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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion."I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."
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what things can girls do when theyre making out with a guy. like, what do guys like. not like LETS GET NAKED but like little tips of stuff like what girls can do
sorry that i worded this very badly.
hope you allll understand haha
haha, well you can slide your tongue in and out of his mouth as he sucks on it. some things you can do is suck his top lip, or lightly "explore" his mouth with your tongue, then at the end of the kiss lightly bite his bottom lip. for your hands you can touch his face or neck or sometimes i play with his hair =P
and i enforce the word lightly in all of this.
18, female.... please read this i will be so thankful. i will return the favor.
lets me start off by saying i do have some trust issues because of the past. right now i am going through some hard times, i know that but last night it made it so much worse. my best guy friend of about 4 years completely screwed me over and i feel like he doesn't even care. i love this kid to death, i mean i am in love with him. the past couple months we've been having problems. he's been with his girlfriend for a very long time, and she changed him. me and him aren't like we use to be. we use to hang out all the time. now i'm lucky if i get to see him at least once a month. well he's been trying to get me to have sex with him. i'm a virgin and i didn't want to lose it to someone who had a girlfriend obviously. it's like when you have an angel on one side and the devil on the other. part of my heart was knowing it was completely wrong and the other part really wanted me to do it with him. i wan't him to be happy, and i love the kid alot. he knows that and so they went on a break about three weeks ago. he then tried to tell me it was okay to do something with him and he kissed me but we didn't do anything else. i thought he lied to me about them being on a break and we had a big fight and i scared him, i know he didn't want to lose me but we talked it out and i was like just remember if you ever do lie to me and i find out it will take me a very very long time to get that trust back and he was like i know, but it won't ever happen. i knew it was time to try and get over him, i've told myself so many times but it's taking the biggest toll on me. well last night he decided to text me and asked what i was doing. and i was with my friends and he was like oh haha i'm not doing anything and i was like i know you're not sitting at home and he was like yeah i'm waiting to fuck you. and i was like um no, fuck your girlfriend... and he was like no you. and i was like well i heard you guys aren't on a break anymore and he was like well whoever said that, they're wrong because we still are. and i was like i don't know about that and he was like she even wrote me this long note saying that she doesn't want it to be like this and that she wants to be back with me but since i wan't to be on a break, she said it will have to be that way. and i was like i still can't do that and you know why. and he was like no why and i said because i know that if i do something with him they're going to get back together and i can't be in that situation and he was like what situation? and i was like just dealing with that whole thing and he was like what do you mean? and i straight up said, i'm not having sex with you, if you're going out with her, or even if you're on a break with her. and then i think that made him mad and he didn't say anything back. and so i texted him back and was like when am i going to see you again..and he was like i dont know? and i was like fine, and he didn't say anything back and a little bit later i was like come see me later and he didn't say anything back and i was hurt and confused. well my friend's neighbors with him and we had to be home at 10:30 for some reason and then i ended up leaving at like 12:30 and his "girlfriends" car was at his house. i was devastated. i knew what he was doing. he knew i was at her house and he probably wanted to make me mad. he knew i wasn't going to give anything to him so they probably got back together. well i was debating on whether or not to text him and of course i did and i said "you had your chance and you fucked up big time, i think it's kind of funny this time though because you know what i said about trusting you, i hope this is what you really wanted" and he didn't say anything back. i don't know what to do. i can't live without this kid but i'm sure as hell not texting or calling him again. maybe i did make a mistake by texting him, i feel like a psycho or something now. i feel like i'm always the one trying to fix everything with everyone and all i get in return is a broken heart. i don't want him out of my life but i don't see how he just doesn't say anything back. my friends don't understand. he is the only guy in my life right now, he IS my best guy friend. but his girlfriend messed everything up and now i feel like i have nothing. did i lose him forever? am i in the wrong? the past couple months i feel like he did just want to get with me but for three years we've been friends it never was like that. my friends think i can just drop him like nothing but they don't understand we have something special. when i'm fighting with him i can't sleep,i can't concentrate in school. what if he doesn't ever talk to me again though because he has his girlfriend. i know you probably think, he's not worth it. but it's not like me to just give up and move on. i hang out with my friends and everything but it doesn't keep my mind off him no matter what i try. it's like trying to forget your're first love, it's impossible. i can't let myself like any other guy because i'm scared of getting hurt like my best friend hurt me and they're nothing compared to him. i loved when he was on a break with his girlfriend, he always wanted to see me and now if they're back together i won't hear from him or see him. how can i get him back. please don't say he's a jerk, that i deserve better. he is what i want, even if i am just friends with him. but i feel like it's on him now...
hey, i understand that you really like this guy but i think you just need to give him time so he can think over what he really wants. he's probably confused between you and his girlfriend and i think you should stop texting/calling him for awhile and let him text/call you. he shouldn't be wanting to do anything with you when he has a girlfriend, on a break or not...thats what he's most likely confused about. if you guys are real friends like you said you were then after awhile of you not texting him he will text you.
hope it goes well.
17-f
dating 17-m
i have no clue what to get my boyfriend this christmas we've been together for 15 months now and i just want opinions on what you would give your boyfriend. i want to spend less than $100 but not to much less than $50 im thinking of getting more than one thing.
need ideas!
help
well what im doing for my boyfriend is making a stocking.
i'm putting in a gift card to his favorite store, his favorite candy, and cologne. you could add whatever you want! get little stuff you know hes interested in and just put it all together.
16/f
I have never made out with a guy before. Just kissed them. Well when the moment comes, i want to be prepared. I know a lot of people say that making out is natural and everything but i am completely clueless on what it is and how you do it pleasedon't say, it comes natural. If you could tell me what it is and how you do it with steps or something like that, that would be great. Thanks!
don't worry about it, if you're unsure of what to do just follow his lead and eventually you'll get comfortable. everyone says this but it really is natural. do basically whatever you feel is right just make sure you dont like stab your tongue down his throat or bite him or anything and you'll be fine, just don't worry =)
Lol. Ok. Most of you should enjoy this..
I'm talking to the boy I like when he asks me for my number, and I give it to him, and then I want to leave before the conversation starts dragging on, so when my phone starts to vibrate I see my way out and say "sorry, I have to take this, so see ya later" I hear him say "you're ridiculous" while walking away.. but don't think much of it. Once I get to my room I try to call the number back, cause it wasnt listed in my phone book when it hits me -- HE WAS THE ONE CALLING ME SO I WOULD HAVE HIS NUMBER.
How embarrassing is that? What would you think if you were him? And what's the best thing to do.. try to explain or pretend it ever happened?
Silly, I know. But I didnt ruin my chances, did I?
well you could tell him that you thought it was your doctors number calling back or something and you didn't know what the number was so you thought it was that.
orr
you can just be honest and say that you didn't want the conversation to drag but you really do like him.
=)
So this is pathetic, I'm 17/F.
I just cannot find the right guy, or a guy at all. I have only a few guy friends, and I'm not even "close" with them anyways.
But I've never been in a real relationship ever, and I dont know whats wrong with me, I'm super out going, I talk to about anyone, I'm not shy... I meet tons of people, but none ever turn out to be more than friendship.
Arghh!
I know exactly how you feel i was the same way. in fact i just got into my first real relationship a little over 2 months ago and its been amazing so far.
please listen when i say that everything good comes when you least expect it. theres most likely nothing wrong with you im sure you're a great girl...go to a lot of parties, get out, do things, meet tons of people, and chances are someone will find to adore you.
so i just got a new phone the palm cento and its saying how i have these missed calls with this little flashing alert sign in the left top corner but i cant figure out how to get there. and i go on to call log but it doesnt tell me about missed calls. helllpp
push the button with the phone on it
then go to the tab all the way to the right where it has all your calls.
and your missed calls should be there.
it should have a kind of faded (green) arrow pointing to the right, which means its a missed call.
I met this guy this beginning of school, and I was new to the school. I was talking to one of my friends there, and I saw him, and I was like shittttttttt who's that?! And she told me and I was like I want him, I'm gonna get him. And sure thing, I did get him. We got to know each other real well, we starting falling in love I swear, and we were together for about 2 weeks at this time. We had so much in common, I came into his room, it was full of German flags, I was like holy shit, you like Germany?! And he's like hell yeah! And my news was that well hey I was born there and I go there every year. I fucking love Germany. It was crazy. We finished each other sentences. Told each other we loved each other, cared about each other, and missed each other all the time. And we weren't obsessive either, we'd talk on the phone like twice a day at most. We had a great relationship. But thing is, I was his first. So when it came to school, he wasn't that affectionate and didn't really know how to act. So anyways, we dated, then for some reason. He broke up with me, because he heard I was going to break up with him because of the way he was acting. So he dumped me. After that, we were still talking to each other, hanging out, and obviously not over each other. He asked me out 2 days later. Everything was going smoothly and we liked each other so much. When I was around him, I got butterflies and I felt so happy, it's like nothing I've ever felt for a guy before. He was perfect literally. So we hang out this one weekend, we go to a party, get drunk as fuck, and I puke in his aunt's bathroom and miss the toilet. He has to clean up my puke for 45 min. while I'm outside puking some more. SO his mom finds out we got drunk, and she had to drive me home, and his family is not too happy at all. So him and I are still close. Then in the morning I text him and tell him we're not hanging out today even though we have plans. He says hey I don't know about us anymore. And I started getting teary eyed wondering what the hell is wrong. He tells me he doesn't want to be with me anymore. So I'm like alright why again? He says because he has mixed feelings right now. So we're still friends, and hang out and stuff. One day we talk on the phone and he wants to hang out with me to help him babysit. The women doesn't end up coming home till 4 a.m. We sleep together of course. I tell him, if you want me, I'm not going to wait forever. He says I'll ask you back in a week span, I fucking miss you, love you, yadayadayada. So the week comes by, we don't even talk. So then we're still friends, but things are moving slowly for no reason. I haven't done anything to him. So then somehow he hears that I was talking shit about him I guess, which I really wasn't, I was just mad because he ignores me in school and treats me like shit in public. He just doesn't act like the same person all the time. It was like he was fake or something or new to this relationship thing. Well anyway, now since he heard that, he doesn't want to deal with me shit and all this, he's not talking to me at all, not even looking at me. I try texting him, he doesn't talk to me. He's just cutting me out of his life. I'm fucking miss him so much and I want him back so bad. I have no idea what to do. He won't talk to me and it's killing me like crazy. I really don't know what to do. I just wish we could at least be friends then him hating me. Because it really sucks. I just want everything back to the way it was. I would talk to him face to face, but I'm way too scared. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you.(:
It sounds like you both need a little break from each other thats maybe longer than 2 weeks. it's proven that the most healthiest relationships are ones where you're not with them all of them time.
Also, please don't get offended but you said that you said "i love you" after 2 weeks....if you just met him and been dating him for only 2 weeks chances are you don't love him. correct me if im wrong but your probably just physically attracted to him or just really like him because you guys are really similar. Sometimes its not a good thing that you guys are that similar because its kind of like dating yourself..in guy form...if you know what i mean. i'm not sure if you've ever heard of the saying "opposites attract".
so anyways what i'd do is just take a break from this guy...let him do the chasing, not you. if he really "loves" you then he'll work it out, it not, you deserve better.
good luck with everything =)
hey guys! hopefully this one works this time cuz the other one didnt but will you tell me which picture you like better, i cant decide! thanks!
- LU!
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i like the first one, its more original =)
ANYONE WHO ANSWER'S WILL RECIEVE A 5 because i thank you for reading my long situation!
im 18 years old and a female.
i have or USE to have a male best friend, whose now almost 17. we hung out alot and i secretly liked him but never told him and i think he secretly liked me too but then he got a girlfriend about three years ago and there STILL going out, without ever breaking up and they RARELY ever fight and are together pretty much 24/7 when either one doesnt have sports. recently or starting about a year ago, i go without seeing or talking to him months at a time. it kills me, but i feel like i shouldn't text him because if he missed me too he would text me right? keep in mind a few months ago he tried getting with me and i really wanted to do stuff with him, but i said i couldn't because it was so wrong but he's not like a player at all which shocked me. last time i saw him we were talking and he was like what happened to us? i was just like alot i guess..and he's like we're not like we use to be and i was like i know..and he was like i was always the one texting you asking what you were doing and i just smiled and he was like you know its true and i knew it was but i really dont see the point in texting him when he's always with his girlfriend... then my cousins and him we're gonna go back to their house and he was like i'll give you a piggy back ride :) then i was leaving my cousins and i see him outside his house waiting for me so i roll down my window and i was like.. what? and he gave me a hug and i was like i missed you... and then we just talked for like 20 min. and sometimes there were awkward silences and he just looked at me and smiled and i was like what are you thinking about...and he was like just random stuff :) and i was like, like what? and he just said ahh nothing. that night he looked at me like he wanted to kiss me and keep in mind we havent done ANYTHING physical, not even kiss. i havent talked to him since that and it's been about a month and i miss him SO much. but my friends feel it's best if i dont text him and try to keep my distance but he was my best friend... i dont want him out of my life forever but i still love him and wish every single night he could be mine. everyone in my family loves hiim and my friends do too and they're all like when is he going to break up with him girlfriend and go out with you? and i always say i dont know..never :(
i dont know what to do, i think about him 24/7 and its not an exaggeration. i think he knows im attracted to him and like him but he doesnt do anything about it. i dont think he would ever break up with his girlfriend because he's scared and also cuz she "gives it up" to him. any suggestions? i've tried moving on to other guys but NONE compare to him. they're nothing like him and i can't move on, i just cant.
ALSO, this was his first girlfriend and her first boyfriend. so there "first love's" which makes it worse. they both lost there virginity to each other too. and there both like the most popular kids in school. all the girls think's he's hot and all the boy's think's she's hot. and they go to the same school but i go to a different school....
wow, thats tough.. =/
the best advice that i can give you would be to text him once in awhile but definetly don't over-do it. most healthy relationships start out with being friends. since you guys have missed out on each other for so long he could have forgotten things. maybe if you text him once...he'll text you the next time and you guys will get closer and closer and hang out more. if he really likes you im sure he will do something about his girlfriend and go with you.
i doubt you would do this but don't try to break them up or don't mention anything about his girlfriend unless its necessary (like he kisses you or something)
best of luck =)
Okay whats
1 base
2 base
3 base
4 base?
like which ones which?
Thanks lots.
;D
it goes
1- french (kiss)
2- feel
3- finger
4- fuck
I am a sophomore girl in one of the most elite high schools in the nation. Call me shallow but i am one of the "in" crowd too. im not cpnceited, but i will admit a great deal of my friends are. I'm always feeling pressured by what everyone expects of me to be. Since i am one of the more well known kids literally im supposed to be a size 0, have had sex a bajillion times, never to lose my cool, and basically just be perfect. Here's the main issues: My natural body is a size 6, i know not huge but not a 0, so i have forced myself to throw up only a few times. I've never made it past first base, though i've been there MANY times. My family is so messed up: beyond normal dysfunction. My brother is gay and proud, and he got caught at the high school two years ago with drugs before being sent to rehab (THE ONLY STUDENT TO EVER BE SENT TO REHAB IN THE PAST 15 YEARS). I am always worried that someone at school will pair me with him and then i'd be ostracized. My parents have been divorced since i was a little under a year old and my mom works 16 hour days so i never see her or my stepdad, who is also a doctor. I mean I've got money, thats not the problem. The problem is i feel like im trapped in a small barred box and everyone is poking me and trying to get me to do tricks for them. I feel trapped. Its like i'm screaming in a crowded room but no one can here me. On the outside i have it all together, but on the inside? i'm losing it. Everything with me revolves around fitting in and being loved, i guess just because i never had that in my home life. And also being apart of this elite group of kids takes a toll on me to. Ive been programmed to think only certain things are beautiful and being different makes you a freak. Im always worried that as soon as i leave the group they'll talk about me because loyalty has no meaning in the inner circle. I have no doubt that half the people i hang out with would tear my rep apart if they were guaranteed my part in the "chain" Its a vicious cycle but now im stuck and i feel so alone.
Question: Anyone who's been here know how to relate and give me a good outlet?
you may not like this answer but what i would do is first off, find a good friend. a loyal one. not someone who's in your "in" crowd...try and meet someone outside of it and just talk to them and make other friends, then you will not always feel like you have to stay in that crowd. if you make a real friend you can tell them everything, thats what real friends do, so i honestly think theres no even point of having those "in" friends....alls they do is screw you over in the end (which i've experienced)
Thats really all i can say and i can almost gurantee you that if you meet the right person, they'll stand by your side and help you through this...who cares if they're not popular, real friends are better than fake friends
best of luck with everything.
17/f
first off, i love guys, they're pretty much amazing. especially the hot ones. and i can list so many great things about them.
well, sure i love guys, but i've been payin attention to girls also for a long time. like if i think she's pretty, i can't stop looking at her. and boob size doesn't mean much to me, but when girls where low cut shirts, i find that attractive. i even have a friend that is gorgeous no matter what she does with her hair or clothes and i love hangin out with her. but thing is, i can never find myself ever being with a girl or going out with a girl. it would just seem too weird to me.
could i just be curious? how can i get myself out of the habit of looking at girls?
this is definetly common. i have a friend whos really pretty and i always look at her and i think shes really attractive. and just like you i could never picture myself with a girl and i know that i love guys so much more and im positive that i'm straight....just because you think some girls are attractive doesn't mean anything really...us girls look at other girls, thats just the way it is and its completely common in straight girls. to get yourself out of the habit, just try to concentrate on what guys are wearing and how attractive they look and not so much on how other girls look because im sure other girls look at you as well.
For Cross Country, our last home meet is our Senior night. The juniors and underclassmen decorate the locker room and we get them each gifts. I am a junior and a captain this year so I want to try to make this night really nice for them so we are trying to start early (last home meet is in two weeks.)
We only have 5 girl seniors, so I was thinking of collecting 5 dollars from the 13 other girls on the team and get them blankets, popcorn, a mug, and some hot chocolate for meets and whatnot.
We have about 9 boy seniors. The thing is we do not know what to get them. There are about 15 other guys on the team, so we'll collect money from them and get them each something, but we don't know what to get them..
Does anyone have any suggestions for gifts for the Senior boys, even girls too would be apperitiated.
maybe you can get them shirts and have like a team picture on them and a bunch of balloons, or maybe sweatshirts with WE LOVE OUR SENIORS and then all of their names on the back..just some ideas =)
Hi,
I'm having trouble at home. We're having money roblems and my birthday is on saturday. I know, it's hard for my mom and dad but I really want to do something. I know I eventually am, but I don't know why it pains me not to do anything big on the day of my birthday. why do I sfeel selfish?
signed,
I feel selfish
selfish is an emotion and its normal to feel that way but you should keep in mind that you eventually will do something when the money problems with your parents aren't so tough. maybe you can just have a few friends over and do something less costly and then have a big party or something eventually.
Where can I get magnetic piercings and clip-ons (that look real and not cheap) and how much are they? I want my nose pierced but my mom is DEAD-SET against it (so I want a fake one[s])
i know claire's has magnetic piercings, they might be only for ears but you can try it...if not im pretty sure spencer's has them.
how could i get wavy hair like this
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alot of different things work and don't work depending on your hair type. you can try towel drying your hair after a shower then put your hair in a messy bun and hair spray it then take it out the next morning and you'll get waves like that, it looks pretty good =)
well this boy and i have had a "thing"(like crushes on eachother) for over a year. all our friends are friends with eachother, everything seems perfect. last year we were talking about making it offical but i hugged to many guys he says. but the crushes still remained. so we finally had a real date just the two of us. i finally admited i like him and he said he likes me too, but now its been about a month after the date and he NEVER calls or texts me EVER! i dont know what to do and i feel like im annoying if i try to callor text him. what should i do?
okay well first i think you should talk to him about you hugging guys. any guy that gets jealous of you hugging your guy friends is being immature. tell him that when you do that its out of friendship and nothing more and there's no need to get jealous. if you're positive you both like each other i think you should just ask him out. start texting him again and see how he reacts, if all is going good then i say you should just ask him out, alot of guys like confidence in a girl and asking him out is a great way to show it =)
On Facebook, does it announce that you, specifically have joined the school network you have denoted? For example, will other users see a message that says "John Smith has just joined the Blah Blah High School network?"
yeah it shows it in your mini feed and other peopls news feeds as well.
if you don't want other people to see it go to privacy in the upper right corner then go to news feed and mini feed and uncheck what you don't want others to see =)
I met a guy at the beginning of the summer and we've been spending a lot of time together... almost every day. I'm a virgin but I'm ready to have sex (save the sex speeches please, im 17 and i can make my own decisions) and I really want to with him.... i like him a lot and he likes me a lot. The other night we were getting pretty close... and he said "its up to you". After hearing him say this and knowing that it could really happen made me think... and kind of nervous. He's leaving in less than a month and he goes to school thousands of miles away. There's a chance I may never see him again... and if i did it wouldn't be for, like, a year. It makes me sad to think he's leaving and we can't be anything more than we are... and I'm wondering if sex would just make me even more emotional about it. Can I hear your thoughts and/or stories? Thanks!
well personally for me, i think that would get me even closer to him and i would become alot more depressed. i don't know if you're the same way though, but if you are i wouldn't do it. also, please correct me if i'm wrong, but he might just be using you for sex, is he on vacation? i know that alot of guys do that on vacation, just to go home and tell all their friends that they did it. im definetly not saying that he is, because i don't know him, its just a possibility to think about. in my opinion, if i knew i was never gonna see someone again, i wouldn't have sex with them, but thats just me. have you tried talking to him to make a time for you guys to see each other? well i'm sure your tired of hearing my bs haha, but if you have to ask this question to people because you're not sure, i would just say, don't do it.
good luckk =)