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boy trouble
Help! Please. Ok so I had this boyfriend for like 8 months. He was always so sweet and everything seemes to go right. He's a (A.) Student so he always expects to get good grades. But this year we entered highschool (we both go to different ones) and he failed 4 classes he was really sad and he said that he needs a brake. He said that he needed time to think and that he loves me but that he needs a brake also that his life isn't going the way he planned. And then I told him that I wasreally hurt. And then I signed off. But I haven't spoken to him for like 4 days he goes online all the time and its hard to see him online and not be able to talk to him. I don't want to talk to him because I'm afraid he won't write back or he says something mean. I don't know what to do. Also. My friend told me that he probably broke up with me because he wnats to date other girls. Is that true? What do u think about all of this?. Help. Sorry this is so long thanks!
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These answers are way too positive. You have to understand something about guys. They never say what they mean. I really wouldn't buy that whole "i love you i just can't be with you" thing. I'm sorry, I may be a little jaded, but I do not think that is what it is. You should just move on. Really think and ask yourself why THIS guy is so important. I promise if you do that, you will see that he isn't and there are many many more boys out there.
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I'm assuming your a freshman. So coming from a fellow freshy I give you this advice,
1. Highschool changes everything. As much as we dont want it to it does. Sometimes for the good and sometimes for the worst. As hard as it might be for you to come to the realization that your boyfriend might want to date other people it could be true. You are going to different schools which makes it very hard on a highschool relationship.
2. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend does make it harder to stay up with school and stuff. Especially now when we are adjusting to highschool and the much harder classes we are taking. I used to be a straight A student and now in highschool im getting b's and c's left and right! And thats without a boyfriend.
So my advice to you would be, respect his wishes, but maybe you could talk to him and tell him why your hurt, and that you still like him. Maybe after some time, and he gets his grades back up you guys could get back together.
no garuntees of course but talk to him about it. During this time that you aren't dating maybe you should move on and look for a guy that goes to your school and see how it works out with him.
Dont wait around for your ex. You are too good for that, you deserve to be loved. Hope I helped! xoxox
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I really don't think it's because he wants to date other girls, because if he did, he wouldn't be telling you he loves you and everything & giving you false hope.
He probably really does just need to get his life back on track, and might feel you could be a distraction because if he's failing four classes ; that's alot of makeup work and studying and everything to do, and he might feel he won't have the time to talk to you and hang out with you and everything, and he'll feel guilty.
Just wait around for awhile and see what happens with him. If he starts to date other girls, then obviously your friend was telling the truth, but like I said, I really don't think that's why he broke up with you, and your friend shouldn't be putting ideas like that into your head.
But don't wait forever, you know. If it turns into like, months upon months, obviously he's not as commited to you as you thought, and you should just fully end the relationship because you're young. You should be dating other guys and finding a good one ; not sitting there, waiting for one.
I hope I helped.
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Don't think the worst! So basically you went to different school... he failed some classes... this would of been a major blow to him after being an A student and he is bound to have a dent in his confidence. Maybe he feels like he has let his family down and let you down. What he needs right now is that confidence boost someone to reasure him that it isn't his fault. I doubt that he broke up with you to see other girls because if he did he would of broke up with you in a nastier way... which he didnt. If I were in your position I would talk to him and tell him that even though your not together at the moment you still want to be friends a be there for him while he is going through this rough patch. Knowing that you are going to be there for him will make him fel so much better and make him realise that he got a good girlfriend by his side. When he knows this then start talking to him about your relationship... ask him how long you think this brake needs to be. With any luck he will decide that hes better off with you than without you.
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Well, this really has to be hard. It's pretty hard to be just left hanging.
However, I went through the same thing. This guy always left me hanging and finally I told him that I just couldn't wait anymore and we ended it to make a long story short.
So basically you have to decide whether you can wait or not. If you feel like you aren't being told the truth about why he needs a break, then I think you should call him and ask him if he's telling the truth. It won't make you seem at all desperate, it's not right for you to feel like you are being lied to. If he says that he's being honest, then you have to ask him what kind of break he means. A break as in he's going to date other girls, or a break as in he needs time.
If he needs time, then you have to decide whether you want to wait. No matter what you do, it won't be wrong. The only thing that would be wrong is to wait while he was dating other girls. So, just find out what he really wants and I'm sure you can go from there.
-TheTeenGirl
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break up with him.
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