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Not really a health question I guess but is there a way to get rid of a few zits I have like 4 and I want them to go away!!! Is there something at HOME I can try to use to make them go away or get smaller? I don't really wanna go buy something b/c I have oxypads but those take a few days... so please help me! O and I heard toothpaste helps is this true? thanks!!!
ps. 13/f (link)
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The toothpaste thing is really no more effective than using something like clearasil. In fact, toothpaste would be less effective.
You can always try using a drying agent, and then following with an antibacterial ointment like neosporin to kill the infection inside the zit.
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hey all well were do i start i have been with my common-law husband for 5 years and in the last year ive meet someone online and fell for him he fell fo me too but about 2 night ago he ended it cuz i was with someone already which hurt bad he thought it was for the best but i dont think it was and i dont know what to do please help me (link)
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Sounds to me like it is time for a bit of introspection. You need to step back and set some priorities for yourself... if you've been with someone 5 years, that, to me anyway, is a bit of a commitment. Are you really willing to just throw that away for someone you met on the 'net? Think about that.
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OK i weigh about 130 and im not fat but not super skinny my legs are mostly muscle b/c i used to be a catcher and i want to get my legs to be smaller without making my leg muscles bigger what do i do?? (link)
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honestly - stop working out your legs. Do nothing to add muscle bulk to your legs, in fact, I would recommend not even doing very many toning excercises for them.
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Okay so I've been goin out with guy for about...4 months and i dont really like him.But it would feel soo weired if i dumped him bcuz hes a big part in my life.Idk what to do... (link)
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4 months, while it might seem like a long time, really isn't that long.
If you think you need to break off the relationship, you are better off doing it sooner rather than later.
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OK I'm really in love with my ex, but he doesn't love me. He flirts with another girl which causes me to get jelious, and I try to flirt with him but he doesn't wanna know and I feel my whole life is falling apart because of it my friends say i should be over him but all i can think about is him (link)
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It sounds as if you are obsessing over him. That, or you are longing for the relationship and whatever intimacy that was lost, which is also common. You need to force yourself to realize that he's gone - he's not yours and you have no choice but to move on. I'm not saying it is easy to do, but you have to do it. Move on. You'll find someone else eventually.
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I have a 1 yr old male neutered siberian husky that loves to play. I got another male 1and1/2yr old husky from the pound. i got him neutered and the two of them live in a fenced yard together. The problem is that the new husky is protective over me and his food, blanket etc. If I am not around, the two dogs play and have fun. When I am around, the new husky growls and has even bitten the other husky and tends to start a fight.
Will he overcome this attitude or is it just his personality and needs to find a new home with no other animals? (link)
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Your new dog is trying to protect you. It sees you as the head of the pack. While you are around, you are the alpha dog. When you leave, your absence allows him to assume some of what dogs have as alpha traits - that means that he will try to subjugate the other dog so that he can become #2. This is normal. Your old dog is used to how thing work in your pack - he hasn't had to worry about pack politics (dog style, that is), so he's just trying to go about his business... and his business is being disrupted by the new dog. Right now, only time can tell what the outcome will be. However, if the biting continues, you might have a problem. Let your vet know, and keep an eye on the situation. If it worsens, you'll probably be forced to address the situation somehow.
p.s. - selectopaque's advice rules.
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do you think it is weird that a 17 year old is going out with a 13 year old, even if they love eachother more than anything in the world? (link)
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Honestly - yes. The maturity differences between a 17 year old and a 13 year old are often very, very large. 4 years during the teenage years is a huge differnce. 4 years later in life is insignificant, but when that young, that is indeed a very big difference and people will question the relationship.
Dear moron - you quote to me about soul mates. At the age of 13 and 17, there is NO WAY IN HELL you'll know if you are soul mates or not. I'm sorry you didn't like what I had to say, but the thing is, I'm not wrong. You've got a hell of a lot yet to learn in life, you're going to find many things out, and your entire view of the world changes from the age of 13 to the time you get through college years at around 22/23. You'll be a totally different person.
I met the woman I married when I was 18. The thought of us spending our lives together forever didn't really finalize until we got engaged a few YEARS later.
I do not appreciate being berated for my advice when you clearly aren't willing to listen to what I had to say.
p.s. - Learn to spell.
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do you believe in soul mates? (link)
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Ask my wife.
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I wanna "flirt with this guy .. But i don't exactly know how .. What's your definition of flirting ??
Thanx Bunches (link)
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read my advice given on this question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=259787
I hate repeating myself.
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ok it all started one saturday when my moms friend neede a babysitter! I am grounded and i am not allowed to leave the house. But i really neede the money. MY lil sister got offered to babysit the next Saturday. She is only 10 and i am 15. I was soooo mad at her 4 doin that to me. She made a face at me like she was proud that i didn't get to babysit. Should i hate her and ignore her? I needed the money to raise for a car. I have always wanted a car. should i try and be as rude as possible or just get over it. Since my sister gets $50.00 for 5 hours! Please help me! (link)
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Your sister is not at fault here, so I'd recommend leaving her out of it... afterall, she is only 10, and you should expect her to act the way she did.
However, you are 15. To dish it back to your sister like an angry and immature person would only show your parents that you are not ready to even think about having a car.
If you're grounded, there must be a reason, and as much as it sucks, you have to take the punishment and move on.
Personally, I think it is stupid that you were not allowed to babysit - an opportunity to work like that should allow the punishment to be set aside, as babysitting shows resonsibility and maturity, which I would hope are goals of yours, especially if you are eyeing a car in the future (since cars cost money, the gas costs money, and the insurance costs money).
If I were you, I'd try to calmly voice your disappoinment with your parent's decision to not allow you to babysit, and explain why you feel that way. Again, the goal here is to do this in a calm and level-headed manner.
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Im just wondering how i can see what people rated my ideas after i gave them advice...if sum 1 could just show me how that works, cuz ppl are saying that they rate good so im wondering also why that is important (link)
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over on the left side, there is a link that says, "Your Advice Column"... click it. Once that is loaded, click the "View Feedback" link at the top of the page.
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okay i broke it up with my boyfriend and now he wont talk to me and i dont know why i really miss talking to him it kinda makes me mad sometimes like he is hiding some thing from me...i really dont know (link)
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Let's think about this...
you broke up with him.
Odds are, he's hurt, he's upset, and he's angry. He's likely hiding the fact that you really pissed him off and really hurt him emotionally.
It takes time for such wounds to heal. Of course he's not all happy to see you and talk to you. You dumped him.
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Hey, im really scared about doing stuff sexually with a guy because of some of the stuff with my body..do guys care what a body looks like? i have stretch marks on my boobs because they grew so fast..and i have little dots on my but..and i dont know why? i just wanted to ask you if a guy cares about what his girlfriends body looks like to do sexual stuff with her.. i havent done anything yet...but im scared of what might happen when we do stuff..thanks! (link)
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If you're scared as such, then you're not ready. And whether you like it or not, you'll find that many guys will care how you look, because, particularly at younger ages, people tend to be a little more on the superficial side of things - that's just human nature.
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Im doing so bad in school! I have an F, a D, and the rest are all C's and B's..my mom keeps saying if i dont bring my grades up (she said this when i got my last report card which wasnt as bad as this one) that she will not let me do anythingg besides my school work and after school activities! Ugh..i cannot imagine what i am going to say to my mom that im FAILING? Has anyone ever done/said anything that works? Also how do i stop procrastinating and STUDY&do homework?? (link)
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To stop procrastinating: get some self control and some discipline. No one can tell you any magic tricks to get your ass in gear - that can only come from you and you finding a way to keep yourself motivated. Clearly, fear of failing isn't motivating you. Perhaps fear of having no social life will motivate you more successfully.
I highly doubt that you'll be able to con your mom... I'm sorry, I mean convince your mother into allowing you to carry on as if nothing has happened.
You realize that you're failing, yet it appears that you are doing absolutely nothing about it. That would make it entirely your own fault. You have to find a way to focus on your grades and to get things back on track - set schedules for yourself. Submit yourself to disciplined studying practices. Perhaps look into getting a tutor. But no matter what, it has to come from you. No one but you can fix your situation.
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Recently, I've thought about trying to learn the guitar. I don't really know anything about guitars but I also play the clarinet. Does knowing how to read that kind of music help in reading guitar music? And is it really hard to learn it when first starting out? (link)
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Reading music is reading music.
I have posted before on many links and advice on learning guitar - I suggest you paruse my column for it. ;)
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hey i was wondering, how do you tune a half step down? iv'e been trying to figure it out but it doesn't work... thanks so much (link)
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Looks like a couple of people have already nailed this one for you. Keep in mind that there are many ways to tune a guitar. Most people just use the EADGBE tuning, but many "popular" songs are done tuned down a half-step (Eb, Ab, Db (C#), Gb (F#), Bb, Eb), and some use Drop-D tuning (DADGBD, which is different from Open-D tuning, which is often DADF#AD).
You might find this site handy:
http://www.gootar.com/folder/guitar.html
You'll also find that there never is any "right" way to tune, and that some guitarists like to really mess around with strange tunings so that they can play in really bizarre or unique ways.
The thing to keep in mind is that it is all about finding the right pitch. It really helps to have an electronic tuner. They can be as cheap at ~$15 at a music (instrument) store. Cheap keyboards, even stupid little ones made for little kids, can also be used to help you tune. A spare piano laying about the house can also be used, assuming of course, that the piano is itself in-tune. You can also tune against any song that you know starts with a certain chord. At college, I tuned by bass against a Rush song that I knew started with an E major chord - it worked, and was easier than dragging it across campus to the music building.
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Anyone know where I can buy a decent record player other than Ebay? I bought one off of there and it broke before the first song ended. Any web sites or store suggestions would be very helpful. Thanks! (link)
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Go to any music instrument store that carries DJ equipment. They will carry turntables. Most turntables these days aren't cheap. You might also check to see if any local audiophiles have any advice - in fact, some audiophiles might have some decent old turntables they are willing to part with that will be in better shape than some of the shit people sell on eBay.
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okay, i have no clue how to flirt...i don't know how to go about doing that, i don't know how a guys mind works, and all that. What are some techniques u guys use to catch a guy's eye? I like this guy, i just dunno how to flirt... (link)
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Flirting, as performed by either gender, is an artform. It is about being just sublte enough while being overt enough to catch attention. It is about wit and charm, about humor and compliment. There is no "right" way to flirt, but there are thousands of horrible ways to do it. Flirting can be as innocent as just saying "Hi" and smiling to staring someone down and licking their forehead (psst... that's a joke). The key is to not try to be someone you aren't when flirting - that's often people's biggest downfall. And don't try to push yourself, or your attempts to flirt will seem awkward, or worse yet, rehearsed. Rehearsing flirting is horrible - flirting needs to be spontaneous. It is sooooo easy to tell when someone has prepared lines they try to use to pick people up - it is pathetic. Don't fall into that trap.
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My mother and I got in a huge fight. I went over like $50 bucks on my cellphone bill, and she was sooo mad!!! So yeah we got in a fight, and now I'm not speaking to her at all. I don't want to apologize to her, because she called me stupid and stuff, I don't know how to apologize to her. Should I just not talk to her all night and then write her a note and leave it for her in the morning, or should I apologize to her tonight to her face? I'm overly confused. Please help me!!! (link)
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You should pay her back the $50. While that might not seem like much to you, that is actually a crapload when it comes to monthly bills. Especially on a cellphone. Find a way to pay back the money - that would be the responsible thing to do, and offering to do so is the best way to apologize.
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hey, does anybody know of some acoustic songs for guitar that sound really good with just one guitar? (i already have "Time of Your Life" by Greenday and "Wish You Were Here" by Pink Floyd) thanks so much!! -*jeanine (link)
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In all honesty, you can play almost any song as an acoustic number. Sometimes it is even more fun to take a song that isn't typically acoustic and play it as such, just to see how it sounds.
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