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I'm Rachel, I'm 20 and a Junior at Michigan State University! I've been with advicenators for a few years, and I enjoy coming on ever so often to help someone who needs it. I love giving advice, especially to people who have been in the same situation as I have. So ask away ;)


By the way, I just wanted to let everyone know that though I do enjoy this site, advicenators does not consume my life, so please be patient when waiting for a response. It may take up to 2 days, it may be instantaneous.

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In your opinion (meaning that if you tell me what you think you'll get a 5), do you think that people should miss out on church in order to do yardwork, study for an exam, play in a soccer tournament, etc? I just want to know what qualifies as an acceptable excuse for not going to church. What other good reasons are there for missing church? -no I'm not trying to avoid going to church-

Thanks!

In my own opinion I think that there are a few reasonable excuses for missing church, but otherwise you should not. For example, sometimes my family or family friends have late-lasting parties on Saturday nights, and we can't get up early enough for church on Sundays. Or if we're really sick or on vacation, we have to miss it. Otherwise, we do our best to get to church every Sunday morning.

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are there any soaps/meds (non proscription) that can get rid of like blackheads on your forhead and cheeks? i know they make deep cleaning washes specificially for black heads but they seem to all be for black heads on your nose

Neutrogena has a lot of good products.
- Neutrogena Blackhead Eliminating Daily Scrub
- Neutrogena Blackhead Eliminating Treatment Mask
- Neutrogena Blackhead Eliminating 2-in-1 Foaming Pads
- Neutrogena Blackhead Eliminating Astringent

From what I read, the directions say to lather and massage over face, so it's not just targeted for the nose area. I definitely recommend the Daily Scrub and Foaming Pads because they can be used daily, unlike the other 2. I use the Daily Scrub and it works great, but remember that not all acne products work the same way for everyone.


NEUTROGENA PRODUCTS : http://www.neutrogena.com/ProductsLine_1_2.asp

I also recommend Clearasil products, because they work pretty good too.
http://www.clearasil.us/products/

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Can a nine year old use a pantyliner

I believe it's all right if she needs it. Panty liners can be used daily for slight urine leakage, discharge, or light flows of menstruation. If she needs it, then she can go ahead and use it. Otherwise, it's okay not to use one.

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What age do you think is the best for having a first boyfriend? :)

It depends on the level of maturity and how serious the person wants to be. I think that around 14 is a good age to have your first. I know my friends who have "dated" from the ages 9-12 realize how immature their relationship was, and don't consider it a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship since they were younger at the time and weren't really serious about it.

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hey i'm just wondering, who is on each cover of the gossip girls books? like who's the black girl? and same for the clique books, which girl is which on the cover? and for a-list too haha..are they ALL anna percy? ok thanks i'll rate 5s! =)

I've only read the A-list series and the first gossip girl book. I was told that Anna Percy was the girl on all of the A-list covers, but I'm not sure if that's right. In the Gossip Girl book I have (the first one), I'm guessing Blair is in the middle, the ones to the sides of her (the blonde one and the dark one) are either Kati or Isabel.

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just to let you guys knwo im not using the real peoples names but still the situation that is going on.

ok at the beginning of the year i was really close with three other girls (Jessica, Lisa, and Natalie) we were all really close and kind of had a little clique thing. we told each other everythin but i was kind of closer to Lisa and Jessica and Natlaie were close together.

as the year went on it kind of split off into me and lisa and jessica and natalie.

we always had stupid fights which ALWAYS ended up being misunderstandings. like me and lisa thought they were ignoring us and they thought we were ignoring them. whatever. so these problems kept on happening

eventually me and lisa jsut sort of gradually stopped talking to Jessica and Natalie.

then the other day natalie let my friend see her phoen and my friend saw a text message that jessica sent to natalie saying "i hate samantha (me) and lindsay" this really through me off guard.

i mean i knew we had some problems but come on hate is a very strong word.

my question is i dont know if i should try to work it out with jessica and natalie i mean we were all really close or should i just stop being friends with them. i really dont know what to do please help!

Hey,

This is the kind of situation my friends and I are in right now.

I wouldn't all together just stop being friends with them. First, talk to them about it. Say, "So...what was up with that text message on your phone? Do you hate us or what?" Try to work it out with them. Chances are, they didn't really mean what they said, because I know I say "hate" sometimes too, even if I don't mean it (like if I'm annoyed with somebody). Tell them you want to be as close as you were before, and that you want to be friends again and maybe hang out more often. Hopefully, they feel the same way and will want to work things out, too.

If they're not willing to work it out, then forget about them. As close as you guys were before, remember that relationships often come and go...people can change. My best friend of 5 years and I just stopped talking right after we moved to different schools. Even though I miss her, I have to let it go.

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The guy that I like is about 25 pounds overweight and isnt athetlic at all. I asked him if he wanted to play tennis with me because I have been taking lessons. The whole time we played he critized me, saying mean things like "your stamina is terrible", what kind of lessons have you been taking", and " I thought you would have been way better". He was really upsetting me so finally I said that I was still learning and to give me a break. The thing was that he was a lot worse than me, and I was trying to say nice things to encourage me.
A couple days later he told me that he thought I should lose 15 pounds. I am average, not fat. He is way more overweight than me and I have never said anything to him because I know it would just hurt him. My feelings were very hurt with all his negativity. Should I move on?

YES. YES. YES.

He's not worth it. His criticsm and negativity are horrible; no one should EVER say that kind of stuff to you and if they do, they're not worth your time. You deserve someone so much better; someone that makes you feel better about yourself.

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My really close friend Amanda is obsessing over this hot kid at school. Every conversation is spent talking about that he looked at her! I mean he just looked at ya! She claims she "loves" him. She doesn't even know what that means! She has talked to the guy ONCE and all it was was him asking her what period an assembly was!! She says that was the best moment of her life! In her profile she writes all this love crap...its pathetic. How can I tell her she should stop claiming she's in "love" and focuz on whats really important??

I know how it feels -- a lot of my friends are like that. But I guess you have to wait it out a little. It happens to me once in awhile, too, but she'll get over it soon. One of my friends liked a guy (secretly) for 4 years before she got over him.

If it really bugs you, try to hook them up or start getting them talking and really being friends. Or just tell her how it's bugging you, but do it nicely and in a non-threatening way. (EX. I know you like ____, and he's a really cool guy and everything, but it's kind of starting to annoy me a little when you talk about him so much. I don't want this to get in the way of our friendship, but maybe could we not talk about him as much? We can still talk about him, but maybe lower it down a little.)

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Hey guys,
I already asked a quesion a while ago about Valentines Day. I really don't know what to get my best friend Daniel. I'm wanting to get him a stuffed animal off of this one site, but I'm having a hard time picking between all 4 bears I like. I was wondering if anyone would like to go to the site and look at the bears I'm choosing from to maybe get him, and tell me what one you like the best. I can't really decide, so if anyone wants to look at the bears I really like they are on www.bandannabear.com-I like the 2 bears in the very first row and the 2 bears in the fourth row. Those are the ones I'm choosing from to get him. If noone wants to do this, it's alright. By the way I am 15/f and he is 14/m turning 15 on the 31st of this month. He is very sweet and mature for his age. He lives in a different state, and I plan on meeting him as soon as I can save up enough money for me and my mom because she wants to go too. We've been talking now for over 6 months and aren't going out yet. We consider ourselves going out though. We already sent each other gifts for Christmas. Someone help me out if you want! If not, it's alright. I love everyone on this site anyway! Thank you so much!

I agree with the others; the first one in the first row is really cute :]

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i have a good friend, who i have had over my house many times. i have a lot of fun with her, & enjoy having her over, but she has never invited me over her house. i know her dad & mom pretty well, so i am pretty sure she's no hiding anything. anyways, i wouldn't want to be rude & invite myself over, but i really would like to go over her house one day, considering we're always either out or at my house, but never hers. what can i do to solve this "problem"?
thanks!

Bring it up casually into your conversations, or subtly hint at it...like while you're talking, kinda go, "Hey...how come we never hang out?"

Or if that doesn't work, just ask her about it. I used to never invite my friends over my house because I thought my house was just too boring and I wanted them to have a good time. But when my friends asked me about it, and I explained to them why, they said it didn't really matter, so now I invite them over all the time. Sometimes confrontation is the way to go.

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Ok... im 13/f and i weigh 170lbs yes i know im fat... but ive been losing a lot of weight.. but all my friends are tiny and i feel so selfconcence(SP) around them and like i feel like they talk about my weight when im not around(but i know they dont) i just feel like really fat... is there anyway that i cant just be not selfconcense around them and i can just be me without feeling fat.... im already on a really good diet so you dont have to tell me to get on a diet.. i need mental help on this 1 ... :'(

I can really relate with you on this one because all of my friends are gorgeous and skinny and the main attraction with guys, and I had always been the chubbier, just-a-friend type. I was always self conscience and I always felt as if my friends were talking about me behind my back.

But I learned to accept myself, what I looked like on the inside and outside. True friends look only on the inside, and if they don't then they're not true. They're superficial, and friends like that shouldn't matter. They should look at you now and say, "You're perfect." I learned to be confident and love me just the way I was, and I found that most people like a confident girl; someone who's not afraid to be themself, someone outgoing, and someone FUN.

It's great that you started working out (I do too, hehe) but remember that beauty is only skin deep.

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I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance!

I was 12 years old and it was with my "boyfriend" of 2 months, at my basement for my Christmas Party. It was kind of rushed and I felt kind of pressured into it...it was what all of my friends and his friends expected, so I did it. And although I liked him A LOT, it wasn't special the way I wanted it to be.

Don't rush into things like I did...if you wait, your time will come. :]

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hoo sings that song "symptoms of you" ... and if yu have the code for it, cood yu plees give it to me. I wanna put the song in my xanga. I'll rate high for any help

Lindsay Lohan, I also have a site for you if you want to find the code..

http://xanga.com/music_galore

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how do you make-out..lol odd question..but..i've never done it before..

Massage and play around with the other person's tongue. =P

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what do girls like in a guy im 13 m and id like to know what girls like anfd stuff like what are their faveiot features not just on looks but like other things like persanality to

Yeah, basically what everyone else said, girls have different tastes. To give you an idea, physically, I like guys that are athletic, especially if they play basketball. Or skate. I really like shaggy hair on guys. Personality-wise, I like guys that have a sense of humor and can make me laugh. That's a big thing for me.

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I am really good at making myspace layouts. I was wondering, how do i make a website to put my Layouts on. Like how did adviceantors make there site, how do sites maake sites? lol I know this is stpid but it is weird sorry,

First, you need a host. You can either pay for one with your own domain, or get a free one. If you pay, you can get http://blahblah.com, but if you choose a free host, it will be hosted on their server, making it http://freeserver.com/YOU

Some free hosts are:
geocities.com
angelfire.com
tripod.com
freewebs.com
maxpages.com

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i'm a straight A student. but my grades are always in the mid 90 range. wat are some ways to help me get 100 instead of just 95s. there always seem to be a small detail or something that causes me to lose a few points and be second.

Hmmm ... this usually happens to me. The best I can think of is to double/triple check your answers to make sure they're right and check the questions to see if you answered it correctly or didn't misread it. There's not much else I can think of, just study and check your answers.

Hope I helped
[ RACHEL ]

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Do you think it is okay for a young person to have plastic surgery? I really don't like my nose but I don't know if I should say something to my mom now or just wait until I'm older. What do you guys think?

I think you should wait until you're older. Your opinion on your nose might change, and plus, your body might change, too. Personally, I don't think you should get your nose done at all. Flaws are a part of what makes a person beautiful :)

I'm also not sure if there's an age limit...my friend just got hers done a month before she turned 15, and she's not even satisfied with her look.

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hey whats the best workout to tone your lower stomach? thanx xxx

Running helps remove fat around your stomach area. Crunches help plenty, but what I've found to be really effective for the lower stomach is to do reverse sit-ups, leg lifts, and bicycle crunches. Here's a site to help:
http://toneteen.com/exercises/stomach.htm

Hope I was some help!
[ RACHEL ]

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okay well im pretty skinny. but i think my legs -thigh area- is kinda fat. is there any way i can lose weight around there and fast?! i try like all this stuff but its hard.. please help! i rate high!

Lots of excercises that work your legs, such as walking, running, jogging, leglifts, wallsits, etc. There are a few here: http://toneteen.com/exercises/legs.htm that may help you. Be careful though, because although some excercises help reduce the size of your thighs, some excercises may actually tone your legs, but make them bigger by muscle gain. It depends on the different excercises.

Hope I was some help!
[ RACHEL ]

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