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whyyyyy are they doing this
a couple of my best friends found out that i was cutting myself and that i was depressed but then i got a therapist and am doing good. but not even like 3 days after they found out they stopped calling me to hangout and they were acting weird. so now they dont call me on weekends and its like were not even friends even more ! im sooo upset because right now i could really use some support and friendship while im going through this. this whole situation with my friends is making my other problems seem worse and its not helping at all! i know you guys are gonna say why would you want friends who do that and i know they arent being good friends but im kinda shy and its hard for me to make new friends. and even if i make new friends i cant go telling them all my problems becuase that would just be wierd you know? i have not confronted my friends about this. and i really dont think i can. im so emotionally unstable. it would just be a disaster and honestly i dont want to be friends with them. i guess i just want them to realize how much there hurting me. they have no idea :(
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If your already cutting your wrists and then your friends dont understand that they need your support and leave you like that, then thats just making it worse. Try talking to them and telling them how you feel and how there hurting you and not helping after trusting them.
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I know exactly what you mean by this. I'm not a cutter [and will never be, no offense intended], but I can relate to the feelings that you are stumbling upon where it feels like you have nobody there to help you when you really need it the most. I know that you told us not to say this, but I really do want to emphasis how rude your 'friends' are being. Aren't friends supposed to pick you up when you're down? Just think about it. Surely you've helped them through a tough situation or two, so why can't they do the same? I'm not asking you to answer this question, but you really need to sit down and review this in your head. This is the time (during your teen years) where you will be making tons of decisions that can either be beneficial, or were just weren't worth worrying about in the first place.
It is in my best interest to help you to realize that you CAN make new friends. I used to be extremely [<-- that's emphasized] shy all throughout elementary and middle school. I was the kid that stayed inside during recess to finish reading my book. No, I wasn't a 'nerd', but I was terrified of making a fool of myself and being rejected. I've come to a conclusion that I have only one life to live, and SO WHAT if you piss a few people off and if you're humiliated. It's OK. It will pass. Like me, it's hard for you to move on. And I know what it feels like. I don't want to sound like your mother, but I think that this is a great time to start spending some time with your family. If you're not really into that, (which is fine), then I think it might be the perfect time to pay your counselor a visit. The tension is going to build up and you'll find it very nerve wracking to not be able to just let it out. You won't be 'weird', or anything along those lines. It's okay to ask for help when you need it. And also, it's okay to cry.
I hope that your friends realize the mistake that they're making. Maybe if they see you hanging out with some new people, they'll realize that they shouldn't have pushed you away and ignored you to begin with.
I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
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