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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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This is the same person who asked: How can you tell that someone likes you?

(i like my friend more than a friend and she knows cause i told her about it two years ago.)
last month she called me and told me that our friend Bobby called her and ask her out. i ask if she likes him back and she said "well i do love him as a brother and care for him..." i told her "well if you like him more than a friend you wouldnt call me." she said "good point"
i told her the differents of liking someone more as a friend and as a friend.
she understood, but i dont understand why would she call me and ask or say what to do.
i mean if a guy or girl ask you out and you dont like them you will tell them right? i mean yeah you can think about if you do but why call your friend and ask for advice?
i told her that it is up to her of what she wants, but i know she does like him more than a friend. she and i care for him well but i dont see them together and i told her that. i even told her that i was jealous about it when he ask her. she didnt say much but she began to flirt to me. and still does.
was it just talk?
why would she call me for advice?

Not necessairly. If a guy is looking for someone easy, or even to get someone jealous, they may go out with someone. Guys are like another species, and it's hard to tell. She seems like she just wants to use you. I wouldm't go for it. There are plenty of fish in the sea. She might call you for advice, simply because she knows your easy to talk to. Also cause she may want to make another guy jealous. Talk to her about these feelings.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i always have litle red bumps covering my legs and even my butt whether i shave or not and i cant find anything that takes them away

Are you sure it's not poison ivy? If its not that, razor burn could last a few days. Just put some lotion on and dont scratch it. Thats all you can do. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok can i get sick if i eat someone out when there on their period??? is is bad???

Yeah. I don't think it would be a good idea. If you don't get sick, it'll just be very gross. Any girl who want you to do this to them while there on their period isn't worth your time. And yeah, I would say it's bad. You could get an STD just like you could if you guys were not doing it while she was on her period. There are other ways of making her feel good besides her eating out. Finger her, or make out with her. Just please don't eat her out while she's on her period. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Do friends flirt with each other just cause or are they saying they like me?

I don't think it's just cause. It could just be their personality, and that they act like that because they feel comfortable around you. They could like you though. If you really want to know, just ask them. If you don't want to ask them yourself, have a friend do it. I had a friend who liked me for years and we flirted all the time. Found out, he just liked me as a friend, but did want to go to the dance with me. So, just sit him around when no one else is around and be like, "Hey we always flirt, and I was wondering if you liked me." I've had the same problem so many times. If you need more questions answered, just put it in my inbox and i'll answer it as soon as I can. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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can you pop her cherry more than one and how do you pop a cherry???

Ok. First time a girl has sex, she bleeds. It's only because she has like a skin that protects the vagina inside. As soon as it is teared or ripped in some way, than that skin is gone. Usually you lose it the first time you have sex. You can also lose it from masturbating, bike riding, or even horse back riding. Also, if you are fingered to hard. So, basically it just means like you lost your virginaty, even though you are still considered a virgan until the penis penatrates the vagina. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Me and my girlfriend have been having mutual masturbation since ive been going out with her (2 years ago). She says it feels good when i cum on her belly. Will she somehow get pregnant? And also she says, when she squirts it hurts a bit and when i finger her and when i take my fingers out i see a bit of blood. is there soemthing rong with her? Gimme and advice you can and also some tips on mutual masturbation!! thnx!

No, she won't get pregnant, as long as you don't cum inside her. You might have popped her cherry. That could be why she was bled when you fingered her. But no, there is nothing wrong with her. I suggest you both maybe tell eachother exactly what you guys want. If you don't, than the other person wont know. Maybe theres something she's doing that could be imporved. Just tell her that. Maybe even have some sexy music on while you guys are doing it. ^.^ You could even look into her eyes while you are doing it. That will probaly make her even more excited. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my friend is so annoying and is always bossing me around. Also he thinks he's better than me, but i think we are equal. what should i do?

Yeah I know what you mean. Tell her how she makes you feel, adn that it hurts your feelings. Thats all you really can do. He may not realize she's doing it. Either way, if she can't own up to what he does, he's not worth having as a friend. Anybody who acts like that, doesn't deserve a friend at all. You deserve better friends than that. You could even tell her that.If she continues to bug you, ask your other friends for advice. One friend I had for years, I found out all my other friends hated her. She was rude and thought she was better than everyone else. Sound familiar? ^.^ But yeah, thats all you really can do. If he keeps it up, just avoid her as much as possible. He'll get the message after a couple days. And if he calls you, tell he your grounded every time. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Does anyone here have social anxiety disorder? How old are you? How is it treated? Do you take medication, have talk therapy, or both? What medication do you take? How does it work?
thanks

Yes. I have been diagnosed by a doctor with social anxiety disorder and I'm 16 yrs. old. In my opinion, and my doctors, he said everyone has some kind of form of it. Some peoples are far worse, so they need some treatment. I take Zoloft and it has helped me a lot. I don't even see a therapist. I get the medicine from my regular doctor. It works the exact same way. When you have a disorder like this, it is usually caused by a imabalance in the brain. The medicine helps treat the imabalace, and makes you able to feel more comforatable better. I mean, I use to have it so bad, I would throw-up before a simple demonstration in class. Now with the medicine I am taking, it has gotten a lot better. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok this is not a joke.
i went on my dads computer to do research for a paper we have to write for my science class, and when i went to history he had all this stuff like " hotel sex, gaymen's club" and gross stuff like that and his yahoo email was logged in so i went to it and he had all these messages like "where do you live do you want me to f*ck you or you to f*ck me" and he answered w/ "i live ______ do u have lube and a condom?" (the ____ is where we live" and i like am really scared that he is gay!

and i take after him and i think i might be a lesbian! i really doNOT want 2 be one but i think i am kinda aliitle bit.


so what im asking is how do i no if hes gay or not and how do i make sure i dont become a lsbian?



thanx in advance i will rate high ANY advice.

Well are you sure it's not your moms stuff?And your probably not a lesbian and your just confused because you dont know how to act with the situation with your dad. And is your dad still married to your mom or has a girlfriend? And if he does then he's probably not GAY!

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dottie4

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Hello, out of interest, what is the average unerect penis size?
Thanks

Well the real average size of a penis that isnt erected is about size 4-5 inches. Hope I helped. I was wondering the same thing.

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dottie4

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I have a huge massive gigantic hangover. I just threw up at its 10am. I took my birthcontol pill at 8.... did I throw it up? I believe we digest things in 2 hours... but Im assuming there is a chance I threw it up.

Does anyone have any sweet hangover cures? PLease help.

THanks.

You will probaly be fine with the birth control. The hang over is the main issue. What really helps with stomach problems is alkaceszer. That is a stomach medicine and it foams up, and treats stomach problems. Also, eat something light like crackers and maybe chicken noodle soup.It usually helps to eat. Dont eat something really heavy though. Than you will throw up. I hate hang overs, so I know exactly what your going through. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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So about 1 year ago my face was acne free and had no acne marks...I didn't have the slightest clue what was an acne mark. Now I've gotten a bit of them on my forehead. It's the fact of all the extra cirricular activities i do. How can I get rid of them. I'm using this visibly even thing by neutrogena...and it's helped a bit but not removed their appearance. What can i use to get them gone?

Yeah I use to have acne really bad to. Usually they'll go on their own in about 6 months from when they were there. Sometimes it may take a while for them to appear though. I have the same problem. Those are called dark spots. I would suggest seeing a dermantoligist. If that is unavaliable to you, a really over the counter drug would be anything that has ingriedients in it like, salicylic acid or glycolic acid is good. Try Clean & Clear. Something as simple as going outside more often and getting some sun to your face will help a lot. Just make sure you wear sun screen if you do this. Otherwise you will sunburned really badly and your face will peel and you don't want that. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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can people see that you looked at their myspace or facebook?

You can see how many profile views you got but unless you have a tracker, you won't know their identity. Also, in order for a tracker to work, that person who looks at your profile must have one as well. With trackztor, you can see where the person is from, whether they have one or not. You still will not know their identity though.

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this is probably the stupidest question ever. lol but if your on birth control would it be ok for the guy to cum inside of you? and have sex without a condom?

As long as you are taking the birth control at the same time every day, you should be okay. That will only protect you against pregnacy though. There can still be a very small percentage you could get pregnant. The pill gives you a protection of 99% against pregnacy. There is still that one percentage you could get pregnant. If you do use a condomn, there is basically no way you could get pregnant, and you will be protected against any STDs to. I suggest you use both. A lot of guys will say using a condomn takes the feeling away, but that's a bunch of crap. Theres different kinds you can get. Like lubricated. Hope I helped.

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dottie4

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What kind of job's can I get at the age of 14 for a female?

You could probaly babysit. I started babysitting at 12. Just next time you go to the grocery store, put up a little flyer about that. You could also mow lawns. If you want a regular job, sometimes you can get a workers permit. Your school has to sign for it though. Ask your counseler about it. A lot of places like Walmart may hire you. You could even make your own business. May sound weird... when I was your age, I had a job going around the neighborhood picking up dog poop. hope I came of some help.

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dottie4

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When i im guys who i dont know that well, there are often like awkward pauses. what can i say when the conversation just kind of dies down?

ps most of them don't go to my school

Yeah. Don't worry about it. Chances are they are thinking the same thing. Just let it run it's course. Just start talking about things that you no are of no inteest to him. Eventually he will want to get off so yeah... Or have someone else join in on the conversation and still invite him in the conversation, but talk to that person and he will usually get the message. Than to the other person, simply tell them you have to go.

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What is a song that talks about how one of your "friends" walk all over you and stuff, but your still there?

use me up- bill withers. Thats a great one. It's an old one but its great. Its like from the 70s.

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I need step by step instructions for putting my pics as a background setting on my space.

Just go to google and type in layout generator. Most layout sites have one already. It will ask for the url code for the pic or pics you want to put up. Just save your pics on the computer and double click them when you get to that point. After that, just follow the rest of the prompts of what it says to do. Than it will give you a code for the background you made. Just copy and paste that code on your about me section of your myspace. That should work. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I was once told by this guy, that I intimidate boys because of the way I look. Most boys think I already have a boyfriend and thats why the ont come up to me.
How do I stop this because Im single, and dont wanna be seen as the girl who intimidates boys lol, also I have a swet nice nature and im fun the majority of the time
thanks in advance
xx

Yeah people have told me that to. :) Take it as a complement because it is. I have a problem with being to shy. You could break out it a little bit by joining some kind of club where you can meet more guys. Maybe try out for the next school play or something. Guys may also confuse shyness with just being plain mean. I know the guy is supposed to approach you, but lets say one of these days you see a guy you really really like. He may be really shy to approach you as well. Just keep a smile on your face and keep being pretty. ^_^
Im sure youll eventually meet that lucky guy.

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dottie4

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when I scan something, how can I make it scan in the picture's normal size? When I scan it and open it in paint it stretches like bigger then the computer! and the thing i'm scanning isn't even that big!

Just open it with another file. Like when you first scan it, it will ask how you want to scan it. You could also start a photobucket.

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