Whats up? I'm Aleasa and I love to give advice and help people! I'm 15, 5'4", hazel eyes, and long brown hair. I like to sit in my room when its dark and listen to Queensryche (no NOT Queen), Great White, Quiet Riot, Metallica, and Guns~n~Roses, etc. I also like to hang out with my sexy boyfriend Chad, eat, and play video games. Video games I like to play are: Metal Gear Soild, Blood Rayne 1 & 2, Final Fantasy etc.. um yeah anyways, got any questions for me, feel free to ask!
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my friend has been cutting her wrist now for a few months. im so worried about her and she wont stop. she is definitly going to kill herself if she doesnt get stopped. i cant tell on her because i trusted her not to tell on me when i used to cut but now its totally different. i see how it is when your friends life is resting on your hands. i want to tell but i dont even know who to tell. PLEASE HELP.. IM BEGGING YOU!
xoxo -concerned friend- xoxo (link)
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go to and authority figure, or a parent or someone anyone older can help her. if you go to her parents they will find ways to help their daughter, maybe-as much as she may deny it- she needs her parents right now. don't tell he your going to tell your parents just tell them, she may get mad but she'll thank you in the end, i know this i've done it before.
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ok so i go out with this guy and lately i've been getting jealouse of other girls becuz he lik flirts with them rite in front of me and i feel like we dont even go out and i dont wanna brake up with him like right be for valentines becuz he has like this big thing planned...what should i do..o ya i like this other kid ( i have for a long time)HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
// Jealouse \\ (link)
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i think you should break up with him now and get it over with. it so rude to break up with a guy after valentines day becasue he has something planned for you, think about it if you spent a whole buncha money on someone then they dumped you the day or 2 after? wouldn't you feel bad? isn't that just selfish and mean.
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ok there is this guy he is my friend and he won't stop touching me or saying all this sexual stuff. He's really making me mad i don't know how to tell him because he's my friend, plz help. (link)
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just flat out tell him to stop or you will resort to an authority figuer or an adult. this is not right girl, don't let him do this to you, i used to have guys that did that to me too while i was walking through the hall and that and didn't do anything, its not a good idea to let it go. but anyways, if hes a true friend he won't be offended and will stop immediatly, if he is rude/offened and gets mean about hes not worth haveing as a friend.
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See i like this kid hes mad nice funny mad cute .. u kno ,, he got it all .. but i am in a relationship .. and i dnt no what to do ? what should i do .. thank you ! xoO* (link)
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go with your heart, which one do you like most. if you pick that other guy over you boyfriend, wait a few weeks or something, so your boyfriend isn't hurt that you imediatly have someone else. OH OH and you should see if the other guy is in a relationship also.
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This is mostly to the females out there: What is the most romantic- meaningful gift you've ever received? (link)
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this may not seem like much to you people, but for homecomeing i didn't get to go on a day date with my boyfriend, so i was bumed, but he ended up buying me real roses and a teddy bear. hes the only guy thats ever given me real roses! and he said a guy even offered him 50 dollars for the roses cause they were the last ones. i cryed when he pulled them out from behind my T.V!!!
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all my friends have boyfriends right now.. i feel so sad because i dont. im always around them with their boyfriends and see how loved they are. i just got out of a long relationship and miss just the feeling of being told "i love you" or just the feeling of being held in that special guys arms. i feel lonely and ive tried looking. theres no one for me to go out with that i like. please help before i go into a depression.
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girl, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy! just don't worry about it, a guy will come around soon you'll just have to wait like everyone else does. you'll be ok without a guy i promise. chin up, have fun and stop worrying about haveing a boyfriend!!!
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13/f ok..well adults always says how beautiful my sisters and i are but the thing is if im so "beautiful" then why are guys not asking me out or anything?? (link)
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they could be afraid of being rejected, i think guys and girls alike are afraid of rejection so that could be a major reason why. another reason is because maybe the guys are going for the easy/slutty girls right now and they know your not. but no worries, chin up you'll get a guy soon!
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There's this guy who i really really really like (lets call him Jo), but Jo told me that he really liked someone else and only wanted to be mates with me. However he's still been flirting with me and today he wasn't even bothered that his "crush" was there. He looked really chuffed when i laughed at his jokes and i caught him watching me. But later on his friend Bob and i were being really friendly and when i looked over at Jo, he looked kind hurt and gave me this really funny look. Later on I was talking to him on msn and he wasn't as friendly as usual. So i guess the question is do you think that he's maybe starting to like me and what do i do? Thanx, soz this is so long
Claire xx (link)
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Sounds like "Jo" likes you but is afraid to admitt it, i'm sorry but i do not know what you could do, maybe be a little more careful with being friendly towards others guys around him...or maybe you could tell "Jo" how you feel about him, who knows you guys could possibly develop into something
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I am goin to see the love of my life this weekend! im sooo excited! but im not sure how far i should go with him. we have talked about it and we want to wait for things like sex, but im still not sure on how far i should go. i am 14 and he is 16. he means the world to me and i want to show him that! how can i show him that other than sexual activity but still let a little activity take place? (link)
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you don't have to have ANY activity take place to show someone you love them. just being there should show that, holding hands, cuddling, just holding eachother and maybe a few pecks on the cheeks, head, forehead, and occasioally on the lips shows quite a bit of affection.
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There aer these two girls in my year, lets call then Kate and Tara. Anyway, they have always been pretty slutty and worn loads of make-up and stuff, so I've never really liked them. But now for the school talent show they are doing pole dancing. Pole dancing! Parents and even grandparents are coming to the show! It really annoys me how they think everyone WANTS to see them writhe about on stage in next-to-nothing, and I am soo angry about it. Do they have absolutely no dignity?
Anyway, I guess my question is this; do I say somethin to them about it (remember, these girls are have lots of 'friends' and won't say no to a fight) or do I just simmer in silence? (link)
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um this is really messed up for your school to allow this, you should gather kids, even parents and talk to the school about this!!!!
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Okay sorry in advance if this is long...
Alright, well I'm kinda stuck on what I should do about this boy Kyle. Me and Kyle dated like about a month ago, we wanted to get back with eachother but he still was hurt and was missing his ex gf Nichole. She doesn't like him anymore than a friend and I think that hurt him a lot too. Also there is another girl in the picture, Molly. Kyle went out with Molly before me and after Nichole. He kinda admitted he used Molly for sex and other stuff and now she is attached and he says he hates her! He keeps switching from liking me and Molly but we know he likes Nichole. Well the other day I was talking to him and he told me he realized I'm the one he loves, he hates Molly and he is just friends with Nichole and she isn't going to play with his emotions anymore. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid to go back out with him because he keeps changing his mind. Right now it seems his mind is set for a while, he told me he wanted to settle down. I don't think he would use me like he did with Molly because when we were going out he didn't force me to do ANYTHING at all and we went out for a month and I'm the one who made the first moves (We only made out lol which is kinda going slow) But when he went out with Molly, they had sex after 3 days. I don't know what to do...I really like Kyle and I don't know if I can believe him...anyone know what I can do?? And if you are just going to say, forget about him...please don't even reply...it's easier said then done!! (link)
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Sounds like your friend kyle here needs to make up his mind, I think hes just saying he likes people just to like them ,i don't think he really likes only one person he likes all three of you and is trying to say he likes you and hates the rest so he can get you, and if it dosn't work out with you, he'll move on to the next girl in line. But thats just what i think...i also think you should go with your heart, always listen to your heart, if it says go for him, then do it, if not then i'd advise you not to. hope i helped hope i didn't cause any hard feelings or offend. good luck!
-Aleasa
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Every time I use a tampon it leaks. What am I doing wrong? And what specific brand is best? (link)
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you could be using a absorbancy that it lower then how much blood your puttin out ( sorry thats a really weird way to put it but i can't think of anything else) try going to a higher absorbancy! i use Tampx Pearl tampons or some kind of tampon with a plstic applicator, they are much more comfortable and easier to handle.
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SORRY SO LONG
okay i have been talking to this guy for a month or so...he is really sweet to me but im scared im gonna get hurt.(i was hurt badly in the last 5-6 months)so im kinda keeping my distince from him ya know?now he thinks im playing hard to get and i really like him!now hes going out with some girl he knows from highschool who happens to be a slut.hes been talking to her but only when he was drinking or needed some(he was never like that to me)im still talkking to him but should i even though he has a girlfriend.by the way if all goes well with us he plans on breaking up with her
i DO rate....
signed, confused
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well, it looks like you've gottin to know him so..i want say anything about getting to know him.
you could talk it out, get to really really know him...in a good none-sexual way, and you could take a good hour or 2 less if you want to and really think about if you want to be his girlfreind. he sounds like an ok guy so maybe you could talk to him about going out with him and seeing if you really want to go through with this. the whole thing that since you didn't go out with him, he decided to go out with a slut so when hes drunk he can get some. i'm not sure you want to go throught with him because of that aspect, he could be treating ou better because he wants some from you when you end up going out, but i could be wrong, you should relaly put some deep thought into this. good luck!
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i usually straighten my hair evry morning, my hair is already pretty naturally straight with a little wave, but my hair is really thick and it is really hard to get straight, i use a really good straightenner, but my hair just wont straighten all the way, is there anything i can do or put in it to help it straighten more? ill rate you high (link)
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My hair used to be think and wavey too, i used to try to straighton it everyday! I don't know if i streaked my hair so much that it went straight or what, but when i decided to blow dry my hair it went straight, or you could chemicly straighten it, but i dunno if if its a good idea i heard it really drys out and damages your hair...i have no idea if i've helped any at all but hey i try!
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17/f
Hey
My bf of two months (I knew him for a year before that though) and my best friend of 5 years, just don't get on. They are always arguing and, to be fair, it is him who always starts the arguements. They have always been like this but it's gotten far worse recently and it's coming to the point where I have to chose between my friend and boyfriend. My friend wins, hands down, but how do I tell my boyfriend that?
Ta muchly!
Jena xxxxx (link)
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I'm not sure how you could tell your boyfriend that, maybe break it to him really really gently, or you could negotiate, you could tell him how you feel about how he treats your friend, you could ask him to be nicer to your friend and that you don't appreciate the way he treats her, tell him if he does not try the least bit, and his attitude does not improve towards her, then your going to have to break up because shes really important to you and you don't like to see her treated like that,hope i helped! good luck!
-Aleasa
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My boyfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I really like him still but today he asked out my ex best friend. She said no but told my friend she only said that because of me. She told her that she is thinking about saying yes to him. The thing is, she has always hated him. We broke friends because I spent too much time with him and now she's saying she's thinking about going out with him. We're still kind of friends but not as good as we used to be, she knows how I feel about him. I don't think she even likes him that much, why is she doing this? (link)
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I'm not sure I can give you very good a very good answer for this one, but i'll try. I think she may have secretly like him the whole time you were going out and what not, but did not want you to know so she wouldn't hurt your feelings? maybe now since you two aren't going out she feels that you don't have feelings for him anymore and thinks you'll be ok with it? I think you should tell her how you feel about this whole situation, she may understand how you feel and reconsider her decision.
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I cut myself. When i feel super bad i cut myself. And i know it's a horrible thing to do. I need to stop. Does anybody have any suggestions about how to stop? Going to an adult is not an option. Please help. (link)
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going to an adult is an option, if not an adult atleast a friend. you need to come to someone who can help you, go to your parents or maybe like a older neighbor that you really trust, or just stop all together, when you feel bad and have the urge to cut find something else to do like reading or playing video games or something to get your mind off of it.
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okay my b/f is really into me... like he says that i am his world and he's always saying how much he adores me... well the problem is he has a bad past. he slept around alot and i'm not into that. he knew from the start - before we even started dating - that i'm a proud virgin. he is cool with that but when we are in public, ike at the mall or something, he cant keep his hands off me. it's really embarrasing and i dont know how to react. how can i confront him about this??? Please Help!! (link)
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I don't know if this is much help but, talk to him about it, tell him how you feel and what you wild like to happen and stop happening. If he really cares for you he'll chill out, repect your wishes, and work on changeing that habbit, i hope i helped you! good luck!
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Not really a health question I guess but is there a way to get rid of a few zits I have like 4 and I want them to go away!!! Is there something at HOME I can try to use to make them go away or get smaller? I don't really wanna go buy something b/c I have oxypads but those take a few days... so please help me! O and I heard toothpaste helps is this true? thanks!!!
ps. 13/f (link)
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ok, i have some pHisoderm blemish patches and they work wonders! you just put on on at night on your zit and the next morning its usually swelled down a lot and not as noticble, they've helped me with this problem a lot! hope I helped you!
-Aleasa
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I don't mean to bash the religion, but I'm sick of it. I live in Utah, so I'm surrounded by it. And everyone is always bringing up that the religion should be more a part of the school. Well, I don't believe in any of it. Personally, I think their religion was just founded on Joseph Smith trying to steal other men's wives and get away with it. And they have a class here. How do they get away with having a religiously oriented class in a public school, isn't that infringing on the separation of church and state clause? My question is how do I deal with all of this religion when I don't want it, especially since all the guys that I could date are mormon? (link)
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First of all, this whole Joespoh Smith wanting to steal wifes, not true, and you are being totally ingnorant to facts. Men took over the roll of care taker, not husband, of wifes who had lost there husband becasue their husbands died on the way over, the took over that roll so the women and her childern would have a better chance to survive. The whole pligimist thing kept going with some men and what not for some sick reason i know not of, but its against the law now, and mormons don't do that anymore, we think its just as sick as you people do!!!! and i see nothing wrong with haveing a class there about church, its not like you have to take that class, its for people who are very strong in their beliefs of their church. And mormon religion is not just some stupid made-up religion its as real as christians! you should never ever down people becasue of their beliefs/religion, thats selfish and wrong And not everybody in Utah is mormon, there are plenty of Baptists and what not. How to deal with this get over it, ignore, deal with.
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