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So this is pathetic, I'm 17/F.
I just cannot find the right guy, or a guy at all. I have only a few guy friends, and I'm not even "close" with them anyways.
But I've never been in a real relationship ever, and I dont know whats wrong with me, I'm super out going, I talk to about anyone, I'm not shy... I meet tons of people, but none ever turn out to be more than friendship.
Arghh!
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First of all-this isn't pathetic at all.
With these things you really need to be patient. I know that's hard to hear-but every time that I have felt like there's no one out there, I end up telling myself to forget about it- and guess what. As soon as I do someone just walks into my life.
join a book club in your city, a volunteer group, or a gym. Those are all usually good places to meet new people- that are nice and intelligent =]
good luck!
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I know exactly how you feel i was the same way. in fact i just got into my first real relationship a little over 2 months ago and its been amazing so far.
please listen when i say that everything good comes when you least expect it. theres most likely nothing wrong with you im sure you're a great girl...go to a lot of parties, get out, do things, meet tons of people, and chances are someone will find to adore you.
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Maybe u should just wait for that someone to come to you, watch when you least expect it, or when your not even trying or thinking about having a boyfriend, somebody will show up, thats how it alwayz happens for me
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I know how you feel. I was that way in high school too. I had lots of guy friends in school but none that I actually called or called me on the phone (there was no email or texting to mention when I was in high school LOL and it wasn't THAT long ago!)
I tended to worry about being alone when I got older because I had never been in a relationship by the time I was 17/18 years old. I never really wanted a serious relationship anyway... I mean I thought I did... but then I really couldn't imagine getting REALLY serious with any of the guys I knew. I always found out something about them that I just "couldn't deal with" like one was totally into science fiction and that was boring to me. Mayby one liked country music and I just would NOT listen to country music.
I liked the idea of a relationship but to actually GET INTO one... I just didn't.
That turned out to be to my advantage. I developed some friendships with guys in college that weren't those nervous teenage involvements. I didn't have to be embarassed about our opinions differing, be embarassed about my parents/family... you know... more grown up stuff.
Then in my 2nd year of college I finally met a guy I actually wanted to be with all the time, unlike anything I had ever felt before. We turned out to be the best of friends having TONS of stuff in common. Nearly 11 years ago we got married and we have been quite happy since.
Don't get discouraged at 17 that you are not in nor have you ever been in a serious relationship. I believe everything happens for a reason and there may be a VERY good reason you have been consciously or even subconsciously holding out. You have plenty of time. Just enjoy having lots of friends. Practing being that fun person that everyone likes and eventually I am sure you will be rewarded for the wonderful person you are.
Oh, by the way... there is NOTHING wrong with you. You are great the way you are. Everyone sees that and eventually you will meet someone who is just as great as you who will deserve you and your time.
Best of luck.
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