Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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now im in high school, no one uses their lockers, so what should i do about a winter coat?
i havent started wearing them yet, but next week i will, so i dont know what to do (link)
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Well just because other people aren't using their lockers, doesn't mean you can't.
What I do with mine is my school's cold anyways, so I'm already either wearing it half the day, or along with my bookbag and everything, I carry it around with me ( which can be a hassle, but I have no time to get to my locker and it's not even on the same floor as my classes so I have to ).
But if you can get to your locker every now and then and you don't want an extra big thing to carry for whenever you're not wearing it, then I suggest just keeping it in your locker. You're not going to get like, socially banned for it or something, haha. :P
I hope I helped.
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Ok, the deal is my friend likes this guy and he told me he hates her, and she was going to ask him out, but i said not to because i didnt want her to get hurt, so she didnt, but then as a dare he asked her out. And i asked him wat was goin on , and he said he did it as aa joke, and now my friend thinkz they are a couple wen they arent, and he offered to take her out on saturday, but he isplanning on cancelling. And i dont know if i should tell her because she got mad at me last weak for telling her, and i am so not sure. Please help me. She really likes this guy. I need advice! Thankz u rok! :) (link)
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Before you do anything, are you postive these facts are true? If they are, you have to tell her. A real friend wouldn't stand there and let their friend be humiliated and get her feelings hurt twice as much.
I would just sit down with her and be like,"____, I got something to tell you, and I know you got mad at me before whenever I told you, but I just don't want you to get hurt by him. He told me he was planning on canceling your date, and that he was dared to ask you out. He didn't really like you like that." If she still doesn't believe you, let her cool down, and don't try to persue the conversation. Then later suggest to her that could you possibly tag along with her on Saturday to see if he really shows up.
Whenever she sees that he doesn't, you'll be there to hug her, comfort her, and talk to her about it all. And just let her know you didn't want to be right, you really didn't and that this guy is a huge jerk for doing this to her.
I hope I helped.
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ok so.. 15/f
i think i might be gay, but im not totally sure. i mean i can see myself with girls all the time. well last wednesday, my ex-boyfriend from 2 yrs ago asked me out, and just to see if it would help, i said yes. now i dont think i want to be with guys at all. i mean we havent kissed yet or anything, but i just cant see myself with a guy. but i mean i dont know, its complicated. to make matters worse, ive never even kissed a boy before, so how in the heck could i be gay? ok, i see how, but i mean its weird. could someone give me some advice of how to go about this? i mean should i break up with my 'boyfriend'? i mean im really not into him at all, i think i just said yes cuz a) i wanted to see if girls are REALLY what i wanted, and b) i was sick of being single. but i mean i dont see how i could not want to be with a guy if i have never had my first kiss, get what im saying? could someone just like give me some advice on what i should do? please? (link)
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This is the age wherever every teenager wants to experiment, or at least thinks about it and always wants to try something new. Everybody has probably at least thought about it once, or at least wondered about what it's like.
First of all, if you're not digging your (ex)boyfriend, you should break up with him. Only date someone that you like and is making you happy, and he's obviously not. And even though you've never had your first kiss, it doesn't mean you can't still want to be with people. I mean, I've never had my first kiss, but I still like guys all the time and I've had a bajillion crushes & everything. It's not all just the pyshical likes - it's the emotional too.
I would just try and get out there and see exactly for sure if you really like girls the way you think you do, and see if you like boys. But focus more on girls, for now, because if you do find that you really like girls, if you think of guys, then you might realize you don't want to be with them at all.
I hope I helped.
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AWESOME GRADES FROM SO-SO SCHOOL OR SO-SO GRADES FROM AWESOME SCHOOL?
what's the best? see i was thinking if i choose a school like UCLA (good repuation right?) but since everyone's so smart there i'd get so-so grades, or is it better to choose a so-so school where i'd get the best grades?? like lets say i want to becom a doctor, what would be best? do they look at your grades, or where you got your degree, or both? does anyone know?? (link)
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Good grades are better, and are what business and jobs look at more than the school.
Sure, a good school is a good thing cause it shows you had the grades to go there and everything, but they're not going to hire somebody who was failing at Harvard or Princeton. They're going to want something whose great at what they're doing, with awseome grades, no matter what school it is.
I hope I helped.
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I'm not sure if residue is the right word but I took a sticker off a plastic thing of mine and the stickeyness of the sticker refuses to come off. There's no paper on it, just the stickyness and I can't figure out how to get it off. It keeps getting things stuck to it and making it look bad. It's a little cigar case thing that one of my friends gave to me. It's all plastic so I can't burn the stickyness off. Any ideas on how I can get it off? (link)
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Ach, I use to have this problem all the time! I hate it whenever this happens to everything, it makes whatever thing you have look ugly.
Anyways, I went to my mom about this one time and she gave me some rubbing alcohol, and sometimes it takes a bit of rubbing, but it'll come off ( or you just peel it off with your nails ).
:)
I hope I helped.
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when people on this site give you rude answers?
I mean , if you want to answer a question its to help someone, not be rude.
So if you say something mean to someone, maybe when you ask a question someones gonna be mean toward you.
I just think its totally wrong.
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I do understand where you're coming from and everything, but mostly half the time the advicenators aren't trying to be rude, they're just giving their advice. Like me, I've been in that situation before where I even tell them I'm not trying to be mean, and I give them my advice, and it's not what they want to hear, so they give me a 1.
But like I said, I bet you're talking about those advicenators who give really rude comments that don't even give advice in them, which I do think they deserve the 1s and everything.
If you feel you're not being given good advice, you can always file an Abuse Report, and have Advicenators look into it, and have the user possibly removed from the site.
I hope I helped.
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there's this gurl her name is amanda and she keeps harassing my friend samantha on myspace... there families don't like eachother and fight with eacother... and she gave smatha a bruise on her arm... i told this gurl to stop bothering her but now she started cussing at me and stuff and i don't want to have to tell my mom i have a myspace so don't give me advice telling me i should tell my mom... so what should we do? (link)
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Alright, well your friend can either just let her be and block her username from contacting her at all over myspace. You do this by going to her myspace and you know where the contacts table is? All she has to do is click block, and she's blocked.
If she has one of those "add" "message" buttons and no block button, just go to someone else's myspace who had a contact table with the "block user" link on it and just copy the link and paste it on another internet page. Then go to the girl's myspace and take her FRIEND ID and replace it with the person's in the link ( if that doesn't make sense, contact me and I'll try to make it clearer haha, I ramble when I talk sometimes ).
If she wants this girl kicked off of myspace fully, then she can report her to myspace. Whenever you're on your homepage for myspace or whatever, just go to the "HELP" link that's located at the very top of the left side next to "SIGNOUT" and everything. And in the GROUPS section, the second question asks about what you can do if someone's harrassing you on Myspace.
Here's the link for what they tell you to do:
http://www.myspace.com/Modules/Help/Pages/HelpCenter.aspx?Category=6&Question=6
They basically tell you what I said above, but at the last few sentences they mention Customer Service and everything.
I hope I helped.
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are you going trick or treating tomorrow? if so what are you going to be?
i don't know if i should. i'm 14 but a lot of my classmates are going. i would love the free candy but i don't have anyone to go with. i would like to go trick or treating in my small neighborhood with a friend from another school just really fast because it's a school day after all, but i don't know. i have no costume so what could i be? i don't want to be something retarded like a ghost with a white blanket but something cutee(: (link)
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Yeah, I'm going trick or treating. I hate how people say it's so immature ; we're teenagers, and we only live once. Why not be running amok why we still can in dumb outfits and get loads of candy?
Anyways ; I'm just being something silly ( Superman ) so I don't think it's really that cute. Well, I'm thinking you want something you can make easily, right and not have to go out and buy?
You could be a hippie, or just repeat an old costume. You could also be an 80s girl - that'd be really cute, I think. You could wear leggings if you have them, and ask your parents ( dad ) for a shirt he doesn't want ( probably a sweater so you're semi-warm ) and just cut off the top and wear a bra or tank underneath it and pull your hair to the side and wear some sneakers. If you have any certain kinds of clothes around that look like something a favorite celebrity of yours wears, you could be a certain celebrity for halloween too.
:)
I hope I helped.
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ok earlier i saw this question posted by someone:
Ok soo I have really frizzy, poufy hair that I hate, so I recently bought a Chi. I really like my hair straight, but the only problem is that my Chi makes my hair really, really flat. It pretty much just sucks the volume out of my hair. I was just wondering if anyone knew how I can get my hair straight but keep some volume?
Thanksss =]
what is the chi thing they are talking about?
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Chi is a brand of hair straightening stuff. They have some hair spray stuff and everything, but most people buy the Chi Hair Straightener, which is what the girl in the problem was probably refering too.
Here's a site with some pictures and stuff of them:
http://www.folica.com/Chi_Flat_I_317_1.html
I hope I helped.
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ok so i have a boyfriend weve been daying for 5 months and i love him to death. the problem is when i got my schedule changed i ended up in none of the same classes or lunches as my boyfriend =[
in my new classes im with this one guy lets call him d. hes so nice and he used ot like me. but hes about to ask this one girl out but i like him. i dont like him as much as my boyfriend but there is a little crush. Im happy for d but i dont want him to go out with another girl because i loved it when i knew i was the only girl.
what do i do?
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I understand that you love the feeling of knowing you were the only girl, but remember: you are your boyfriends only girl.
I would stay with your boyfriend. You two have been dating for five months which can be a long time for some people, and just because you two don't have any classes together or anything, doesn't mean the relationship's doomed. It just means you two'll have to work harder at keeping in touch, which'll also show eachother how much you care for eachother. There's always hanging after school, calling eachother, the weekends.
Anyways, there's not even a point in pursuing with this guy. He's already going to ask out another girl, so it's not like you could date him anyways. Are you sure you like this guy, or are you just liking the attention he was giving you? Sometimes whenever girls have boyfriends, they like it when they get the attention from other guys because they feel that since they have a boyfriend, they get less attention from other guys since they're taken and everything.
Like I said, I would stick with your boyfriend. Obviously you two are going very well, and not being together alot could actually help the relationship because if you still work hard at talking to eachother and everything, like I said, will show you both how much you care for eachother and not seeing eachother might make you guys miss eachother more, and might make each hang out more and more special.
I hope I helped.
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Help! Please. Ok so I had this boyfriend for like 8 months. He was always so sweet and everything seemes to go right. He's a (A.) Student so he always expects to get good grades. But this year we entered highschool (we both go to different ones) and he failed 4 classes he was really sad and he said that he needs a brake. He said that he needed time to think and that he loves me but that he needs a brake also that his life isn't going the way he planned. And then I told him that I wasreally hurt. And then I signed off. But I haven't spoken to him for like 4 days he goes online all the time and its hard to see him online and not be able to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him because I'm afraid he won't write back or he says something mean. I don't know what to do. Also. My friend told me that he probably broke up with me because he wnats to date other girls. Is that true? What do u think about all of this?. Help. Sorry this is so long thanks! (link)
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I really don't think it's because he wants to date other girls, because if he did, he wouldn't be telling you he loves you and everything & giving you false hope.
He probably really does just need to get his life back on track, and might feel you could be a distraction because if he's failing four classes ; that's alot of makeup work and studying and everything to do, and he might feel he won't have the time to talk to you and hang out with you and everything, and he'll feel guilty.
Just wait around for awhile and see what happens with him. If he starts to date other girls, then obviously your friend was telling the truth, but like I said, I really don't think that's why he broke up with you, and your friend shouldn't be putting ideas like that into your head.
But don't wait forever, you know. If it turns into like, months upon months, obviously he's not as commited to you as you thought, and you should just fully end the relationship because you're young. You should be dating other guys and finding a good one ; not sitting there, waiting for one.
I hope I helped.
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My best friend's birthday was at the end of August. I got her an amazing gift before her bday even came, but the thing is - I have not given it to her! We sort of lost touch during August & September. We go to the same school, but we aren't as close as we were years ago. I want to give her the gift (she knows I got her something) but I feel like an idiot giving it to her so late. What should I say/do without making it seem like her friendship isn't important to me? (link)
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Just approach her at school and ask her if you can talk to her for a second. And just tell her you feel horrible that you guys have sort of lost touch and you haven't give her her gift yet & everything, but you still really want her to have it, because she deserves a great gift and you really hope she likes it.
Trust me ; if she sees the amazing gift you got for her, I'm sure the "awkwardness" that's probably not even going to be there, will quicly disappear, and she'll love her gift.
After you give her her gift, maybe even suggest a soon hangout to catch up since you two have lost touch for the past couple of months or so because you miss her alot, and just get your friendship back on track. :)
I hope I helped.
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Every night I cry so hard because I get so hurt from having my boyfriend talk to other girls. Yes, I've talked to him about it, and he says they're all friends. I believe him, I just don't know how to stop being jealous. I get so stressed, and I'm just tired of crying and being hurt all the time. Please help me. (link)
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A vital thing to every relationship is trust. You need that to survive in a relationship, because if you don't trust them, then the relationship is sure to be doomed.
Maybe try getting to know his girl friends, and hanging out with them sometime soon and talking to them. If you actually befriend them and know who they are now, you won't feel as worried whenever he talks to them and as jealous because you know you're friends with them, and you know they wouldn't flirt with him and everything.
Sometimes whenever people feel jealous of someone else, it's usually because they feel that that other person has something they might not have, or they're more pretty, more popular, etc. Have you ever thought you might think you might not be good enough for your boyfriend? ( I'm not saying you aren't, but it's common for girls to think their boyfriends too good for them ). Or have you ever b een afraid that your boyfriend's going to leave you for someone else? That just may be the reason why you're so jealous, is because you think one of these things, and you need to realize ; he's dating YOU, he likes YOU, he likes everything about YOU and not any other girl. Yes, he talks to these girls, but you're the one he calls at night and you're the one he says "I love you" too and everything.
Whenever you feel yourself just starting to get upset and jealous, take deep breaths and tell yourself,"They're just friends, I know, they're just friends, I know," and keep telling yourself that in your head and just calm yourself down. Also think of the same situation, but you and your boyfriend with switched roles. Realize that he understands your guy friends and just friends and that he's not jealous whenever you talk to yours, so you shouldn't be jealous whenever he talks to his girl friends.
I hope I helped.
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well i have this so-called best friend.SHe can be lovely but she see's everything as a competition
Whenever I get my hair cut or get something new, she comes in with something to try and outdo me? I really dont see the point.Its like everything is a competition! And then she copies me with stuff and then claims its her own idea and try's to turn people against me.I know for a fact shes been bitching about me aswell but then when i confront her she just try's to suck up to me.
I would also confront her about all the competition but she just try's to turn it all back on me and its so frustrating.My mum thinks shes just jealous of me.But I have no idea what to do.
Someone help please..
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Your mom is exactly right. This can tend to happen between best friends at some point or other ; they get jealous of eachother and try to out-do eachother and try and have the "better life" than the other one. It's sort of like a sibling rivalry, except a best friend rivalry.
Whenever people try to usually copy other people, this yes, can be taken in as flattery to you, but I understand the annoyance and everything of it. This probably means that she has some insecurities of herself, and you need to try and make her more secure. Whenevr she gets a new hair cut, let her know it looks great. If she does good on a test, congratulate her and everything and just try and get her confidence to be higher and make her have less insecurities about herself. Also try to push her to new ideas that she can have herself. Whenever you two go shopping anywhere, get your own clothes and everything, but help her try and pick out her own. If she looks at something, tell her that it'd look great on her, and that she should buy it.
Hopefully after a bit of confidence rising and less insecurities, she'll want to be her own person and want her own ideas and everything, and stop trying to take all yours.
As for the bitching behind the back and everything, she's probably just trying to grab the attention by gossiping about people behind their backs - even her best friend. Whenever people talk of others behind their backs there's probably something about them that gets to them, like you and the fact she's jealous of you and everything, but of course she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, because for one who would she copy from then and be "better" than then? The next time she does this let her know she's hurting your feelings and best friends shouldn't do that to eachother, and you know for a fact she is indeed gossiping about you behind your back, people have told you. And just let her know that if she has something to say, she can tell it to you, because best friends are supposed to be able to talk to eachother about everything and understand eachother.
I hope I helped.
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last night around 2am. i was sleeping on the couch because my room gets very cold. well right next to my house is 4 large peak windows. well two kids smashed them with baseball bats. it was the scariest thing. i was covered in glass. i didn't get hurt but i was so shocken up that i threw up and i could not stop shaking. now im terrified to go back to sleep. it took me 3½ hours to try to get back to sleep. the reason they smashed them was because my brother 18, got into an arguement with this kid and the kid wanted to fight with my brother but my brother wouldn't fight him. so they took it out on my windows. i just kind of stare. i've been quite depressed for a little bit of time now and after that i feel worse. i just don't want to move or do anything. i dont know what to do. i'm still shaking and can't stop crying. what can i do. please help. (link)
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I am so sorry this happened to you, I'd probably be shaken up to if I was in this situation.
I would talk to your parents about it or maybe have them contact the police and have this issue taken care of because if they've done it once, they could possibly do it again. So if you have the police go and talk to them and fine them, hopefully they'll learn their lesson and if they repeat it, they'll get fined once more and maybe even arrest for destruction of private property.
I don't think they'll come back though and repeat that, because they probably know you and your family know who they are, and they probably don't want to risk getting thrown in jail or getting into major trouble, so your home is probably safe & sound now.
If I were you though, to make yourself feel better and more safe & secure, I would choose another area in the house to sleep in. Maybe just stay in your room, but purchase some more blankets and everything so it's less cold. Maybe even buy a kerosene heater that you could place next to your bed.
I hope I helped.
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Ok I have a ex boyfriend..well he broke up with me 2 and half weeks ago because of some problems going on with his family..well about 2 weeks ago he started dating another girl..now that we talked this weekend he is wanting to go back out with me he even broke up with his gf... what should i do?? please get back to me (link)
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If you really like this guy and want to get back together with him, then do it.
You two really only broke up because he was having family issues, so it really wasn't anything between the two of you like a fight or anything to result in the break up.
But I would talk to him about this girl he dated and see what was going on with that. Whenever you talk to him about getting back together with him, just mention her. Be like,"I'm just curious. You broke up with me because you had family issues and everything, which I can understand, but then why would you go and date another girl while you're having your family issues and everything?" Because I'm thinking of another possible option which you might not want to hear, but I'm just putting it out there: maybe he liked this other girl and dumped you for her, but realized he liked you more and wants to go back out with you. Or he wants to try and be with the both of you, which I doubt, but I'm just listing options.
Just make sure that him and this girl are definetely broken up and everything, and give him another shot and see how everything goes. It sounds to me like he really likes you still and misses you and really wants to be with you again.
I hope I helped.
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what do i do if my best friend is going out with my exboyfriend? (link)
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I would have a talk to her about where her loyalties lie exactly. ( I don't know if you still have feelings for him or not, but ) even though you may or may not, she still should've at least talked to you about it and let you know she was going to go for your ex-boyfriend, and it hurts that she just sort of went behind your back like that and everything. And just let her know the rest of your feelings, but remember: watch what you say, and watch how you say it. People tend to say things they don't mean whenever they're upset, so that may result in further drama and hurt feelings. And just talk to her in a calm, but serious tone of voice to let her know you mean business about this.
Then just try to comprimise with her. Let her date him ( since you can't really break the two of them up or anything ), but tell her she needs to respect you and not talk to him infront of you or kiss him or anything and you don't want to hang out all together cause it'll make you upset ( this is if you like him still ).
And like I said, if you don't like him anymore, just try and resolve this issue and let her know everything you're feeling ; best friends should be able to talk to eachotehr about anything, and understand, and give eachother chances.
I hope I helped.
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For Halloween Im gonna be a tree. its different and i was gonna wear brown shoes, pants, and long-sleeve undershirt and green t-shirt on top and spray my hair green. what are some ideas to make my costume funny and unique? (link)
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Well since it is fall, you can take some real leaves and maybe glue them or staple them, whatever to your shirt and maybe even take some of the twigs or brances that've fallen on the ground.
Maybe to even make it funny buy some plastic birds and a birds nest if you can find out and attach it on a headband and wear it on your head to make it look like you've got birds living in your hair, or maybe attach a fake squirrel if you can find one to your shirt "trunk" so it looks like it's climbing on it.
I hope I helped.
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ok so im 13/f and my friend (13/f) goes out with like every boy in the school and i know you like cant go out with your best friends ex but shes like getting them and dumping them. what can i do? (link)
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There really is nothing you can do except let her be her. If she wants to go out with every guy in the school, nobody can really stop her, but this is going to backfire on her big time. Because what's going to happen whenever she wants a real relationship? None of her ex's are probably going to want to go out with her again cause they know what'll happen probably, and also what is she going to do after she dates everyone in your school? Move on to another?
If you want, you can try and talk to her about it and let her know what could happen if she keeps on doing this, and you're not telling her she needs to STOP or anything, but maybe just to slow down on dating all the guys.
And you can to go out with your best friend's ex if you want to ; you just have to get her "blessing" first to be sure she's okay with it, and why wouldn't she be? It sounds to me like she hasn't even dated some of these guys long enough to develop feelings for them, so why should she care? If she does just go to her and be like,"Well, who am I supposed to date then in school? You've dated almost all the guys."
I hope I helped.
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My ex and I have been broken up for a month or so. It was a serious relationship, but we seem to be on a 'friend' level now where we talk/joke around. I love him and would like to get back together to see if things might workout, but everyone is telling me to play hard to get. The advice I get from my friends & family is to act like I don't care and he'll come to me. It has started to work, but I need to know if it will backfire? Does the playing hard to get for a guy or even an ex really work? (18/f) (link)
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Yes, sometimes with guys playing hard to get can work every now and then, but you really have to be careful when doing it, because it may backfire. If you play hard to get for too long, he may start to think you don't care period, and he might give up and try and move on from you, so don't let that happen.
Just do what you've been doing, and then every few days, talk and flirt with him and everything to show signs of interest, and then go back to playing hard to get.
But I suggest after awhile to just let him know that you still love him and would really like to work things out and get back together with him, because hard to get can start to get somewhat "annoying" after awhile, I guess you'd say. Guys can only play games for so long.
I hope I helped.
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