Hey I may be young but have a lot of life experience. I am not judgmental, but will tell you my opinion. For the past few months I have been using the account youareneveralone because this one had not been working...hopefully the problem is solved. Anyway I love to help people so please ask me whatever you need.
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hey sry this is personal, but i wana know if u and/or ur friends shave.. "down there" should i? or shud i not? thanks ;) (link)
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Well it depends.... If your sexually active then you probably want to... But if not I definitley would not shave everything off!! Trust me it is such a pain. It will be itchy and irritated. I suggest you shave your bikini line... The area that shows outside your bathing suit or underwear. And trim the rest of the hair. You can do this with scissors or a bikini trimmer if you wanna buy that.
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16 and 17 year old girls, what are your opinions on and experiences of sex?
Being a 16 year old girl turning 17 in two months, and still a virgin, and also the kind of girl people assume have had sex, I'm definitely not comfortable with my lack of experience, and can't come up with any reasons why I havn't had sex except for, well, it just hasn't HAPPENED.
So I'm interested to know what other girls my age think. Have you had sex or are you a virgin? If you're a virgin, what are your reasons and how do you feel about it? If you've had sex, how did you lose your virginity, what is your sex life like now and how do you feel about it?
A lot of detail (though obviously I'm not asking for anything too personal or graphic, just your thoughts on the subject) because I really hate being a virgin at my age, and would like to know what your views are.
I'd really appreciate answers, thankyou! (link)
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I am 18 a recently did it a couple months ago with my boyfriend who i love. Before than I did always feel insecure about my lack of experience and felt like an outsider when ever my friends talked about that kind of stuff. Honestly I think people have start having sex way to young. In my experence sex ties you to the person your with in a way you can't explain. For me I experenced this with my boyfirend, but I know girls who have just hooked up and it really does mess with you in some way. Anyway I went on a trip over the summer where I met about 15 different kids from around the country, who were all about 17 and they were all virgins expect for one!! (lol they were not like werid nerdy kids, they were totally normal) Anyway I was blown away by that and realized it might just be the town I am in, or the people I hang out with but there are a lot of people not doing it! This gave me the confindence to not feel so bad about being a virgin at 17. I realized its not werid and sex is something that should be taken seriously.
Also I was always worried what guys would think of my lack of experience.... my boyfriend actually loves it...he say he likes that I am untainted by anyone else lol.
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hey i was just wondering: wat is an aeroli or whatever? i think it has to do with breasts and is there supposed to be a little hair there? well i shaved it off and now its growing back quickly and stuff just wondering abut that (link)
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Well the areola is the area around your nipples that is a different color. It is normal to have some hair there, I wouldn't recommend shaving it though. If you want to get rid of the hair I would use tweezers and pluck them.
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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Like everyone said there is no 100% if your having sex. But a good thing to do is be on a hormonal birth control and use condoms. You can't competely trust them they have broken on me countless times. So use both and maybe even have ur guy pull out before he finishes. You might want to try a birth control other than the pill if you don't think you will remember everyday, such as the shot or patch or whatever. Again there is always a chance, but they will be very small if you do these things.
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Hi im 18 years old and im sexually active with my boyfriend for over 6 months, we've been doing it everyday and he cummed inside me almost a month ago, after that I got like some spotting and I thought I was getting my period but it was a false alarm also my breats have been hurting a lot. Im suppose to get me period in the end of April and its now May.11th! Could I be pregnant? Is it too soon?
Please help, thanks! (link)
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Yes unless you were on birth control I think there is a very good chance you are. If you are pregnant the spotting you had was implantation bleeding. This happens when the fertilized egg implants on the uterine lining. It causes you to bleed a bit. If you haven't gotten your April period and your breast are sore I would get a test asap there is a good chance you are pregnant.
Would you rate a five if I told you that you may not be pregnant? Everyone you gave a 3 is telling you the truth. Even if it is not the answer you want to hear.
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19/f.
I'm still a virgin but I'm planning to have sex soon. The thing is i've been on birth control probably for 2yrs now for my period and other things. I'm afraid that the guy will be like "ohhh we don't need a condom your on birth control!" but I definitely want to be as safe as I can and use both. I know the guy shouldn't care if I asked him, but I'm a bit worried. What if we're in the moment and I'm like wait do you have a condom? And he's like no, we don't need one. I'd feel like a total idiot but I'm not doing it without one!! I know guys hate wearing them but better then getting pregnant right? :)
So basically, how can I convince him (if he doesn't want to, i'm not sure yet..) to wear a condom even though I'm still on birth control?
thanks!!:) (link)
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Well if he doesn't know your on birth control, you don't have to tell him. But if he knows just sternly lay down the law that there will be no sex with out a condom. If you really lay down the law, and he doesn't think you will easily change your mind, he will definitely agree and choose sex with a condom, rather than no sex at all.
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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
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Good for you wanting to wait . Don't worry you are not a freak!! I bet alot of your friends arent doing as much as they say....even so who cares. I think having sex at 15 is wayyyy to young. I wanted to wait for marriage but did it at 18.....but that's a whole other story. Anyway I now understand why waiting until marriage is such a good decision. I advise you to wait as long as possible. Also it may just be the town you live in. I always felt like the odd one out to not wanting to do all this sexual stuff but then I went on this trip where I met kids from all over the country and only 1 was not a virgin . So don't worry I promise you are not alone. Don't let anyone pressure you.
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Hi i'm 25/m and I have an amazing gf I have been with almost 3 years. I love her very dearly and am ready to marry her. Only problem is I tend to screw things up by talking to other girls behind her back. I don't try to flirt but I guess I get creepy. I then lie to her about things cause i'm scared to lose her. Can anyone please help me figure out why I do this and how I can stop doing it. After the last time I could never do it again but she doesn't trust me as she shouldn't. I am willing to do anything it takes to fix my life. I have even started contacting psychologists. (link)
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Well some guys I know sound like they have the same problem as you. Its not that they are trying purposely to hit on other women, or cheat on their girlfriends they just don't know how to talk to girls with out flirting. Its all they have ever known when it comes to communicating with the other sex. And yes they too have screwed a lot of things up usually unintentionally. What I personally think you should do is really try and cut women whom you are not really good friends with out of your life. Avoid extensive talks with women you meet, don't be rude, but don't talk enough that it may lead you to trouble. Also with the girls you still talk to you really need to make a conscious effort to think before you speak. If all else fails and you feel you need to see a psychologist go for it. Also have you talked to your girlfriend about this problem. I don't know you but you seem very sincere, perhaps with her support this will be easier for you. I hope I was able to help!
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My skin is so dry, but kind of oily at the same time. Ive been using Dove deep moisture but they discontinued it. Ive tried, olay moisturizer but it makes my skin even drier when i put it on! It makes my skin flake even more, thats why its so hard for me to find a good moisturizer. Cetaphil doesnt work on me, and clean and clear doesnt either. If anyone has skin like me, please tell me what works for you so i can try them. I exfoliate too, still doesnt help.
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Well my skin does seem to be similar to yours, it gets really dry but oily as the day goes on. What I found works the best is to wash my face with something like clean and clear shine control and then apply a mositurizer. Don't use an oil free mositurizer it will not do anything you will still have dry flaking spots. This system works best for me I suggest you give it a try. Hope I was able to help!
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so i already paid my deposit for college and i'm gonna go there in the fall no matter what. But lately i've been feeling like i REALLY don't want to go there. so i was wondering if i went for the first semester (then didn't go back for the second semester) if i have to still pay tuition for the second semester. please help! (link)
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Yeah im almost positive you only pay a semester at a time. And you usually get about 2 week period of time if you wanna drop out to get a large sum of money back. So it would not be a big problem to transfer 2nd semester, a lot of my friends have gone through that.
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maybe I am prude but I have never let my boyfriend do this. I guess I am afraid that I won't like it! So what does it feel like to be eaten out? I am a girl (obviously!) and I really want to know! You don't have to be all graphic and stuff but I think you know what I am asking. :-) (link)
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I think it feels very good. Better than fingering. But again it depends on the guy. I was a little self concious at first but got. Over it soon. Just make sure you showered that day or something and shaved. I don't really know how to explain it but it's more gentle than fingering yet feels better, I think.
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I have a major problem, My sims 3 launcher won't work. I click on it, with the CD in and with it out. It won't open it says " Sims 3 launcher has stopped working" I don't know what to do the help part of the sims3 website doesn't do anything. What can I do. (link)
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Yeah I had the same problem it is some kind of bug. I'm on vaction now so I don't have my real computer so I'm just explaining it my memory, if this doesn't work and no one else answers you let me know and I'll figure it out when I get home. Anyway here is what I think you do.
Go to programs and find sims3
then click properties and then click run.... (I think) a screen should come up with a bunch of different programs. Click the one with the sims icon I think it is labeled vsv or something like that. If that's not right maybe if you click run from the start menu then choose the program. Again I'm not postive but I will be 100% sure by Sunday if you still need help. Hope I was able to help you, goodluck.
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okay so i'm a 16 YO girl and i masturbate haha. i like doing it, it feels great and i orgasm every time i do but i feel like i'm the only girl that does it... i mean i always read that girls do it a lot to but i feel like if i told my friends they'd be totally grossed out.
so my question is, do guys know girls masturbate? like if i was with a guy and i told him i masturbate would he be grossed out or think i'm weird or desperate or something? anywayss let me know what you think. thanks! (link)
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So girls will think its gross but im pretty sure that the majority of your friends have probably tried it at least once. My boyfriend actually thinks it is hot for girls to do that, so don't worry about what guys think.
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16/f
i took "next choice" which is basically the same thing as plan b 34 hours after protected sex, but just in case of leakage came out. is it normal right after taking the pill you need to pee right afterwards? would it effect the pill? i don't pee constantly, i just had to pee right after drinking so much water. and the condom had spermicides, is it less likely that i could've gotten pregnant? (link)
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No the pill would not have gotten through your system fast enough that you would pee it out. I'm sure you are fine
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17/f
I've wanted to just go to the store and pick up a box of condoms, but I'm too embarrassed to do more than just glance at the packages as I walk through the aisle at the drugstore. Any suggestions how to make the buying process less scary? (link)
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Well I make my boyfriend get them. If you have to get them on your own then buy other stuff too so it isn't obvious. The person checking you out prob won't notice or care. Oh and do not do a self check out!!!!! Most of the time the machine announces what you scan. That would be alot worse considering everyone around you would hear that you were buying condoms!!
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15/f
i recently had safe sex about a week ago and am expectin my period in about another week but for the past two days i've been getting this weird pinkish discharge. could i be pregnant? (link)
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Well it depends, it can be a sign of early pregnancy. Are you on birth control, that could cause it. Or it could mean nothing. The same thing happened to me, and i was not pregnant. But I am on birth control. Take a pregnancy test. But if you had safe sex I wouldn't stress too much.
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16/f
Basically every girl in my grade including my best friends have had sex they also have boyfriends. I am really independent and mature for my age and dont feel the need for a boyfriend whatsoever. However I do want one as of right now but I am really picky. I'm not going to date someone who I dont even like but I do realize that the perfect guy isnt going to fall into my lap. But anyway I do sort of feel like the odd one out since im a virgin compared to everyone else. My bestfriends always have their boyfriends and have sex. On one hand I am perfectly fine with waiting for the right one but on the other hand I do feel left out. I dont know...any advice or personal experience is greatly apprpeciated :) (link)
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yea that is exactly how it was for me all my life until this year. My group of friends were the ones with the boyfriends. I literally was the only one. Sometimes I got made fun of because I had hardly any experience. It bothered me, especially because on the weekends when my friends would all be out with their boyfriends and i would be home alone. I didn't want a boyfriend for sexual reason either, I was very comfortable waiting until the right guy. But I did eventually realize I was being too picky when it came to guys. I had been alone so long I had an image of the perfect man in my head...that no one could live up too. But eventually I decided to go with the flow, and date this one guy who i wasn't all that crazy about. But...eventually I really started to like him, and now I love him and am soo glad i took a chance on the guy who wasn't perfect. I don't know if that your problem but don't be afraid to take a chance. Be patient your time will come, I promise. Don't worry about sex or gaining experience. Once you find that guy it will be okay if you don't know how to do everything, he won't mind. Trust me.
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im a 15 yr old girl and i find my self being really attracted to boys and girls and it really freaks me out when i am around a girl im attracted to because i know im not suppose to fell that way but i do (link)
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You are still young, you'd be surprised how many girls go through this. But you'll been fine. Just try not to think about girls in that way, and don't stress about it. You still like boys so your not a lesbian. If anything you would be bisexual, and then it really is completely up to you if you ever act on those feelings of attraction or not. Don't worry, your still growing and changing. Don't try and label your self right now. If you have any more questions or whatever feel free to message me, I'll do my best to help you
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can having you period for 2 weeks be a sign of pregnency? (link)
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No, if you were pregnant you would not have your period at all. The blood that comes out during your period is your uterine lining, this is what cradles the baby inside your uterus. When the egg is not fertilized you shed the lining, thus having your period. Therefore it is pretty much impossible for you to be pregnant if you have your period.
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ok ive never really had sex, but my friends tell me how they get wet big time.iwanna knw if i get wet like that. how can i find out. illl try anything thanx:) (link)
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Well if your with a guy and start getting turned on you will become wet. Even if your just fantasizing you should get some what wet. Depending on how wet you do get during these activities is a good gauge for how it will be during sex. But when ur actually having sex it will usually be much more. Hope I was able to help. Also masturbation would show you how wet you would get if you want to do that.
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