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I'm a great advice columnist but i guess every advice person needs some advice as well.
Ok so about a month ago my sister and my brother in law came to visit us and i was sleeping (it was night time) and I remember waking up for my brother inlaw touching my leg. I didnt think much of it but after that I kept on thinking about it. Well i was at their house and last night he said he was sorry, and i didnt know what he was talking about and i was like for what and hes like I touched you in a place that you shouldnt have been touched by me (higher than my legs) I dont know what to do! because I mean I dont think he was doing it for more than a sec cuz i think i woke up right away but I dont want to tell my mom and dad because my dad would kill him and they would say something to my sister and then my sister and him would probably get a devorice and my sisters really happy. I mean that was the first time but I still cry about it like i feel so violated and i dont know what to do. I cant sleep cuz i think about it. All I do is cry about it. Please help me please!
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im so sorry about what happened and im sure that your sister would want to know what kind of man she married and you should tell your sis and then have her talk to her husband about it! im so sorry!!!!! if u have ne more questions then just drop one in my box!
xox ash xox
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my mom is constantly telling me tha ti am fat... i never thought that i was before but now that my mom keeps saying it i am begininng to think that i am.. i dont want to loose weight becasue i am happy wiht the way i look but my mom doesnt get that. i am 5 foot 3 and 195 pounds but i knwo i dont look it because i do have alot of leg adn arm muscle. i dont knwo if i shoudl tell my mom to stop or jsut loose the weight to amek her happy even thought it wont matter to me... please help (link)
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dont listen to your mom...if you dont want to loose weight and you are comfortable with your weight then just tell your mom that and dont think you need to loose weight and wut a bitch...y would she tell her own kid they r fat!
xox ash xox
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my brother just hit me so bad and it was for like no reason my whole face started bleeading he took a shoe and started hiting me with it and started pulling my hair i hate him so much..i was so close 2 calling the cops but i just couldnt wat should i do i really started hating him! (link)
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well if you are being abused by your brother you need to tell your parents and if they dont do anything about it tell an aunt or an uncle bcuz no1 has the right to abuse you like that...i hope your okay! if it happens again when ur mom n dad arent home i would go to a neighbors house and knock on the door and try to get away from your brother...if u have another question just drop it in my box!
xox ash xox
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what do i do here...
i wish that my parents would get a devorce at
points. there a very unlikely couple i guess u could say and i really dont like my dad that much...he walks around with no shirt on, beer belly, and the house that we moved into i have to walk through there room to get to my room and its really annoying when i have friends over. my parents get into fights a lot and i go into my room and cry and my mom thinks im stupid for doing that, like she thinks i exagerate. in the summer my mom just works on the weekends and leaves me home with my brother and dad which i hate. my dad will buy me practically anything i want-cellphone, trampoline but i think he just gets me all this stuff bc he thinks i love him more or something. and i feel worse for my brother bc he has to put up with even mor eof his crap. i so scared im going to grow up like my dad or something. please help...tell me, am i being a brat? (link)
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well it sounds like you dont get along with your dad and if they do end up divorcing then you most likely wont end up w/ him...and about ur mom...well i would just say screw her...i mean...it sounds like shes a real well u know...and about the house situation...you should try to talk to both your parents about it and just tell him that you dont like how the rooms are arranged and if they could maybe look for a new house and sell this one soon...and no1 wants their parents to get a divorce...but if they do...IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT...and dont think that it is! oh and if your mom tells you to stop crying just tell her mom i am crying bcuz of you and dad not getting along and just be like i want yall to get along and be happy so i wont have to be sad all the time! and see what happens! good luck n let me know if i can help u!
xox ash xox
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~*Hey I have this problem with my cuzin. She is now 14. She thinks she is better than every1 else...she even told me that once. She dresses like a slutt...most ppl call her 1. She wears skirts that don't cover her a**, and shirts that go just bellow her breasts. Every where I go wit her guys r always starring. She always brings me down, and told me that she was ready to have sex!!! She is turning anirexic(food disorder). I wish I could help her. All she does is tell me how much she thinks I wanna be like her. I just don't understand I love and care for her and she treats me like this. I've tried asking her whats wrong, and she just calls me a loser and walks away. Pls help wit my problem*~ (link)
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if you know she is turning anorexic then you do need to get her help! you can go to websites that have support groups and help centers but also about the whole 'slut thing' you can always just ask her if when she is with you if she would dress more uhm...modestly i guess is the word...and just tell her that it makes you feel akward when she dresses like she does...oh and she is only 14 she is not ready to have sex...next time she says that just say so youre sayin that if u had sex n got pregnant you would be ready to have the baby and be a mom full time??? and see what she says...that should change her mind...but if u need nething else just drop one in my box!!!
xox ash xox
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ok my sister's boyfriend just got into a fight with his mom. and now hes not living with his parents anymore. my sis doesnt want him to end up like my sister which did the same thing and never came back. so i think she just went with her boyfriends mom somewhere. and if he comes by wut do i tell him? or if he calls do i tell him wut is going on? idk cuz my sis sounded pretty serious about it and sed that i couldnt tell him anything. but wut should i do?!?!?! plz help
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well if your sis asked you not to tell him anything then i would say that you should respect her choice and not tell him anything but when she does ask you if you have any ideas you can tell her that her boyfriend can always go back to his mom. she is his mom and no matter what she loves him and even if she said she didnt she does and so just tell your sis that but respect her and her boyfriends privacy and dont do anything to make her mad at you b/c she is prolly pretty stressed out right now! tell me if u need nething else
~ash~
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ever since summer started its been problem after problem. i guess its keeping me busy n itz better happening now the during school. but i dk. i break down at night n crym y self 2 sleep its getting bad but im the kinda person that can deal with alot happening but i dont like it. i dont know i think im really confused about wut to do n i need help. (link)
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Hmmm...there are alot of things you can do. You can ask around the neighborhood and see if anyone needs their car washed, their dog watched, their kids babysat, simple stuff like that! Then you can buy a few school clothes with the money you make if your parents can't buy you any. I know it sounds really bad, like you have to buy your own clothes. But when it really comes down to it. You need clothes and thats a way to get them. And when school starts, ask the counselor to help you out. They really can do alot even though it may not seem like it. They can get your parents help with money and stuff like that...but meanwhile...try to talk to your mom or dad and just say that maybe you can have a few dollars every week and if you save up enough you will be able to buy some more clothes. but i would be glad to help you out some more so if you do want me to then just type it in on my advice column!!!! i really hope you arent so stressed out!!
xox ash xox
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Hey I need advice um..i like this 12 year old girl and im 16 should i go outwith her because she likes me i only know her bout 8 weeks already we barely talk when we talk we see at other at dances i love her so much i kiss her on the first time we meet (link)
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k well you are gonna have bigtime problems getting her parents to let her date a guy who is 4 years older! no offense! but if you get through that then i would say there is an extreme age difference but nothing can stop love so...i say go for it! and good luck to ya! tell me if i can do nething else!
xox ash xox
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im 11 and i way 110 puonds. its really hard for me to keep up a normal body wait especially in the summer. all my friends are skinny and ive been really self concious lately. is there any way that i can loose10 or 15 pounds by september??
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well first of you can start to eat healthy and excersize...you can do crunches (yea they really do work) and push-ups for your arms...you can run and go to the gym! also for the eating healthy part, you have to eat! so dont try starving yourself! it DOESNOT work! so im sure you dont need to loose any weight and that you are beautiful and perfect just the way you are but if you want to do this...GOOD LUCK! and tell me if i can help you in any other way!!!
xox ash xox
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well me and my friend are over..and i was j/w if anyone knew any quotes about friendship being over..thanks. (link)
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Its amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but its sad when the two best friends become two strangers.
if you want anymore you can go to yahoo or google or also firehotquotes.com has some good ones!
xox ash xox
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omg ok i know school is about to start and all but i REALLY want a boyfriend...i mean all my friends have had um n stuff but me. and its very intemidating when they do and talk about them and stuff...i mean this past summer it seems like guys look at me n stuff and seem to like me but never ask me out or n e thing. and i mean im deffiantly not the type to just go up to someone and just ask um whats there name or w/e so someone pleae tell me a way! (link)
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okay well dont get your hopes down. the first thing is that CONFIDENCE IS SEXY! a guy likes it when you are confident and if you go up to him then you have more of a chance to get done what you want! and also...since school is about to start you will be meeting new guys who are just moving to your school and the guys you went to school w/ last year will be different so just try to get them to notice you and then approche w/ confidence! good luck n let me know if u need anything else!!!!!
xox ash xox
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How do I get more friends?? I have two best friend but it feels like no one else is really my friend.... like I only have 2 friends!! I think I'm pretty... I mean people tell me I'm pretty and modeling agents come up to me (not to sound cocky but I'm just trying to tell ya the whole story) I used to be popular back in 8th grade but now I dont know what happend.... I mean I have A LOT of "not really/kinda sorta" friends. I know i need to "be myself" but I dont know how to... HELPZ (link)
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I can't tell you how to be yourself, but it helps to try to do that! Also if you want to make friends you have to go out and meet people, like you can go to the movies, the mall, if you hear about any parties you can call around and just say something like, "hey its _____ and i was wondering what is going on this weekend?" and if they are the ones throwing the party you will most likely get invited! Also, to know how to be yourself, look at how you act around your two best friends and at home. That is probably how you should act when you meet new people! good luck on making new friends! let me know if i can do anything else for you!
xox ash xox
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i rele didnt no what to call this
last school year i was rele flat if u no what i mean and now im not but im not fake how do i get people to realize that? because all the guys think i stuff what am i suppose to do take off my clothes and prove it? (link)
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well if u really want to do that then i guess u can...but i wouldnt say thats the best way...just stand up 4 urself and maybe wear clothes that show you dont stuff or if thats what you want to do then i guess show...
xox ash xox
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Hey theres this girl that im just dying to be with and she knows that I like her. Im 16 and shes 14 but her parents dont let her date guys my age cuz theyre more near her brothers ages. What should i do to get her parents to let her be with me? (link)
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well if you just show her parents that you are a nice, responsible, friendly, funny guy and just first get them to let yall hang out and just be friends at first and then you can start working on them lettin her date you and it might take some time and you might have to really think about what to say to them but you talking to them will DEFINATLEY earn you some points! let me know if u need nething else!
xox ashley xox
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I wanna lose weight, on my stomach and my bum. But I wanna lose weight before I go back to school in 5 weeks, anyone got any good ways? (link)
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okay well if you eat healthy for 5 weeks and i mean healthy...no fast food...very low or no fats and all that! and you excersice you will start to loose weight! and it helps to do alot of CRUNCHES! might sound stupid but they really work...do as many as you can...it helps to do them when you wake up in the morning and b4 u go to bed! if you need anything else let me know! and good luck with everything!!!
xox ash xox
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last year in school, i got good grades but i always felt like i was scraping by. How do i stay organized and calm and still have time for other things in my life? (link)
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well the thing is...everyone tells you you have to get good grades but just try your best and sometimes if you have extra time in class you can get homework from other classes done! if u need nething else let me know
xox ash xox
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Both of my great grandma's just died. I went out shopping with my best friend all day yesterday after going to a doctors appointment with her dad. I feel terrible about not helping my dad with the funeral stuff... Should I feel bad? (link)
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no dont feel bad...you and your dad are going through a very rough time right now and you should be able to feel sad and just know that they went to a better place and that everything happens for a reason...if your dad really needed your help and thought that you shouldve helped him he most likely would have said something to you but dont feel bad...your emotions are going crazy right now and you dont need that problem on your shoulders to so just dont feel bad...good luck and im very sorry about your loss
xox ash xox
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umm like im like ya know like 25 like and like im like not liek sure about like things like i dn like umm things like ya knwo
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well conmfused...um like u know that like you should like do like the right thing thats like wutever is like in ur heart to like do so yeah thats like pretty much it tell me if u need nething else!!!!!
xox ash xox
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I have a very bad head ache right now. It hurts all behind my left eye. I've taken two extra strength Tylenols, but they don't seem to be helping. Is it safe to take more then 2 within 4 hours even though the bottle does not recommend you to? Are there any other solutions out there to save my brain from splitting in half? (link)
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well if your headaches are really that bad and you cant get any of the over the counter meds to work then you should GO TO THE DOCTOR they always help w/ that kind of stuff...and its not good to take more then whatever dosage the bottle says! if you need anything else just let me know!!!!
xox ash xox
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ok im 16 and i am pretty in shape. i am not extremely ripped but i have a nice figure. ive done a million sit ups and i know that i have a 6 pac just EGGING to pop out, but i need to lose a little bit of fat on my stomach for it to show a lot. whats a good, fast way to lose just a little bit of weight so that my abs will show a lot more? (link)
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working out is the BEST way to loose weight...you shouldnt use those tv diet pills they can screw you up so just keep doin situps regurlarly and maybe try running around the neighborhood or going to the gym if the sit ups dont give u the results you want!!! if u need nething else just let me know!! good luck n im sure you are beautiful the way you are n ur 6 pack will show up soon!!!
xox ash xox
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