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be yourself with new friends
How do you be yourself with a new group of people? Like, what if your social identity is defined by what your college friends loved about you, but now you need to adapt to a new group who may not love you for the same things? How do you still make new friends without putting on a total and complete facade? And how do you present yourself in a more mature way without reverting to old ways (i.e. immature humor, ignorant thinking) but still not being totally fake? How do you gain respect from people a few years older than you?
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when your with new people you should be yourself and before making friendships with them just stay quiet and be observant. If the new friends are interesting and cool people just get to know them and let them get to know you a little. think before you act especially if you think that they will react to what you say or do in a certain way. regardless, if they are your friend, they should like you regardless of who you are or what you do. social identity is not your real identity so adapting to a new group of people shouldn't be hard because you don't know them and they don't know you.
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You are you and you must not change yourself for others.
Besides you are still growing up I guess and just remember that you can be anything as long as you don't step on one person for your dreams.
Besides true friends come when you need them
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You know what, if immature humor and ignorant thinking is part of your personality then be it! If your looking for true friends that won't hurt you and back stab you then read the steps below:
1. Look for the Person that you think is going to be a prefect friend ( take your time looking for that person) and start having a conversation with that person ( don't make it boring). Eventually that person would have other friends that have other friends and in a snap of a finger you will see your self talking to everybody ( make sure not to judge, dislike, or talk about anyone behind their backs)
2. Do not be rude to anyone!
3. Do not turn down anyone!
4. Be happy!
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This is really a great question. I am assuming you have recently graduated from college and now working in your first real adult job. You are truly transitioning from a young college adult to a young working adult.
The short answer to your question is just be yourself. You are not going to fool anyone and are liable to alienate more people by trying to be someone you are not than by being yourself.
Your workplace friends are going to like you for the same things your college friends liked about you. Yes the immature humor and ignorant thinking was part of college life and is not a part of the workplace; it is also not what totally defines you as a person. Immature humor does have a place outside of the workplace and your humor will mature as you do.
Maturity is something that comes with age. I am more mature today then I was yesterday and so are you. Each day as we go about our business if we do so correctly we learn. As we learn we mature. You will always be slightly less mature than older co workers this should not be a concern. What you should concern yourself with is learning from your coworkers what they are willing to share with you. In this way you grow and mature so you can them pass your knowledge on to future younger co workers.
Again in short be yourself, keep your eyes and ears open and ask the older co workers to teach you what you don't know. Don't try and bluff your way through something. This is how you earn respect.
I know of many instances where a college graduate may have the book learning that the coworker may lack the but coworker has the hands on experience that out shines the degree. When you pair the book knowledge with hands on experienced knowledge you can have an unbeatable team if both are willing to accept that in many ways each has something more to contribute than the other. Keep this in mind when working with older co workers.
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