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I think I'm depressed. I get offended so easily, cry everyday without a reason, don't have as much energy as I used to, and I want to avoidpeople as much as possible. I'm scaring my parents, relatives, and some friends. I cut my wrists and don't want to see any freakn guidance counclers. Any advise to cue depression?
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You do sound as though you have depression. It's actually more normal than you may think, and it's often called the "common cold" of psychology.
It pretty much sucks, I'm not going to lie, and there are a lot of different opinions on it.
My main advice would be for you to try to open up to friends and family more, no matter how weird you may feel about doing this. Really, it helps so much to be able to be with people that can make you laugh and forget about the crap going through your head, even if for a couple of minutes.
Try as well, no matter how sad you feel, to keep up the things you normally do. Depression's a cruel disease because it makes you feel too crappy to get out and do anything, when this is often the only thing that will truly help, and ironically a huge part of it's cure.
Another thing that helps a lot is finding some sort of outlet (other than cutting) that can help you vent your emotions. This can be anything that makes you feel satisfied. I can't say what will or will not work for you, but personally, what helps me get through this is reading, answering these questions, listening to insanely loud music and drawing. Keeping a journal can be a great outlet as well. It doesn't matter if you can or cannot write, but the act of getting everything you feel out of your body, where it's all bottled up, and onto a sheet of paper helps a lot. Exercise has also been shown to help "cure" depression, that and getting enough sleep at night. Once again, though, this is hard to do because depression will make you want to lie down and do nothing.
I'm telling you now that this isn't going to be easy. A lot of the time you'll feel like giving up, like running away from everything. It's gonna take a lot of will to fight that, and you'll have to fight that if you really, truly want a cure.
A lot of the solution to this is little steps everyday, a lot of the time just focusing on everything moment by moment to make it through.
I know you don't want to see a guidance councilor, and I sympathize completely. The ones at my school, at least, are pretty remote when it comes to students. However, this really isn't an excuse for you not to get some kind of help. It's not perfect, and it can take a lot of time to get some kind of solution, but I find that it does work in the end of all this.
Don't be afraid to try a lot of different therapists/psychiatrists to find one you feel comfortable with. You may feel uncomfortable with one "freakn guidance counselor" but this doesn't mean that they are useless, or even that they are all remotely similar. Like I said, there are many different approaches to curing depression, but getting some kind of help is key. Living with it and not asking for any help ever isn't a sign of strength, and, as you probably already know, it kindof sucks.
Please resist the urge to run away from everyone right now. It's not easy or quick, but depression can be cured in baby steps with help and a lot of hard work. Hang in there. In time, this whole thing will help you become a wiser, more compassionate person, though it doesn't feel too great right now.
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You can't cure cancer on your own babe, and you can't cure depression on your own either.
That is just the facts of life, and biology.
And it's the depression talking ;) It really does behave like a virus in your brain, and makes you believe a whole bunch of things (like not wanting to see a counselor) in order to keep you depressed.
The first step in 'curing' depression, is talking to someone who knows how to help, like a counselor or a therapist.
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If you do not want to speak with a guidance counselor, I highly reccommend seeing a therapist. I don't want to make it seem like you are antisocial/a freak [anything along those lines], but I think it would be in you and your family's best interest to get some help. Remember that there are millions of people like you, so you are definitely not alone. I can see why you don't want to see a guidance counselor. The topic of cutting your wrists will come up, and I'm almost positive that the GC will mention something about it to the principals/higher authorities [which you don't want].
So please, if you can, ask your mom to call up some local therapists and schedule an appointment.
I wish you the best of luck.
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