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Q: Ok so im 14, and i'm going to high school..
What's some stuff i SHOULD do and SHOULDN'T do
Like i need advice on making more friends

If it Helps:
*I'm friends with a few sophmores and juniors
*My school is very clique-y
*I'm friends with ALOT of people ranging from the "popular" people to "ghetto" people to "nerds"
srry I HATE using labels but i couldnt describe them any better

Just be yourself. Don't start drama, and you'll find yourself with a bunch of friends. If you get made fun of, which you shouldn't, but if you do, ignore them. Make sure you have fun too!

Just stick with your friends, and you'll make more as the year progresses!

And don't be nervous! It's not bad at all I promise.

Q: Omg..I cannot stand it when people use your instead or you're or their instead of there or they're.
OH MY GOSH. Example : Your so stupid. & Their retartarded. & Their you are! & You're shirt. And...would you look at that...another error! : Are princess. -_- (meant to be "OUR princess")

GRR. This happens a lot to me. Like I see people doing it over and over and over again. It annoys the hell out of me! Would it be too rude to correct them? They should know by now, right!?

Ugh.

Nope. I correct people all the time online when they do that. When they type the error, just be like "Their*" and they'll probably ask you what you mean by it; just tell them you hate when people make errors like that so you had to corrected it.

Q: Is there anyway i can get tested for Aids/HIV w/o my mom & dad knowing? I mean i know i don't have aids or HIV. i just wanna make sure.

At your next physical, or doctor visit, ask them if you can get one done. It's totally confidential, and they can't tell your parents unless you give them permission to.

Hope I helped!

Q: ^^ Hello, I have an Xbox 360, and I have some old xbox games...now, when we(my parents and I) bought it, the dude who worked where we got it said that it should play all xbox games.
But, only certain games work, like Zapper or something, while others, when you close the tray, the 360 will say that the game is not supported and it may need an update.

So, I went and read something about an update and I downloaded it on a CD disk, put it into my 360)(like the xbox site said to do) and it said that it has been updated...but yet still certain games won't work! And it is getting very boring playing the same old games...so what do I do?

Thanks in advance!

I think the guy was wrong in telling you that all original Xbox games work on the 360.

Yes I was correct, not ALL original games work on the 360, here is the list of games that will work!

http://www.xbox.com/en-US/games/backwardcompatibilitygameslist.htm

Q: OKay. how old do you have to be to move out of your parents house and not have to listen to them in NY state??

16 if you get emancipated, 18 other-wise. =)

Q: is it true that if men drink mt.dew it will lower their sperm count????

False.

Q: m/13 so me and my girlfriend are planning to have sex. we dont know whether she should put her tampon in during it so she doesnt get pregnant, or i should use i condom. also, how do u put on a condom? when i put my penis in how fast do i go in and out?

If you don't know any of the answers, then you are not ready to have sex.

AND YOU'RE 13! LIVE A LITTLE!

Q: i cant hide my top friends, or my comments anymore.
i know there used to be a note from tom on everyone's home page that said it was messed up, but it's not there anymore.
is ther any codes that can hide them now? or is it still being fixed??

thanks!

http://www.myspacesupport.com/code.php?id=21

I use those codes and they work for me! =)

Q: I started my period when I was 10, and I am almost 12 now, and I masturbate. Is that normal? Thanks! Bailey

Not to sound bitch-y, but this site is for 13 year olds and older. -.-

But I'll answer anyway.

Yes it's normal. It's just your hormones beginning to rage.

Q: hey my name is tara and ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months. recently he's been getting closer to one of his friends that i dont really care for. My best friend was involved with my boyfriends friend and he screwed her over. since this new friend has been in my boyfriends life hes been distant to my best friend and they were good friends for a long time. Since this all happened my bestfriend constantly complains about my boyfriend how hes different cause they dnt talk as much. shes said that she would never ask me to break up with him cause he means alot to me but i feel like she wants me to. i'm in a really weird position i love this kid so much and its so great but i feel like everyones bringing me down i dnt know what to do. =[

Try talking to your boyfriend about this friend of his. Tell him how it's effecting your relationship with your best friend, and to not be so distant with her anymore. Also tell him how you feel about his new friend, and see if he's willing to not get as close as he can with him for your sake.

Q: okay, so this boy really likes me and we've talked alot over the summer and he wants to go out with me when i get back from vacation. hes a lot more experienced then me and ive never had a real boyfriend before. ive been asked out many times but ive just been able to say no. i really like this kid and i was wondering what to say when he asks me out. like do i say, yes, yeah, of course? what? please help!!

Tell him what you feel, in a short state. Be like, "I'd be so happy to!" or "Of course I will!".

Don't make it long, just make it short and sweet, and you get the point across that you want to. =)

Q: okay so i like this kid, and he likes me back. and we've talked and stuff and hes planning to ask me out. hes experienced and has had like 15 girlfriends, yeah i know its crazy. and i havent even had one. when we go to the movies, i know hes gona make the first move and try and make out with me but honestly i have no idea how. i know people say it comes naturally. but seriously, i need help. like what if he calls me a bad kisser or somehting? that would totally suck. please help

What you should do is just feel confident about it. Don't be scared to do it. Let him take control for the first few seconds and you'll get the hang of it, trust me! You'll feel silly once you experience it and realized that it's that not big of a deal. =)

Q: Hello. :]

I'm going to a party in the middle of August, and I really want to be able to salsa. I already know the VERY basics, and I pick up to dance rather well.

I'm most intersted in the flips that the girls do over the guys' arms, but anything awesome is appreciated.

Does anyone have any websites or other free resources (including personal advice) that they could give me?

Oh, and a quick Google search only showed videos not available online for free, which is what I'm really looking for.

Thank you. :]

Try using www.youtube.com, and search "Salsa Dancing Tips".

I'm sure they have something on there than can be helpful.

**EDIT** Um, ok.. you give me a 2, when I give you exactly what you asked for. Smmmarrrtttt.

Q: what can you ask your haircutter to do to make your hair have more volume at the top? not style-wise, but haircut wise with no extra styling necessary. short layers?

Yes, the layers will give you a little more volume.

If you really want the max volume you can get, even though this is extra styling, buy a teasing comb. They work wonders!

Q: i know there are some websites that have symbols for myspace like,,diamonds...dots..circles..stuff like that. can you please give me a websrite that has those stuff on it.

http://www.myspacesupport.com/code.php?id=37

They have probably all the ones you could ever need, and more.

Q: I really need a cut to heal as much as it can! Please help. I need it to heal as fast as possible! I dont have 3 to 4 days! Thanx

The best thing you should do is put Neosporin on it.

or, to make it a little more fun, go take a swim in a saltwater ocean near-by if you have one.

Q: im 16 and my penis is not that big im worried what my gf will think will it matter?

If she really cares about you then it shouldn't matter to her. And if she does care, then she probably doesn't really care about you all that much.

Plus, it doesn't matter the size, it's if you know how to work it, haha. =)

Q: What are some symptoms that you need to get your tonsils removed?

I have a horrendous sore throat,
It hurts to swallow so badly.

I'm so paranoid that I might have to get my tonsils removed. So what are te symptoms of needing to get them out?

Thanks 14/f

There really isn't symptoms of needing to have them removed. When you get a severe case of Mono or Tonsillitis, your doctor would let you know if they needed to be removed.

Have your mom look at your tonsils with a flashlight. If you have spots on them, you may have Tonsillitis or Mono, but that by no means, means that you need to have them removed. Check with a doctor soon if you have white spots, or your throat doesn't feel better in 2-4 days. I've had both and I still have my tonsils.

Q: hi i was wonder do girls usually rather guys shaved down "there" or not shaved?

shaved, or at least trimmed.

Q: i want to make a blog and stuff but i dont no a website?? so like any sites can help like about blogs!!

www.xanga.com!

that site is perfect =)

or you can try www.livejournal.com

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