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What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks.

I'm 15, and I think 10 is actually not a bad curfew if you're like going to a party or something. I go to the movies with my best friend all the time, and personally being home is never usually an issue for my parents, because they know when i got to the movie and when i'm leaving the movie because they're dropping me off and picking me up. Maybe you could ask if the two of you could hang over at your house after? Or, if you preferred his house, you could just get the two of your parents to discuss it. I mean, if your parents know where you are and what you're doing, perhaps they'll be more lenient.

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Yep not now or me. My best friend is hung over. And now i dont know wut he should take.

What should he do?

COFFEE! FLUIDS! also google "hangover cures" and see what else comes up.

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about 2 weeks now. Everything is going great, heck we're even going to the movies this weekend. But, I'm just not sure he likes me the way he says he does. Sometimes it seems like he just likes me as a really good friend. I guess what I'm trying to ask is..well do you know how I can find out if he really does like me the way I like him..

Uh..ask him?

Personally, I think being comfortable with one another to be friends as well as boyfriends/girlfriends is important. But that's just me.

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Hey everyone, i'm so tired of being a prep and since being a punk is popular now, i think i'll go steal a chunk off of someone else's culture!

And can anyone tell me how to make my boobs look like Pamela Anderson's? Thanks so much, everyone! It means a lot to me!

How to be punk:

-Spike your hair. Even if its down past your butt, spike it. All of it. Time is not an issue here.
-Claim yourself to be Sid Vicious, Kid Vicious, or even Baby Vicious.
-Don't shower. Bad stench=very good.
-Cover everything you own in sharpies, stickers, duct tape, saftey pins, plaid, and safety pins.
-Wear very tight pants.
-Smoke.
-Get drunk at least every night.
-Have lots of sex.
-Beat up everyone that gets in your way.
-Call everyone posers.
-Worship the Sex Pistols.
-Attend lots of concerts.
-Wear only black. Every so often wear red. But only a little bit paired with black.
-Wear sweatshirts and leather boots in the summer.
-No glasses! Even if you are blink, you can NOT be seen with any glasses on your face!
-Don't wear a lot of makeup. Black eyeliner a must. Red eyeshadow okay. Black lipstick on guys.
-Pierce everything.
-Live at Hot Topic.
-Yell at the emo kids.

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I own all this awesome modern purple furniture, but my realitor just showed me a house decorated in traditional hunter green. Think I'll be able to make it work, or should I not even think about it? I can't afford to have carpets and wallpaper replaced, but I really like this house.

The colors might look good together. If so-I agree with dwh, some purple and green accents'll even everything out. *nods*

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Should I dust my room when I can see cobwebs all over...well..everything?

I think that might be a good idea. Unless you like inhaling dust.

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Why do cows have spots?

They aren't really spots. More like ink blots, really.

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do pop tarts qualify more as a "breakfast" or "junk food"? i'm aiming for breakfast here, don't let me down.

If you get the ones with frosting, they're not really a breakfast. Know what's good though? Nuti-Grain bars with peach yogurt filling. OMG they're so good. But if you're in a hurry, and pop tarts are all you can find, it's undubitably better than nothing.

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I have a cold. I've been blowing my nose all day with these awful tissues and now it's all sore and I think i'm going to die. what do I do? stop blowing it? band-aid it so the snot just doesn't run out? sorry this is so gross.

Definetly get better tissues. If you continue using the bad ones, you situation will only get worse. Have some tea. If your nose is chapped, but some vasoline on it.

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Okay this guy (call him Pierre) used to like me and i liked him n stuff. Then he asked me out, but i said no. On monday he invited me to his party. On thursday Pierre was passing out papers and said my friend likes you he thinks your cute. So I was like cool who is it! He wouldnt tell me though. He said unless i tell him who I like he wont tell me. So the next day Im trying to ask pierre who it was, but he avoided me. He looked at me by the sides of his book and made faces at me stuck out his tounge and eventually he made a kiss with his lips at me. And my friend (call her Sarah) saw him wen he did that too. She and acouple other girls think the mystery guy is him. They asked him if its him and he said EWW no!Though he said he liked a girl (call her Mary). So then finally Pierre told me the mystery guy doesnt like me anymore and he thinks Im a loser! And then I tried to bribe him by telling him I knew alot of girls who like him, but Pierre said guys dont care about that. But still he wants to know who I like though! And then this other guy (call him Chriss) told me he over heard Pierre say ya I wouldnt blame the guy for not liking her she IS a loser. So my questions are, Why does he still want to know who I like? If he thinks Im a loser why did he ask me out and invite me to his party? Is he the mystery guy? Why did he react weird when my friend asked if it was him? Why does he call me a loser? and does he still like me?

~~~~~~HELP~~~~~please!~~~~~~~~~TODAY!!!!~~~~~~

Yeah, he probably likes you. He's probably trying to make you mad so you say who you like, or something like that. Boys will do that.

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Chatspeak burns my eyes. How can I jump through my computer and kill people who use it?

Shay, she doesn't you use chatspeak hon, she is talking about the people who use it. ;)

Anyways, It's not nice to kill people. I simply abduct them from their homes, and train them until they can type correctly. :) You know that thing that guy did, where he like, rang that bell thing and the dogs like, you know, drooled and stuff? Sort of like that. +_^

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My friends and I sometimes make ourselves throw up like if we eat a really big meal and don't want to get fat from it. It's not bad, we're not anorexic or anything, and I know a ton of people who do it. But this one girl at our school found out and is like freaking out about it... how do we let her know it's okay?

It's not okay. And, duh, you are not anorexic, because anorexia is starving yourself, bullemia is forcing yourself to throw up. Things like this can turn to habit and obsession about being thin. I'd take your friend's advice and see a doctor about it. And a ton of people at my school think I worship satan, because I dress differently from them, but that doesn't make that true.

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I work for a junior high school and there are plenty of good looking kids in the school. I am only 23 so I don't think it is wrong to like these students, not that any physical atraction would take place. But, there was one time, last week, were the most popular person in my Language arts third period class fingered and physically touched me! I was actually turned on! So, I told him to meet me at my house TOMOROW! I feel like I owe him either an appology... or a thanks. (if you know what I mean!)
What should I do
Master Bater

Yes, it's wrong, not to mention ILLEGAL. You could definetly get fired. Break it off with this kid quick! You should definetly, definetly apoligize for your behavior!(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

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Is it wrong to copy software to your computer that you don't pay for?

It IS illegal. You can get sued and fined.

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How do I win back my ex boyfriend that cares for me and I care for him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now? I mean we flirt, cuddle, play around,and hug.I'm very confused.

Don't do any of it anymore. Firmly tell him, you're interested in a real relationship, not a fuck-and-run sort of thing.

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I have dedicated this poem to my plant that will not grow.
little little fern why dont u grow,
little little fern i want to know,
i sit here waiting for you,
i just dont know what to do,
i put you outside i pit you inside,
but every since my cat ate u it died.

should i keep my fern?


Ms. Ferny Fran :)

Well, obviously if it's dead...

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Okay, I'm a sort of goody-goody. I don't do drugs, I don't have sex, I've never had a boyfriend, etc. etc. A lot of my friends don't believe that oral sex is something bad. i understand that it's something that a lot of people do, and I also understand that it could be much worse, but I really think it's gross, and I just wanted some people's opinions on it. Is it "naughty" to have oral sex?

*Just Wondering*

First of all, this is a matter of opinion. You don't need to ask us, if you think it's wrong, don't do it!! Maybe some day you will change your mind, who knows? For now, just try to be comfortable with the fact that you don't seem to be ready for this. Don't let your friends call you ignorant or immature for it- it's really not their business what you think about it. Personally, I think it really depends on the maturity level you are on with the person you are dating. I really think it's wrong if people just do it because it's convenient at the time, and they can tell people that they did it.

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What's the appropriate response when someone e-mails you a question that's addressed in your site's Frequently Asked Questions page? See, I've got this forum up at spacefem.com and people just don't seem to understand the benifits that come from clicking that "FAQ" link, they still bug us all the time. Should we shame them endlessly? Politely direct them to the FAQ page? Just answer their question and accept the fact that people on the internet can't seem to learn to read?

Just answer, "Please see FAQ" along with a link. This will stop any whiney people from emailing back to you with something along the lines of, "Well, geez it was just a question! You don't have to be so rude and stuck up! And furthermore..."

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*ehem!* (Clears throat)

I am going to take you all the way back in to september, on the secound. . Please buckle your seatbelts and keep all objects and of course yoruself i the time machine, dont want any lose parts left behind in the past. . that would suck . .well anyways 9Presses the button and sets it to Spet 2, 2003 @ 9:15 a.m )

It all started the first day of school. . IF you believe in love at first site, well you better because this is it!
I was waiting in the gym. .lade da. . and I saw this really hott kid. . omg he was soo hott. . I just fell in love instintly, somethign about him made me want him instantly. . not just because he was hott. . because I dont know I think I knew how he was. . but I never met him before. . because i wa snew to the school . . They never called my name. . SO I had to go to the office,a nd obviously my mom left. . so I was crossing my fingers hoping I would be in his class (6th grade) And well I ende dp in hi class!! YAY! well if you think thats the happy ending your wrong. . I got to know him, like how he interacts with other people, hes soo sweet and really funny, hes liek the class clown/rebel he gets in trouble quite a few while im miss. shy/good girl lol. . well I really like funny pople, you know peopel with a good sense of humor. . and guys who r sweet and cool witht heir friends, not sweet like sweet liek umm like ehs not a freaking jerk .. ok. . I cnat believe his best friend tripped me! lol well anyways. . like a month later, they were switching classes around. . and guess what! HE GOT MOVED OUT OF MY CLASS! I was soo sad. . I ahte the dman teachers. . they probly new i liekd him and didnt want me to get tino touble with him .. because thye didnt think he was good enough for me. . well they r wrong! he is perfect and I wont stop likign him untill the day I die! hes the best thign that ever happened to me! I LOVE HIM AND I HOPE HE FINDS OUT BECAUSE I WANT AN EEN EBTETR CHANCE WITH HIM. . well i dont even think he lieks me. . well he does act stupid. . I do when I am arond him lol .. and he looks at me. . I see him Im not blind. . lol Well hes super special and all I want toknow is. .


AM I obsessed over him?
Do you think he is right for me, or do you agree witht he dumbass teachers??
And umm. . What if he does like me. . what should I do.....


*raises an eyebrow* Your teachers are not out to get you...and yes, it does seem like an obsession. Although, it seems like you knew that already, considering the way you asked the question.

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Do you like System Of A Down? I think the guitarist Daron Malakian is the sexiest man alive. What do you think?

Is that the freakish guy, who's all bald and has, like, a bajillion tatoos? If it is, I fear for you. (I think that's the bassist, but that guy still scares me! =|)

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