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Revenge: I'm beyond playing nice with this #$%^, I want revenge.
Long story short, my girlfriends brother doesn't like me. I don't like football, I like other things, like reading books, taking a walk, drawing...
He has taken it onto himself to dish out my girlfriends number to his drunken friends, who has for the last week or two called her pretty late at night.
He has been asked to stop his crap, but he goes on. I'm not going to beat him up, he is twice my size, he does plays football and I draw pictures. I did think of accidentally shooting him at a rifle range... but that's too drastic and I've watched CSI.
I'm beyond playing nice with this #$%^, I want revenge.
I have already considered posting his girlfriend in the classified adds, or posting him in the gay classifieds (I have no problem with gay people, my best friend is... Mr. Brother is a stereotypical jock, with bells and whistles attached).
I need some more ideas please!
FEED ME!
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In some states, putting him or his girlfriends information in a an adult classified ad would be a criminal act.
So no, you shouldn't do that.
More importantly - you shouldn't do a damn fucking thing unless you have the complete support and awareness of your girlfriend - or your risk loosing her.
My brothers can be bullies and I know it. Although they have never, ever done anything nearly so nasty as what you've described here, if my boyfriend took it on himself to get revenge on them, I'd dump him flat out. You don't mess with my family behind my back - no matter how badly they behave. That's not about 'playing nice' that's about having a basic level of respect of your girlfriend.
I'm not saying I think you should do anything (I don't think revenge works anywhere but in the movies, in real life it just ups the ante and prolongs the violence) but if you do anything, you better do it with the full awareness and acceptance of your girlfriend. Being deceptive on this matter will poison your relationship.
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Well firstly dont get anyone else involved like his girlfriend-not only is this not fair on her but also it doesn't make you look great in front of him.
So it seems hes more on the extraverted side of things and your more on the introverted side-no wonder theres a clash!
You can do two things here. 1)Copy his childish behaviour by getting revenge like kids, and it'll just go on and on.
or 2) Be a man. I suggest talking to him on his own one day and explaining your concerns.Or his parents (sorry dont know your age) Or even his best friend. If thats to hard then send an email or something.
I dont know, but coming from a girls perspective I'd hate if a guy got revenge on my brother. Sure it shows hes protective, but it also shows jelousy which is not cool.
If you must do something, then only do something small, that will have an impact but not in the long run. Posting in the gay classifieds could also hurt someone else who may phone him. In my opinion the best revenge, if talking doesn't work again, would be to play to your strengths and his weaknesses. Show him up as being unintelligent or unread or something.Or even just avoid him altogether. If you dont see each other maybe itll just be forgotten.
But yeh if I were you I try talking again. What goes aroung always comes around in the end. I'm sorry if the advice I gave wasn't tips on how to get revenge...but revenge isn't always the best and most attractive way forward.
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Wow sounds like a tough one! I like that you're different from most guys. There are lots of people who don't find fascination in football, typical "guy" stuff, etc.
I find it kind of odd that he would do that to his own sister. Why would he want a guy like that to be with her? If you can't get through to him, maybe your girlfriend should step up to it. She's probably the only one he might listen to. And she should be ignoring any calls she gets from guys she doesn't know. Or if she answers, she should make it clear that she's not interested and she's with someone.
It seems like getting revenge on the guy would make things worse on your part. The best solution, at least for now, is to have your girlfriend tell him to stop! She should understand how you feel about this and if you can't do anything to ease the situation and your feelings, then she should step up to the plate to stop it.
I hope things work out for you on your end.
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