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Confused
How do I win back my ex boyfriend that cares for me and I care for him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now? I mean we flirt, cuddle, play around,and hug.I'm very confused.
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If you "care for him", why would you want him to be in something he doesn't want to( relationship)?
I understand that you may be feeling the need to get something a little bit more concrete for yourself, but if he's not ready, then don't try and push it on him. It might just push him even further away from the idea. Give him time, be there, and enjoy each others company. Maybe THAT will remind him of some things he misses about the realtionship, but by all means, don't push him.
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Don't do any of it anymore. Firmly tell him, you're interested in a real relationship, not a fuck-and-run sort of thing.
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Sounds like a classic case of fear of commitment... her wants the love but he wants it no strings attached... It's like a way to cheat without really cheating of getting around you since your not really together, its not a good situation to be in and you probably will end up hurt, it will continue this way unless you say something, you need to tell him strait up you’re sick of it! If he cares about you then cut the crap and make it official if not then it has to stop... it might end it for good which I know you don't like the idea now but in the long run that heartbreak now will save from more heartbreak latter...
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I think you really need to ask yourself why you want to be with this guy and if he's really worth the trouble. As nice as this guy may be, it sounds like he doesn't want a relationship - and do you really want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you?
I'd advise a bit of time and space for you both. Maybe a bit of space will allow this guy to realise that he does actually want a relationship and you'll get back together, but maybe the best thing for you both would actually be to stop seing each other. I know it doesn't sound great, but being single is better then hanging on to somebody who doesn't respect you enough to have a relationship with you.
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oh my god i have the same problem with my ex he always tells me he loves me and we also cuddle and fool around and kiss but he keeps saying he wants to be single (its driving me nuts) but there is ways of getting them to come around (i hope) maybe you should sit him down and tell him that you love him and you cant waiste your love life waiting for him to want a relationship and that if he isnt going to love you the way you want to be loved tell him you need to break away from him and find someone else that is willing to be in a relationship with you
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This is ex boyfriend is dumb. Perhaps he thinks he can still flirt and cuddle with you without having to be tied down. Do you want to allow this? Thats up to you. If he isn't interested in a relationship then he should not be leading you on.
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Just give him time. Let him come to you, and if hes not ready now, and yall care for each other, youll probably be the first person he looks up when the time comes. But just have patience. Remember, the best things in life are worth waiting for (as corny as that may sound lol). Just dont worry about it for now, and wait it out. Itll work itself our eventually. But if you must know a way to speed up the process, just be a really good friend to him. Let him know that you still care for him. And that you will still be there when hes ready. Whatever you do though, do not try to make him jealous. That will just push him away, and make him feel like your not there for him. Patience is the key to this one. Dont stress out. It will be alright.
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Give him some time. Maybe he doesn't want to be in a relationship for a reason, whether he is scared or just needs a break. If you do all that stuff you just said, I'm sure you'll get him back.
Lizzy
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Well if he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, then just leave his requests be. There's got to be a reason why he doesn't want to be in one, maybe he's scared of getting hurt? So just lay low for now, yes you two obviously like eachother, but just wait until he is ready for a relationship to make your move.
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If you still flirt, cuddle, hug, and play around I think you have already won him back. Dont push him into a relationship just stay doing what you two are doing.
-shay :-)
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