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great grandma's just died
Both of my great grandma's just died. I went out shopping with my best friend all day yesterday after going to a doctors appointment with her dad. I feel terrible about not helping my dad with the funeral stuff... Should I feel bad?
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no dont feel bad...you and your dad are going through a very rough time right now and you should be able to feel sad and just know that they went to a better place and that everything happens for a reason...if your dad really needed your help and thought that you shouldve helped him he most likely would have said something to you but dont feel bad...your emotions are going crazy right now and you dont need that problem on your shoulders to so just dont feel bad...good luck and im very sorry about your loss
xox ash xox
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Yeah you should be there for him but i dont know maybe you are trying a new way to cope with it and maybe shopping helps you i dont know just be tehre for him as much as possible-trix
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You and your Dad are going through a rough time right now and the best way to help your Dad is to just be supportive and share your feelings. As far as arranging the funeral that is part of his responsibility as an adult, if he has asked you to help he may not be thinking clearly. Just do what you need to grieve and your Dad will to, whatever you do don't feel guilty, that is one more emotion you just don't need right now.
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no because your a kid.. you shuldnt have deal with that kind of stuff.. blieve me u may think u feel bad but u jus dont no wut to feel <33
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Im really sorry about your loss. Don't feel bad. People cope with the pain in different ways, and that's perfectly fine. I mean even though it hurts and your gonna miss them, you need to move on with your life, because that is what they would want you to do.
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i really dont think u should feel bad becuz ppl deal wit things in different ways.. we my cuzin n uncle died i didnt want to b around becuz it just made me worse.. maybe so u wont feel bad ask ur dad if he minds tat ur not helping and tell him y! sry.. n hope i helped gud luck wit everything! xoxo angie
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First of all I just want to say im so sorry. I don't think you should feel bad. If your dad really needed you to help with anything I am sure that he would ask. But just in case ask him if you can help with anything. Going shopping with your friends and doing other stuff is a good way to feel better about your grandmothers deaths. I am so sorry and I hope I helped. If you need me you know were to find me.
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I'm sorry to hear that. Usually parents don't like the kids helping out anyway. I wouldn't worry about it. If you want, tell your dad that you did feel bad but I am sure he didn't care. I am sure the adults had everything under control. Good luck!
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You should only feel bad if he needed your help and you abandoned him. Funeral arranging is usually a lot of paperwork and decision about what, where, and how the funeral should be done. Some people like to handle all of this stuff by themselves, and some like someone to lean on. Everyone is a little different. The only advantage to going with him to do these things is to learn what is done, and how all of the arrangements are made. There will probably be other funerals to help with or learn from. If it is really bothering you, talk to him about how he feels. I wouldn't worry too much.
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I am sorry about your loss. I think the imortaint thing is to let you dad know you are there for him if he needs anything. And if he needs you, he'll ask. But don't feel guilty, I am sure your grandmothes would want you to be happy.
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yuo just wanted to have some fun and you prboly dont eant to help and maybe you should ask ur dad
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