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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

Is it bad not to masturbate.... cuz i'm 14.f and i've never masturbated... i think its kind of gross...

Its perfectly fine! I think its kinda gross too. L0L ♥ xOo`

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my birhtday is in 8 days and i cant decided to have a big party or just hang out with a few friends my back yard isnt to big and i dont no where else i could do it....should i just have a few fiends or just a little party like 20 30 poeple?

Party!!!! =) Its more fun and you get more presents! Haha! L0L. Happy early birthday tho! ♥// ex_oh

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well im 13 and my sister is 15 but for some reason, evertime a guy likes her or she goes out with someone, i get really pissed off and scare the guy away. ( I even gave a guy a black eye) I know that shes gonna go out with guys, but i dont want anybody to hurt her or take advantage of her. last summer, we went to the same summer camp, and a guy liked her and thats where i punched a kid. we tell each other everything so she knows about the gfs ive had (only 2) and she didnt like my gfs either. should i give a guy a chance, and am i being too overprotective?

You are being over protective but its only because you love your sister. Its a good thing that you dont want her to get hurt but you have to. She will get her heart broken once and you cant always try to save her from it. Give her boyfriend a chance and acually get to know him before you start getting angry and punch him int he eye! L0L. ♥// xOo`

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Ok well i had sex a while ago. I didnt bleed and it was my first time. He wasnt small!! But i was talking to my friend and she said that horse back riding can break it. And i ride horses alot!! Her mom also said like if i was little that falling on a bike bar might have broke it too. I was just wondering even if one of them did pop it would i still bleed. I dont know just tell me something and thanks!!!

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If you popped your cherry you would of kinda felt it and it would bleed. He didnt pop your cherry so there is a chance that you did while horse back riding or the bike. ♥ xOo`

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My Friend has a problem but shes to embaressed to aske it on here.. she gets dirreah ALOT like 3 times a day. and she doesnt know whats rong with her and sometimes she hardly eats and still its shootin out of her like theres no tomorrow... i dont know how to help her i have even googled it... but if you could help that would be great thanks

Well.. your friend needs to stop being embarassed and she really does need to see a doctor. If she wants help she has to go. She could also go to the pharmacy and get something that will calm her down and stop with the dirreah. She needs to watch what she is putting in her mouth. I mean she still needs to eat but she really shouldnt stuff her self so her stomach will hurt. ♥// xOo`

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I'd like advice with a matter ive often thought about but never done anything about.
Im just turned 50 now. but during my school years I was often bullied, maybe because i was a quiet shy sort of girl at the time. The sort bullying kids make a bee-line for.
But i went through a thoroughly miserable traumatic time throughout my last 2 years of secondary school between 1968 and 1970. Thats age 13 to 15. I was consistently bullied by gangs of other girls, mostly within the same school year, every day of every week. All the time, all year. It was ceaseless and i never had a moments peace from it. It was sometimes the threat of something awful possibly happening that kept me frightened and nervous, but often it became violent, maybe being pushed down stairs at school or literally punched in the face for absolutely no reason at all. All everyone else did was laugh. I was on my own and couldnt do anything about it. I was all the time afraid and introverted.
My parents didnt understand or believe me, neither did anyone else. The teachers did nothing to help.
I ended being sent to court and sent away into a childrens home twice, Once at 14 and then just before i was actually 15 in may of 1970. Each time it was for a period of 3 or 4 weeks. but it was horrendous, i was scared to death. staff tried to give me internal examinations and once i had to stand naked while the homes doctor looked me over, for what reason i dont know, that was so embarassing and humiliating.
And all this simply because i was too frightened to go to school or left during the day before anything else happened to me. Once i was seen outside by the housemaster, Mr Cleary of Plant Hill High School of Blackley in Manchester. He dragged and pushed me around to get me outside the head masters office, I would have willingly gone there if he had just asked me. But as soon as the headmaster came out,instead of asking me whats wrong, he strapped me on my hands. I was so shocked, i suddenly wet my clothing. I then couldnt go into the class room.so i went crying into the wash room and then went home.
Since then i have been affected by no confidence, I cannot mix well with people. I am insecure, nervous. and still after al these years, think of it all the time. It was such a terrible growing up time. I have no self confidence or self esteem at all. People can easily dominate and patronise me and they often do, and i dont know how to deal with it. If i had felt happy and confident during my growing up this would not be happening. I would have the positive life and be able to cope like the rest of my family.
Is there any way i can be paid compensation for what i suffered then, and have suffered since, due to my experiences?I personally believe i should be paid at least four thousand pounds for what i went through. Maybe a couple of thousand for each year i spent each day filled with fear and taken from my home,being punished for being a victim. I suffered through no fault of my own, and i should be helped to have some happiness and contentment now that i am getting older and should be be having some peace now. I would so much appreciate your guidance on this matter.

That was a long time ago and you cant look for pay back right now. Some of those people could be dead or something and by you wanting money for it its just not right. There are other things that can make you happy. First of all I think you should of stuck up for yourself astood up to the bullies. You should try voulenteering in other schools and help kids who are bullied. You dont want anything to happen to other kids like that so you should help. You can get counsling and try to be more confidente. That was the past and its time to get over it now. xOo` // ♥

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ok so the other day i gave this guy head...and every since then my throat has been hurting SOO bad! its been like 4 days...but i'm not sure if i'm just sick or if its from that, because i don't actually feel sick at all. is it normal for that to happen after you do that?

Yea its normal. Well didnt you expect your throat to hurt? I mean you were sucking his dick so yea! L0L.. It should go away soon and if it doesnt then you probablly have Mono! xOo` // ♥

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I recently broke up with my bf of 2 months because we hadn't been seeing each other as much and I felt a distance grow between us... and started to dislike things about him! At the time when we finished it it seemed right to go back to friendship because we get on well in that way, but now I'm really feeling like I shouldn't have split with him and I regret it! What should I do, will this pass or should I tell him how I feel? Even though I broke up with him? Would it be considered messing with his head? :( im not physically attracted to him either this is purely emotional relation...
im 16!

You wont be messing with his head but he will be pretty curious. I dont think you should tell him how you feel right now because you dont seem like your mind is made up. I mean who knows if you will say you dont like him later again and stuff. I mean just wait like a week and see if you still have those feelings for him. If you do then defenetlly tell him!! xOo` ♥//

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thers this guy hes a year older than i am but he is veryHOT! He suposdly likes me, but whenever i'm around him he is either totally sweet, or making innapropriate comments twodards me. I sometimes like it, but lately its gotten a little more personal. ive asked him to stop, and he does...for a little while, then its right back to the way it was. Like i said, he is soooooo hot, and i like him, and want to have a "GOOd" time with him, but i don;t know what to do. HELP ME PLEASE

I dont think he really gets that you seriously meant to stop. Say it and make sure you say it louder so he knows you are serious. The next time he does it just say look it was funny before but can you stop now!!! LOL.. I know its hard to be mean to a hot guy tho! =) xOo` [[ ♥ ]]

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how do you add people to your favorite list?

Go to their column and click add friend! ♥

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whats the highets you can be rated?

A 5. ♥

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Okay, well i just asked you a question, i was the one that ended with

Aw thanks babe! Well if you think you dont have much time you really need to tell him how you feeel soon!!! Before its too late! Tomrrow when you are at that party find time to talk to him! I mean who cares if he is with the guys you all should just go over there and talk to him. You dont want to loose him forever so you have to. Take chances. Im sure he would be really glad to talk to you agan. Just go for it and dont be shy or scared and good luck! [[ ♥ ]] xOo`

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okay..i'm 14 and i started havin sex at 13...i'm up to 9 people now and its horrible! i can't stop and i dont know what to do! i've tried so hard...i just wanna find a nice guy to start a relationship with but i just cant find anybody! please help me i don't know what to do

You are right.. it is HoRrIbLe.. Seriously you are too young and Im not going to sterotype you or anything but to me you just haven't tried your hardest to stop! Guys notice it and they think you are easy. Keep looking for that right guy. If a guy asks you for sex say no! You have to think of all the consiquences. Even tho nothing happend yet you could end up getting pregnant one day. Just THINK about it. You can stop tho. Good luck! [[ ♥ ]] xOo`

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Hey, well i feel really stupid doing this, but i need to get this out. You dont have to read this if u dont feel like it. Well, theres this boy. Woah, hes perfect, well for me. & so in 6th grade we went out 2 times. yeah, and that was it.. all through 7th grade we didnt really talk, and in 8th we talked a little.. but he doesnt like me.. and ive liked him since the day i met him.. so, my problem is that i have no idea what to do. like i dont think that there is a way to possibly get him to like me, but i CANT move on? really, he's the kind of guy that can be the SWEETEST guy to you when he likes you, like even as a friend.. and then he can be mean to some people? Sometimes he will joke with you, but you cant really joke to him about him, or he'll get really affended. & when he's online i'll want to IM him SOOO bad, but i just cant? i get nervous, and then i think that if i IM him, he will get annoyed of me? and i never know what to say? when i get nervous i start to make jokes, and then i just look stupid. i just want to tell him everything he means to me, because he's the only guy i've ever actually loved, but he wont ever love me. well, i dont think so. Do you think i should tell him, or what? thanks for listening.

Wow.. I seriously think that you should tell him. I get the feeling if I IM someone I like that they would feel annoyed but I relized that that is never true. You should go ahead and just IM him and say hi! There are ways that he can like you again. You acually dont know if he does or doesnt. You havent acually talked to him in a while so thats why. If you talked to him more and if you both hung out together you never know if he would start having feelings for you again! Well see.. guys have their mood problems as well. Its just stupid how they can joke around with us and we cant with them. You just need to let him know you're acually just kidding and that you arent serious! Talk to him and start being good friends again and you'll see what happens! Anything else just ask! ♥// ex_oh

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I got olive oil on my favorite t-shirt! How do I get it out?

You should wash it in hot water and put stain spray on it and then and leave it soaked for a while. ♥// ex_oh

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It has been awhile since me and my ex broke up, but im still madly in love w/ him and i want to talk to him desperatly. Sadly he has a girlfriend who i happen to be friends w/. Im really scared to call ... any advice?

THANX

I know how you feel. Give it some time and you guys will start talking again. I just dont see how your friend could just go out with him since he is your ex. Just dont be scared tho. I mean you have a reason you guys broke up so wait a little. If you talk to him online and stuff just IM him and say hi. If you want to talk to him you have to do something about it. You cant loose him forever tho! Tell him you want to be friends still. ♥// ex_oh

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How can I show my boyfriend that I REALLY love him, but not by making out?

There is a lot of things you can do. You always have to be sweet to him tho. You can make him a CD with your guys song // if you have one// or just his favorite song. Make him a little scrap book with memories and pictures with you both. Another way you could show him you love him is just by simply telling him how you feel about him and that you love him. ♥// ex_oh

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WARNING: This is one of those gross girly questions about tampons. If you can't handle it, stop reading now.


Ok, so. I just started using tampons, and I'm a little concerned that I'm doing something wrong. I've noticed that when I take it out, one side of the tampon tends to have "stuff" on it, and the other doesn't. And it seems like I heard somewhere that this was a bad thing. Can anyone tell me if I'm doing something wrong? Or is this normal?

Thanks a ton. Sorry about the embarrassing question, but I had to ask.

Its not embarassing so dont worry. You didnt put it in all the way so the blood just goes to one side. If you feel uncomftrable in the tampon you should get a smaller size and push it up more so its all the way in. ♥// ex_oh

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Hey I always get eyeliner that smudges.... any ideas for one that doesn't or very little smudge?

Mac, Revlong. I have Lancome mascara and eyeliner and it works really good!! It doesnt smuge or anything. ♥// ex_oh

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im a lil confused, this guy and i were dating a lil while ago then my friend liked him so i dumped him bc all this commotion started, then we didnt talk for like 3 months then we started becoming friends again then i went to my friends house the 4 of us and i went a lil far..then months passed we werent dating or anything then we got into this huge fight and idkk wht to do i was trying to help my friend out bc she liked him and then we got into the conversatioon about wht happened when we were dating..etc...help please!

You cant just sit back and let you guys argue. You need to talk to him. Does he know the reason you broke up with him in the first place? You need to talk to him and tell him you want to stop fighting and that you really still want to stay friends with him. So all you have to do is talk to him!

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