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im moving in less than a month. theres this guy that likes me and might make a move on me at a party tomorrow, but i know hes a whore and i told myself i could never like him--hes the hottest guy i know and i have never felt any emotions for him at all. on the other hand, this other guyfriend of mine i think likes me because his friend asked me if i did, and i said i didnt want to get "emotionally attached" to anyone now, since im leaving, so it wont work out. i dont have feelings for this kid in that way either, but im not physically attracted to him in the least. so my question is, if i were to hook up with the first boy alex, only for that night and not go out, would that be just plain mean if nick sees/ finds out about it? will he think i told him "bullshit" about emotional attachment because i dont like him? am i being too shallow? i dont want a boyfriend now, i just want fun, but not too much..what should i do? (link)
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Hi, I think you should just have fun and chill out with Alex. If Nick thinks you might be more emotionally attached to Alex (which you say your not) then thats up to him to decide on that. He does'nt have the evidence only apart from what he might misinterperate (see's). You have a right to talk to anyone you like and should not after worry about what other people think about the situation. Hope Ive given good advice to you. Daniel.
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look my sister emailed my guyfriend and said i hated him but thought he was hot! and said it was from me!!!!!!! even though thats not the way i fell!he always ignores me and won't talk to me even though i've explained a 17870 times that it was form my sis!!!! were going on hoil together and worried it's going to be weird! what can i do so thinks are back to normal!!!!
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Hi, to be totally honest, there is'nt an awful lot you can do apart from telling him that you do like him and your sister E-mailed him not you. If he can't accept that, then it's proving to you that he has no respect for your honesty.
See how it goes for now. If in the next 3 months you keep telling him and he does'nt believe you then really he is'nt worth bothering with. He has a lack of respect for your honesty. Not a good way to think, when in a relationship, when really its one of the top 10 things you and your
guyfriend need for it to work out. Daniel.
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I am divorced and my son spends most of his time with his mother. I asked my son if he wanted to go to a Mets game with me (we both love baseball). At first he said yes, then a few days later he asked me if one of his friends could come along. My problem: I don't get to spend a lot of time with my son, and I was looking forward to the game as a chance for us to spend time together. I know that if his friend comes along I will feel like a "fifth wheel". My son spends a lot of time with his friends, and I don't think it is necessary for him to bring his friend along. What should I do? (link)
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Hi, maybe you should just be upfront with him and tell him that you would like some time alone with him. Just the two of you. He might spend less time with you these days because hes got friends and is dealing with puberty. Just let him know that you are there for him when he needs you. Honesty is the best answer, however you must respect him for doing more things with his friends. Hes growing up and he's at his stage of life were he might get a girlfriend and spend time with her alot. Just let him know how you feel. Daniel.
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THANK GOD! your'e a guy! So tell me what are the steps in having a very physical, very intimate relationship with a guy? My bf and i have been dating for 3 months, and i really want to let him know that he doesnt have to be afraid to kiss me...or even perhaps do more. How can i tell him that i am ready for anything sexual when he is? What can i do so he'll want to be sexually inimate with me? (link)
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Hi there, there are some simple steps below you need to remember in a proper relationship:
1. Trust
2. Honesty
3. Comfort
4. Respect (THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE)
5. Love
6. Affection
7. A friend
You want him to be sexually inimate to you? Thats only if he wants to be.
Give him body language or signs that you love him. For example if your sat on the coach with him, then perhaps lean your head and move very slowly towards him and at the same time talk to him slowly. Then once your a few centimeters infront of him, kiss him slowly for about 10 seconds. Remember to smile and use eye contact at all times while doing this. If he moves backwards, then ask him what wrong. Then if he says not now or this isnt the right time or whatever then just say "Hey its O.K was I moving to fast?". I suggest if that happens then maybe you two could have a break away from each other for a wee while. The easiest way really is to just be open to him and tell him that you love him. This can be a nervouse time but remember the more you talk to him the less shy you will feel. Remember to be yourself. The worst that could happen is you'll both remain friends. You can't loose really. This message is what I personally think you should do but its only a bit of advice. Let me know how things get on. Daniel.
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Okay, so theres this boy.
And hes really awesome. And I like him as more than a friend. We are going to the dinner dance together but I was talking to him yesterday and he told me I was his friend, yet whenever my friend talks to him about me he blushes-alot! Hes really nice and is always talking to me- we talked on the fone for 3 hours yesterday! Do you think he likes me too? (link)
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Hi, it sounds to me like you've got alot to gain.
Just ask him out to a movie or something. Or if your comfortable, then ask him out on a date. Think to yourself, whats the worst that can happen? He gets a wet fish out and slaps me across the face 4 times. Possible however very unlikely. Really if your friends, then the worst that could happen is you'll remain friends. Then a few months later you might want to discuss it with him again. Good luck! Daniel.
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ok. so here's what's goin on..... you see, my boyfriend is having his birthday party at a restaurant tonight and he called me this morning to ask if I wanted to go. The truth is, I'm not feeling very good today but it's just occasional stomach pains and I haven't told anybody. So anyway when he asked me I said no because I just didn't want to go. (I don't really think chinese food is going to help my stomach very much.) He's really upset that I don't want to go. He told his mom who then told my mom. A few minutes ago my mom just came storming in the room to demand why I said no. I told her that I just didn't wanna go and she called me a jerk for being so mean to him and she also called me wishy-washy (whatever that means.)So now I'm grounded for a week for not going to a stupid birthday party!!! any advice to get me ungrounded AND hopefully cheer my boyfriend up? (link)
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Hi, remember its not your fault that you were'nt feeling well. Its also not your fault that you are grounded. Just tell both your Mum and Boyfriend that "sometimes things just happen that are out of our control" if he can't accept your side of the story, then hes not proving to be a helpful Boyfriend to you now is he? As for your Mum you should just tell her how this is making you feel and its not your fault you were sick. Ask her "how would you like it if I told you to go somewhere when you were feeling sick?".
Remember that somethings happen that are out of our control and eating Chinese food does'nt nessarserally helps you does it in that sort of situation? Daniel.
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So I am going to this party tonight and the theme is summer, so naturally you are suppose to wear summer clothes. I have no idea of what to where and what accerories to put with it, all i know is that i dont really want a skirt!
Please help! (link)
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Hi, first of all ask yourself, what do I usually wear in summer? You must wear something in summer that you like? Maybe put some shorts on and a shirt. Maybe a sun hat with sun glasses on. Don't go pretending to be people your not, be yourself. Remember its not how you dress, its not looking a mess that counts! Daniel.
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my friend jim is really upset. its because his dad has lung cancer and it doesnt look too good. also his brother got hit by a car today and his leg is definitly demolished. and he saw his brother totally covered in blood and everything. some of the things he says put me in such a terrible position too. he literally says he wants to die. and i dont even know how to react.
can someone help me figure out what to say to my best friend? thank you (link)
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Hi, this must be a very painful time for him. I know that if his dad does die he could have thoughts on suicide. However if you encourage him to hang in there he will get through it in time. Give him a shoulder to cry on and check up on him now and again to see how he is feeling. If hes suffering from Depression then the best people to go and see about it is a Cousellor, Psychologist or Psychiatrist. What do they do?:
Counsellor: give advice on how to handle it, and might refer him to some experts in this field of subject.
Psychologist: trained to know about different behavours and will give him proffesional advice on how to handle it.
Psychiatrist: Knows how the mind works, and could put him on anti-depressent tablets and will have a chat to him about it.
Any of these 3 are very helpful to talk to and could work together on it. My advice to you is to be there for him when he needs you the most. Im not asking you to abandon your life to help him but to just be there for him when it hurts the most, if you know what I mean. Get back to me about this one. Daniel.
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My school just changed its boundres. I am the only one of all my freinds thats going to a different school. this has been the best year of my life cuse my bffs were there and now im never going to see them again. when ever my freinds have moved or something we both said that we would keep in touch. well that never happened. i dont want that to happen to my bffs again. so what should i do? these are my BEST FREINDS IN THE WORLD!!! i dont want to lose them. im 14 and going into 9th grade. thanks for the help.
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Hi there, there are lots of ways to keep in touch:
a) Phone or txt
b) Email or MSN
c) Writing a letter
d) Search on the internet for chat rooms, join them with your mates and talk online.
Its up to them however if they want to keep in contact. If they are your best friends then they will keep in touch.
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please help me. i hate my life. i really dont even wanna live anymore. my mom is so stubborn. today i said the "s" word. not to her but i got mad because something wouldn't work so i said "oh sh**" she got sooo mad. and she swears all the time. i didn't even mean to swear, it's just a habbit. just because she was mad that i swore, she unplugged the whole computer system, told me im a waste of space, hit me, and she wont let me make any plans for the whole weekend. all because i said a "word." i can't stand this. how can i not swear when she puts me through so much pressure. i just want to die. i really wanted to go to the movies with my boyfriend tonight. i've been waiting forever. what can i say to my mom to let her know i'm sorry so i can go to the movies? and do you feel her actions were a little "much"? i need your advice on what to do. im soooo sad right now. im crying as i type this. (link)
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Hi, I don't think your mother should have hit you. In away we all swear, I bet even the President swears sometimes. The only thing that might convince your mother is if you say something like "About last time, will, Im sorry I sweared, its just that life is a bit stressful sometimes, Im sorry, can we just settle this?" something like that should do it. Sometimes we taqke in that much pressure that we've got to just set out of the situation and wait until things cool down. Swearing is normal, its just when we do it that matters. Get back to me if you need any more advice. Daniel.
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Hey im trying to write my own songs and i just cant seem to get the "flow" going. And i dont know what to write songs about. I cant get a rhythm of the song either. Or beat even. I know it sounds pathetic but i have no idea where to start! Please help!! I'll rate 5's!!! (link)
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Hi, there are quite a number of beats you could get out of some songs. Maybe think of a tropical carribean beat or a wrap beat, or something with musical instruments in it. I would'nt suggest copying any one elses beat or song. Daniel.
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so i want to loose some wait this summer (20-40 pounds) i am not over wait i just feel fat because i have big bones. i was wonder how long should i go to the gym everyday. i dont want to over do it. and usual i only eat twice a day is that health? (link)
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Hi, maybe if your not that fat then just go to the gym for maybe an hour or so a day. Maybe you could bike to the shops, or join a sports group. Anything physical is good. Hope things work out for you. Daniel.
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Hi everyone, I'd like to hear your perspective(this question is especially for girls but guys are welcome to answer too). My problem is that I feel disgustingly and frighteningly ugly. My own reflection upsets me when I look in the mirror, and I find the idea of sex really scary. I've tried it a couple of times, but the guys I've been with have been really greedy and impatient and made me feel even uglier. They kept on going on about how pretty other girls were, and I think they just wanted me because I'm so insecure. Has anyone else been through this , and come out all right the other end(e.g. in a happy relationship, or just happier with themselves). Some days I don't even want to leave the house, I feel I look so bad.
Thanks in advance(22/f BTW). (link)
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Hi there, I have a formula that may help. Why don't you say to yourself "Im sexy, hot". This might not feel like it for you but give it ago. Have you ever seen the movie Austin Powers? The actor Mike Myers is not that attractive himself really, and even though its just a film, have you noticed how good he feels about himself. Typical guys go for girls usually because they feel good about themselves. Of course nowadays guys go for looks, but just remember that its who you are that counts and not what you've got to other or have. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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Me and my bf make out all the time but i always have my hands just like to myself idk what to do with them..... anybody have any ideas of what i can do? (link)
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Hi, first of all you should ask him what turns him on. What he likes. Once you know what he likes then you can tell him what you like and then you can make out. Remember it isnt about getting it right, but having fun and showing how much you both respect and like each other that counts. Relax and enjoy. Daniel.
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ok so there is this guy and i really liike him. but he is going out with my best friend. before he started going out with her he would flirt with me. But guess what he asked her out instead. she always gets the guys . But i really like him and when she isnt around he flirts with me. i dont want to break them up. but i need some help in what to do b.c they always want me with them when he is @ her house or @ his so i have to watch them flirt. i thought about making myslef look better and show him what he is missing but idk . Plz help !!
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Hi there, this must be a tricky situation for you. My advice would simply to leave it be. If you split them up, not only could you loose the guy but you could loose a good friend too. Do you like him flirting with you? If you do then it could lead to trouble if you act on it e.g kissing, hugging. Just let them get on with it. Who knows you might just yet get him for yourself? Daniel.
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I've been called in to an interview for one of the jobs I applied for, its at Baskin Robbins. Since this is my first job, I'm kind of nervous about this interview. What types of questions do they normally ask? (link)
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Hi, you'll probaly be asked questions such as:
Why did you pick this job?
Do you have any experience or qualifycations?
What hours or shifts suit you?
Them sort of questions. Remember to feel free to ask questions yourself. Daniel.
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Ok-well...i've been breaking out a lot lately-but the thing is-theres this red thing under my eye & it doesnt go away-its not a pimple or anything-its just red & kinda burns.i use benzol peroxizde for my medication but maybe is that burning my face?how long will it take to go away? any tips?much help is appreciated. (link)
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Hi there, The only advice I can tell you is to visit your local Gp (Docter) and take it from there. Hope that sums it up. Daniel.
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Well! I am looking for some ideas. You see my boyfriend always comes over to my house or we go to the movies. IM BORED OF IT! What's something fun we can do! Oh and by the way clubbing is not an option. I live in Miami, Florida if that helps. I just want to have a really fun day and then end it with a romantic tone you know? Please help me out. =/ (link)
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Hi there, you say that you live in Florida. Theres always places like the beach. Is he any good at surfing? If he is then you could let him teach you how to do it. You dont have to be good at it. Anyway thats one suggestion, have you wanted to see a particular movie or something at the cinemas? Going to the park is another idea. Do you two have any interests that you share together? Are you two old enough to go to the pub or something for a quiet drink? Get back to me if you like about this one. Daniel.
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my name is Rachel and iam a 16 year old female and whenever I write,get tired or nervouse I tend to shake why do I do this is this normal? (link)
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Hi, when were nervouse we sort of shake, or if we are near someone we have lust for our heart beats faster. Its like for example, why do we shake when its cold? its because our brain is sending out a message that you need to get warm. The same thing for tiredness or nervouse. Do you get what I mean. Just relax a bit more. Easily said than done I know but just relax. Hope that helps. Daniel.
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okay well im really sick of not being popular. i have a couple of friends, but sometimes they just get sick of being with me. today in school we were reading reports to the class. the person who read their report got to choose another person to go next. NO ONE PICKED ME! my "friends" chose their other friends and then the nerds even got chosen before me. finally, this girl that no one likes picked me and everyone was laughing at me because i was the last one to read my report. i just want to be popular. now i DEFINITELY don't want to be the most popular girl in the school, but i just want some really nice friends who would take a bullet for me. i'm sick of going home every day crying, because no one ever talks to me or saves a seat for me. everyone has their own groups (clicks) and im not in any of them so im just the odd one out. even my best friends have a click and they won't let me in it. i just feel like i'm in the middle of everyone. and its not like im shy because i talk a lot and stuff, but i guess im still too boring for everyone. no one even trusts me with their secrets (including the 6 friends i have.) and i don't tell secrets and my friends know that but if they have a secret to tell eachother, they'll make me leave and then i can hear them laughing and stuff. and no one even tells me who's going out with who!! my closest friend had been dating a boy for 3 days and she didn't even tell me and i felt like a loser when everyone knew it and i was just finding out. i feel like im left out of everything, and alot of people pretend to like me and they'll hang out with me once in a while, but then they start their own clicks again and i can't get in any of them. And in AIM profiles when everyone lists their friends, I'm always close to last even if I know that person really well. I feel like I'm just not as "likeable" to people and they think everyone else is funnier and more fun than me. And I'm not mean to everyone and I'm never boring, but I just feel like I'm treated like a piece of crap. One second someone will want to hang out with me and the next second they're friends with someone else. So many people say I'm their "best friend" and I'm so "nice" but they don't want to hang out with me. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do. How can I be more "likeable" to people so people will want to hang out with me and be better friends with me? How can I make A LOT of friends? I've tried everything but I just can't get in to anyone's click. How can I do this? Please don't make me feel worse then I already do. I just want to die.
Thanks, I will deffinitely rate. (link)
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Hi there, this must be quite painful for you. The problem is wether you want to make a friend, boyfriend, aquaintance e.g, you've got to make it happen. Just sitting around waiting for people to come along is possible but not very likely to happen. What are your interests? Once you've got a list of interests then have a look around your area that might have a group about your particular interest. I personally think that you only need a few friends because being too popular can be a bit annoying. It can invade any privacy you might want. Theres two things I think you can do to make friends:
a) Join a group of your interests
b) Strike up a conversation with someone
Also smile a bit more and look as though your happy and enjoying life. That may attract people to be your friend. Get back to me about this one if you wish. Daniel.
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