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Two weeks ago, my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. I started my period on Wednesday. But, it's been going off and on every other day. This is unusual to me. I have been feelig really light headed. Could I be pregnant?
if you have unprotected sex, there is always a risk that you could get pregnant. i am not going to lecture you on that though. the best way to find out if you are pregnant is to take a test. it might just be that having sex has affected your perioid, but to be on the safe side you must take a test to find out. good luck :)
ok so im desperate here. im 14 going 2 have my 1st kiss on wednesday. it is currently sunday night so i have 3 days to get rid of this cold sore. it is almost gone! you cant pop it because it looks more like a scab now. im taking about 4 lysine pills a day (thats how many you can take) and 2 little bottles of the liquid lysine. i am using every medicine i can think of on it. lip balms, liquids, creams. and i put hot tea bags on it. ive had it for a week or maybe 8 days now. please give me something that will work :)thank you so much for the advice
keep using the cold sore cream, it works the best. don't put too much on else it won't work! also, if it has already almost gone, then it's not really a cold sore anymore it's just healing. so it's easy to cover with make up - i know because i've done it many times!
It's been two months since my boyfriend and I broke up but I'm still hurting. He treated me like shit while we were dating, hurt me so many ways, and yet when I got to bed every night the only thing I can think about was the way he held me and kissed me and I miss being loved like that. He didn't love me for me, he admitted that, but we had such a physical connection that that's what has hurt so much to lose. He pressured me into going farther than I wanted to physically and it made me sooo attached to him that when he cut it off, it made it twenty times harder than it should have because I know I was too young to deal with those kind of physical connections. We dated for seven months, he was sixteen and I was fourteen, but I'm fifteen now. I just don't know what to do. I'm sick of missing someone who didn't care about me. I just want to be held by him again, but only by him and I don't know why... Please some one help, I hate this hurt.
it can take a lot longer than 2 months to get over someone, so how you're feeling is normal. my opinion is that you probably cared so much about him because he didn't show the same affection towards you, which made him a bit of a challenge. this is how i've felt previously any way. let's face facts now; you were too good for him. why be with somebody who isn't willing to care about you in the same way that you do about him. i've been in this situation before and it's not good. meeting someone far better than my ex made me see this, but I guess I was just blind to it because I was in love, and I think you will feel the same too. you deserve better than him and the sooner you realise that the better! start focusing more on you rather than others because you deserve to :) and if he ever comes crawling back to you, don't take him back! he's hurt you... he doesn't deserve you! keep smiling and good luck :)
Okay lets say you knew this girl was fourteen dating a sixteen year old boy, if you found out that she (she's now fifteen) let him finger her, gave him a hj and a bj, would you judge her?? they dated for seven months. I think you can see that I'm the girl... haha
i wouldn't, but that's in my nature. however I could see why others would. just do what makes you happy, aslong as you are being safe etc :)
if i gave my boyfriend a hand job and he got sperm on his hand and then fingered me could i get pregnant?
it's very unlikely - but the risk is still there... i'd take a test just to be safe :)
Ughh, whats the best way to get over someone. I can't take it anymore..
you're probably told this all the time, but time heals it :) i'm pretty sure everyone has been in a position like you, where they think they won't ever be able to get over their ex, but it happens eventually, and you'll feel ten times better than you did before.
the worst things to do:
- sit and think about your ex (what he's up to, asking his friends about him, looking at old pictures - you can do this but when your ready to!)
- try and win him back (will not always work)
- spy on him (some people do it!!)
best things to do:
- spend more time with your friends and family (they'll take your mind off your ex to a degree)
- meet new people (this is a great tip! it boosts your confidence and you're having fun at the same time)
- find a new hobby (sports, dancing, arts - whatever you want! it will take your mind off it)
personally I would just say to enjoy yourself... do whatever makes you feel good. I know that when I split up with my ex, going to the gym and getting fit really helped me because I met new people and gained confidence - although this doesn't always work for everyone! think of 5 things (or 3 whatever suits you) that you've always really wanted to do, such as visit somewhere you've always really wanted to go... it will make you so much happy when you have achieved your wishes! good luck and I hope I helped :)
My bf broke up with me almost 5 weeks ago and i miss him like crazy. We were friends and hungout and stuff and he told me i was the first girl he's ever been in love with but he's so confused and see's me as a friend but im still the coolest girl he's ever met. We see eachother everyday and hangout a lot for being broken up. We got in a fight though and he said the friends thing isnt working because he feels bad because he feels like i want more than a friendship with him and i always bring up our relationship ,etc.I lied and said that i didn't want him back and i didn't know it bothered him that i talked about our past..I feel like i overwhelmed him with our relationship because he never had one like the one he had with me .I feel like he thinks i still like him..which i do! but i want to pretend ive moved on and break away from him and see if he comes back..does anyone have any personal stories like this? help!
You are in a very similar situation to me so I know how you feel! :-) I don't know the best advice to give you because I am also trying to figure this out for myself. But previously, in a similar situation to this, the fact that he thought I had "moved on" really made him want me back. I didn't get with another guy, I just had fun with my friends, joined the gym and did some really cool and different things which I would never of done whilst I was with him. This drove him crazy because he felt like he was missing out in my life, and he was. He came back to me 3 months down the line and although I was really happy to have him back, he ended we breaking up again! All guys are different though and nobody knows how he feels but him. My advice to you is to forget about your ex, not completely but put him to the back of your mind. Don't contact him, make him miss you. Do things which you have always wanted to do and have loads of fun :-) If it's meant to be he will come back to you!
This could be potentially very long...So here is some background info. I am 17 years old, and the guy is 18 1/2 years old.
I dated this guy for about a month and a half during September and October. Things ended pretty badly there because he "lost the feelings" for me and went back to his ex that he used to talk shit about and say she was a crazy bitch. Anyways, my ex's friend had a crush on me the whole time I was with my ex and afterward we broke up, the friend and I became very close friends. His name is Tom.
From October to December, Tom and I were very, very close friends. He texted me "good morning" every day and we talked all the time. He would come see me anytime I asked, literally just dropping everything to drive to my house. Right around Christmas time, I realized that I also had feelings for Tom. We had our first kiss over school break and officially became a couple. He came over my house everyday over school vacation when he got out of work, and I was happier than I'd ever been. He truly cared about me, and my closest friends and family could see it. Tom pursued me for all those months before I realized my feelings.
Those first two weeks were amazing. Emotionally, we connected extremely well, even though we already had before from the friendship. And physically we went pretty far, but nothing that I regret.
One weekend, he got called into work on his only day off which bummed me out, but I knew he needed the money. Usually while he was at work and I was at school, we would text all day long. But this particular day he wasn't responding which seemed odd to me, but I brushed it off. I ended up seeing during his dinner break that night, and he seemed a little awkward. I asked if something was wrong with us, because I just had this weird feeling about his behavior (I was terrified of him losing his feelings like the other ex had done). He assured me that it was all fine and he was just exhausted from work. So he went back to work and things seemed okay.
The next day, he didn't turn his phone on at work which seemed really odd again. By now, my trouble radar was on high alert. I don't know why, but I can always "sense" how other people are feeling and stuff. Something told me things just weren't right. The next day, he didn't have his phone on again and I came home from school sick because I was coming down with tonsillitis. He came to see me that night, but of course we only held hands cause he didn't wanna get sick too. But he still seemed a little awkward for some reason.
The next, I stayed home from school because I was really sick. Once again his phone wasn't on, and I was getting upset cause things seemed weird and I was worried. I texted him impulsively and said, "If you wanna break up with me, I can handle it. Just don't drag it out please." No response until later that night after he got out of work. He said that he thought just being friends would be best cause he was getting really busy with work and he was going to training school on weekends soon. (While we were friends, he used to talk about how his job was really easy and a joke, but I guess it got more demanding later on). I got really upset because this COULDN'T be happening to me again. We were truly in love, I know it. Everyone else could see it too. Plus, I'd just gone through a break up and I didn't wanna do it again. I begged him not to leave me, but he said it was best for us both but we could still be friends. Then I was home sick for the rest of the week and he wouldn't respond or talk to me at all. I was so confused. It was like he just walked out the door one day.
When we finally talked again, he said we could talk in person soon. But over the next month and a half (January into February) he always had some sort of excuse. I started to get frustrated and blowing up his phone. I admit this wasn't the best idea, but I was feeling hurt, confused, angry and impulsive. It didn't seem fair. After my first break up, I started seeing a therapist and after going over my history, she diagnosed me with depression. But after Tom broke up with me, I went into my worst downward spiral ever. All my closest friends left me because they couldn't take my constant sadness and complaining. They were sick of me talking about it. So I went on some anti-depressants. They're starting to work, and I tried to talk to Tom and get him to understand my pain so he would explain the truth to me cause it just felt like he was leaving something out. But he always got annoyed and said he was telling the truth that he was just busy. Maybe we'd get back together later on but there were no promises. But I got even angrier cause he would go next door to my ex's house and hang out with him, but always had an excuse why he couldn't see me. I was hurt deeply.
Things are getting better and I am learning to cope without him in my life. I've been changing medications a lot and its been throwing my brain chemical balance off and making me act in ways that aren't me. I'm lashing out, rebelling and doing stupid things. In the back of my head, I know its because I want Tom to notice me and notice how out of control things had become and see how much I need his help. His presence in my life was amazing and he didn't think my depression and issues were weird. So I'm left here, hurt and confused because he promised to talk to me in person but still hasn't. We don't talk at all anymore. He doesn't respond, so I stopped contacting him a few weeks ago. I'm still sort of friendly with his best friend.
The other part is that one night in January, we were fooling around and all of sudden I wasn't sure what was going on anymore. We might have had sex, we might not have. It was really confused and over so quickly. I didn't think anything of it, because Tom and I had talked before about how we would use a condom and make sure we were both ready. We had discussed that we were both ready, but would know for sure when it would happen. But that night was confusing for me. He'd previously "popped my cherry" from fingering. Anyways....I just tried to put it out of my mind. But then I didn't get my period that month or in February. Finally March came and I panicked. We didn't talk anymore, and I didn't know what happened that night. My period finally came in March; I was just irregular. But he got wind that I was had a pregnancy scare, and he got pissed. "Nothing happened that night! She's not pregnant she's f*cking insane" is what he said to my friend who send him an email about it. Well...that cleared up my confusion about that night, I suppose. But still, like I said...I didn't get my period for two months! I think I had the right to be scared, right? He should understand that, but for some reason he just doesn't care. My family and I have been working for months on my emotional health, because I've tried to run away so that Tom would worry about me and come looking.
How can you just stop caring so deeply about someone? After the break up, he said the feelings weren't completely gone. But it still hurt like hell. I loved him and I still do.
Anyways....I'm sorry that was so long. But thats the entire background story. And my dilemma is that we don't talk at all, and his friend say that Tom thinks I'm psycho. Yes, I blew up his phone, but I'm not psycho. I've been in a lot of pain. How do I fix this?!?! Ideally, I want to get back together. But its okay if we don't, because I have met someone new :) But I'd really like him in my life at least as friends. Because he was my first love. I've been told to let time go by and let things cool down, which I'm doing. But what can I do to apologize and try and be on good terms?
THANK YOU! I've been struggling with this a lot. My therapist and I work on it, and I'm proud to say I've come a long way. But still...it hurts. I hope someone can help
Firstly, i'm sorry to hear about your depression, I think there are many people in the same situation as you, and well done for overcoming it. Anyway, it's hard to tell somebody how to "stop caring deeply about someone" if there was an easy solution, everyone would do it! It seriously just needs time. And for some people, a lot of time, days, months, years. The only thing that you can do to hurry the process is just to get on with your life like nothing has happened. I know that you still care about Tom, and you would at least like to be friends; but you cannot be friends with someone that you have deep feelings for, in my opinion anyway. If I were you I would find something else to occupy my mind, like you said you have met someone new - give them a chance. Go out and meet new people, take up a new hobby, sign up for a gym etc..anything that will keep you focused on YOU. Forget about Tom, if he's so inconsiderate to call someone a psycho, who he apparently still has feelings for; he is certainly not worth the thought. Don't contact him, pretend he doesn't even exist and soon you will feel like he doesn't exist. He will see that you have moved on with your life and that you are a stronger person than he thought. As for him telling people you are a psycho, completely ignore it. People will only believe him if they see you acting like a psycho, if they see you completely ignoring him and getting on with your life they will realise he's just a liar. Good luck and I hope I helped!
In your opinion do you think a 15 year old girl and a 16 year old boy have a long distance relationship? Do you think it would be worth it or not?
Thanks!
This may sound patronising, but because of your age it could be difficult. You both have a lot going on in your lives, you will meet new people all of the time and it will probably be really hard to maintain a relationship.
alright i am a little confused in with my sexual appetite. i love pain in the bedroom like real pain. is that wrong? i am afraid that my boyfriend will not be able to handle the things i like but i do love him. how can i find out if he is into without freaking him out?
No that's not wrong at all. Everybody likes/dislikes different things, it isn't anything to be worried about. I gurantee your boyfriend won't be freaked out if you tell him, especially if he loves you. He will probably think it's a turn on. Just let him know, and see how it goes! Good luck.
I'm 14, my bf is 17. So, we were texting about computer games and he asked if i had played a certain game. I said no, and he said "ok, I'll bring you the game tomorrow at school, and you bring the thank u" so i asked him what kind of thank u he wants and he said "surprise me"> Please can u help me with some ways to thank him , but not giving him an object in return, some kind of romantic affectionate way,
Thanks
He probably means that he just wants a kiss or something from you. Whenever I received anything from my boyfriend I would always say "I want to get you something!" and he always said that just a kiss was good enough!
14/f
i dated this guy for around 3 months on and off.
he broke up with me via text, when we saw each other again from the break up he tryed so hard for me to forgive him, that eventually i did. Were friends now, yet i still have feelings for him. People say he likes me to but im really not sure. How do i know if feelings are still there on his part?
Honestly, I think that the reason he wanted you to forgive him was so that he didn't feel guilty about the break up. He probably does still like you, people can't just switch off their feelings. If he knows that you like him, that's all you should care about. He knows how you feel and if he feels the same surely he will let you know? To be sure if he likes you, you could just ask him. If he says "I like you, but I just want to be friends" then either just be friends, or don't hang out with him at all. It will save you from getting hurt, trust me.
My boyfriend and i broke up less than 3 weeks ago.He was my first bf,and i was his first REAL gf.We were great,had so much fun all the time and he randomly broke up with me because he was "getting sick of me","wanted to be free in highschool",etc.etc.but said he wanted to stay friends.We've basically been talking again,hanging out (less than we used to) and trying to be "friends". When we hungout yesterday, we were a little drunk and he came out to me and said he likes me still and thinks about me all the time and swore that im the most amazing girl ever,but he wants to experiment with other girls and crap..which ofcourse made me mad.He kissed me and all that and held my hand ,made sure i didnt get wet out in the rain,etc.etc. but ofcourse he was kind of "drunk". We made plans to hangout today too,and ofcourse he was sober this time.We got up early and me and him just went on a cute little adventure and went to all these places.He wanted to show me his old town so we visited there and he took me to this beach he used to go to and we chilled and ate and all that.And we had to sneak into one part of the beach and he held my hand and said "lets pretend like we're a couple so we don't get caught" blah blah but after a few seconds he stopped.Then we went back to my house and watched a movie,but didn't cuddle or kiss or anything..but still had a good time.I am trying to not talk about our relationship when im with him and just be happy and have fun and just see how things go.I didn't think he'd hangout with me all day today alone if he didn't like me...and same with yesterday and i felt as though the alcohol brought out his "true " feelings (as sad as that sounds).I just like him so much and I don't know how often i should hangout with him,or what i should and shouldn't say when im with him..or what!? help!
I know it may sound harsh, but you need to ditch him. He wants you and he doesn't. He wants you to hang out with, but he doesn't want the responsibility of a relationship. Sure, it will be good to hangout with him since you still like him, but in the long run you are going to get hurt. If I were you I would cut off all contact with him, you will feel better about it and you won't feel lead on. Plus, if you tell him you don't want to be friends he may realise how he really feels about you. If he doesn't come back to you after that - he wasn't worth it to begin with.
I'm 17/f and ive never had a bf. Everytime i like some guy, and he ends up liking me back..I get really uncomfortable and scared away. I dont do it on purpose, it just happens everytime. What could be the reason Im subconciously doing this?
I used to be the same as you, and to be honest I still am sometimes. It may sound like a cliche, but you just need to meet the right guy. You're only 17 so you have a lot of time to get to know guys. When you meet someone that you really click with, you won't be scared away - you'll want to spend as much time with them as possible.
Female 16,
So I have this guy friend and I recently have discovered that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to put myself out there and make things awkward if he doesnt have feelings for me. He also guy out of a complicated not-quite relationship with this girl back in December. He has since then said he has given up on dating. How do I make him notice me as a possible relationship?
do you flirt with eachother? or anything close to that? if so, chances are he could be interested anyway. he may be thinking the same as you (he might think you aren't interested in him) if you don't flirt with him, maybe you should try. don't force yourself on him though. if you get a positive reponse then you can tell he's interested. then maybe a little while later you could tell him how you feel. if he doesn't feel the same, at least you know you tried.
i saw a guy at a club he stared at me and asked me to dance with him and i left without even saying goodbye know i cant stop thinking of him should i stop searching for him ??let me know i need to know plese
i think you should stop looking for him, the chances are you will never find him. and even if you did, it doesn't mean anything will come from it. some things just aren't meant to be...
My old car had a tape player so I was able to buy this thing that let me hook my ipod/iphone up to it so I could play it in my car. My new car only has a cd player, so I bought this other ipod thing.. where it lets you plug it in the outlet and you have to put the radio on a static station so it can play out of there. It does not work, no matter what I do. Is there any other product I can buy? Should I just have a tape player installed in my car since there is an empty spot where it is supposed to be? (Though I don't know how expensive that is) Any suggestions would be appreciated, or any products people have used that really worked!
you should see how much it costs for a tape player to be installed. if it's not much money then you should go for that. it's the only alternative really unless you want to be a cd player where you can link your ipod, but i think they are quite expensive.
Okay, I'm 17/f and I am for abstinence until I think I'm ready and I know I'm not ready to have sex. But why do all the guys I have dated or date always talk about sex and having it. It makes me really uncomfortable, it seems like they're trying to pressure me into something I don't want. Like, I won't fall for it, but it just irritates me that they still tell me about they're sex life and stuff. Does it mean they want me just for sex? Or are they just talking about it because they're guys?
all guys think about sex a lot, but not all guys talk about it. i tend to avoid these kinda guys..i mean if you know them pretty well then it's different. but still, if you don't want to talk about it then don't let them pressure you. i have guy friends who used to talk about it all the time, i swear they thought it impressed me. i told them i wasn't interested in hearing the details..and they soon stopped :-) it doesn't mean they just want you for sex, it may mean they are open to sex but it doesn't necessarily mean that's all they want you for. they're just guys!
Ok, so i'm a guy, 17. anyways, over the summer, i told this girl i liked her. she told me she had before, but she liked someone else at that time, i was cool with it, well anyways, i got over her, and we remained friends. we would text occasionally, but never really got to hang out. well i was talking to her one day, and we decided to hang out. she ended up having to work that day, but i went up and we just sat around talking for over an hour. well i think i'm starting to like her again, and i'm not sure if she likes me. well we were talking, and i'm not the skinniest guy you'll ever meet, and we were talking about that and she said if i gained some muscle and lost some weight, i would be, and i quote, "hot..." and she always smiles and seems happy when i'm around. she always trys to touch me (non sexually, mind you, heads outta the gutter =D)like she hits me playfully and trys to trip me. and i put my arm around her, like i was gonna choke her, and she leaned back against me and we fell to the floor and sat there for a minute.
so my question is...you think she's interested?
i think you should be careful with this girl - she may be genuine & she may actually like you! but there are some girls who just like being friends with guys & joking around with eachother. and there's a big difference..so firstly, i think you should let her know how you're feeling..she most likely already knows that you like her, but i think you should tell her to see her reaction & see if she feels the same? if she doesn't respond in the way that you want her to, then just stay friends with her. people do change their minds & she may really like you now. we can give you as much advice on here as possible but the only way you will really know if she likes you is if you ask her. the signs indicate to me that she is interested..so it's all down to you now. good luck!
Okay, I am 16 yrs of age, male, and im about 5'9. I'm very concern because most of my friends are taller than me and I am started to worry that i have stopped growing. The question I am trying to get at is am I going to grow anymore, how can I increase my height, should I stop eating junk food? Also my father is about 6'3.
you still have lots of time to grow.. but you're tall anyways! i know lots of guys that wish they were as tall as you!!