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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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thank you so much for the help! but for lemon juice do you mean sqeeze it from a lemon or legit lemon juice in a bottle for cooking? and do you just put it on your face... will it make it oily or dry?
should i just stop washing my face a wait awhile to see what happens?
You can buy a bottle of lemon juice at the store and just take a little q tip or cotton ball and dab a little on the area you need it... it has never made my face dry out .. i just dab it on and leave it there while i brush my teeth and then I rinse it and I only do it once a day... also you might not want to stop washing your face because that may make it worse but you could also be wasing too much try just washing once in the morning and then once at night before you go to bed, also you could have sensitive skin and the soap you are using may be causing you problems tey using a mild soap or something that is actually made for face washing like noxzema... but remember dont leave it on for too long and always carefully read the directions for use... i once put stuff on my face and left it on too long and it made my whole face turn red and i had bumps every where it was horrible hope i helped :)
i Wrote a question on here, about my boyfriend of 2 years.. drinking and all that stuff, im really upset.. he hasnt drank yet, but hes flirting with girls,and he just thinks hes too young to be in a relationship, he left me hanging like i was nothing,no.. it really wasnt any stupid relationship..we were best friends,everything for eachohter, i helped him in his toughest moments, and so did he.. both our parents knew about us.. itsnot just stupid relationship.. it was real.. and thats why im so hurt.. i feel like he just threw me away for new girls, for new expireiences, i cant do anything right, i really need you to help me please.. i dont know how to move on, how do i.. how do i forget all those times when wed text,and talk ,and our kissing,,and everything how am i supposed to get over that.. i woke up to him, i slept to him.. everything=/ i dont know what to do anymore, theres no point getting with him, or trying.. cause whenever i do, he ignores my texts .. but yet when i talk to guys he calls me up and yells, and thinks im always flirting.. please.. i need your help... everyone keeps telling me to moveo n, i REALLY dont know how to :( pleaseee help me.. im so heartbroken.. how can he leave me for that.. seeing him flirting with girls scars me.. because im not even used to him talking to any gurls except for me.. which was a mistake.. we were too much on eachohther, and i told him we can fix it, he can do what he wants,but not bad stuff, and he said he wants to have fun.. please.. will he regret this? im crying so hard right now.. he used to be so nice, and listen to me allll the time, and was so sweet.. and now hes some jerk i dont even know anymore.. :( i felt comfortable writing you.. my heart felt good about you.. thank you for your help.. my heart is just torn apart.. i hate being inlove with him.
I am going to post something from off of my collum that I think applies to you and then I will write more
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You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!
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I know that it is so hard and you probably get so angry at the people who tell you to move on... but its not easy they dont understand the pain you are in... You cant just forget everything, you never will forget... you will always have the memories... but some day they wont hurt anymore... I am so glad that you came to me and you feel comfortable with me talking to you... I want you to know that I am here for you to help you and you can always come and ask me anything... if you would like I can even go a step further and give you my email address I dont normally do that but you seem to really need a good influence and someone in your life that you can talk to about anything and wont judge you.... if you need me I will be that person let me know if you would like my email address and always know that no matter what you can talk to me about anything and I will be here for you...
now I know that you are hurting and first I am going to tell you that even though you love him and you want to make things work out, he is not wanting to change and not wanting to come back so your best option is to just accept that the relationship is over it will help you heal faster... you can just get over a love that you had for so long... you loved him and trusted him and you dreamed of forever with him and it just totally sucks that he walked out... but let me tell you this you are going to find a great man someday who is going to be everything you have ever dreamed of and he is going to make you feel so wonderful and loved and special and beautiful just like he should... and you are going to be so happy... and someday when you are happy this boy that left you is going to regret that he left someone so wonderful and he is going to wish he never hurt you but it will be his loss because by then you will have moved on and then he is going to be the one who is alone and hurt...
it is okay to hurt its okay to cry and its okay to feel angry and upset.. you are going to make it through this I know you can... You have your whole life ahead of you and this boy is not the end of your world right now it feels like your life is over but its not! you can get through this, you will get through this, and I will be here to help you through!
hi(: im 15 almost 16. i hate when people say i have acne because im growing up. but i have used everything on my face at the store and it doesnt work. im not sure if its bumps or zits but their always on my forhead. my parents wont bring me to the dermotologist. my sister has the same thing as me but a little better and she said she was to lazy to wash her face so she did and it got a little better. do you have any reccomendations. i need help hah! thanks!(:
I use to have the same problem... It can make you feel a little insecure I know how that is.. My mom was the same she said that I was just growing and that I will be fine... So I decided to help myself I went online and looked up home remodies for acne and I found some things that really worked... I am going to post a few things from the website that I went to that helped me.. use this link to get to the page for more information..
http://www.home-remedies-for-you.com/remedy/Acne.html
some things that worked for me
Orange Peel Remedy for Acne
Homemade Acne Treatment with orange peel has been found very effective. Pound the orange peel with water on a piece stone and apply on acne affected areas. Orange peels are mildly acidic in nature and help to cleanse the skin of excess sebum. You can make a face scrub out of gram flour and orange peels. This is often used as one of the most effective home remedies for pimples and acne. Dry a few pieces of orange peel and grind them lightly so that you get a coarse powder. Mix this powder with an equal amount of gram flour and then add enough water to this powder to make it a thin paste. You can use fresh carrot juice and tomato juice to the powder instead of water as carrot juice is rich in Vitamin A while tomato juice is mildly acidic in nature. Massage your face with this paste and then leave it on for five minutes before rinsing it off with lukewarm or cold water.
Lemon Cure for Acne
A simple remedy at home for acne: Apply lemon juice regularly to reduce pimples and acne. This has proven beneficial results. Lemon juice is acidic in nature and also contains Vitamin C which is beneficial to overall skin health. If you have very sensitive skin, you can dilute the lemon juice with an equal amount of fresh mint leaf juice as this will help to reduce inflammation. This is also one of the popular home remedies for blackheads.
another thing I dont think is listed on the website is toothpaste... when you notice a bump or pimple forming apply toothpaste on it before you go to bed in the morning rinse off the tooth paste and in the morning the bump will either be gone or reduced in size by alot
good luck with this... every girl wants to feel pretty and its hard to think you are with acne, but remember even with the acne you are a beautiful girl and someday you will be looking at old pictures and you will realize that your acne wasnt as bad as you had thought and you were always beautiful
well since im a guy who likes phones i bought the lg optimus t and thought i loved it until i realized it really sucks(3.2" touch screen , 600 MHz processer and just really old) so i looked online and saw the samsung indulge and love it so does anyone know how i can get a samsung indulge for trading in a lg optimus please i love it so much (me and my gf have a understanding about that)
try going to celltradeusa.com its a website where you can buy sell or trade in your cell phones... good luck hope this helps
18/f
My sister wanted me to take a picture with her and she wanted me to get behind her sofa. So on my way behind, I got a slight cut either from the wooden part of her sofa (she has the sofa where it can pull out into a bed) or it was possibly a carpet burn. I put medicine on it when I got home, but it just became a brown line across my leg. Is there a way to get rid of it or to even heal? It's been a week, and I haven't seen any improvement. Help?
http://www.ehow.com/how_5613844_rid-scar.html
try checking out that website there it has information on how to lighten scars good luck
think my friend needs some serious help he has an obsession with a girl he hangs about with but she's not interested but he won't give up he insists on trying to make her love him which isn't going to happen she told him this last time they were out and he took 60 paracetemol so I was told.
He tends to lie about things as well and exaggerates on the truth to make himself look better I'm not sure what to do and he's becoming a danger to himself. The girls already cut all ties with him and isn't hanging out with him now but now he's even more obsessed.
They have never dated or had any sexual expereince what so ever with each other.
any advice would be appreciated or the name of the condition if it exists.
he is 20 years old and refuses to see a phsycologist and makes up lies about things going on his family and such whnever he knows your right to make it sound like everyone is against him.
Your friend really does need to get some help maybe try sitting down and talking to his family you dont want to let this go it could become dangerous... he may become so obsessed that he hurts this girl and you dont want that to happen... also warn the girl about how bad it is getting she may want to take out a restraining order or do things to keep herself safe... this is a very scary situationa and you dont want it to get out of hand good luck
Is 20 too young to move in with someone? I am about to get my bachelor's in a few months, I have a job with which I can support myself,and with a year or two more of experience there it will easily become a career. I live on my own, and I've been best friends with the guy for a year and a half. He is 25, is financially stable, has money saved up for a future family, he is responsible, lives on his own as well.
We haven't really talked about it much, but is it weird for me to want to settle down so young? There's no job I want more than to be a mother and wife. I would love to be a stay at home mom, and then work part time once the kids start school. Obviously, if my husband can't support the family while the kids are still too young to start school, I can work as well too, but the first alternative would obviously be the ideal because I'm not too keen on daycares.
Is it strange that I thought this all through? I don't want to rush into things, I want to start with moving in together first for a year or two, and seeing how that goes. Then getting engaged and married and all that (I don't really believe in long engagements, if I am going to agree to marry someone I would be ready to marry him that very second). I'm not a big fan of weddings either.
This man and I have survived through a ton, more than most relationships go through in such a short amount of time. Where most relationships fall apart, we stayed strong (but of course we had many fight and disagreements along the way, it hasn't been perfect, the important thing we resolved them and moved on).
Is this weird? Should I tell my man that my dream is to be a wife and mother? Right now he's working hard to save up money for the kids he plans to have, so I feel that its something he may appreciate hearing, but I don't want to freak him out by telling him I want this now (I want it in 3-5 years). And I know he doesn't want that right now either, he doesn't feel financially ready.
Any personal stories on how you took your relationship to the next level? I feel like the man should be the one who decides when that will happen, but will hinting ruin things? I don't want him to feel like I'm pressuring him, because I know that with him that's the worst way to go about things.
You seem to have everything thought out and planned and that is very good... its wonderful that you have a plan, being 20 and settling down isnt bad if you are ready, I was even younger when I got married and had my children... its okay to tell him what you want for your future let him know that you dont plan on rushing into it but you do want it... its very important to make sure you both want kids and marriage in the future... good luck on everything I wish you the best in your future... I hope you have many happy years :)
im 18/f
i'm currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. he's the first boyfriend i've ever had and the first person iv'e had any sexual contact whatsoever with. I also recently lost my virginity to him as well, and he wore a condom both times we've had sex.
Since we've started dating we had many discussions about sex and protection, and we both decided it would be a smart idea for me to go on the pill. However now that i actually might have to go on it, i'm having second thoughts...
You see, a year and a half ago i started to get EXTREMELY bad period pain that would leave me bedridden for up to 2 days. My period ever since i got it when i was 13 has always been irregular. The pain went away for about 4 or so months, however the irregularity was still there. My mum said back when i first got those pains a year ago that i might have to go on the pill, it was the only option left (we tried everything to lessen the pain and whatnot) however i was scared to go on it back then knowing how much weight my friends put on and their rapid mood swings. I have just lost over 19 kilo's that im proud of losing and the last thing i want is to put it back on. plus i like my personality and i dont want the mood swings or anything to change really.
but now that i have a boyfriend, i also want to be protected sexually from getting pregnant, i want to be very safe. Today i got my period, and im currently bedridden due to the extreme pain that im in at the moment. like i mentioned earlier the pain subsided for 4 months or so and now its back. Mum thinks i should go to the gynocologist and get checked out, and thinks that i may have to go on the pill.
and even though the pill would be bennificial to my period AND my new sex life, i cant help but not want to go on it due to the side effects that i may/may not get.
i dont know what to do
Always remember that even if you do put on a little weight it can always be taken off... I take birth contorl and I have not gained weight or had mood swings I am the same as I have been... but would you rather gain a couple pounds with birth control or gain alot more with pregnancy and also get a flabby belly and strech marks... also if you get pregnant you will get crazier mood swings when i was pregnant I cried over eating a peice of chicken (haha) birth control is the best option good luck
17/f
My group of 4 guy friends want me to sing with them in their reggae band, and I'm soo excited because I love singing and its on my bucket list to join a band. They play a show at least once a week at local lounges, clubs, bars..etc (im going to be 18 in a month so I dont have to worry about the age). A lot of the places get pretty packed with people.
My problem, hence the title, is my terrible stage fright. I know I have a really good voice, but when I know people are listening I freak out. I was in the top choir in my school, and even when I was with 20 other people I'd get so nervous. The only reason that the kid asked me to sing is that he heard me when I thought no one else was in the room haha.
Basically, what are some tips on overcoming this fear? Any techniques of relaxation or calmness, or even voice excersizes. Any other advice is also welcome :)
Thanks!
I also like to sing and I have had to sing many times in front of people,, I get terrible stage fright.. once i actually started having a panic attack... but now I can go on stage and overcome my fear by using a simple techniqe... before i go out there i imagine that i am completely alone, I block out all the noise (ear plugs help with this) and I stare at the back wall so it looks like I am looking at the audience but really im not... sometimes I like to think of a special person that i love and pretend that we are the only two in the room.. it seems to work for me maybe you can give it a try good luck
Websites like quibids.com advertise expensive products for 5% of the price. Is this legit?
I cant tell you that I know for a fact that these are legit but when my husband lost his wedding ring we bought him a new on on the bidz.com ... we got him a $340 ring for only $13 go we got a great deal on it. hope i helped :)
My husband is very verbally abusive. He also will not help me with money. I lost my job a year ago and I still pay everything and he will not help. If I leave can I get finacial help through the state or county.
I am sorry that you are having a hard time with your marriage, but yes if you leave and you have no job or income or even if you have income but not much of it the state will help you... you can go to your local welfare office and apply for foodstamps, also ask for information on cash assistance and low income housing and hud good luck and I wish you all the best
My girlfriend and I have been best friends from a young age. After a few dating fiascos on both our parts, we realized that we wanted to be with each other. We are 6 months into our relationship and we both couldn’t be happier…except for one thing. She works at a job which keeps her extremely busy for about 5 months in the year. During this time she gets some evenings off every other week, and about one weekend off a month. I’m at the point where I love her so much that I want to spend every second I get with her, but my 40 hour a week schedule doesn’t match up with her 95 hour a week schedule. I find myself getting frustrated with the lack of time I spend with her, and the lack of physical and emotional connection I feel with her working constantly. We spend less time together, talk/text less, and our sex life is pretty infrequent. I can’t be in a relationship that is like this nearly 50% of the year.
With how hard she works, she has been getting praises from her bosses, saying she can go anywhere within the company. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for her and her career. But because of this, her talk of possibly finding something else has changed to talking about staying for several more years. What’s worse is the fact that this is very close to her dream job, and what she went to school for. The time I get to see her, my frustration goes away, but then when she’s away I hardly feel like I’m in a relationship.
How do I bring up just how dissatisfied I am with her schedule? This is literally the only thing wrong in our relationship. I feel like bringing it up at all would push her away from me. I will be the one telling her that she shouldn’t pursue her dream, and getting out would inhibit her career. How can I effectively talk to her about and maybe even fix the situation?
I understand that this is hard on you... it is not easy to have a good relationship without being able to communicate often.. And if this is her dream job she may always be gone like this... If it bothers you that much you should definatly try to find the time to sit down and talk to her about it, explain that this is hard on you and you want to stay in ther relationship remind her that you love her and she is not doing anything wrong you just miss her, she may even consider cutting back on hours for work... I know its hard and it may not seem fair but she is just trying to make a good life doing what she loves but youre right you also need time and attention if you want to have a happy and healthy relationship... if this were me I would find some time take her out to dinner or somewhere you can be alone and just talk let her know how you feel dont be afraid to show emotion dont get angry or feel frustrated as you are talking to her tell her you love her and you need her, and ask her if there is any way that she can cut back a few hours a week... remind her that you are not trying to take her dream from her all you want is a little more time with her.. I wish you all the best good luck
It hurts for me to poop?
It hurts and it feels like theres a cut. When I wipe theres a little blood. The only way I can poop is when I drink some green tea. It stings. It hurts tho. I don't want a doctor looking at me down there tho. It feels like a cut, but I dont know. I have been drinking a lot of water and it hasnt helped. When I drink green tea, it makes it hurt less, but it still stings to go. What can I put on it to make it go away?
It sounds to me like you may have a hemmroid.. they can be pretty painful, if it is bleeding you might want to go and get it checked by a doctor... if you really dont want to I suggest you get hemmroid cream to put on it you dont want to leave it untreated... there is only one other thing I can think of that could cause this, if you had anal sex you could have tore a little.. it would be best to go to a doctor.. I know that it can feel a little odd, trust me I have been there I had two children and doctors were always lookin at me in my private areas and I did not like it but its for the best I wish you all the luck with this and I hope you feel better soon.
On Tuesday night really late I had I had unprotected sex. I just got off my period and I started taking birth control. I took it two days before I had sex. So I'd had only taken 2 pills I wasn't sure if he came in me or not. I went to the bathroom a little while after and saw that clear liquid was in my underwear sometimes when I've had sex before it was there but not this much. The day after it happened I didn't feel sick or anything. Now it's two days later and I'm still taking my birth control And my stomach hurts a little but its more like a hunger hurt cause I haven't eaten today. Could I be pregnant?
Even when taking birth control there is still a risk of getting pregnant.. It is highly unlikely to get pregnant while on birth control but there is still a chance, my advice always use a condom with or without birth control if you dont want to get pregnant.. also you had only been taking the pill for two days so your chances the birth control was already working is slim... try reading the package to find out how many days it take for the birth control to start working or call your doctor or pharmacist... if you are worried about pregnancy I suggest you wait a few weeks and take a test or go to the doctor... also remember to always always use a condom especially if you are taking an antibiotic while taking birth control antibiotics reduce the effectiveness of birth control good luck :) also remember your stomach hurting could just be a side effect of the birth control pill you have just started taking it and your body is just getting use to it
I've been dating this guy for about a year and he says he's ready for us to take our relationship to the next step but every time we'd come close to having sex I'd ask him to stop. The thing is, I was sexually abused as a child (it started at about 5 or 6 and didnt end until I was 12), which he doesnt know. His younger brother (my best friend) and my older sister who helped stop the abuse are the only ones that know about it. Im actually surprised that I can talk about it here. Anyway, because of that Im just really nervous about having sex (to say the least). I know theres a difference between rape and sex. And I like kissing and making out with Kevin, but whenever he touches me or when he starts to get a little rough from being so 'over excited' I just freeze up or freakout. He thinks Im being a tease which is definitely not the case, so ofcourse we just end up fighting and its just soo emotionally draining for me. Ive tried to tell him about what happened but I just cant. He seems to just be getting more and more frustrated (he's not a virgin, in fact he's far from it). The last time I'd asked him to stop he got angry and said that if I wouldn't sleep with him he'd find someone who would. Im sure he didnt mean it but It really hurt me, and scared me because I know that if he wanted to he could. Im trying soo hard and I love him soo much. He's a great guy; He's nice, funny, smart and he's gorgeous. He's all Ive ever wanted. I just really don't want things to end between us. What should I do? (Im 18 and he's 23, he's my best friend's brother and I've known him for 3 years.)
If you really love this guy its best to just tell him I know it is hard but he needs to know why you are pulling back and if he loves you he will take it slow and he will understand and wait until you are ready. If you are having a hard time letting him know than write it in a letter or show him your post on here... I am so sorry you had to go through such an awful expirience.. just know that sex when you are willing and in love is nothing like rape... good luck I wish you all the best
Hi Im Gracie and Im 13. How do people know that God is real? I think I believe in God, but Im not sure. I pray sometimes, but when I do, I dnt feel anything. Its like Im talking to myself, and sometimes I feel a little weird. My dad says he believes in God but he's not really religous. he only goes to church because his girlfriend Katie makes him (shes SUPER religuous). Anyways I guess what I want to kno is, If you cant see him or hear him, how do you know he's there. If there is a God, will I go to hell because I wasnt sure that he was real? If God's real, do all the people that belive in other religions go to hell?? Its really confusing!
Gracie sweets, there most definatly is a God, he created you and loves you very much and when you pray God is listening, maybe even answering you, you just have to have faith and believe and listen closly.. look deep inside your heart and you will know God is there
My daughter is 13 and I'd like for her to start paying for her new clothes, accesories, and basically everything. Of course I would still pay for her food and keep a roof over her head. She doesn't have a job but she gets $5 a week for allowance. Do you think it's okay to make her start paying for stuff?
Having your daughter start making her own money and having her by things on her own is a very great idea... she is only 13 so you may want to up her allowance a little and teach her if she wants something she has to save the money to buy it... still provide her food and clothes that she needs but if she wants something extra like a hat or an extra shirt tell her to save up maybe give her small task to earn the money since she cant yet get a job she has to learn how to handle money and how to save for what she wants good luck
I'm fourteen and I am babysitting an eight year old girl and 5 year old boy for the next three and a half weeks. My first day was today, and I was already running out of ideas, which scared me to death! Any recommendations?
I have two small children of my own... Kids love it if you get down on the floor and play with their toys with them,.... parents love it if you teach them things create flash cards with simple math problems or easy to read words on them... read stories let them help you make healthy snacks... my kids love it when we cut up fruits and veggies and then make faces on our plates before we eat them... have fun with them they are easy to entertain but remember they also have a short attention span
19/f
For some reason I have noticed that I have always been more attracted to "bad boys." My stomach seems to flip for the guys who treat me the worst. I end up dating sweet and romantic guys but in the end I have dumped them for players and jerks who didn't have true feelings for me. This has happened about 3 times since I started dating at age 14. Is there any explanation for this?
Maybe you are afraid to be with the nice guys you know what to expect from the "bad boys" they will use you and then drop you like a bad habit, but you tend to be with them because you know what to expect and you stray from the good ones because you know they can make you fall for them and you dont want to REALLY get hurt hope i helped
Is there anyway to make your voice sound better when your singing? I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm not the best singer but I'm deft not the worst. I just need help and advice. Thanks! :)
Try going to singing classes, or joining chorus when school starts up again.... practice and you will do good