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My really close friend Amanda is obsessing over this hot kid at school. Every conversation is spent talking about that he looked at her! I mean he just looked at ya! She claims she "loves" him. She doesn't even know what that means! She has talked to the guy ONCE and all it was was him asking her what period an assembly was!! She says that was the best moment of her life! In her profile she writes all this love crap...its pathetic. How can I tell her she should stop claiming she's in "love" and focuz on whats really important??
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I know how it feels -- a lot of my friends are like that. But I guess you have to wait it out a little. It happens to me once in awhile, too, but she'll get over it soon. One of my friends liked a guy (secretly) for 4 years before she got over him.
If it really bugs you, try to hook them up or start getting them talking and really being friends. Or just tell her how it's bugging you, but do it nicely and in a non-threatening way. (EX. I know you like ____, and he's a really cool guy and everything, but it's kind of starting to annoy me a little when you talk about him so much. I don't want this to get in the way of our friendship, but maybe could we not talk about him as much? We can still talk about him, but maybe lower it down a little.)
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no offence but its her life not yours. if the guy was a bad person then i could see your concern but its just a crush! she should be over him soon (maybe when she sees him with a girlfriend) until then just let her drool! lol! just kidding!
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I have been in the same situation before, and it was anoying. my friend would stay up all night talking about this guy she had been in love with for 5 years. i said it was anoying, and so did her friends, and i always thought it was, until I fell in love. then all my friends though i was crazy. and my friends who had already been in love, well we talked about both of them. one of my friends thought i was crazy, but a few months later, SHE fell in love. you never understand how it feels to be in love until you are. your friend is in love. comfort her, and encourage her to talk to him. just be careful. the end of my first secret love, well lets just say it wasnt the happiest ending. you will know how it feels soon enough.
~Ank
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In all honesty, there's very little you can do. She'll eventually learn. Tell her that they never seem to talk and that's all you can do. Because you can't stop her from liking who she wants to like. The best thing to do is make her realize she's not in love. Tell her that she cannot understand love until someone truly loves her back. This is probably just a phase but keep the subject off him as much as possible.
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