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Age: 18
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I am from india.
i am 22 , never had a girlfriend . i dont know why.
its not like i am ugly but still . never had sex . next year i finish my college , got a campus placement in a good European company.
but it all feels so sick . i like a girl in college shes cute but i dont feel like disturbing her.
i love my parents but you know i cant talk to them about certain things and these things are killing me from inside.i am depressed , dont know what to do...
i want it to be over soon. (link)
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Hi.
Please don't say that you want to kill yourself.
You never having a girlfriend at 22 is not the end of the world and really isn't that rare... me and a lot of my friends have never even kissed anyone... and I am 18. But that does not mean that it will never happen.
And if you graduate college next year and have a good future and career ahead of you then you are one of the most blessed people alive. Do you know how many people wish to go to school and have a good future everyday?
And if you like a girl in college, TALK TO HER! She can't refuse to talk to you and be your friend! Who knows... maybe you two can start dating if you just speak to her. Simply being her friend is not "disturbing" her. I think that the only reason why you have never had a girlfriend was because you never put yourself out there and talked to girls. If you do, maybe you might just meet your future wife.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your parents (I do too sometimes.), speak to someone else- like ANYONE ELSE. Like your best friend or a therapist or you can even try writing your thoughts down to get them out of your head.
My last words are that killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Judging from what you wrote, you have an amazing life and are lucky to be going to school. You'll feel better as time passes. Just PLEASE, communicate with people. And if you're so desperate for a girlfriend, then speak to girls. the worst thing that they can do is say no and I really doubt that will happen with every single girl. There is someone out there that you will meet and love and talk about everything with. But you don't have to lose your virginity now. It may seem like everyone is but, in reality, their not and it really doesn't matter if they are. You live your own life.
Anyway, good luck. And if you feel extremely depressed and you are really having suicidal thoughts- see a physiologist.
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz ^-^
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So my boyfriend recently came back from vacation and he brought me back a few notes he wrote for me while he was gone. Unfortunately he thought it would be funny to write them in different languages to bug me. I need help translating them.
This first one is in Mandarin I believe is what he said:
(Remember these are rough translations and he or myself may have spelt them wrong. Try if you can even rough estimates are appreciated)
"Ni Dui Wo Lai Shuo Hen Te Bie"
The second one is in Mayan (sorry about the middle part, I can't really read that hand righting part)
"In má kàj óol tin puks kal (or it's "puksi'i kal"), kux, in lakesh hala ken"
Thank you in advice and even if you can only answer the one that works :) (link)
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Haha, this took a lot of decoding but it was kind of fun- I'm really sorry if they are not the exact translation.
The first one means:
"To me, you're very special."
The second one was harder to find, i had a Spanish- Yucatán dictionary and it would take so long to find each word by word but here is what I can understand-
Lak'ech Ala K'inn (the last words) mean-
"i am another yourself."(literal translation)
"i am you, you are me." (spoken translation)
"in" means "my"
"ool" means "heart"
i'm really sorry that that was all that I could find but awwww your boyfriend is so sweet!
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How do you know wether to walk away from your relationship or to keep trying?? I spent a year and 4 months with him but I don't know what I want or what to do.. (link)
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Hi.
Your question was very broad and unspecific, but I'll try to answer it as best as I can:
Well, when deciding if you want to break up with someone, you need to ask yourself if you are happy. Haha you don't really seem happy judging from the mood of your question. All I can really say is, (because you didn't specify why you are questioning your relationship) it is best to not waste your time in a relationship that either you or your partner is not satisfied with. Find out if your problem can be fixed. If it can be fixed- then just try communication...
sit down and talk with your boyfriend, and explain why you aren't happy with your relationship.
Lastly, in my opinion, if you are questioning walking away from your relationship, then it has some serious issues that need to be resolved or, unfortunately, it is time to break up...
Anyway, whatever you decide, Good luck- ^ - ^ talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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Let's say I believe in many things, God, third eye (mines open, I can see spirits and see futures sometimes), empathic (I've been told I'm one),and witchcraft, etc.. I've never told anyone I can do these things, unless they told me They could do it too. But my teacher knows I believe in God and once she found out she started treating me extremely rudely. Why do atheists hate so much? And why do they care of others belief? And when anyone mentions religions, she attacks. She starts saying,“let's not be rude." “shhh." “Quiet. No talking of it." How do I deal with this stupid, closeminded bitch? (link)
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Some people are immature and refuse to be friends with you because they believe that you are not right.
I dealt with the same exact problem a couple of months back.
And I have had some Atheist friends that would always try to argue that believing in God is illogical, even though they know that when people make up their mind about religion it is (most of the time) set in stone and they shouldn't try to keep convincing people that they are wrong.
It was ok, though. The only way to deal with stupid people is to not let them invade your thoughts all the time by just ignoring them. If they are a figure of authority (an unprofessional figure of authority) , unfortunately- you should not get on their bad side. So discuss religion outside of class. (It isn't really meant for places like public schools or any places like that unless you're speaking about religion in history.)
Anyway, good luck and remember that people that have biased opinions of others are stupid, and stupid people reserve no place in your mind.
^-^ -talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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So I'm 16 and I might have some feelings for this guy. He's a year older than me and we text a lot but hes hard to read and I don't know if he likes me back. He gets jealous easily when I'm with or talking to other guys. And he always wants to hang out. What do you think? Does he like me? (link)
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If he gets jealous easily when you're speaking to other guys and he always wants to hang out with you, he most likely has feelings for you.
Make sure though that he isn't really overprotective and a jealous wreck if you guys start dating.
Anyway, good luck ^-^
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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If a man is bi it's wrong when a girl is bi it's OK. A man screws with 100 girls he's a stud a girl screws with 1 guy and she's labeled a slut. It's not fair. (link)
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Slut shaming is stupid and the only reason why gay guys are not accepted as well as gay girls is because it's considered "hot" when girls make out. I don't get it, but that's how the world is.
Anyway, don't let stupid people judge you because you're smart enough to realize that society is crap.
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz ^ - ^
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Okay, so here it is. I have a crush on this guy since I graduated from highschool and I'm in college now, so that's like, two years. The crazy thing is he does not have any idea I have a crush on him. We haven't even exchanged few words from each other. I mean, how did I even have a crush on him? Anyway, I still stalk him on Facebook. I know, I'm such a creep. I want to somehow let him know, you know, about how I feel. I am planning of sending him a message on Facebook. But, I don't know. Should I send him or should I not? I really need an advice. Please.
I am 18 and I'm female. (link)
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Hi,
YES! You should send him a message on facebook!
If you still have a crush on this guy and you have not communicated sufficiently with him, then how can you expect him to reciprocate your crush? Please send him a message and have an actual conversation with him to really see if you two connect. Of course he doesn't know that you are crushing on him because you have barely spoken to him! When you put yourself out there and become friends with him, he will most likely have a crush on you too and you could possibly start dating.
Seriously, how can you expect him to even know who you are if you haven't spoken to him enough?!
Anyway, good luck ^-^, and do not feel like a creep for "stalking" his social media. Seriously, almost everyone does it. EVERYONE.
You should know if you want something and it doesn't make the first move, then you should.
Seriously, he can't say no to just speaking to you. And if he says no to dating you, that's the worse thing that can happen and it really isn't that bad. It's his loss... ;).
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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I've always had irregular periods. My first one started a few months ago. However, I cannot remember when my last date was, and I just want to get my next period so I can remember when I last had it. Is there anything I could do to make it come sooner? Other than any pills. (link)
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It really depends on how long you have had your period. Periods take up to two years to regulate, so it is completely normal to have irregular periods when you first start to menstruate.
-Anyway, your period will come soon enough, please be patient and relaxed (stress can cause irregular periods too, you know?) (and honestly, they are super annoying, so just don't rush it.)
good luck- talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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Hi, I am a fifteen year old girl. Let me start off by saying, two days ago(Monday for me) I woke up with a headache, a sore throat, a fever of 101.6, I was very tired, and I seemed to ache everywhere. Needless to say, I didn't feel good that day. Yesterday(Tuesday for me) I still had a headache, and I had a hard time eating due to my sore throat, but my fever went down, same for my aches and pains. I decided to go outside, and get some fresh air, I played in the sticks a little, and I'm thinking I could've gotten into poison ivy yesterday, because I woke up this morning with intensely itchy hands, and I had red sores(spots) on my hands, but my throat is still sore. My mom thinks I have Hand Foot Mouth Disease, but that's kind of odd, I've already had it. Is this Poison Ivy or could it be Hand Foot Mouth Disease? Advice is much appreciated! Thank you. (link)
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Please go see a doctor. There are many illnesses that relate to the symptoms that you described and even if they go away after a couple of days, tell your doctors about them, they are the only ones that can know for sure.
Good luck ^-^ -talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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I asked you question earlier about pregnency n you told its less than 1 % chances n suggested for home pregnency test....wanna ask you me n my boy did make out on 20TH MAY. N I checked my pregnancy from home kit on 6 TH June n got negative so still there is a chance of getting.pregnent.plzzz ans.it.. (link)
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Do you mean that you and your boyfriend had sex? because you don't get pregnant from making out.
Anyway, home pregnancy tests are wrong all the time.
Go to a clinic and get a pregnancy test there, where you can get accurate results.
Good luck!- talldivofbeverlyhillz
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I am from Nepal a 20 years girl.My bf says me that I am characterless.He fought with me and we broke up.I haven't done anything like characterless.He used vulgur words and bit me hardly.I still love him.I can't live without him.I wanna die Days are very difficult to live.Nights are diffucult to dream..What should I do?I am completely broken. (link)
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Dear "I want to die.",
Please don't say that you want to die. I have taken life for granted so many times, but let me tell you; people take breathing for granted until they can't do it anymore. Please don't even joke or over-exaggerate about wanting to die.
Our lives are too precious to be taken from us by what stupid people say or do. And yes, I am calling your boyfriend stupid. That dirt bag needs to learn how to speak to women... and not bite them!(what? was he really biting you?!, or do you mean beating you?)
YOU ARE NOT "CHARACTER-LESS". But you really need to stop depending on other people and start being self-reliant. And it is normal to feel like you are "completely broken" after a bad break-up, but here is something that might help: write down a list of all of the things that he has done that negatively impacted your life. This will help you realize that he did more harm than good, and that your break-up was a good thing.
You will realize that abusive relationship breakups are a good thing.
You CAN AND WILL live without your disgusting vomit of a boyfriend and I hope that you learn that you should stay away from abusive boyfriends. Who knows what else he could have done to harm you.
Please, stay away from him because the pain WILL heal and he is obviously abusive (physically and emotionally). Wasting you life having suicidal thoughts or depression because of some stupid guy is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
Be without a boyfriend for a while please. You need to learn how to STOP DEPENDING ON OTHER PEOPLE and learn how to carry YOUR life out on YOUR own. Please don't be that weak girl that needs a man by her side to live. You're too awesome for that. ^-^
When you do get another boyfriend, make sure that he is a gentleman and does not hurt you.
Anyway, good luck getting over your ex-boyfriend (and please NEVER GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM OR SOMEONE ELSE LIKE HIM.)
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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I am 12 years old and my weight is 50 what can I do (link)
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What???????? You didn't say your height and I am not sure if you weigh 50 lbs. Or 50 kg. Anyway, if you weigh 50 pounds then you're practically dead, but if you weigh 50 kg. Then that actually is not bad at all. You need your height and weight to calculate your body Mass Index which is what lets you know if you are overweight or underweight. Anyway, you should be exercising and eating well regardless of if you want lose or gain weight.
P.s, you sounded pretty normal to me (assuming you weigh 50 kilograms.) (although I don't know your height.) so don't let anyone tell you that you are too fat or skinny, because as long as you are healthy that is all that matters.
Anyway good luck, and there are so many ways to exercise that I can't really say them all here. Try looking up routines online or start jogging or playing sports. Try eating healthier to have a long and happy life :-).
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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I was out to eat with my husband a few weeks ago. The place was a restaurant bar. There was a good lookig guy at the bar that kept checking me out. After dinner we decided to hang out at the bar. My husband wanted to get into a game of pool with someone so I took a walk to the ladie's room. While washing my hands that good looking guy came in and stood behind me. He started to fondle my breasts and I just stood there and let him do it. I was wearing a sun dress and he reached under and pulled my panties down and I stepped out of them. He leaned me over towards the sink and started having sex with me. I did nothing to stop him and allowed it to happen. I was afraid someone would walk in on us. No one did and he made me orgasm. After he came inside me I turned around and kissed him. He asked if he could keep my panties and I said yes. I have been walking past this restaurant a few times since this all went down and I saw him inside a few of the times. I want to go in and do it again with this guy but seem to be afraid of being caught. Am I wrong for wanting this passion a 2nd. time? (link)
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Hi
I have to be explicit, so I'm really sorry that this is harsh.
To be honest, people like you make me sick. You were wrong for having sex with some random guy checking you out in the first place. You have a husband and how do you think he would feel if he knew? It is seriously not fun to be on the other end of a cheating relationship- or on the first end by that matter. Do you not feel guilty at all?! Seriously. Buy a conscience, its nice to have one.
This isn't some boyfriend that you have had for a week or two. This is your spouse and if you're cheating on him and having sex with random guys like a slut looking for an affair to get yourself into, then maybe you shouldn't even be married. And I know what you're thinking: "why should some random person question my marriage?" because it's a joke if there is infidelity.
This little mini-affair will probably bite you in the ass later on in your marriage, I'm sorry. And I hope you were on birth control because it would be sad if you had a baby that your boyfriend thinks is his. (p.s. does your boyfriend have enough sex with you? because usually people that go on affairs or have sex with random people don't have satisfying sex partners.)
I'm usually never this harsh with advice so I'm honestly sorry, but clean up your act girlfriend.-talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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So I have been with my bf for about 8 months and this is the 2nd time we tried to make this work. The first time, he screwed it up and then left but later came back. This time, we compromised and talked and made a "request list" of what we don't want each other to do. Because we are both super protective, its requests like not checking out members of the opposite sex and not lying, etc. Over the course of our 8 months, he has lied to me a couple times and broken requests. I can't leave the house without seeing a girl and thinking "oh gosh I look awful and he would totally love seeing her" yet he denies breaking the opposite sex requests. I'm over the lying. I want to trust him but I don't know what to do. Over the course of time, particularly when he started lying, I started doubting and second guessing my love for him. So now I don't know if I love him and I don't trust him yet I can't really make myself leave. I don't know what to do. Its like I don't want to leave but I do. Ive seen The Fault In Our Stars and all I could think about was him. He tells me "you will see a change" but he has said that before. I don't know if I'm pretending to love him just because I don't want to be alone of a bunch of stuff like that. I really need help. Plus its like I don't want someone to reply back to this and say "yea leave him", I want good advice which then means I care about us lasting so I have feelings for him. I just feel empty and like there's something missing and he claims for it to be trust. Is he right? Is my doubt just because I don't trust him? How do I trust him once and for all? How do I love him once and for all? (link)
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Hi 😁
I think that your request list was a bit strict on the "not checking out people of the opposite sex" request. I get that you are both super protective, but there is a difference between "protective" and "restricting". This sounds super harsh and I'm sorry but when you spoke about seeing a girl and thinking that he would like her better than you, you honestly sounded like an insecure, jealous wreck. (haha sorry again 😉) I don't think that you are questioning your love for him but you are questioning his love for you. It's never ok for your boyfriend to lie to you, but maybe he is doing it for a reason. Maybe that list was a tad too strict.
Solution #1: My advice for you is to speak to him. Tell him that you feel really, really uncomfortable when he lies to you and looks at other girls too much, and that you may have trust issues so it's really not ok to toy with your emotions like that. Say that he keeps promising a change but he never delivers and if he keeps doing that then you believe that you have the right to feel this uneasiness.
Solution #2: The way to deal with these trust problems is to let him do what he does and just be more lax with him. If he does by any chance cheat on you which HE MOST LIKELY WON'T; Look at the bright side: you just found the rude awakening and your suspicions were correct: he is a cheater and he doesn't deserve someone as fabulous as you.;)
Also, please be more confident. There seems to be a huge lack of confidence on your part, and there is no need for that because I bet you're awesome.
Anyway good luck and I wish the best possible outcome for you. 😊- talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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Their is this boy name Anthony and I'm wondering if it's ok to date him when I'm older then him (link)
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Umm... of course it's ok to date Anthony if he's younger than you. Why wouldn't it be? :\ As long as your age difference is isn't so extreme, you can really date whoever you like- there are no dating rules that two people dating have to be the same age...my parents are five years apart and my mom is older. Your question was not very specific but uh yeah... you can date Anthony if he is ok with it too.
Good luck 😘
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im 13 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months and i love him but ive also liked 1 of my guy friends for a while and my boyfriend even said our relationship is getting boring and ive relized that my guy friend likes me to but i dont know who to choose (link)
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Hi, haha maybe some of this might sound a bit harsh but here goes:
If you say that you "love" your boyfriend (I assume that he said he "loves" you too) then why is he saying that your relationship is boring? you should be with a guy that is excited and acts privileged about going out with you, not someone who says he is bored with you.
All I can really say now is if you really like your guy friend and he likes you too and you can't imagine being bored with him or him being bored with you, then go for it and break up with your current boyfriend and ask your guy friend out. But don't break up with someone and ask someone else out frequently or else you'll not have a steady boyfriend (if that's what you want.)
Anyway, good luck, fabulous, I hope everything works out for you! ;)- talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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Hi guys, this is just a quick THANK YOU to all the advicenators out there. Your worlds are very insightful and truly apreciate each and everyone of you who take the time to read our problems and help us solve it or give out advices. You guys are angles from up above maybe God bless you all. You guys are doing an increadicle, magnificent job. THANK YOU again😃😀😄😄😄😃💕💕💕💕💕 (link)
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awwwwwwwwww! :)
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I think death is my answer. I have no life . How can I end it all I'm chicken but I want to. Or give my life to someone who really needs it like a cancer patient... but not sure if I'll be around long enough to read and answer that no one gives a cap about but I don't have anyone I can talk to. Who knows but that's my best bet .... (link)
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Hi, I am dreading that you won't heed my advice, or even be around to read this, but please, please read it quick because I have some things to say to you.
I give a crap and I honestly want to listen to you all day long talking to me about everything. I have never been more sincere in my life. and NO, DEATH IS NOT YOUR ANSWER. suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Our lives are too precious to be taken from us because of what anyone else has ever stupidly said or done to us.
Please don't kill yourself. Life is complicated and stupid at times but out there, somewhere in this confusing as hell world, there are people that love you and would run across the universe so that you don't commit suicide.
plus, if by any chance, your suicide attempt fails, you will be remembered as the selfish, weak and crazy person that tried to kill their self. and you are NONE OF THOSE THINGS.
the world and the people in it can be annoying and stupid but out of the millions and millions of souls that live, a couple thousands of them honestly care.
anyway, i desperately wish that you could speak to me, at least tell me that you are alive if you don't want to speak to me. but just know that me and another 100,000 people really do want to listen.
please don't kill yourself. whatever else you can do to escape your agony besides committing suicide; do it. and if by any chance you desperately need someone to listen and speak to you, tell me.
love, talldivaofbeverlyhillz
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I've been battling depression for about a year now and i think I've been getting better but every once and a while I have a relapse. The other night I had a break down and I started cutting again and it got bad. I've now got a whole load of scars that weren't there before. I have also been dating my boyfriend for two months now but for the past two weeks he has been on vacation and now he gets back in four days and I don't know what I'm going to do. He's only seen the old marks which had faded decently and he thinks I'm better. How am I suppose to explain these marks to him?! He's going to be discusted with me and hate me for how pathetic and weak I am. I don't know what to do and I'll know he'll see them and hate me. I don't want I lose him over my weakness. Someone please help :(
And yes I have seen a doctor and therapy so please no lectures about going to the doctor and taking pills blah blah cuz they don't work. And none have worked for the past six months (link)
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Hi, If your boyfriend will think that you are "pathetic and weak", hate you and be disgusted with you for having those scars, then you should honestly WANT him to break up with you. A good boyfriend should understand you and not be so ignorant as to not know that relapses happen all the time and that eventually, you will get better.
If by any chance, you aren't over-reacting and your boyfriend IS disgusted with you, please do your anonymous advice-giver a favor and either scold him or break up because he obviously doesn't deserve someone as fabulous as you.
Haha, sorry if some of that sounded a bit harsh!
Anyway, good luck
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Is taking sleeping pills a painless way to die? I am tired of being betrade by my husband ;( (link)
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Suicide is a permanent solution to a TEMPORARY problem. I know what you're thinking: My husband has betrayed me several times, this is not a temporary problem. But there are so many ways to end it. Running away, filing a divorce. Our lives are too precious to be thrown away because of somebody else. Come on girl, you're stronger than that.
Taking pills is not a "painless way to die". Like the last person said, you could end up getting your stomach pumped which is not fun and by that reasoning there is no painless way of dying- because you can never get your life back. And if you end up living after a suicide attempt, people will look at you as the crazy, weak and selfish person that tried killing herself.
The last thing I have to say- anything else that you can do besides killing yourself: Do it.
I really don't know to much about your situation as your question was very broad but seriously ANYTHING ELSE THAT YOU CAN DO TO ESCAPE YOUR HUSBANDS' BETRAYAL IS WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING.
Please don't kill yourself fabulous, your too good for that.
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