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Hey im Porsche and im 16! finally! I am a christian with strong beliefs and i am proud of it! I live in England and love to advise people and be able to help them. I do it alot with my friends and they have wacky problems sooo ive probably heard about quite alot! My friends think my advise is good and i hope you do to! I can only really give advise on relationships and mental health becuase thats what i studied soo anything else i will suck at haha! If you need help or advise dont be affriad to ask send me an email! God Bless!
xox Porsche

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i'm trying to get as many peoples opinions as possible, so please answer honestly: if you went to a school that is pretty open minded and liberal, etc, (this is a question about two girls, so ignore the homophobic aspects, pretend thats not an issue, what i'm talking about is age) do people think it would be weird for a junior and a freshman to go out? you see it all the time with older guys and younger girls, but would any of you think it was strange if it were two girls?

I personally dont think it should be any different if it was two girls to whether it was a guy and a girl!! Soo noo i think it would be cool if they really liked each other!
xox Porsche

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There's this girl named Jenna and she's a grade level higher than I am. She's my good friend and all but I envy her sometimes especially in the guy section. I'm gonna be mean and say that she's not the pretty skinny type or has that good of a personality. She's really bossy and controlling and kind of dull sometimes going on and on about dresses...

Well, I like these guys that are in her grade and they're good friends of mine also. The thing is that Jenna always seems to beat me to them some way or another. She doesn't know I like them--no one does--so it's not like she's stealing them from me deliberately. But this one guy that I am soo crushing on--she went out with him last year--twice. This other guy that I like, she went to homecoming with him.

I don't know what I'm doing when I try to act like her to see if the crushes will like me--I know sad. How do I control my envy and what should I do? And I'm not into the whole confronting her or telling people who I like. So what adivce can any of you guys give me on this?

Well i think you should definately be yourself and dont try and be anyone else because if you dont think she is pretty and has a rash personality then it will be very hard to be her and make it work! I think you should be yourself and go for guys that will like you for who you are! Because they are the ones that are going to stick around the longest and have better relationships with! You will have wonderfull plus sides to yourself and you should find them and exploit them more! If you need advice on how to catch a guys attention ask Jenna because she obviously knows how! And because shes your friend she should be happy to help, but my advice would be stop telling her who you like because if your affraid she may steal them then give her a false name or dont tell her at all! but i really hope some of this has helped!! and i hope it all works for you!
xox Porsche (tell me what you think please xx)

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Okay, so Jane and John are in 10th grade and I'm in 9th. I really like John and John I think is still crushing on Jane and Jane is desperate for a boyfriend now that she'd go out with anyone(so she said to me herself). I think john sorta kinda likes me and according to everyone he does because he hugs me, holds me, picks me up, and gave me one of thos goofy i like you smiles.

The thing is that Jane gets the guys I like before me and technically she already got John. They went out a few tiems last year and I don't thihnk that John's still over her. Let me tell you that a lot of the girls including me like John and so if John does still like her and ask her out, it's going to crush me.

What can I do to have John notice me more? Since there aren't any more school events we'd both be interested in going to, there's no chance of meeting him outside of school since we're loaded with homeowrk (We're nerds. We're taking harder courses)

If you want him hun you gota fight for him!! well take him out but if youve got homework then try studying together or make the excuse that you need a tutor and you think hell be perfect for the job! this way you get the homework done and you get to spend time alone with the guy you like! also being with someone else will help him get over Jane a little easier and quicker and then hopefully notice you in that way a bit more!! But it think the best thing to do is to try n study with him! I really hope thats an idea youl agree with! good luck xox Porsche

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Ok so i have this ex boyfriend and sometimes i tend to see him around,he works at a restaurant and the other day he gave me and my friends free food, and to everyone else he can look in the eyes and act normal but when i get close he tends to act like tough and hard and cannot look at me in the eyes, i look at him but he just stares down...and i tell him thank you for the food and he says ur welcome but still does not look at me.Im just wondering if anyone could advice me on what this could mean...it has me really confused.Thanks

Heya! I think it sounds like he may not be fully over you yet! this could casuse him to look down with nervousness when he sees you! but it should go away with time and if you speak to him more often then he should become more comfortable with you again! it could mean many things but i think mainly it is that he still likes you but realises that you two are over! sooo dont worry hunni! Hope this helps xox Porsche

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I think he might have had feelings for me the last time he saw me (which was in the middle of june). He was like flirting with me but I didn't realize it at the time. And every time he sees me he like smiles and he sort of looks into my eyes- but I get all nervous and I lose the courage to go up to him and talk to him. He's older than me (but all my bfs have been) and I know I'll never see him again. I wish I could just call him and tell him how I feel- I feel almost certain that he's interested. But I don't know what I would say to him on the phone without sounding creepy and awkward. (I really don't know him that well and I haven't spoken to him since June)

So any advice on what to do (to get this relationship started) would be greatly appreciated. Like what should I say on the phone?

Heya, before you talk to him i think you should meet up with him before you say anything and try and see if you think there is still the same feeling between you two He could feel differently. If you still feel the same after you have seen him and spoken to him then you should just try and hint it by flriting a lot and see if he shows emotion back! Also another important thing to check is if he has a girlfriend! If you havent spoke to him for a while you made need to check hes still available! When you feel there is something there then tell him (if its easier for you then over the phone) but tell him casually and that you have liked him for a while and dont pressure him and be sure to say that you still want to be friends! I really hope it works for you! Please tell me how it goes!
Hope it helps xox Porsche

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i read in a magazine that one sign of a guy cheating is if their cell rings and they either shut it off quickly or run to another room to talk. my boyfriend usually does this, but theres no other evidence of him cheating. [although he was accused of cheating on me once although it was a lie because this girl just liked him, and hes sworn he'd never cheat on me because he's been cheated on too many times]. am i just being paranoid?

Heya what are the chances of him actually cheating on you! they are very slim! and he obviously cares about you because he goes out with you and there could be a thousand and one different reasons why he could be closing his fone. But by the sounds of things he knows how iy feels to be cheated on so a really doubt he would put you through the same and that feeling of knowing is terrible!! Its not paranoya but you are just curious i think! but really dont worry about it hunni! If you are still worrid then talk to him and he should understnd if you ask him why he does that but really dont worry! It will be fine!
I hope it helps xox Porsche x

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ok so i have this friend who is well a slut,hoe,whore etc. and kind of a bad friend. whenever i like a guy and i tell her she flirts with him and all that slutty stuff and she does that in front of me trying 2 make me jelous and she tells me about how the guy i like was asking her 2 suck his dick and i waz annyed and waz like thing y iz she telling me this.a million guyz haz called her a ho3 and asked her 2 do stuff and she laughs.she walkz around with her shirt lifted up.and she just went 2 thiz guyz house in maryland(she skipped 2nd block) and she went 2 hiz room and....she did some pretty slutty stuff and i really want 2 tell her but i dont no3 how 2 say i just fell like yelling"YOU STUPID SLUT!!!" but unno 2 be realistic i hav no idea whart 2 do.please help.

Well i really hope this stuff helps haha:
If your best friends with her it will hurt alot to stand and see whats shes doin to you. You should definately talk to her and ask her to stop it because shes hurting you and if she really is a friend then she will. Or you could stop telling her who you fancy and then she wont know who to flirt with. Is she really worth hanging around with if shes a "bad friend"?? Also you worry about her soo you must be pretty good friends. How to tell her what guys think of her,,, Well you should just say you need to talk to her about something serious. And then just say something like this my hurt but i think you really need to know whats being said behind your back, and then just tell her. I agree some of the stuff she is doing isnt great and the things shes doing to you is soo selfish to her friend. You should really talk to her about both things for your sake and for hers. Shel thank you for it and so will you.
I really hope thats helpd cos ma ex best mate did the same to me!
good luck hunni XD
xoxPorsche

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well i was starting to like guy cause we were talking all the time and then he asked me for a picture of my.. yeah and i said no thne he got all crazy on me and started calling me prude and telling me he would never want to be with someone like me. im like okay i dont rly care anymore what you think then yesterday when i woke up i had a text msg on my phone and was like ilove you and always will. i know hes trying to get action. what do i do.

Youve just got to try and ignore him and try and have nothing to do with him! I know you make like him and it may be hard at first but he clearly just wants one thing and is willing to try anything to get it! Don't worry about him just leave him what he said about you is not true so dont worry. He clearly doesnt love you hunni.
I really hope it helps xox Porsche

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I have this guy friend and i have had a crush on him since i can remmber but hes always been like a friend now he has this girlfriend who doesnt like me she doesnt even like me going over his house every time she with him and im around shes always all one him and when i look at them out the windo (i live next door to him) she not she looks normal for once but what im trying to say is everytime they kiss he always looks at me and he as asked me out sometimes and says what his girl dont know dont hurt her what should i do? i do like him but i mean if hes with her i cant go with him

You are right you cant go out with him when he is still going out with her! There is two choices really but it depends on how much you like him. You could either move on as best you can and just stay friends OR you could tell him you have feelings for him and if he says he has them back then say he should finish with his current girlfriend because its unfair on her. If he does have feelings for you and he continues to go out with his current girlfriend then it is unfair. Say to him that he has got to understand that you should not consider him until he has been honest with his current girl friend. So a think hunn that you should just talk to him about it and definately not go out with him whilst he is in his realtionship! but tell him to be honest with both of you! But otherwise b pateient hun! Hope ive helped xox Porsche

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Okay this might be a little confusing so I'm sorry if you dont get it. Okay I have three best friends N and CR are girls and L is a guy. CR is in love with C who she's had a weird chemistry since they were four. C likes N and N is starting to like C which makes CR really mad so she started using L as a distraction and she knows that I've been like in love with him for two years. Now when CR found out N and C kissed she asked L out and she's just using him!!! She told me herself she doesn't like him like she likes C and I don't know if I should tell L or not because he's so fricking clueless he's doesn't even know I like him!!!!!!

What should I do?!?!?!?!

(I need something)

Wowo now that was confusing. I think i get it. CR likes C but C likes N, and N likes C, soo CR is geleous and is using L as a distraction but L doesnt realise and You like L. Is that right? I hope soo
Well i CR is being ridiculous for using somebody like that. Im sorry to say this about your friend but it is soo mean and selfish. I think you have got to try and tell CR to stop it or if that fails tell L becuse he is the one that will probably get most hurt. He will thank you for it trust me. You may want to say something before CR and L get serious. As it can be extremely hard to say something to them. Maybe once all this has blown over you should try telling L how you feel because it could be for the best and then you dont have to see him get used again ( i am not saying he definately will)! You care for him soo tell him! Soo i hope this helps hunni!!
xox Porsche

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Hi, first off I am a girl in fact, and I just turned 16 2 weeks ago.

So now I have that out of the way, I will share my dilemma, mind you it may get bit long because once I start, sometimes I forget the story is getting long.

Well it all started about a month or two ago when I saw this guy, lets call him Bill.

I help out my mom watch this booth during weekends, and that's where I first met Bill.

I had noticed that new shop just came in across from my mom's shop and I had noticed it was this middle aged looking women and this really cute guy, which happened to be Bill.

I was so glad because he seemed like he was around my age and really cute. Because there used to be some weird old guy working there.

But me being very shy, I'm not shy at all in other situation because I can just go talk to random person off the street, except for when it comes to guys that I think is cute. So I couldn't bring myself to say hi, so all day I was just watching him, and it seemed like he was kind of watching me as well.

So almost at the end of the day, I asked my mom if I could go look at what he was selling, and she said I could so I went over there and we somehow started to talk and I found out that he is 16 years old as well. (although i was 15 then)

He was real friendly and nice and again, cute. Then we started to talk and talk more, and even though we don't really have much in common, we seem to talk to each other really well. For example, when I gave him my phone number, because my friend suggested I should, he told me me wasn't good at talking on the phone and I was glad because I wasn't neither.(and he gave me his number as well) But for some reason when we are talking on the phone, we seem to talk really well. There isn't any awkward silent moments. (He called me on Christmas and I just called him last night.)

Then the lady working in front of me told me that he kept looking at me even though there were these pretty girls over at his shop.

Also there was 2 little kids that came by for one weekend, and they kept telling me that he likes me but he's too shy to ask me out.

And as long as this story might be, I am not even half way telling, but I will stop now because I think I got my point acrossed.

So what do I do? tell him I like him? because I am not sure about anything.

Also he might be just really friendly type, and for the fact that he has lot of chick friends.

So please help me and thank you in advance!

Well i personally think you should tell him because you seem to have something between you two and it would be a shame to just dismiss it. It really does sound that he likes you. So if you just bring it up casually in a conversation preferably face to face or if you find it easier then call him and bring it up in one of them conversations. But be sure not to pressurise him becuase it could really put him off! But go for it as you would be suprised how easy it may turn out to be once you get started. good luck
hope it helps xox Porsche

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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help

I really think that you shoud finish this realtionship asap! You are clearly not happy with him and if he cheats and hooks up with other people then he really isnot worth it. you can do far better hunni! He doesnt take you seriously anymore and that isnt right in a relationship! You clearly worth more and show him he is not invincible! Hope it helps Good luck xox Porsche

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i am from australia, im 16. my name is alice.
well, i met this boy a couple of months ago. he works with me.

i went to work one day < i wasnt working > just syaing hi, and he was there and i hadnt normally seen him there before because he works in the day and i work weekend and arfternoons.. i introduced my self and we started hanging out in the arfternoons when i would go there after school. and then i fell for him. a couple weeks later he moved out of home and moved in with a couple of his friends. and he decided to go back to school for a year to finish year 12, ( i am only in year 10 ) so he stopped working for a bit and we kind of lost touch because he didnt have much money so he couldnt call me or anything. that was about 2 montsh ago.. then i saw him again recently because its holidays,, we hung out and had lunch and just caught up. he has these gorgeous blue eyes that i cant stop staring at, and blonde hair. he's the sweetest guy i have ever met and i really love him. we started workign again toegther recently and we flirt alot. things like tickling me all the time! and calling me cute names. but i dont know whether he just wants to me friends with me or he likes me mroe than a friend. i really want to find out before we go back to school beacuse chances are, we will loose touch again. someone please help me out i just dont know how to tell him how i feel. i cant stop thinking aboout him. when i'm with him i feel happy and secure, but when im not with him i miss him so bad and cant stop thinking about him. please could someone help me out here?

Alice.

Well it already sounds lik you two have a bond already so it shouldnt be so hard to talk to him. You should try and take him out somewhere and then bring it casually into the conversation that you have some strong feelings for him. If he says no then tell him you still want to keep in touch and stay friends. but from the sound of how you flirt he may have similar feelings. You'l be fine and just tell him casually and try not pressure him as this could put him off!! But good luck hunni and it wil be fine. Hope this helps
xox Porsche

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Okay well i was going out with this guy kyle and we broke up and now he is like dating this other girl and we just broke up like 6 weeks ago and i still miss him to death but they dont even talk on the phone see one another at school or go anywhere with one another!Well she had a myspace but nomore!It is gone she delted it!Am i still in love with him?Im i over him?I need some help!!!

I can not tell you wether or not you are over him, only you know the answer to that one. He may be talking and meeting his new grilfriend ouside of school and you may not know about it. Try not to go back there because you broke up for a reason and if you accidnetly split them up then you may loosse him for life hun. Im sorry hun but i think the best thing to do is to try and get over him and move on with your life and try hang out with new people so you can build new relationships. Only you know if you are still in love with him or if you just miss him. Have a think about it but if you find you still really love him then wait till hes split up with his girlfriend and try and build up that relationship again but you mus be patient and dont worry!! i hope i could help :D
xox Porsche

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So my boyfriend just left yesterday to go on a triop with his friends (guys and girls) for a week..and he called tnite saying he was at a bar..i am worried he's gonna meet some girls and cheat..is there anyway to make myself not so worried?

You should worry if he loves you then there is no way he would cheat. He sounds unique as not many guys call their girlfriend to tell them where he is. If you are relly worrid call him later and ask him how it went tonight. Hearing him will reasure how much you love each other and then you will realise there was no point in worrying about it. Relax hun he wouldnt.
Hope it help xox Porsche

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Hey everyone!!! I am 15 years old and I have never had a bf. I dont think that I am ugly, nor i am not antisocial. Is something wrong with me? After all, i am already a sophmore....

No there is nothing wrong with you at all. Many people begin to get their first propa boyfriends around 15/16/17. My first proper boyfriend came when i was 15. So this could be your year. Just keep being social and try new things and hanging out with new people to find new friends. This could help you find the right guy for you. There is someone out there for you just be patient and you'll find him. Hope it helps
xox Porsche

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one friend that i have mentioned before has been relly gettin on ma last nerves. i was late for skool one day went up behind her and said "boo" the girl turned around and punched me in the face and i was ready to scream and cry but i didn't.All i could do was hold my nose.Then, another day i was in the lunchroom and i tripped on her bookbag and fell on her and she took he hand and dug her nails into my wrist and i started bleeding. i have been in so many arguements wit her and she says stuff behind peoples' backs. it wasn't pretty. please try to answer me right now!!! THANKS!!! and she said she is very nice. HA!!

It sounds like you could like without her and that is what i would recomend. You dont need this extra type of stress whilst at school. You could report her onominously because violence like that at school isnt need and should be against the rules. Try and avoid her as much as possible and in the long run she will loose alot of friends. She should see that shes doing sumthing wrong and change her attitude. But if not its her loss in the long run hun you are far nicer than that. hope it helps.
xox Porsche

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So I`m dating a great guy named Mike.

Yesterday we got into an argument & we started questioning our relationship. After we were done fighting, I thought it was all over & done with..

UNTIL

He called me tonight, and he said that he wasn`t personally ready for a relationship. Even though we`ve been together six months. :/

He broke up with me & I started hysterically CRYING. I couldn`t help myself, I just felt so sad that he would do something so random. Then like half an hour later he said, "Why would I do this to such a wonderful girl? I`m sorry for putting you in this position!" Then I asked him what we were, and he said we were back together.

Now, I`m totally confused.
Do you think he actually wants to be with me, or do you think it`s because he just doesn`t want me to be sad? :[ Please help. Thanks in advance.

♥

You shouldnt worry hun because he could have genuninly felt bad for breaking up with you. He could have got all confused and then regreted it later. If you are still worrid about whether he does want to be with you becuase he likes you, try and talk to him about it. He is your boy friend and he is there to talk to. Also after talking to him and your still worrid it may become obvious in time. But dont worry yourself becuase he was sorry and cared for u enough to apologise and carry on goin out with you soo Smile.
hope it helps hun xox Porsche

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17/m Well i really like this girl and i no she is kinda kinky and is willing to have a good time but im into the bondage and i really want to try it on myself or her but i dont know who to bring it up to her and ask if she will try it? any ideas?....cause bondage really turns me on!!!

Just ask her casually if she says no just leave it dont pressure her because she may come round in time and take you up on the offer but if you pressure her once shes said no then you will definately have to look for someone else to try it on. Good Luck xox Porsche

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okay so me and my bf really want to have sex. we are both virgins, so i was wondering is there anyway i can get something from him if he hasnt had sex and if he wears a condom wats the chance of me getting pregnat?

There is no such thing as safe sex. but him still being a virgin doesnt mean he may not carry deseases, he may have a deseases such as those passed ginetically. Always use protection but if you are serious about this then you may want to see a doctor or nurse for other forms of birth control. Talk about it first but good luck and i hope this has helped. Porsche xxx

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