Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Age: 14
Member Since: June 11, 2014
Answers: 14
Last Update: June 22, 2014
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My dad is always checking my moms phone her email, Facebook and messages I get scared because I don't want them to divorce. My father is from turkey and my mom is from here in America and I here Turkish people get angry real easy which is true. My mom gets tired out all the time when she comes home from work and my dad is always hounding her and saying "are you cheating on me is that why you come home late?" And I look at them arguing thinking wow my dad is a crazy man I'm positive my mom isn't cheating she never goes out with friends and when she does she brings me and my siblings and father. My dad says he thinks she's cheating cuz his ex wife cheated on him. I feel bad for my mom she works all day long and gets yelled at by my father please help me I cry all night long I'm not brave I'm just a 13 year old girl I just need advice. May you please help me? (link)
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My mom and dad fight all the time. I kind of dislike my dad he is very crazy and creepy, trust me I try my best to not dislike him, but it's very hard. I know how you feel, it might be hard to live your life with a dad that always hurts your mom for no reason, but you just can't do anything about it. Your dad seems very insecure. Maybe you should try to make your moms life easier, so that the only stress she goes through is your dad. Clean up the house for her, make breakfast, lunch and dinner, tell her that you love her all the time, and don't get in too much trouble. Trust me if you do all these things your moms life would be easier and maybe then she could possibly find a solution for every argument she has with your dad.
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He likes to have control over everything. This morning I asked if he wanted me to wash his pants. He didn't respond so I asked again.In return he said I told u no. I said no you didn't say anything. So he got mad and started yelling at me. I'm driving him to work and I asked did u want to stop at a store. He looks at me and says ain't it obvious. In return I said I don't know what you want to do.I can't read mind s and I never assume I ask. He turned and said just take me to work. I'm just agreeing with what you suggest. I'm like what I never made a suggestion I just needed to know what next. We got to an argument over that. When I have company he sits in my friend's conversations. But when he has company he tells me and my kids to to our room. If we come out we get into a big argument. We really have to stay in our room until he says we can come out. Sometimes it's for 8hours no exaggeration. I have a bucket in my room to use for the bathroom. We eat when he decided to let us eat. He has hit me on three different occasions. I told him I don't like him and he said he was moving with his mom. So I took him and I told him he will never see us again. The next day he was at my door asking for forgiveness but I don't feel like he's going to change. He still act's the same way. But now he says he don't give a fuck about anything I do. (link)
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You have children, don't you dare let him come back! If you want your children to be happy, I think that you should move out somewhere very far away from him. If you want him back then I don't think that you should be the one taking care of your children! That men seems very dangerous and he reminds me of someone I know. The stuff I have been through changed me a lot so please don't ruin your children's life because they have a bright future that's waiting for them. Please,move out! Far away from him, because if you don't then your life is going to be a living hell.
P.S. I'm not saying this because I think it's true, but I know so!
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How do you be yourself with a new group of people? Like, what if your social identity is defined by what your college friends loved about you, but now you need to adapt to a new group who may not love you for the same things? How do you still make new friends without putting on a total and complete facade? And how do you present yourself in a more mature way without reverting to old ways (i.e. immature humor, ignorant thinking) but still not being totally fake? How do you gain respect from people a few years older than you? (link)
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You know what, if immature humor and ignorant thinking is part of your personality then be it! If your looking for true friends that won't hurt you and back stab you then read the steps below:
1. Look for the Person that you think is going to be a prefect friend ( take your time looking for that person) and start having a conversation with that person ( don't make it boring). Eventually that person would have other friends that have other friends and in a snap of a finger you will see your self talking to everybody ( make sure not to judge, dislike, or talk about anyone behind their backs)
2. Do not be rude to anyone!
3. Do not turn down anyone!
4. Be happy!
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21/f, 27/m
Some information about us that relates to this question: I have been dating this guy for two months now. We have not discussed whether or not if we were exclusive. We are talking to other people, but we're not seeing anyone else other than each other. He's admitted that he would like to be exclusive and that he would be upset if I dated other people... But we have not officially stated whether or not if we were exclusive. He's going on vacation from Friday-Early Monday morning. Usually when he's on a trip, he doesn't talk to me much. But, he used to?
To the story:
We went to see a movie three days ago and after the movie, he found out that my recent ex-boyfriend came by that morning to pick up his things (we broke up months ago). This started by me saying that I finally have my closet back and he asked if my sister was using it, I said, "no" and he said, "then who?" I told him it was my ex-boyfriend. I told him way ahead of time that my ex-boyfriend lived with me for awhile because he got kicked out of his house and had no job, no place to stay, so my family took him in for a while.
The guy I'm dating said, "that's weird that he's still there." I told him that he wasn't, and that he was just there that morning to take his stuff back. And he just looked at me and said, "you're weird. You're really weird. I'm going to go now. Have a good night." And left.
I texted him a few minutes later and asked, "why am I weird? I obviously said something that upset you. What's up?" And he didn't reply the rest of the night and he texted me the next night and told me that it's not the fact that I've dated a lot of people, it's the fact that a lot of them are still in my life. This included the people I dated when I was 12, 14, and 16 years old.
I told him that I'm the type of person who doesn't look back whenever I date someone. Once I move on, I move on for good and it'll be hard to rekindle the relationship. I'm not saying that it's impossible, but it's highly unlikely. I also told him that I see my exes here and there and talk to them, but not as often as before. I also told him that I also completely understand where he's coming from, especially if he was worried about my previous serious relationships.
I asked him, "what would you like me to do? What would make you feel better?" And he responded with, "I can't tell you to change that." I told him, "Can you please try to work with me on this? What will make you feel better? Do you want me to cut them out completely? Do you want me to keep my distance? What would you like?" And he told me that he was about to pass out and that he would respond to me the next day. The next day, he didn't text me so, I texted him to see if he has decided anything. He told me that he didn't have the opportunity to think about what I said yet, so I told him to let me know then. Knowing that he was on a trip until Monday morning, I was thinking about waiting until then...
but the more I think about it, that's BS. He didn't get the time to think about what he wants? Why can't he just tell me? If he wanted to end things with me, why wait until Monday? I'm wondering on what's going through his mind right now. Is he doing all of this because he thinks that he doesn't have the right to since we're not "officially exclusive"? Why do you think it's taking him so long to answer? Do you think it's because he's actually busy? Too busy to not send me one text all day? What do you think I should do? (link)
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He is just too afraid that one of your ex boyfriends might steal you away from him. He seems insecure. Show him that you like him and not them. Instead of telling him that you don't like them and have no interests in them, tell him that he is the only guy you want to be in relationship with and show him that he could trust you not because your trust worthy, but because you like him and only him.
No, I don't think that the reason why he isn't texting you is because he is busy, it takes 5 seconds to write a text, I'm pretty sure he had some free time. He probably doesn't know what to do and he is possibly considering to stay away from you, but if you really care about him, then do something and win his heart back.
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled (link)
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Well, to be honest I think that your life is very complicated right now,but let's talk about that girl first. She seems to be very selfish and she sure is using you! If the fact that she is cheating on you is 100% true then I recommend that you break up with her. If you break up with her it doesn't mean that you will have to kick her out and not share things with her such as the Visa. You should talk to her and tell her that you understand that she doesn't love you anymore and that you feel the same way. Tell her that you two could be normal roommates and you could still live the same life style, but as friends. Then move on, go on dates, party's, bring friends home and have fun. Make sure not to be mad when she brings a guy home!
P.S. Wow, living your life as an adult sure is hard! I learned a lesson today, when you fall in love with a guy do not move in with him unless you know he 100% loves you and you love him too! Who knows she might still love you but she's just confused? Ask her why she's doing this, ask her if she still has feelings for you, or why she stopped loving you.
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ok so I've liked my friend for about 5 years now but I found out he doesn't like me. He only thinks of me as a friend. I want to know if I should keep on liking him or just forget about him and stay friends with him?? (link)
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I think that you should try to forget about him, because if you let something go and it comes right back at yea then it's meant to be yours, but if it never comes back then it was never meant to be yours. Try to date someone else or pretend to have interests in another guy for a while and see how he reacts.
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Okay i am 13/f. But my story might be long but sorry if it is. I really need answers.
So anyway, i had a friend he was a year older and we been friends every since 3rd to 8th grade and he were in the Friend zone ever since 3rd and i started liking him in 6th then he finally told me at the beginning of 8th grade and we started going together. We was doing great we never had fight. But he broke up with me one day and texted me that the relationship wasn't the same. And i was hurt and we were together for 10 months. He mad me feel bad. But i got over it and a few hours later a friend of mines told me the truth about him and the break up. And because he had a dream about being with my friend. So a few weeks later he asked me you want to go back together. And i don't know what to do. Should i go with him again or build that friendship we used to have. I do have a little feelings for him. But i really need your advice please. (link)
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I think that you should be friends with him first. You have to know if he really does like you, and by staying as his friend you will figure that out. When you reject him and ask him to be friends, if he likes you then he would wait until you fall for him again. If he doesn't, he will ask someone else out. I also think that you should be friends with him because then that gives you time to thinks about how you actually feel about him.
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So let me add a little back story too this.
Basically, I was best friends with a girl(lets call her Amy)for around 5 years, but lately we haven't been as close.
My other friend,(lets call her Mona)have been friends all our lives, but got close in middle school and have been ever since.
Recently, Mona introduced me to Megan. And since we are in the same club, have been hanging out a bit lately.
So, they're really my only friends.
Thursday, I went over to Megan's. Mona joined us later that day. Both me and Mona left Friday. I had to do chores and babysit my niece so I went home. But before I left, Megan mentioned something about me and Mona maybe going to her house Sunday. I said sure, if I could.
So since we haven't been doing anything lately and I wasn't doing anything, I called Amy and asked her if she wanted to come over that day(Friday). She said maybe and that she'd tell me if she would.
A few hours later, my dad wanted to go somewhere, so I asked if she was coming, she said she was sleeping and that she wasn't coming. But she'd see if she could on Saturday after a sports event her brother was in.(It was also 3 hours away)
Come Saturday, I'm again, not doing anything and it's around 5:00pm and no one has contacted me. I check my Snapchat, and on her story Amy posted she was watching movies with a bunch of people I'd never met.
I was annoyed, but didn't care that much.
So, now it's today(Sunday). And I Snapchated both Mona and Megan over today and yesterday. Neither said anything about hanging out today. So it's 10:30, I check Snapchat again, and Mona and Megan were hanging out and having a bunch of fun and eating candy.
And at that moment I realized:
It's the first weekend of summer.
One of my friends ditched me two days in a row.
And the only two other friends I actually have are having fun without me when I was originally supposed to be with them.
And what am I doing? Watching Next Great Baker alone in my dark basement.
My social life's pathetic... I'm not mad at any of them, just kinda sad and let down that I could of been with them...
I don't know why I said all this, I guess I just needed to let my feeling out a little and I kinda want to know what you guys think of the situation. (link)
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I know how you feel, when you realize your all alone without no one to be with. I used to have 6 best friends but now I only have 1 that I trust. I was in a fight with one of my best friends because she told on me for drinking her juice, people started calling me a thief, and even my teacher and the principle think I go steal food from people's lockers! It's funny how when you make one simple mistake everything changes. I have never stole food I only drank her juice ones and it was right In front of her, so she could have stopped me! It was honestly a joke that I am never going to make again. Anyways I don't talk to her much anymore because she is being very rude, and she even insulted me this morning! So that left me with 5 friends only, but not for long. One of my other friend told on me to the principle and said that I bullied her, while all I did was touch her hair and tell her that it was pretty! I didn't know that she didn't like me touching her hair, because she never told me not to! That leaves me with 4 friends, but one of them was just a cruel selfish liar that makes fun of people so I don't talk to her that much, and her best friend which is one of my 3 left friends but not anymore I doesn't really talk a lot. That leaves me with two girl, one of them lives far away from me so we can never see each other and haven't talked to each other for about 3 months, but there is nothing wrong with her we both lie, each other. That leaves me with 1 friend, I really didn't like her at first and she didn't like me either, but know we are like peanut butter and jelly.. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that it doesn't really matter how many friends you have, because if they didn't treat you as a friend then they are simply not your friend, so don taste time thinking about them and find new ones.
( I apologies for any bad Grammar or spelling, I did not re-read this due to my laziness)
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Im dating this guy named max. me and max have been together for almost 10 months and it has been overall good. We are both sophomores and highschool and im his first real girlfriend and hes my 2nd real boyfriend. We have fun together and get along well and my family loves him and vice versa. I truly think he is the one for me. Often times though I question it though. Its starting to feel different. I don’t know what it is. Am I bored of him? is it normal to feel this way? Whenever im with him I love it but we always do the same thing…its like a cycle almost every weekend. Also when we are together he checks my messages to see if I have texted boys and he checks my snapchat to. He gets mad at me if I fall asleep while texting him or if I take a while to respond…honestly I love him hes adorable and he loves me but I don’t know what to do and where our relationship is going opposed to what should happen. (link)
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Well, yes it seems like you are very bored with your relationship, but you still do like him. I think that you should tell him, and ask him if you two could do something different sometimes. There are lots of things you two could explore together. Try to do things that you two don't normally do and have fun. If he loves you then he would understand and try to figure something out.
Yes he does seem very untrusting, and kind of bossy, but hey no ones prefect! I bet you have your own flaws too, and hopefully he won't complain about them. Learn to love his flaws as much as you want him to learning to love yours, and if you can't get used to his flaws then learn to deal with them and ignore them.
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I have 12 clubs and want to get a piece of birthstone jewelery .Should I get a necklace bracelet or ring and why?Thanks (link)
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I think that you should get a necklace because it gets more attention , but it also depends on the way you dress. If your a girly girl then buy necklace because it shows more and it makes change in your outfit. If you don't really like to get attention, then buy a ring or bracelet , not many people will notice it. Especially if you buy a ring. Anyways I think that you should get something that you feel comfortable in and can like your life with.
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I need to interview my mum as part of my school homework. the interview is to be about my mums childhood school days. I am to ask 6 interesting questions which will generate more than yes or no answers. Please help me. what questions can I ask Thanks (link)
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How did your house look like and did you feel safe at home, why?
What was your personality like?
What are the weird things you'd have done and why do you think it's weird?
Have you ever hated someone and of you did, why?
How did your parents treat you?
How did you treat your parents when they were bossy, and annoying?
What is the saddest memory?
What is the happiest memory?
Best advice someone told you?
Things you were scared of?
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My friends and I are going to the mall and my mother thinks it's fiend for 3 twelve year olds to go to the mall with out a parent, but my friends parents don't. What age level do you think is approite to go to the mall with a group, with out parents? Is my mother right or are myy friends parents over protective? (link)
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I wouldn't Say that their parents are not protective,because they have the right to make sure their kids are safe. Their parents think that 12 is not the right age for a kid to visit public places in, and they think that because there are very bad people out there that might trick kids into doing bad things, there are people who don't mind hurting you or your friends and I agree to the fact that you are too young to defend your selves. You are very young and I think that you still have a lot of time to experience "adulthood". Trust me you should enjoy being a kid before you grow up, because if you don't then you wouldn't be a very happy person. Take it slow and play with your friends at the park with your parents watching, trust me it is still fun and safe.
By the way I'm only 14, so I understand.
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Hi Joe,
I have been with a 52yr old man who got a dwi 2 yrs ago we have been together for almost 3. he went to terrific rehab after i told him i would not be a part of that kind of life..he has not drank in 2yrs. he is overpowering to my personality and has called me the c word and did a few mean things to me while he drank. well he is now sober and recently got mad because he felt i betrayed his trust by viewing his phone( i confessed) he moved out and said i would never see him again after cursing me spitting in my face (a little spit as he says) called me c... again,slut and this last word while he was on the phone with his ex-wife, said i was fat....then hours later called me crying that he had no where to go and he was sorry and loved me but i made him mad and. we have also had disagreements about the amount of sex we have. he wants it every day and will wake me up for it early early in the a.m. so i was resenting it and got mad. so i would like your opinion a mans. we have gone to two council sessions and he says he never stopped loving me (he is in every other way a great guy to me) what do i do...my gut is confused do i love him i am not so sure. i have a habit of putting up concrete walls.
thank you,
db (link)
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I am very sorry to say this, but only you know if he is the right guy for you and if you really do love him. I have known other guys that are way worst then him, but that doesn't mean he could go around insulting you. Everyone does deserve a second chance, but he may be staying with you because he has no where else to go. Make sure you know he loves you, not by his words but action and when you find out then you could make the right choice and figure out if you
love him or not.
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I sit here thinking about the decision I've made.
I'm nothing but afraid; I laid on that bed and gave it all away.
Now my heart begins to fall as I impatiently wait.
Day by day goes by... it still doesn't come.
I think my life is over, I'm done.
The temptation has won. I threw my morals down the drain.
The sensation, the pain, how could I be so dumb?
I might be forced into early parenthood now.
I pray to God that it will come, and I won't have to worry.
I'm sorry I gave it up...
But for now this is the end of my life story. (link)
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That's a very nice poem. Did you write it? At first I read day as dad, but then when I read it again I figured that it was day. Anyways, everyone makes the wrong decisions, the thing that matters the most is are you going to repeat your mistakes? Fear is an emotions all human have, of course so is courage, but it is harder to be gourages because it's easier to be afraid, why not just close your eyes and let whatever that makes you afraid just pass by and go away. Think about the good moments you had, and let the rest just get deleted from your mind. If you see your heart falling then catch it and out it back up. Waiting is not the best choice my friend, you might think that that's all you can do,but it is not! If it doesn't come, then you go and get it, but never give up because if you do then that's when we know for sure that it will never come. It's is still not too late, as easy as you throw your morals down the drain,you could do the same to your temptation and learn your lesson again. Please learn to love again, don't give up just because you made one mistake. I'm not sure if you are a parent now, but if you are then do not make another mistake by not taking care of your baby, if you already made that mistake then all you can do is ask God for forgiveness and not do it again.
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