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ok so.. 15/f
i think i might be gay, but im not totally sure. i mean i can see myself with girls all the time. well last wednesday, my ex-boyfriend from 2 yrs ago asked me out, and just to see if it would help, i said yes. now i dont think i want to be with guys at all. i mean we havent kissed yet or anything, but i just cant see myself with a guy. but i mean i dont know, its complicated. to make matters worse, ive never even kissed a boy before, so how in the heck could i be gay? ok, i see how, but i mean its weird. could someone give me some advice of how to go about this? i mean should i break up with my 'boyfriend'? i mean im really not into him at all, i think i just said yes cuz a) i wanted to see if girls are REALLY what i wanted, and b) i was sick of being single. but i mean i dont see how i could not want to be with a guy if i have never had my first kiss, get what im saying? could someone just like give me some advice on what i should do? please?
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You can be gay whether you have ever kissed a guy OR girl before. Kissing someone will not make you one thing or the other. Nor is it a good way to 'test' things out, as you don't need to kiss someone to know whether or not you are attracted to them (though it can be a fun way to double check!).
If you see yourself with girls, good for you. You should just relax a little and see if a possibility to date a girl comes along. Keep in mind it will need to be the RIGHT girl, not just any girl. Dating someone because you don't want to be single won't lead to a happy relationship.
You should want to date someone because you really, really like them - and vice versa. Of course, other things come into play ... but bottom line, you pretty much know whether you want to be with someone or not.
While I can understand dating a guy in order to sort of test things out, I would say that you're okay the way you are. The only reliable test of your feelings is inside of you - you can't find it outside of yourself.
It can take some time to understand and accept sexuality, and it's a huge issue that is really a core thing about human beings. It's okay to be confused or scared, and normal. When you feel like this, try to just give yourself some time to think and feel - and be honest with yourself.
In the meantime, perhaps you might want to consider ending your current relationship to make some time and space for yourself - and maybe Ms. Right.
Best of luck.
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This is the age wherever every teenager wants to experiment, or at least thinks about it and always wants to try something new. Everybody has probably at least thought about it once, or at least wondered about what it's like.
First of all, if you're not digging your (ex)boyfriend, you should break up with him. Only date someone that you like and is making you happy, and he's obviously not. And even though you've never had your first kiss, it doesn't mean you can't still want to be with people. I mean, I've never had my first kiss, but I still like guys all the time and I've had a bajillion crushes & everything. It's not all just the pyshical likes - it's the emotional too.
I would just try and get out there and see exactly for sure if you really like girls the way you think you do, and see if you like boys. But focus more on girls, for now, because if you do find that you really like girls, if you think of guys, then you might realize you don't want to be with them at all.
I hope I helped.
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At your age, you are going through a time of change. Everybody experiences this time differently. You are not the only person out there who has considered these possibilities. Some people who feel this way at your age do turn out to be gay, but, you may not be gay at all. You should do what you feel is right for you, and not for anybody else in this matter.
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Hi, Izzie here. I know you're confused, but your first kiss should be really special, not wasted on an ex-boyfriend you're just dating to see whether or not you like guys. If you don't have 'real' feelings for him, then your first kiss won't change that. If you really don't have feelings for any guys (not just the guy you're with), then maybe you should try a relationship with a girl, or talk to a liscenced therapist. Good luck!
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Well, ask him if you can kiss him and that should solve you questions. You'll either hate it or like it. It all depends on your actions. Good luck.
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