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Cuzin problems
~*Hey I have this problem with my cuzin. She is now 14. She thinks she is better than every1 else...she even told me that once. She dresses like a slutt...most ppl call her 1. She wears skirts that don't cover her a**, and shirts that go just bellow her breasts. Every where I go wit her guys r always starring. She always brings me down, and told me that she was ready to have sex!!! She is turning anirexic(food disorder). I wish I could help her. All she does is tell me how much she thinks I wanna be like her. I just don't understand I love and care for her and she treats me like this. I've tried asking her whats wrong, and she just calls me a loser and walks away. Pls help wit my problem*~
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if you know she is turning anorexic then you do need to get her help! you can go to websites that have support groups and help centers but also about the whole 'slut thing' you can always just ask her if when she is with you if she would dress more uhm...modestly i guess is the word...and just tell her that it makes you feel akward when she dresses like she does...oh and she is only 14 she is not ready to have sex...next time she says that just say so youre sayin that if u had sex n got pregnant you would be ready to have the baby and be a mom full time??? and see what she says...that should change her mind...but if u need nething else just drop one in my box!!!
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Hey..ive had a friend somewat like taht and it drove me crazy..! like u have a couple options...
i know that bein a tattle tail is bad but being in this situation it doesnt have to be.. an eatin disorder is terrible.. that kinda stuff u gotta tell ppl about!!
AND another thing she is soo not ready to have sex... let her at least finish high school!!! and try to tell her that and i know its hard.. like she has a whole life in front of her and if she gets pregnant and shes not married or even has a degree to get a good job to raise a family well shell jus be messin up her life ! TAlKIN can help and even if u have to shout it in her face so it gets through her head and tell her if she says ur jealous.. try to find some reasons y ur not and y ur doin this cuz u CARE ABOUT HER!
hope i helped at least a bit.. and think about it overnight
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Tell her how you feel and that she makes you feel bad/down. And let her know that she is not ready to have sex and you know that for a fact and she doesnt know weather the guy has STDs or anything like that! And for the anirexia you may want to tell her parents about it before she seriously gets hurt. And no matter how much she may hate you now.. and what you do to help her she will thank you later-trix
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omg! my cuzin used to be just like that when she was 14 and now shes 17 and expecting a baby next month so yaaa u might wanna get her help cuz b4 she was pregnant she smoked (pot & cigs) and did alchohol and it took er this long t realize all the crap she did
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Your cousin is going through a stage where she thinks being slutty will impress the guys. Although,they'd be interested in having sex with her,they won't respect her if she acts like that. You can't respect a slut,and if you can't respect someone,you can't love them. Tell your cousin this and if she still dresses like it's midnight on 45th,then she apparently feels ok just being used for sex. Her eating disorder tells me that she's desperately trying to lose weight to impress guys and she thinks this is the way to do it. It's not. Once she gets some self-respect,she'll quit dressing like that. Then she'll eventually realize that eating healthy is better than being anorexic.
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She is either.. Angry with herself.. and just wants attention.. or wants to feel better by gettin guys to notice her and not you.. just relax.. she is just threatened by you.. soo wants to do things to stand out more.. SOO KEEP HER JEALOUS..and have fun.. but if she is starvin herself.. u need to talk with her or her parents.. thats not cool
KYLE
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i think yoru cuz either really wants to fit in and wants the guy's to notice her or really is [ no offence] stuck up. you got to talk to her!
it mayb really hard to because she might start to think your geting to be really jelous of her, but try and get her to understand how you feel and that if she keeps walking the path she's taking then things can go seriously wrong in her future and she will seriously regret it. you got to tell her that you love her and all but you are seriously worried about her. if that doesn't work get other family members involved! you don't want to see her flush her life down the drain now do u. if she doens't listen leave her alone, don't hang around with her and if you see her at family functions and all jsut say hi and walk away, she'll hopefully get watz going on.] you probally don't want her to alwayz be looking down upon you and other ppl.
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If her parents know she dresses and acts this way and they don't do anything about it then that's a problem. At fourteen she should not look like that. If they don't know then you should definitely tell them how she's acting. If she continues to act like this and you don't like it then you could try to avoid her. I know she's family, but tell her you're busy when she wants you to go somewhere with her. It's okay to tell a little white lie.
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