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I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?
This is very tough. It's clear you care about each other though. Maybe you should continue dating but tell her how you feel. Tell her you aren't ready for sex quite yet and toy would rather her not cut. Ask her how she'd feel to see you hurt yourself. Although if you want to break up with her you should but let her know you are still open to a good friendship and will be there when she needs your help. I hope this helps you.
ok so there's this boy that i was obsessd with this year because over the summer we broke up after 8 months, but i still wanted him back because he was the best thing that happened to be in a while. Now, i have a new boyfriend and we're completely happy but i keep on thikning about the old guy when im with my new boyfriend. i don't want to have these feelings, but sometimes when i think of the memories it makes me feel guilty of my boyfriend.
Hm.. do you still like your ex? If so maybe you should take a break and explain to your boyfriend why. He should understand if he really cares. If not, then you should continue on with your new boyfriend. You can't change the past. You might want to tell him that you still think about your ex though but you don't want to get with him. I hope this helps.
Hi, I'm an 18 year old female and I have had 6 sexual partners, two of which i dated for over a year each time. I have never bled while having sex .. does that mean my cherry has never been popped?
No it doesn't. The cherry doesn't have to be popped just by having sex. There are other ways like riding a bike or a horse. It could have been popped when you were younger and you'd never know. Also it can be popped by fingering and such. Or maybe it did pop while you were having sex but you just didn't bleed. I hope this helps.
ok so im f 19 living with my mum, my dads living overseas and comes to visit us twice a year..him and my mum are still together but my mum has been reaallly angry at him because he wont quit his job and come live with us..shes been soo sad and angry and grumpy that i cnt live with her when shes like this. she doesnt want me to go out anywhere because she wants me to be just as misrable as her.i dont know how to make her feel better because shes angry about how she hasnt properly lived with my dad for 13years but i cant go back in the past and make eveyrthing better.she cries at night and hasnt spoken to my dad in a week when she does speak to him shell b shouting at him and lecturing about how badly hes neglected her bla bla i know that a devorce is the last thing theyd want but how do i get myself out of this hell whole without moving out....
HELP!
thank you in adance
You should have a talk with them about it together. Maybe when he's there to visit. Make sure he knows to treat your mom with a lot of love when he returns. She seems to miss him very much and i can understand that. You have to let her know that you understand that she misses him but she shouldn't take the pain out on you. Maybe you can arrange a girls night out every once in awhile. Just make sure she knows that you care but don't let her take away your happiness. Hope this helps.
Hey I'm 15 years old... my bff started to be like bff with my ex boyfriend...but that was normal and she talked with me about everything he did with her ex girlfriend (the one after me)... but lately she's been acting really weird... like texting with him (I know it's him cuz I saw once a message), and in her b.day they were acting like bf and gf!! I told her abour that and she said to me that he wasn't her type at all and that she would never date her bff ex boyfriend... but yesterday I found a conversation of them in my computer and they said to each other I love You too much for my likeness... and this week like two days she's been I don't know where because she doesn't want to tell anyone... and the other they she called ME to go to her house URGENTLY... and when I arrived there with another friend he was with her in her house totally alone...I didn't like it at all... and today she ditched us because she was somewhere she didn't tell us (my friends and I and a friend that came from England who is friens with her since preschool!!) all of us are soo pissed with her... but I don't know if I'm more pissed with her because of her dating him even when she told me she would never date her best friend's (me) boyfriend or because she hadn't tell me and it's hiding it from me... :S I'm so confused...xoxo Claire
Well I mean he is your ex boyfriend right? Do you still have feelings for him? If so this may be hard but if not then why does it matter? I mean I'd be mad that she lied but if you don't like him then it's not that big of a deal. You should tell her that you're fine with it (if you are) but you don't like the fact that she lied to you. Tell her that lying isn't right and you rather her just come out and say it. If she still says she isn't then maybe she isn't. She may be flirting with him but not dating him. I hope this helps.
So lately my friends are telling me I'm flirting, but I'm thinking their meaning of flirting is different than mine. Plus I have a boyfriend, so I have no intention of actually flirting or taking anything anywhere. Anyways, do you think having a conversation with someone and laughing and what not is flirting. Maybe I'm just blindsided and don't realize I'm doing it or something but yeah. Also, if I AM flirting and have a boyfriend, is there anything wrong with innocent flirting, either knowing you are or not?
If you are just talking with someone and you laugh it's not flirting. I agree that you shouldn't talk about sexual things with a guy friend.. maybe not even a girl friend unless your boyfriend is okay with it. It can lead to trouble. He will feel like you are too comfortable around that guy and may think something is going on even if there is nothing there. Anyway, you aren't flirting most likely. If you think you are though you may want to tone it down. Maybe you should start hanging more with girls than guys. I'm sure your boyfriend would like that. Hope this helps.
17/f, my best friend is kind of a slut. like last year, she was all prude & stuff, and if i ever mentioned what i did, she would be like.. "That's so bad, you're going to burn in hell!" & i'd just kind of laugh, and it was whatever. well anyway, all of a sudden this year, she just turned kind of slutty. like.. her & this boy have been on and off dating since last year. they are really close, and he is the sweetest boy ever. well, anyway, she went and she cheated on him & fooled around with this other random guy, who she didn't really know, & they ended up dating, and she dated the really nice sweet boy too. well, i told her how she really shouldn't do that, and all her friends were pissed too, because they are good friends with him as well, well, finally one girl told the boy about it. & he forgave her.. well, she went on vacation, and she cheated on him with like these 25-30 year old guys. & she did all this stuff with them. & wherever i go with her, she has to flirt with every guy we come in contact with. it's not fair to the boy she has been serious with. i try to say little things to her like.. "well, what about james, don't you like him? why do you keep doing this stuff?" & she'll be like "i don't know" & she gets jealous when he hangs out with other girls, and hes only hanging out with them, because he wants help buying her stuff! & i want to try to like tell her to stop, because it is wrong. but i don't want to be like "you're a slut, stop it." & it just gets really annoying, because she always tell me how i'm bad because i smoke & drink! but at least i don't do what she does. what can i say to her? like shes a good friend of mine, and i don't want her to get herpes or something.. :/
Well obviously telling her to stop is not working. I agree.. you should tell her boyfriend what's been going on. It doesn't seem like she cares about him at all if she is treating him like that. He doesn't deserve that. Maybe after he breaks up with her she'll change.. but it seems like she won't. Maybe you just do need to come out and tell her that she is being too loose. She needs to understand that she is hurting people and that I bet people are also hurting her. If she really was a good girl before this year it's probably emotionally hurting her. I hope this helps.
17/f
ok, this whole entire year, like from the beginning of last school year until now, i feel like i've been in this daze. i mean, i'm not depressed or anything, it's not like i hate my life. but, like in school everyone would always be like what's wrong? or you look depressed. are you depressed? and i'm like no.. i'm fine. like i would hear that literally every day. it got really annoying. i mean when i was at the carnival a week or so ago, i walked right in the middle of a couple holding hands, i didn't even realize where i was going or anything..i've always been a little bit of a day dreamer, but i pay attention in school a lot more then i used to. i don't have adhd, or add whatever. i got tested for it when i was little, and i don't have it. i haven't really done much this summer either, like i hang out with people, but i don't call them, they call me, and i don't really text anyone or anything, inless they do it to me, & all i've done this summer is take walks by myself in the park, swim, & a few parties. but besides that stuff, i just lay around kind of. like and stare at the ceiling. i don't know. :( is there something wrong with me?
If there is something that is troubling you maybe you should talk about it or try solving it. If not and you are just in some random funk then maybe you should have some friends over or something. Start hanging out with people and have a good time. You should enjoy yourself. Maybe you could throw your own party? I hope this helps.
So me and this guy met and had a thing for about 1-2 monthes,we didn't date but we "talked" and he said he liked me and i liked him.after a while,he told me he loves me "as a friend" since we started hanging out alot.he knew i still liked him,so he stopped talking to me for like a week .then i had a talk with him and told him "i only liked him as a friend too now".things went back to normal and we started talking alot again ,but as "best friends".
I still like him ! I don't know what to do!
If I hang around him alot ,maybe I'll end up liking him as a friend? I don't know what to do!
Well since he did like you and then he said he loves you as just a friend he could possibly be lying. Some guys are like that.. they try to hide their feelings and such. Maybe you should tell him how you feel. You could tell him that if he doesn't like you that way then you can continue to be friends, It may be easier getting it off of your chest. And maybe hanging with him will make you like him as just a friend but it also could make you like him more. If you are trying to get to where you don't like him make sure not to flirt as well. I think you might want to tell him though before things get more complicated. It's your choice though. I hope this helps.
Ive been wit my bf for 7 months n i need ideas for romantic things we can do we live in nor cal n i wann find some natural hot springs or places we can stay that are romantic i always make him dinner so ideas other than that would be great plz help thanx
You could go on a picnic in the park. My boyfriend and I did that once ad it was wonderful. Both of you can make a few different things and enjoy your time together under the sun or moon light. :)
me and my current boyfriend have gone out 7 other times in the past. I feally do like him, but in sum relationships it seems like he's not giving it his all, but i am. And other times it's perfect but my parents ruin it (they dont like him).We first went out wen i was 12 continuing on now at 13. it feels as if hes the only one for me. If that's true why do we keep going on and off?
I think this is a bad sign.
Relationships can be really difficult. Especially if he doesn't give it his all in try and it makes it worse with your parents not accepting him. Maybe talk to your parents about it and tell them you think you have a future with him. Thay may not listen though since yuo are young and I know that is because I'm going through it right now. Also I think you should talk to him about it. Tell him it's not okay that you are doing all the work in the realtionship.
I hope this helps.
ok what if a girl date guy with stuff amanimls
Well it doesn't mean anything different. Guys can have stuffed animals just as girls can. If he's a bad boy type then it may not fit his image but that doesn't make him any different. He probably just has a sweet, sensitive side and is perfectly normal.
My boyfriend and i were together 11months, we were in love and everything just seemed perfect. We were best friends before we started going together and then we did, things just started to slow down kind of, i think we wanted to see what else was out there as 11 months is a long time. Since then he's kissed other girls n tht at clubs but i've not. Thing is when we're out we still act like what we did when we were together just without the sexual part of it. At his 18th when i said goodbye to him he told me he loved me and naturally i said it back.I hate it becuase i feel like we're in love and want to be together but we're only 17 so have like live our lives. But i really do feel we're meant to be and when we are out together we just act like normal with no awkwardness.
However i don't no if its just me that feels this way or even reli what i'm feeling. I'm too scared to ask him incase he doesn't feel the same or if he does i don't want to get my hopes up about getting back together.
Any ideas what i'm thinking or whether i should talk to him and what i should find out about him?
thanks
I think first you should ask him if he is seeing somebody. If so, then wait awhile and see what happens between the two of them.
If he isn't seeing anyone, I think it'd be best if you just talked to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does then try for it again.
If he doesn't want to then maybe you should try moving on. If he isn't going to give you a chance again there is really nothing you can do about. If you really love him though you shouldn't give up. Show him what he is missing but don't keep asking him out because that will annoy him.
Hope this helps.
so im 16 and a virgin and yesterday my boyfriend and i were playing around and he fingered me for a longgg time. Even though it felt good it really hurt and about an hour later i noticed that i was bleeding. it wasn't really like period or anything, just a little in my underwear. i thought that means that my hymen was broken, because he was that deep. is that most likely it? and if not, what else could it be?
Yes, I would say he did pop your cherry.
ok, so heres the rundown.. me and my girlfriend of almost a year, ill go ahead give names and ages.. (as bad as that sounds.) shelby-14 and daniel-16 (me) i konw you want to quickly judge us based on age, but we love eachother.. we do. as much as i do love "getting some" that is not why im with her. im with her because i love her, we laugh, cry, joke, and we sometimes argue a bit. anyways, we had sex, in a public bathroom, and well... her mom found out. she knows we used pretection.. but.. she wants to not let us see eachother.. i mean.. i went to cozumels for cinco de mayo (cozumels is a mexican resturant) and her family was there... they saw me and they immidiately left... (they didnt order yet).. because of me... i mean.. i have to see her. i will wait the full 4 years if i have to.. but i cannot allow that to happen.. we will both spend 4 years of misery.. and i wound like to intervene... somehow.. i sent her mom a long txt.. nothing too personal, just telling her about me loving her, and that i want a long realationship with her... didnt work. needless to say i only sent 1 txt.. i mean, i dont wanna harrass anyone.. anyways.. help plz?.. just any suggestions im up for..
this is very hard baby. but we can do it...hopefully we'll see each other before next year. i love ya!
me and my boyfriend (both 16) have tried having sex quite a few times with a few problems
first it didnt go in because we thought i was too tight
but now it doesnt seem to go in because it like bends?
i asked him if he wasnt hard enough and he just said idk kind of embarrassed so i didn't push the conversation
anyone have any ideas?
Yes he probably isn't hard enough.
Haha. You should turn him on more..do other sexual things until he is fully erected.
Also what helps is if you guide him in or put it in your self..maybe you should be on top...which ever is easier.
lol?? Ugg...yes I am in love with my best guy friend. Umm...I am 13.. were both in 7th grade...I know it not REALLY love..it just feels like it. Umm.. we met last year...umm...I had a crush on him last year...and he found out by my blabber mouth friends!! lol Umm...I think it freaked him out. I didn't want my friends to ask him out. Like, my friend Samantha is Tanner's cousin...she introduced me the first day last year. So...she was siked to know I liked him so she asked him out. He said no..umm...so I didn't ask him out again...but my friends kept doing IT! So...he got fed up with it...and I left him alone...so we were just friends. Now, this year...I fell for someone else...he selfishly broke my heart. So...I just realized...that Tanner always had my back.. and I really want to be his girl friend. He's not a jurk...he's a great guy. He already found out that I liked him... because I had this issue...with my friend..she likes Tanner 2 ...and I HEARD that she only likes him because she wants 2 make me jealuous....she told me she never said that ...so I gave her another chance, but the note I wrote her I told her that I really cared about Tanner and I am not going to let her hurt him. I was worried because my friend dates a guy than breaks up with him after about 2 or 3 days. I don't want her to hurt him. Well...Tanner read that note...so now he knows...I like him again...well... I don't know if he feels the same way...I want him to ask me out. I asked my friend Cody to try to persuade him...lol he's tanners friend 2 and there really close...
Can someone help me out?? I really like him.. so much. What can I do to get him to like me back ...in that way?? Please...don't be rude..
Thanks for helping... I'll rate fair. :)
This is a tough situation.
I'm glad he read the note because he at least knows not to date your friend...unless he wants to get hurt.
Anyway..I think you should let him know how much you care. Tell him exactly why you like him to and tell him how good of a girlfriend you will be.
Even if he does end up dating your friend...when she hurts him you will be the one there to help him...you will be his shoulder to cry on...and he would love you for that.
So if he's gonna date her that's what I think you should think about. But who knows... he might choose you this time.
Hope I helped :)
help! there is this guy in old my class who sometimes seems like he likes me and sometimes it seems like he ignores me. when older girls are not there we talk about like the weekend and things like that. sometimes he even asks me for things he already has. my friend admitted that she kinda likes him. i told my friend that i had his email. she told me to tell him i like him but its not that easy for me. how do i approach him. i am really confused. i am a female and i am 13
I would say he does like you but may be embarrassed by your age.
If this is the case then you need to think..is this really worth it? Is he worth it?
If he still is don't give up. Ask him why he acts this way.
Leads you on then ignores you?
Talk to him about it.
I hope this helps.
13/f
sorry to add another relationship question, but i need help. i like this guy i ski with, but he doesnnt seem interested in me. whenever i try to flirt w. him he gets uncomfortable and will never tell us about the girls hes liked or play truth or dare when me and my friends do on the chairlift. we have a lot in common. is there any way i can make him like me or tell if he does?
I think yuo might should just come out and tell him you like him. If not that get to be like best friends with him. Get closer to him and find out what he likes in a girl. Then I bet you will have a better idea of what he wants and if you would have a better chance. I would just tell him though. I hope this helps. =]
OK here goes nothing. I am 39 years old and my father has not been in my life for many years. But tonight i find myself physically crying and wondering why he still doesnt want to be a part of my life. From the time i was 2 when he left my mother and my sister and me he was never there till i had my first child at 25. After a few months of thinking everything was good he just stopped calling or coming around. So the ultimate question is why do i still miss him and should it still hurt to think that someday i would get a Hey i'm proud of you from him. This just hurts so much right now.
You miss him beacuase he is your father, you do love him.It can still hurt yes. People who act like they don't care about an absent parent probably feel the exact same way and you are strong to addmitt it. It's a normal thing what you are going through right now. You should just think and tell yourself that if he won't be here for you then he's not worth the trouble of worrying over. He should be a better dad to you. Hope this helps. =]