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I was a very large teen,not fat just extremely large chested.No one ever believed my age I always had to pay full price for the movies. We were very poor my father was very abusive and drank.

mom worked very hard and I had 2 younger brothers that I looked out for.I didn't want to finish high school because everyone would tease me about my chest so I took care of the house and my brothers

My father would come home from work 3:30 mom would get in at nine. My brothers would stay with family after school and come in by 7pm. I'll try to make this short my father raped me from 13-18 when he died. I never told and I didn't have any problems.

I started working I met my husband and had a wonderful life. My husband passed away 10yrs ago I miss him so ,I had cancer heart attack and thank god Im fine in my health dept. I have not remarried or dated Im 60yrs old now.

My problem is I kept dreaming of my father and wishing he was alive to have intercourse again.Why? Am I not normal ,If I would want someone to dream about I think It should be my husband not the rapist,and Im feeling like I enjoyed him?

Iam a grown women why should I feel like this? Are there any others that had a experience like mine or even a little one.

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I am so so so sorry that you had to go through this. Please take heart that you are not alone. Sexual abuse is cruel and unwanted, however it is really easy to want more, especially in your case, where you were repeatedly offended. It isn't your fault that you feel this way, and there is nothing wrong with you. What your father did was wrong, but it messed with your emotions enough to make you feel loved. Your father probably did love you, just not in a normal way. Now you feel the need to be loved, it is common.

My advice is to see a female counsellor, maybe join an abuse support group as well. I will pray for you.
If you want to chat, message me.


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Last night I had to go pee but I was so lazy to go I just stayed there and kept sleeping. When I woke up I went and I felt super uneasy down there. I feel like I have to pee every second but only a little comes out. After I pee I feel discomfort as well. What could this be ? (link)
Sounds like Urinary Tract Infection. I get it occasionally, it isn't fun. Unfortunately it usually means going to the Drs :/

Here is some info...
http://www.mydr.com.au/womens-health/urinary-tract-infection-uti




I have nightmares almost every night. And even if I don't have nightmares, I constantly remember my dreams. And it's stressing me out. I know that every person dreams but most people don't remember them. I do. It's like they're happening to me in real life, so I always feel tired after waking up. For example if I dream about taking a long walk, I'll literally feel like I took a long walk when I wake up.
Is there anything I can do about this? I also want to get rid of these constant nightmares :( They're either about people that are really important to me not liking me anymore or about monsters trying to kill me. I know it sounds pretty odd. Help? :( (link)
Nightmares are super scary. I used to get them when I was a kid, and they were really vivid too. I rarely have nightmares these days, I believe because I am controlling my stress, and because my imagination isn't as big as it was as a child.
I would look at seeing a counsellor. Talking through your dreams face to face with a professional will help you vent, and make you feel better. I have also heard that certain foods you eat can release chemicals into your system, leading to giving you Bad dreams. Maybe see your dr first.

I hope that helps :)


I'm Catholic/Christian (not sure the difference) and I've heard of these evil cults, who worship devils and help demons, the devil, and other evil spirits to harass innocent GOOD people such as Jews, Christians and Catholics, and unsuspecting atheists who I don't support but are most vulnerable since they don't even think it exsists so don't know that they need to tell a preist, and I've heard a group of occult practicers have kidnapped 200 girls from school and started selling them for sex. How horrible! Despicable, evil runts! Why? They isolate and torture they're children, raising them without running water or electricity, never letting them leave, poor tortured helpless children, I hope they run away! And they teach them you'll go to hell if you masturbate or have sex! Plain awful! They do unspeakably evil, horrible thing and have the nerve to call Christians and Catholics evil, those who are happy, peaceful and loving, and the Jews who they seem to hate and torture the most, but are actually loyal: always having each other's back, rich and smart with money, and have great education. They should be the one being killed and suffering, those hideous cults! God bless those who suffer from they're evilness. (link)
I don't know a heap about cults and occults, I try to stay away from them, however to answer your question...
Evil things happen because our world is fallen. God hates Evil and loves justice, which is why he sent his one and only Son to die, so that we can live eternally... But until Jesus comes back to earth, sin and evil will be present.
If you want to know more, please message me :)


I'm Catholic but I really can't stand the bible, it tries to destroy every last religion other than it's own, I have abilities like psychic and have done spells, and never regretted anything I've done (except a weather spell, never making that mistake again) yet the bible hates them, also they tell you to wear your hair a certain way, and dress a certain way, and not to have sex or masturbate. Also they dislike homosexuals and bis (bisexuals) but there's nothing bad about them!!!!!!!!!!!!! So your telling me that if a homosexual helps the poor and Unfourtanate her entire life, educated child Muslims and other religions with a bad background, being blamed of everything (via the bible, I mean when something bad happens, the Muslims are always blamed), worked for no money at hospitals and homeless shelters, Fed, and housed animals and children, saved them from abuse, they would still go to hell just because they are homosexual. The bible can't dictate everybody's life and stop happiness! If the bible was written different, the world would be a better place. The writers did a horrible job of teaching about God. (link)
This is a good question, and I'm probably not the best to answer it, because I'm no theologian. Understanding The bible mostly comes down to knowing Greek, and translations etc....however it is faith that gives you the real knowledge.
I believe in God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Christianity is an important part of my life, and it isn't something I take lightly. The bible doesn't hate everything, it needs to be studied for you to understand that that, and by study, I mean the whole thing. Again, you also need to have faith that things were written for a reason.

Anyway... Here is some information.... If you actually want answers, here it is:

http://www.clarifyingchristianity.com/b_proof.shtml

Hope it helps xo




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