
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Ok so I dont have any friends not that im complaining cause those type of people I cut ties off with along time ago. But when we first met she told me she like older guys im the youngest she has had. Well I have insecurities and I can admit I am probaly alot more emotional than any man on this planet. Well she can pick an choose my friends but she can sit there an text this guy right in front of me im like really wow I tell her I dont like him an she get all mad askin why he did nothing to you thats my moms ex blah blah blah like I care I mean in front of me though does she do it behind my back
Sorry-I may have missed it. What do you want help/advice on exactly?
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about there years. I love him but I don't feel like im sexually attracted to him. We can be having sex and he can turn me on but then when I look at his face it turns me off. Like his face looks so ugly up close and the way he kisses me turns me off really bad sometimes. Idk what to do. I want to be with him. Is there any way this could change? He often accuses me of cheating and now I've started having thoughts of cheating.I have never cheated on anyone before. I just want to see if anyone has been through this and if there is hope.
So you love him, but you're not in love with him.
This is very common and you should be proud of yourself for identifying this.
Alot of us have been there, myself included.
And what will happen if you 'put up' with him fore too long is that he'll notice your disinterest and will break the relationship up himself, exactly what happened to me.
I'm sorry to tell you when you've already been told by people giving advice below me, but its time to end the relationship. You're already having problems as it is.
Although he may be happy in the relationship, clearly you arn't as bhappy as you could be as you would be if you were with someone else. Why not go your seperate ways? Don't you deserve to be with someone you fancy rather than put up with (no offense intended) second best? Of course you do.
HArd though it may be, you'll be thanking yourself later when you're with that perfect guy who you're in love with as much as he is in love with you.
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I cheated n my ex bt still i luvd hr even thgh i luv sme1 else.need hr back
As a basic rule in life we all want what we can't have. You can't have your ex at the moment, because you're in another relationship-which makes you want her.
You need to put a rational head on and ask yourself, why did you cheat on your ex? Do you love them both but arn't in love with any of them?
Also, be honest with yourself. Will your ex even consider taking you back? Why should she? She may have moved on. Well you can't have two girlfriends! If you're serious about trying to get your ex back, you can't be playing another girl because thats not fair. You need to break up with this other girl, but only if you're sure your ex will listen to you.
If you don't speak to your ex anymore, and want to then I suggest (in your circumstance) starting with a small note, rather than an informal text or a phone call she'll probably not answer.
Say what you need to; make your feelings clear but make it breif and offer to talk to her about it in more detail. If she refuses, then you can't really blame her. But the bottom line is it will have made you stronger.
I don't know what other things are going on in your life that make you feel like you NEED a girlfriend, but my advice would be to break up with this girl your currently with as your obviously distracted by your ex and this is not fair in anyway on this girl.
Then why not give it time-like a month or two so you can concerntrate on something else other than women-like a hobby? That'll help clear your head enough to make the best desision in the future.
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I'm a college student and I've gotten really good grades so far, but only because the classes I've taken have been exam and paper based. I'm taking one class this semester that's largely participation-based, and I'm so scared of it that I'm thinking about dropping it. I'm extremely shy and every time I have to speak publicly, I act and sound so nervous that I'm sure everyone's embarrassed for me. Sometimes in discussions I think I might have something to say and I start preparing myself to raise my hand, but then my heart starts beating really fast and I can't muster up the courage. Most of the time, though, I can't even think of anything to say...I know I'm not stupid, so I'm not sure if I'm just nervous and can't think straight or what. But that's a huge problem. Also, there's this one girl in the class that I'm sort of acquaintances with, and that puts more pressure on me because I feel like she's judging me more since she knows me (not to mention she gives off this air that she thinks she's smarter than everyone else and she participates a ton).
How can I overcome this and start participating?
Or is it worth all the stress, and the potential bad grade & embarrassment? Do you think I should drop the class (it's not even part of a requirement)?
I'm 17 and recently overcame social anxiety in my classes.
Firstly, don't drop this course over such a treatable problem.
Its important to contribute in class, because firstly you're showing the teacher you understand, and they'll like you more. But also its showing to your peers you can actually be bothered.
I think the sooner you do it the better,as it'll be easier. If you leave it too late in the year then it may look abit random. Howver, better late than never.
So about this person judging you? I used to feel that in one of my classes. So I did a little extra reading. Got the textbook for the subject and read over the next lesson, so I was prepared to answer.
I think you should answer, but only once or twice. Not answering will look like you don't care, but answering to much will look like you're teachers pet, and in love with yourself. No one likes a know it all.
The way you THINK people THINK about you is based on your own perceptions-and untill you know what they actually think, you can base your 'fear' of speaking out on these perceptions.
Try to think of the benifits of speaking out-you'll be respected mroe by your teacher and your peers. Do you sit alone or are you friendly with a peer group? Sit by someone you'll get on with, so if you're sat by someone who contributes often it may have an impact on you.
Alternativley, if you sit with all the quiet guys and girls then it'd make you stand out when you speak out-which is a good thing.
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My question is simple, what should i study to be a good bank robbing criminal??
My answer is simple...you can't be serious?
Its a shame that when I saw this question at the side of the screen I could've helped, and then I clicked on it and realised it was some joker messing around.
If you want serious job advice ask a sensible question and ppl will help
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I'm in yearbook and writing a spread on a choir group we have. Can you help me with an angle idea?
Hi,
I think perhaps if you could clarify what you mean as I've seen this question has not been answered for ages now-and I may be able to help
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Can I pregnant by using my brother toilet seat.Im 13 and really worried.
So first it was sharing door handles then it was toilet seats? I told you know last time you asked such a question about you're brother-why do you feel the need to ask again???
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