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Image and video hosting by TinyPic" align=left hspace=10> hey my name is karen and i live in miami florida... im 17 and go to miami killian senior high.. anything you need help with ask me!! im great at answering questions about friends, cleaning, and relationships.

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Me and my boy friend have been going out for 11 months now. We are madly in love with eachother. He cries to me at night and i cry to him becasue we have been arguing a lot and hurting eachother. He has anger problems and so do i he disrespects me by calling me names and ignoring my phone calls i get realy upset when he ignores my phone calls. So i call back over and over agin maybe 50 times in a row even thoug he says leave me a lone i dont want to be with you go away i hate you. He said he has a lot going on in his life which he does he has court and he hasa job and school hes trying rally hard to do good in school. I ush him all the time to do good in school and im hapy he wants to organizehis life btu now hes throwing me out of it becasue he doesnt have time for a girl friend. He cares for me and loves me but he covers it up by saying i havnt cared about you in so long i dont love you i havnt and mean things i get so hurt over it but i cant let him go no matter what. Then at night when i talk to him till like 2 on a school night he says he loves me and cares but he doesnt have time for a girl friend even though im moving 10 min away from him and he doesnt work everyday our one year is coming up and it hurts for him to say all those things i cant instantly stop loving him what do i do? I cry every night feel like dieing

I'm guessing you're a teenager. I know you might not want to hear this and this might not help you at all, but I think the best thing to do is get out of it now. If it's meant to be it'll find its way back. You guys just might need to take a little break. Serious relationships as teenager can get really frusturating.

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Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do?

Wow... I feel exactly the same way. I'm sorry I just... it's nice to know I'm not the only one that does that.

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I have never been this lonely. Last year, everything in my life ended. My best friend, and basically only really close friend moved away, my sister left for college, my mom sold her business that she has had since I was 3 and has put a ton into, my step mom who I was close to moved out and now i barely see her. Last year sucked, but even so, I thought that after that there would also be a new beginning, and now that I'm back at school, I realize that isn't true. I have plenty of "friends" but none i'm all that close to. I really love my school (it's a tiny all girls school) but now there are all of these new girls and the whole place just feels different somehow.
What should I do? I feel so depressed that it's hard to focus on homework, but I feel like my life isn't "screwed up" enough to go to the counselor.
help please

I've felt the same way recently and didn't know what to do. I felt that I was strong enough to overcome whatever it was that was making me depressed. The truth is, no matter how not "screwed up" you think your life is, you still feel depressed and thats worth seeing a counselor for.

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How do I know if my boyfriend REALLY loves me?
we've been together for close to six months.
i know it's very quick, but after about 1 month, he told me he loved me..
But how can I be sure it's true love and not lust or just a deep like?

How can I be sure it's the real thing, a real love?

Because..i know in my heart that I love this guy. :)

if your asking this question then your not in love.. its most likely lust or deep like like you said. its hard to determine the difference but in time you learn how.

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I'm a virgin. I'm 15. Every time i talk to my boyfriend about sex, he wants me to be on top. I guess because he's really tall this is more comfortable for him. But for my first time, I think it would be a little weird to have to make all the moves, considering he's NOT a virgin. I'm afraid about being on top for my first time. I'm afraid that once I feel pain I'll tense up and pull him out of me....that would me a totall mood killer...I don't even know what my question is..I guess I'm just looking for comments or what not.
-Yes, I am ready for sex so telling me I must not be ready isn't going to be any help to me-
(I'll add adittional information later if anyone needs me to)

being on the bottom is best for your first time. like you said being on top means doing more work. let him know that. he must know your a virgin right?

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I'm doing a project on rules in schools, the good and the bad. However, I need rules that AREN'T just at my schoo or in my state.

I was wondering, what kind of dress codes do you guys have at your schools? Length of shorts, tank tops, ripped jeans?

Also, what are the rules on PDA? We get suspension if we're caught hugging.

Just any rules you may feel strongly about or just ones you guys totally love!

Thanks so much!
Female, 14.

i go to miami killian senior high school and were not aloud to wear ripped jeans yet were aloud to wear short skirts and shorts for some reason. were not aloud to wear sleeveless shirts and not aloud to show our belly button.. but we can show stomach skin. they dont really inforce the sleeveless shirt rule though.. being its summer and all and miami's very hot. :)

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these two friends of mine, who both used to be much closer to me than to eachother got really close this summer while i was gone. now when we hang out, its them 2...and then me on the outside. everyone has noticed it because they are both now soo very into each other and dont talk to anyone else. ive kind of given up on jen, because i expected this from her in the first place. shes always put me aside, becoming great friends with someone new, then tossing them aside for someone else, etc. she always needs attention and is always flirting with guys, even if she knows her friends like him or if hes taken. kelsey on the other hand, has always been so kind and funny. weve had great times but for months now we dont hanbg out outside of school. this week however, weve begun to be like old times. maybes its because ive stoped caring about what jen does, or maybe shes come to her senses that jen is not a good friend. whatever it is, we planned for a night this weekend where wed go to the football game then shed come over. her parents are a little strict about her going out lots because shes ALWAYS at jens. i was so excited for this weekend cuz it would be like old times again..when she decided togo the jens on friday night. i thought, maybe her parents will let her come anways. but then i also tho, shell probably invite jen to come too..and then it wont be much fun cuz they wont talk to me. so today when i talked to her she said "heres the plan, we could go to the football game,or to the hockey game with jen and her sister" i told he ri couldnt go to the hockey game and told her sinmce the boy she likes is playing, she should go with jen without me. wont let you go to the ffootball game. after aboit an hour of figuring things out, things werent working. we decided that it wasnt gonna work so i told her to go to the stupid hockey game. I'm so disapointed in her because i feel like once again, she has chosen jen over me. i am 15 yr old girl from canada and speak french and english..this has happend to me so many times with these girls i dont know what to do.

all i can tell you is i think this is part of things that happen with friends. i have a circle of best friends and the same thing pretty much happened to us. i think you should just think about it and do what you think is right whether its forgeting about your friends and making new ones or something else. its one of those things in life that cant really change and just have to deal with. you cant change the way someone else is. they are who they are. hope i helped.

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Sorry if this is long..

Ok, well I'm going on vacation the 8th till the 19th and usually I'm totally excited and wanna go and just have an awesome time, but its weird ever since like the 5th I just havn't been myself. I don't wanna go on vacation and I dont know why. But the guy I reallly like left the 4th and won't come back the 8th, but I'l have a computer so I can still talk to him. But still I don't get why I feel almost sad and I don't wanna go on vacation, what person doesn't wanna go on vacation..well thanks for reading and if ya can please help!

yeah i agree with the last person.. it sounds like its because of this guy.. your developing stronger feelings for him than your realizing. the fact that hes coming back when your leaving is probally why you dont want to go.

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I"m 16 and I've had my period for a year and a 1/2 now, but in the past few months I've experienced what I guess would be called "Spotting" its just a little bit of blood in my underwear but there is none on the tissue when I wipe. What should I do to prevent this? or Is there anything I can do? and Should I mention this to my doctor when I go?

Thanks

alrighty.. well they have light day pads.. theyre very tiny and are perfect for what youre talking about. hope i helped.

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I have this girl i met in darwin when i went for a holiday there and she likes me and i like her. But she dont wanna do long distance...
What do i do?

long distance relationships are often really hard.. sometimes its better not to get into them!! but if you really want to and she really doesnt want to do that whole long distance thing.. theres really nothing else you can do!

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what are some fun teenager sites?
can u give me at least 5? thanks=)

sorry but i cant list 5.. BUT you might already know about this one but i hope you dont because then i will be introducing you to one of the most popular sites out there!! hehe maybe im exagerating but.. www.myspace.com theres also www.cokemusic.com and i dont really know anymore but i hope you do enjoy the sites!!

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what is freshman friday?my friend said if its freshman friday the seniors gonna throw u into the garbage is it true? how do u avoid it?

it would probally depend on what school you go to but im sure thats just a bunch of BS.. like "the pool on the roof that only seniors can get to" besides.. how would they get away with doing that witout getting in trouvble.. :/

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hi, well school has just ended for me. and now its been summer for almost a week. i havent seen or hungout with any of my friends. i havent even talked to them really. im getting the vibe that they dont want to hangout with me.

im kind of in a 'threesome' with my bestfriends. and of course, im the one thats left out. i just want .. new friends. but i want to keep these friends too. i dont really know what to do. can anyone help me? thanks

itll seem like itll take forever but eventually you and your threesome of friends will end up all becoming really close. if not you can never say you never tried to become good friends with them. in the mean time you can make new friends too.. you might have to wait till school starts again for that or maybe go to your churches youth group. kind of dig your way in there.. make sure they both know they can trust you. help both of them out in a time of need.. i dont know your two other friends so i wouldnt be able to say much but i hope i helped with what i told you. if you need anything else just ask.. i can relate to this!

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this sunday i am going to a party at my friends country club. it's not like one of those really really fancy ones, it's like i regular one. you know with a tennis courts and a place to golf and stuff. my question is, what would be appropriate to wear? can i wear a denim skirt?

i dont know much about country clubs and what to wear when going to them but my guess is you can wear maybe a denim skirt, a white polo and maybe some white sandals!! hope i helped.

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I'm really nervous that this weekend at the beach I will get my period. My mom hasn't got me tampons yet cause I haven't even had my period for half a year. I can't go in the ocean and stuff though. And I am really scared I will get it over the fourth of July at the beach when MY WHOLE FAMILY is there. I want to perticipate in stuff and not worry about my period. What can I do?

umm.. well this is what i would do.. maybe ask a friend to borrow some tampons? :/ i know its really wierd but if you have a close enough friend to do that you might have an answer to your problem!.. they would be unused.. i dont think its a terrible idea! :/ hope i helped.

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so me and my friend used a tampon for the first time last weekend and it was really uncomfortable until after i was in the pool, after that it felt comfortable...
it kept, like, falling out a little i guess?? cuz i kept having to push it back up..
i am pretty sure i did it right.. so what could have happened??

you could have not put it in far enough.. it happened to me before the first time too. it might hurt a little on the way up but once its up there its like you dont even have one on. after a while you will get used to everything. hope i helped.

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I'm a 17 year old virgin. I haven't engaged in any sexual activity. I've been with my amazing boyfriend for almost a year and we have had conversations about sex. He's told me he likes when a girl shaves down there. I've never done that! How do I go about doing this before we do anything sexual? I don't want it to get irritated and not look right. How do I make sure it's smooth and what steps should I take?

hey
well im 15 and probally dont know much but i might be able to help a little. nair is good to use when you dont want any hair at all "down their." everything else in other words shaving i wouldnt know much about and rather not give you any info that might be "not normal" but i have heard that a lot of people just shave the bikini line and let the rest grow.. i hope i helped even if it was just a little and hope everything goes well.

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what can happen if you are depressed and don't get help? (like if you dont go and see a doctor or get medicine)



a lot of things can happen.. you might begining to gain a lot of weight and maybe even start to cut yourself depending on the person. depression can get worse and can be dangerous.

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God I'm so lonely, Why must I be the only person i know still single its like even the most hideous people have bf/gf. I am so alone and need some advice how to get a girl.
Thanks

dont be shy.. be respectful but hands on. go to a mall.. best on a friday night.. depending on how old you are.. you could probally just introduce yourself to a girl thats with some friends and tell her your name and that if its okay if you could have her number to get to know her! if you need other information or have any questions dont be afriad to ask! i hope i helped.

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Ok, so I've liked this girl for a long time, and during the beggining of the school year she also liked me (I didn't know it back then). Now, she's going out with one of my friends, but we still talk a lot. She also keeps on asking me who I like (A lot!) Every time she says that though, I just ward it off by saying something else. So my question is...should I tell her that I like her, or keep that secret safe with me?

wooooooooooooooooooooooooooo first off never keep that a secret! if you like someone make sure you tell them! especially if your a guy! there are so many girls out there that wish they knew if certain people liked them or not. to me it seems like this girl definatly wants to know.

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