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I want some female friends, however when they see me(am not dat bad @ looks either) i dont find any enthusiasm in them which really puts me off to start of a converstation, how do i cope with it? is it right to talk about sex with them after couple of converstations

I found it hard to make friends at first, too. I was (and still am) a little shy. I found that just saying 'Hi', or 'Whats up' to girls that sit next to me in class did just the trick. The key is to communicate, even if it's just for a few minutes. Crack a joke, make fun of the teacher that you both dislike, ask her what time class gets out, ANYTHING. Pretty soon, you'll find that these girls will actually smile and say hi to you in the hallway. They might be a little intimidated or will think that you don't find them interesting.

Just talk to them.

Every day i have discharge, and i've went and got medications to get rid of it. I think its a UTI or a bladder infection but i'm not sure. I tried to take pills to get rid of it but i can't swallow them. I've had this discharge for years, and when me and my boyfriend get done having sex some of it sticks to his private area. He doesn't seem to mind it much, but i feel terrible about it. I just want it to go away, but it won't. I take a shower almost everyday, and i'm a clean person. Any advice?

It's normal. I promise.

HOWEVER, if you notice that it has an unappealing smell, or is textured, this is the time to see your doctor to treat the infection.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html

By the way:

I have discharge every day too. I shower every day, and I have good hygiene.

Carry an extra pad/pantyliner in your purse when you're feeling a little 'wet' down there.

I need to start seeing a counselor, but idk where to find one in my area.
Brunswick, georgia. help please.

http://www.switchboard.com/swbd.main/dir/results.htm?MEM=46&KW=Marriage+%26+family+counselors&LO=City+of+brunswick%2C+GA

I know that it says 'marriage' counselor as well, but there are plenty of links for family counselors too.

love songs are good too.
idontknow but they make me miss him.
here are some that i already like.

goodbye to you
tim mcgraw (taylor swift)
breathe
so contagious
the alamo is no place for dancing
with me
getting into you
your guardian angel
only one

i dont like metal/screamo.
or top 40 music.
so what are some songs that have to do with breakups? or love songs?

thanksabunchhxx

http://breakup-songs.com/best100songs.html

That should be VERY helpful.

http://breakup-songs.com/bestcountrysongs.html

Since you posted some country songs.

does anybody know the dance steps to the song were all in this together from highschool musical.. im doing it at the after school program with students... please and thanks

I'm not sure if there is an EXACT website that will give you direct dance steps, but just repeatedly watching the YouTube video sequence should help you out too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7zzbB17Fvo

Remember to take it one step at a time. It might also help to get up, step back from your computer, and play the video (occasionally stopping) while trying to copy the dance moves.

I hope that helped a tad.

a couple of my best friends found out that i was cutting myself and that i was depressed but then i got a therapist and am doing good. but not even like 3 days after they found out they stopped calling me to hangout and they were acting weird. so now they dont call me on weekends and its like were not even friends even more ! im sooo upset because right now i could really use some support and friendship while im going through this. this whole situation with my friends is making my other problems seem worse and its not helping at all! i know you guys are gonna say why would you want friends who do that and i know they arent being good friends but im kinda shy and its hard for me to make new friends. and even if i make new friends i cant go telling them all my problems becuase that would just be wierd you know? i have not confronted my friends about this. and i really dont think i can. im so emotionally unstable. it would just be a disaster and honestly i dont want to be friends with them. i guess i just want them to realize how much there hurting me. they have no idea :(

I know exactly what you mean by this. I'm not a cutter [and will never be, no offense intended], but I can relate to the feelings that you are stumbling upon where it feels like you have nobody there to help you when you really need it the most. I know that you told us not to say this, but I really do want to emphasis how rude your 'friends' are being. Aren't friends supposed to pick you up when you're down? Just think about it. Surely you've helped them through a tough situation or two, so why can't they do the same? I'm not asking you to answer this question, but you really need to sit down and review this in your head. This is the time (during your teen years) where you will be making tons of decisions that can either be beneficial, or were just weren't worth worrying about in the first place.

It is in my best interest to help you to realize that you CAN make new friends. I used to be extremely [

By 2 weeks I have to pick a novel that is fictional, min. of 200 pages, and is appropreate for a catholic school.

Any suggestions or what you picked on your first year of highschool and was successful?

Btw, I'm a slow reader, if it narrows down your list.

I agree with the first columnist about Water for Elephants. It's an excellent book, and I just picked it up at the local library. I haven't been able to put it down since I checked it out. I'm not going to spoil the story for you, but you can look for a synopsis online if you like.

However, I'm going to have to say that the Clique series is not exactly the best read that you can find. I just don't think that a book focusing on rich, spoiled, middle schoolers is the most educational book (since this book is for your school, right?).

Anyways, some other great books are included on this website:

http://marylaine.com/bookbyte/ya.html

my boyfriend and i make out and sumtimes when we do this on a couch or w/e i move my hips on him and he like moves on me too and we are really close and like on each other and he says its like having sex with your clothes on. is that what it is and any other info about it. im just wondering about it so anything is helpful even things to do that will turn him on more please! :)

What you're doing is basically 'dry humping', the name is self explanatory. This is perfectly normal, and it's a much safer, cleaner, and condom-free method of having fun and still getting that 'rush' of excitement. What you want to know is how to achieve 'foreplay'.

Onto the tips:
[Side note: I will be VERY vague, partially because of the younger users on this website; and I'm not one who will go into detail.]

- Try different kissing techniques.
[Listerine, Passing an Ice Cube around with your mouths, Spiderman-style, ect.]
- Guys LOVE to be touched on the back of the neck. While you're kissing, run your hands through his hair, and slowly work your way down to his neck. Try to avoid 'tickling' him, if he is a ticklish one, he will squirm and it will ruin the whole point of that kiss. Let your fingers linger there for a second.
- Take some control. If he's just standing, give him a little push, and just start kissing.
- Suck on his bottom lip, give a GENTLE bite on his neck.
- Give him a massage!
- If you are home alone, try dressing up a little more than usual, light some candles, prepare his favorite dessert. It's a little way of showing him appreciation & love.

Um, I'm not sure if you got this or not, cuz this thing is being stupid. If you did, I'm sorry, but if not, here it goes.

I think I'll take your advice and go to my mom. But the only problem now is her reaction. She does not aproove of stuff like this, and she might explode. I'm just nervous, and now i just don't know what to do if she flips, and I don't know how to tell her this. God, I can see it now. "Hey mom! I'm coming to tell you something I've held in for two freakn months now: I am to believe I am depressed, that's why I never hang out with you, dad, little sis, and the rest of my friends and family! This also explains why my eyes are always so red; I'm always crying. Oh, and to top itall off, I've been slicing my wrists. (rolls down sleeves)"
Ya, I'm just confused. Thank you so much for the advice, and if you ever need advice yourself, I will attempt to help you.

Many thanks.

Ah ha! So you were talking about the therapy question.

I just answered it. Sorry that it took so long, I was washing some dishes.

=)

ok, I think I will take your advice....but now I'm scared out of my mind!!! My mom is like, crazy about these sorts of things! Any advice how to, you know, tell her?

Thank you sooooo much. If you ever need any help, ask me, and I'll try to figure something out.

Are you talking about the therapy question?

If so, I think that the best thing to do is to bring it up slowly, don't just dump the whole idea onto her since you just said that she freaks out about these kind of things. My mom is kind of the same way. I know if I said that I needed to go to therapy, my mom would start asking questions like a madman [or woman in this case]. Start by casually bringing it up while she's dropping you off at the school, while you are at the grocery store with her, some casual places. A bad time would be at a cousin's birthday party with all of your family members around.

This is an idea for a conversation:
"Hey Mom, I really want to talk to you about something, but you have to promise not to get mad. I've been feeling really down lately, and I really want to get help so that I can feel better. I want you to understand that not everything has been working in my best interest so far, and I want to make things better for me, and [family members names here]".

Of course, it doesn't have to sound that 'professional', but you get what I'm saying. Take it little by little. I hope that your mom will listen to you, and I'm sure that she would if you really took the time to explain the situation instead of just rushing through with it.

Message me if you need more advice.

I think I'm depressed. I get offended so easily, cry everyday without a reason, don't have as much energy as I used to, and I want to avoidpeople as much as possible. I'm scaring my parents, relatives, and some friends. I cut my wrists and don't want to see any freakn guidance counclers. Any advise to cue depression?

If you do not want to speak with a guidance counselor, I highly reccommend seeing a therapist. I don't want to make it seem like you are antisocial/a freak [anything along those lines], but I think it would be in you and your family's best interest to get some help. Remember that there are millions of people like you, so you are definitely not alone. I can see why you don't want to see a guidance counselor. The topic of cutting your wrists will come up, and I'm almost positive that the GC will mention something about it to the principals/higher authorities [which you don't want].

So please, if you can, ask your mom to call up some local therapists and schedule an appointment.

I wish you the best of luck.

would you go out with someone who is going to graduate at the end of may. he's a year ahead of me and im scared that i'll get too attached. would you forget the risk and take the fall?

Take your chances. You don't know when you'll see him again, so why not just try it out? However, it all depends on how 'attached' you get [like you stated]. If you are one that gets attached easily [based on past experiences], know that there will be other guys. If you don't get attached easily, then just go for it.

You didn't really state your past experiences. I would have been able to judge based off of that.

Best of luck.

hey i wanna get a new ringtone, does anyone know any good techno songs? thankss.

The ringtones service for your phone might not include these songs. I personally have not heard of these myself. Try myxertones.com or phonezoo.com if you cannot find these songs.

artist on left; song on right.

alex gaudino - destination calabria
calabria - ENUR
kena - say goodbye to love
DJ Godfather - Crank Dot
Style Of Eye - The Big Kazoo
ZZT - Lower State Of Consciousness (Justice remix)
Daniel D - The Most Funk (Reaky remix)
Josh Gabriel - Summit
Popof - My Toyz
Sasha - Park It In The Shade

I'm always in a good mood. i'm always smiling when people say something to me, and people always ask me why i'm always smiling. I don't have a excuse, it's just a reaction. I don't smile unless somebody say something to me, other than that i'm calm or sometime 'mean mugging' as i say. But can you be too positive all the time?

I am like you, but my problem is laughing. It's almost like a natural reaction to laugh at anything and everything (to me). A few people get annoyed, but who cares? It's not like you're one of those people who portray themselves like an idiot sans common sense.. if you see what I mean. If they have a problem with you, don't retaliate. Just ignore them.

I have a very big problem. I have a MEAN band director. I want to quit, but don't want to. What should I do?

Honestly?

Not every teacher is going to turn out the way you want them to be; and treat you like their little obedient puppy dog. However, (and if you are prepared to do this), you will need to do a bit of sucking up. Offer to help him/her to carry some instruments, or just make small talk. (How are you?/Hello.) Even smiling helps. I was blessed to have Satan has a Cooking teacher. I smile, and do a lot of it, and don't complain until I'm out of her sight. Get on their good side. It might take awhile, but you should definitely not quit.

Recently I have lost a friendship due to trust issues. Basically the person said I lied, which I honestly do not believe I did. Other people added to the fight even though they were completely wrong and fueled the fire. So I was hanging out with a few friends.. Well my one friend didnt like these friends and when I tried to hang out with both it kinda blew up. The friend who is upset (rather hates me)also says I betrayed her before which I did not, and people can back me up on that. I have explanations and reasons for everything I did and was even the bigger person who apologized. She did not accept, called me fake & a joke and now hates me. How can I prove/show to her that I am trustworthy and want to remain friends? Sorry this was long but it takes time to explain. WWhat should I do?

Let her get over herself. You are indeed, adding fuel to the fire yourself by trying to 'chase' her. Give her some time. It might take days, weeks, or even a few months. If she really wants to be your friend and considers herself a true friend, she'll stop acting ridiculous and realize that the friendship was basically ruined by a nasty situation and a few good (not literally) rumors.

I highly suggest not continue to try and 'fix' the situation because you will, indeed, make it worse. If she says 'hi', you say 'hi' back. When she's ready to talk, go ahead and talk to her. Don't try to initiate the whole conversation about the situation.

I've been through this situation many, many times in middle school. It was pure hell, but it blew over quite quickly.

Let her come to you.

Message me if you need more advice, I'd be happy to help.

whats that one song that they sing, where at the beginning, they kinda do like a witch type laugh. then later in the song they are like "let me tell you now, we've got prices to pay alright" and i've tried looking it up on google, but nothing showed up. and i can't remember the name. Could someone help me out with that?

**EDIT**
Sorry, I skipped over the 'witch cackle' part. My mistake.

Both Larger than Life and That's the Way I Like It include something about paying some sort of price.

LTL states paying a price to fame.

TTWILI states 'It's the price I got to pay'

**END EDIT**

"That's the Way I Like It"

http://www.mp3lyrics.org/b/backstreet-boys/thats-the-way-i-like-it/

Yeah, I've spent agggeeess trying to find out what song is playing in mean girls when Lindsay/Cady is at the Hallowe'en party.
It's like the one with the female singer..
any help?
:P

Thanks!

"Operate" by Peaches

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A4OG-BS_P4

Prom is about 3-4 months away! I use Retin-A-Micro for my acne. And I used scrubs too which was a bad idea cause it's scars and left brown spots on my upper back. What can I do/use to get rid of this by prom?!? Please helppp

Neutrogena has a body wash that helps fight acne on your back.

http://www.shopinprivate.com/neutoilfreac.html

That's what it looks like.

It should be around $6-$7 and you can find it at your local Walmart/CVS/RiteAid/Target/Walgreens/ect.

ok so theres this boy ive known since this yr .. he was in all my classes in school . he just moved to a different city . the other day he texted me saying "i have a cam" meaning webcam then he says "give me your cam so i can see you". so later on in the day i signed online & said to him i thought that you don't like me. he says not as a g/f maybe as a friend then the next day i said to him i might go on cam then i said do i go on yeah or no he says its up to you so i said yeah or no then he says yeah i go on the webcam so you can only see my face & part of my neck . (im not naked ) or anything but why does he wanna see me on the webcam? like i wanna know if he wants to be my friend?or what . like maybe hes scared to say he likes me ? . whats he doing ?please help ! 15/f .. thanks ;]

It can either mean:

a] He wants to see you naked. [Have you ever been to chat rooms where guys are all like, 'I have a cam', meaning that they want to show you-know-what on camera].

OR.

b] He really does like you and wants to see your face [like he says] and might be too freaked out to admit it [like you said].

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