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When is it ok to have sex? I mean i know there is the whole "when youre ready" thing but what age do you think it is ok? i don't want an answer like "when youre ready" i actaully want an age please!!!!!

At the legal age of your state or country:

Here are the ages:

http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm

why do people have anal sex? it looks and sounds really gross. it sounds painful. Am i right about this or is actally like as good as regular(vag.) sex?

This will sound wierd, but after you get used to it, it will feel like you're going poop.

I never had either type of sex, so I wouldn't know for sure, but that's what I've been told.

~Maria

16/f

The only thing i wear for make-up is mascara. I dont know why i just never really use anything else. What could be some make-up i could use that would look good?
my cloumn is: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=fabulous11
if you want to see a picture

thankss :)

You are extremely pretty, and your face looks very innocent-like, so eyeliner would really take that away from your face. I think some natural tone shimmery eye shadow would look great on you, the mascara, and lip gloss.

Well, I am 5''3 and 13 years old and all my mom can ever talk about is my weight. In summer 06, she told me that i looked to heavy. I was 122 lbs, so i lost 20 pounds. then she complained that I looked to skinny. Right now I am 107 and she keeps bugging me that I look too skinny. She wants me to gain 5 lbs, but I dont want to. I like the way I look right now but my mom doesn't respect that. Whenever I wear a swimsuit, all she can comment on is, "you look too skinny". It's really annoying and I wish she would just let me stay at the weight I feel right at. I just don't want to listen to her complain anymore. What do i do?

You are at a very healthy weight. Yes, you are thin, but you are not anorexic looking. I am pretty sure you are healthy, and as long as you are, your mom shouldn't worry about it.

How can I make rice taste more interesting?
I like to eat it with sugar on it, but I
know thats probably not very healthy!

I don't know what kind of rice you eat, but there are different kinds. I bet you are eating just plain american rice. There are several very delicious types of rice, the two most popular being Basmati and Jasmine. My personal favorite is Jasmine. I am pretty sure both of them are used in Asian cuisine. You cook it just like regular rice, and if you want, you can put it in the oven for a few minutes for a more "steamed" effect.

this is going to sound really stupid but how do you make a bun with your hair? i wrap it around the ponytail once then make the bun, but it always falls out when i run no matter what kind of hair tie i use. i have normal (kinda on the thick side) hair. ahh how do i do it? thanks so much.

What I do is sort of a messy bun: you start out like you are going to do a pony tail, but after one loop of the hair scrunchie, don't bring the rest of your hair through, leave it hanging halfway. Then keep making more loops with the scrunchie.

I'm 14. I want to travel to Europe when I'm 14 or 15. The trip costs around $1500. I'm flat broke and my parents would never give me that amount of money. How can I get some?

Have a garage sale! If you have old clothes, old stuffed animals that you don't like anymore, or even furniture that you don't use, sell it! You could also ask your parents for their unwanted stuff so you could sell it, but I highly doubt they will let you (because they were the ones who bought the item, and their child is making a profit on it?!)

Bake sales are a lot of fun, too. Invite a whole bunch of friends, ask them to buy their favorite 'baked good' baking mix (or if you guys are very good bakers you can make the stuff from scratch.) Then have a bake sale!

Here are some websites that I found that might also help out:

http://www.fool.com/personal-finance/retirement/2006/01/09/how-kids-can-earn-money.aspx

http://www.fool.com/teens/teens02.htm

I was wondering what are some pretty good things to tell someone when you comment their picture? I'm getting tired of say"gorgious" & "wow pretty" & all that other old stuff. Just give me some nice things to say.
thanks :D

Describe the look on their faces in your picture comment. (For example in a kissy picture, say 'I love you too!')

default (If you really like it)

I'm jealous.

Stuff like that. Say things that you actually mean and that are true. Don't tell someone who is ugly looking that they should model, but concentrate on a feature of their face, or body, or even their hair that you really like and tell them something nice about that feature.

how can girls have a crush on angelina jolie and not be lesbian/bi

It kind of sounds like your talking about a girl crush. That's when a girl is attracted to another girl because of these reasons:

She thinks she is pretty.
She thinks she will make a great friend.
She thinks of her as a mother figure.
She thinks she is just plain awsome.

Basicly she admires her in some way.

I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?

I'm just like you. And I think its a good thing being like that. I can't imagine looking back on my high school years and remebering the times I passed out from drinking, or pregnancy scares, or got so high on weed that I nearly died. I know that when I look back on my high school years, memories will float up of my friends, the good times we spent together, of my succeses in school. I wouldn't want my past to haunt me.

You can do crazy stuff when your twenty, that's what the twenties are for! You will be old enough to drink, but mature enough to be fully responsible for your actions, for example.

i want to get a pet rabbit. i want a reeallllly small rabit. what type of rabbit could i get that is really small?

thanks!

I have a Holland Lop. They are the smallest version of a Lop rabbit (ones whose ears hang down). They are pretty small, but not as small as the Dwarf. They are known for a sweet disposition, and they are actually very clever animals.

Just one important thing I need to mention: whatever rabbit you decide on getting, most of their diet should consist of hay, a little bit of pellets, and a little bit of fresh greens. BUT MOSTLY HAY!!! I used to feed my rabbit pellets only, but my vet told me that that is very bad for them, because the pellets are high in fat are for meat rabbits, so your rabbit will become obese if you feed them only pellets. Also provide a wooden chewing block.

Oh, and another thing: if you decide on a lop, before you buy/adopt one, look at the teeth. The four front teeth should look like this:

http://www.peteducation.com/images/articles/10130rabbit_teeth.jpg

Teeth that will cause you problems in the future look like this:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/media/images/38973000/jpg/_38973291_rabbit_teeth150.jpg

See how in the second picture the lower teeth overlap the upper ones? They should meet together perfectly and be nice and straight. Of course, you can still buy a rabbit whose teeth look like they need braces (they don't meet together) but you have to be willing to either get them filed down once a month (about a hundred dollars each visit with the vet), or extracted completely (for about six hundred dollars once in the rabbits lifetime).

Also, rabbits can be trained to use the litter box. The secret: corn cob litter. Its natural, and its the cheapest stuff out there, and the rabbits are naturally attracted to it (so much that they will actually sleep in their litterbox... silly rabbits)

Anyways, good luck for your search for a pet rabbit. Remember, don't get one just because it looks cute, make sure its a nice rabbit, too. A way to tell is to lay the rabbit on its back, gently holding the head and the front feet. A naughty rabbit will try to get away. A sweet rabbit will relax in your arms and stay there.

my cousin seems to be flirting with me. he's like 13 and i'm 16. he got my number and has texted me a lot. i can understand that he only has his sister and step brother around.. but he's been texting me a lot. he followed me around a lot too and got too close. i caught him staring at my boobs. i found out he's coming over to visit for a few hours.

what should i do? i'm not going to accuse him of anything. i can't go anywhere either. my uncle is coming over and its just one of those hang out days. it's really hot [103] and i can't lock myself in the guest room. i need advice on what to do..
i was thinking of watching tv downstairs and making necklaces.. to keep myself distracted.. so i wouldnt have to pay attention to him.

i only wanted to have fun on my vacation. since my other cousins ****my age.. feel as though i'm not old enough to be in their group [wtf, yes?] i was hanging out with him.. because he allowed it i suppose.. but if i knew he was going to be like this.. i wouldn't have.

help?

Ok, almost all guys stare at boobs. No matter if its their girlfriend's, sister's, or cousin's. Boobs are boobs, and guys have a strange fascination with them. As for getting too close, maybe he is just trying to be brotherly? You guys are a family, and I think you need to be nice and friendly to him. If he is in fact flirting, tell him to stop, that you guys are related, and that it's gross. But say it in a joking way, so as not to hurt his feelings.

I just got what's called the "smiley" piercing.

Here's a link below to show you what it looks like, it's very unusual. (It's the upper piercing, if you didn't know.)

http://tattoo.about.com/library/graphics/lindasmiley2.jpg

It's my ONLY piercing and my teeth are perfectly, movie-star white and straight. I have a bar in it instead of a ring right now so you can't see it.

What does everyone think, is it tacky or just strange?
Would I look trashy even though it's my only piercing?

I don't dress trashy at all, I have a sort of "preppy/classy" look- I keep myself looking sharp and clean.

So.. Opinions?

Hmmm... well, it's definitely different. The first thing that came to mind when I looked at the picture was the word 'ouch'. The upper lip piercing looks so painful!!! LOL!

Anyways, I don't think it makes you look tacky or trashy because you dress sharp and clean. The lip piercing just seems a little too much for me. Does it dissapear when you close your mouth? Because if it doesn't, than I would take it out.

That is just my opinion. But if YOU like it, and you feel that it represents YOURSELF, then I would definitley keep it =)

I used to draw and paint all of the time but then I lost the passion so I stopped. Just recently I've been having this very heavy urge to draw, but it seems I have a bit of a mind block. I just don't know what to draw! My creative juices have been strained out of me. I have a lot of pent up images but they all seem so blurry and vague that I can't make them out enough to release them onto paper. Is there anything I can do to let them out? I've tried searching for sketches on the internet (google, yahoo, dogpile, etc.) to inspire me but nothing seems to be working for me. Help? Anything would be greatly appriciated. :)

This may seem a bit wierd, but this is what I do: I look through an art book, and whenever I see a painting or drawing that I like, I let my mind go blank, and just stare at the picture for a while, kind of trying to look through it almost. I look through as many pictures for as long as I feel like it, and that usually helps me create an image of my own.

Alright,so for the past 2,3 months i've been having these weird symptoms that occur almost everyday. i know you can't diagnose but i just need help from anyone to give me some clues of where its going,if you know anything at all.

I'll give you the symptoms and examples,it might be long.

- Unable to focus

*i never know whats going on around me,i
feel like really lazy and tired. i always get
9+ hours of sleep,its not the lazy tired
people think,its like exuastion all the time.

- Unable to think straight

*I'll mix 2 thoughts and think they're real,
imagine things and for about 30 seconds think
they actually happend.lose track while in the
middle of a story (all the time.)

- Lack of emotion/thoughts

*sometimes i'll just stare at something and
think of nothing,i get out of focus and dizzy
then after a little while i get back into
focus and notice i've been doing that for 3
minutes.

- Sometimes when i'm reading the words will shake on the page.

*only happend a couple of times. im just staring
at the page and then it like gets out of focus
and hurts kind of.

- Sometimes my hands get shakey

*didn't really happen that much but still,
its happen to my right hand it just spazzed
or something. weird.

- Unable to get back into focus for awhile

*like i said,everything blurs out and i
also forget what i was doing after it happens.

- Bad hearing?

*i ALWAYS have to ask people one,two,or three
times to repeat things. mostly because i
can't listen. i try but i just fade away..
i literally don't pay attension every time
i try too. its too hard to pay attension.
the weird part is nothings even on my mind
to distract me. i'm always zoned out?

- i really feel like my head near my eye
area is heavy or something

*like towards my forhead,it just feels wrong.

- always feel dizzy-like

*unable to focus and like i'm looking at things
as if im just watching a movie. i don't think
things are real sometimes either. i ALSO feel
really delayed.i dont know if i already
mentionedthat.

- I CANT REMEMBER THINGS AT ALL.i'm not just
saying it,i literally forget MOST* things i do.

for example,we learned a dance in cspa today.
and tonight i really can remember anything
about it other than it was really hard.
and i'm probably going to have to learn it all over again.

- confused easily

*self-explanitory.i feel slower than the rest though.

-delayed reactions.

- FREQUENT ear popping in left ear.

*yeah,and i have to pull my ear a cirtain way
to clearly hear out of it.

Some other facts: My old sister has been having this too lately, and YES,i eat right, YES, i've been getting my vitamins (i take vitmin pills). YES,i've had enough sleep. thats why i'm taking this seriously. I'm 14,female. (My sister's 20)I DO NOT do drugs,sex,drink, or smoke. if that makes a difference.
any help at all on this,thanks.

This could be something serious as others have said, OR it could be that you are having too much sleep, and you are so used to being in dreamland that you never fully awake during the day. Try setting the alarm clock so you get only eight hours of sleep everyday.

But if you feel that it really is something serious, definitley see a doctor ASAP, don't wait for it to get worse.

14/m whenever im somewhere and girls i do not know see me that are my age, they seem to be embarrassed and wont look me in the eye. I see them looking at me when im not looking at them and they wont face me. i went over to my friends house and she had two of her friends i had never met before. They were eating when i walked in and the two new girls looked really embarrassed and wouldnt look at me. then when they get to know me there not embarrassed anymore. does this happen to all people when they have never met before??? im not doing anything or looking at them strangely.

Well, that's how I act around extremely hot guys, so that's what you must be =)

idk if im in the right section or not but.. i have a problem sleeping. i can NEVER fall asleep past 5:30 am and i always have to wake up at 9. im soooo tired during the day but i can never ever fall asleep know matter how tired i am. i dont drink caffiene and my house isnt loud. please help..thanks so much!

Make sure you room isn't stuffy, too hot, or too cold. Sleep in the complete dark, or if your scared of it, open your door, or use a nightlight if you have one. Don't use the computer or watch tv before bed, it helps keep you awake. The best thing to do is to read a book, or take a hot bath.

If you find that you are still lying asleep for hours, try studying history, or math; something boring.

Have regular bed schedules. For example, go to bed at ten everyday, and set your alarm clock to seven. It doesn't really matter what time, as long as its the same everyday and its nine hours.

If nothing helps, go tell your doctor. This seems a bit extreme, and I'm sure the doctor will prescribe some sort of pill to help you sleep.

well there is this guys that likes me and are going to a party. He told me he would like to be my first. I am all for it but i don't know what to do. Anal? Oral? Reg.? Hj? Bj? HELP!!!

Are you one hundred percent positive that you want him to be you first?

You say that he likes you, but do you like him?
You say that you like how he want to be your first, but do you want him to be your first? (there's a difference)

You must also take into account the risk of pregnancy and stds that are involved.

Please be one hundred percent positive when you make this decision. It will change how people think of you, and how you think about yourself. It might also change your life for the worst.

Don't make any decisions on a whim. As for what you should do, if you decide to do it at all, you will know, because when you don't rush into things it will come naturally and spontaneously, once you are mentally ready and armed with condoms and birth control.

burnout..if some1s a burnout what does that mean?

Basicly what everyone else said: a loser

I'm 13 and I spend a lot of time at my neighbor's lake house and it's really fun. Usually, there's only 3 kids there. One is a boy age 10, a girl age 10, and a boy age 7 so I have to hang out with them. Sometimes a 13 year old girl comes and I hang with her, but she hasn't been making it down a lot. I bring my friends sometimes but most are on vacation right now. If the only possible people you could hang out with were ages 10, 10, and 7 and you were 13, would you hang out with them? Because it's not fun swimming alone or playing games.

Definetely. I personally love little kids, and they can be a lot of fun. If you feel wierd hanging out with them, you can try just supervising them, but I am pretty sure you will really get caught up and join in their games and stuff. Have fun, go teach them games that they have never played before.

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