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just another dumb question about a boy....
It has been awhile since me and my ex broke up, but im still madly in love w/ him and i want to talk to him desperatly. Sadly he has a girlfriend who i happen to be friends w/. Im really scared to call ... any advice?
THANX
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That is not a dumb question at all. Don't let anyone get to you. I've been in your situation before (both the girlfriend and the ex)... And it was devastating to hide my feelings and put on a smile for him and my best friend. Isn't it possible that he might still have feelings for you also? Even if he has a girlfriend, he can just be in denial. It's good that you don't deny loving him. First, I think that you should talk to your friend that's dating him. If she's truly your friend, then she'll understand and it won't ruin your friendship. There might be hard feelings at first, but she'll realize that it's not anyone's fault. Ask her to remain open-minded and understanding before telling her about your feelings. Also, if you're not quite ready to tell your ex, make sure that your friend can keep a secret. Be honest, but don't make it seem like you're pressuring her to break up with him so you could be with him. I can't tell you how she'll take it, but I hope she's as understanding as my friend was. When you're ready to reveal your feelings to your ex, don't let fear and doubt take over you. You'll feel much better after admitting it. It's going to be hard, no doubt, but it'll be for the better. If he's mature, then it won't ruin your relationship with him, whatever that may be. If he doesn't take it well, then that's that. Some people might say that he's not worth it, but nothing can change how you feel about him. If you truly love him, but he doesn't feel that way and is happy with his girlfriend, then you should be happy too. To tell you the truth, I still haven't told my ex yet. It's not that I'm afraid that I might regret it, but because I like what we have now. We're really good friends, and although I wish sometimes it could be something more, I'm thankful that we were able to get over the "awkward after-breakup" phase. There's so much more stuff I can tell you about my experience, and you might be able to learn some things from it, but I need to know specifically what your thoughts are. Remember, you should keep in mind about other people's prespectives. I'm sorry if my answer wasn't what you were looking for, but I'll be here if you need anything. Best of luck to you.
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hey! ok.. i think u should swallow all that fear and just talk to him. What do you have to lose? Just tell him you still want to stay friends with him and maybe things will work their way back to the way they used to be BEFORE yall broke up. If nothing comes out of the friendship that u specifically want, its just not meant to be. your just going to have to move on.. focus on something else. but for now.... just try the friends thing. i say just screw that "friend".. yall obviously wernt too good of friends from the start if shes dating your ex..just work it out your way, dont worry about other people
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I know how you feel. Give it some time and you guys will start talking again. I just dont see how your friend could just go out with him since he is your ex. Just dont be scared tho. I mean you have a reason you guys broke up so wait a little. If you talk to him online and stuff just IM him and say hi. If you want to talk to him you have to do something about it. You cant loose him forever tho! Tell him you want to be friends still. ♥// ex_oh
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If you guys broke up and he's already moved on, the chances are that he just doesn't want to get back with you. He probably doesn't feel the same way you do because he's with somebody else already. I mean, if you want to talk to him in that "hey, we're friends" sort of way, then go ahead and call him. I don't really see a problem. Just tell him "you know, I still have feelings for you," or something, and see what he says if you still want to try getting back with him. If he implies that he doesn't really care, then let it go. The relationship's gone. You won't find out anything until you call him, I guess.
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well why did you break up?
if he broke up with you, you should get over it
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